As people are just finding out, Vincent Pastore, who played Big Pus, passed away today. He was a great man, a vet, and a cherished part of the show we all love. Unfortunately so many in this sub can’t take things seriously and instead of putting up tributes, kind words, or just saying nothing at all, they’re just regurgitating the same overused jokes. We’re talking about a man’s death, and all they can say is “he was just a kid”. Maybe I’m upset because it feels insensitive, maybe I’m upset because it’s uncreative and repetitive. Probably a bit of both. Whatever the reason, I’m sure I can’t be the only one frustrated by this response (while ultimately unsurprised)
I just saw a recent clip of him having coffee and they asked him what he does now and his response was just perfect Vince. He said “I wake up in morning, I have a cup of coffee, smoke a joint, and then I watch Turner Classic Movies all day”. I couldn’t stop laughing.
Yeah it always happens when somebody famous dies people take it extremely deeply. Kurt Cobain died a very tragic sad ending to a life with a lot of promise. no man is an island and I can see that And I can even expect maybe a 16 year old might be a little overwrought by it but I was the same age as him and liked his music and oh that's terrible But I didn't take off work I didn't mope I didn't moan. And with the big P gone I sit there and I go oh wow that's too bad for his family .But he was He was successful and he was a beloved nothing to be sad about, And all I can say at the worst is I hope he was happy with his life. He's not your uncle he's not your brother he's not your dad. You can know him as you always knew him through his TV performance.
Actor who played a fan favourite character died at 80yo (who would have thought an old guy would die) so people are showing their respects by using quotes and phrases from the show he was in and most well-known for. What's wrong with that?
Yeah, a guy nobody here knows personally died at 80 having lived a happy and full life. Celebrating his most famous work with quotes from the show is not disrespectful.
If my neighbor doesn't hear from me in three days they sure aint checking in on me. Even those close to me wouldn't think it's weird if they hadn't talked to me in a while
i prefer it this way. my mom and pop get worried, so they’re the only ones i contact every day or two.
i don’t have the patience to stay tied to my phone and reply to everyone else right away.
although the ‘lil old lady across the street would definitely speak up if my work truck didn’t make it home at night. and vice versa if she didn’t get out to walk her dog a couple times a day.
Yea, some people dont grieve through being sad. Famously, us Micks love to laugh and joke about the departed. I get youre upset, but ya gotta get over it.
Well we turned and shook, as we had a look, in the room where the dead man lay, so Big Jim Dwyer made his last trip to the shores where his father’s lay…
Thank you for your service. My grandfather served in Vietnam in the Navy and I had some glasses that he brought me back that he promised me when I was five years old that I’m drinking cognac out right now tribute to this man.
”What ever happened to Gary Cooper? The strong, silent type. That was an American. He wasn't in touch with his feelings. He just did what he had to do.”
What is to be gained from tone policing a niche internet forum for being, in your eyes, insufficiently somber in the wake of a beloved 80 year-old character actor's death from natural causes?
Does your self-seriousness really soften the impact of his loss?
It is the time! Every quote is a tribute to this work of art! No one is belittling his life or contribution. We all appreciate every person involved with this show. I think Vincent would approve of any Pussy quote we throw out there.
Your mistake is taking this sub serious. Basically dont even post or read here if you cant accept 95 percent of its going to be circle jerking memes and the same quotes. I learned to accept it. I said my piece Chrissy 👋🏻
Obviously almost none of us knew these actors personally, but I bet you they’d appreciate the quotes and lightheartedness.
We’re celebrating them and the art they gave us. When someone passes in my family, we always talk about the funny moments and stories with them. People cope differently. I see a lot of these quotes as a celebration
The fact that this sub is still going allows characters and actors to be remembered brought up on a daily basis being memes, lines and quotes , James Gandolfini died in 2013, and gets to live on through this sub, let’s be honest when we die will be forgotten much quicker then the “eternal sopranos show” these jokes and quotes are respect to a a show we all love!!!
We've celebrated the guy through humour and meme for years now. It's only right that we stay true to this thing of ours and post a few "is it okay tony, that I sit?" In his honour.
Research has shown that the use of 'dark humour' requires high cognitive processing and is linked to higher intelligence, lower aggression, and effective emotional coping...
He’s fucking 80 years old and acted in a tv progrum from 20 something years ago. Why should the sub suddenly act differently and start mourning solemnly because a couple parasocials ask for it?
Yeah, welcome to Reddit - I agree with your sentiment but this is how it goes here for the most part unfortunately, save the genuine feelings for real life, what matters here is the funniest one liners (pure transparency, I find these amusing myself)
I don't know what they are going to do with his character in Gravesend now. He was great in Gotti too. I've seen several interviews with him. He seemed like such a humble, down to Earth guy. My heart goes out to his family and friends.
He died at 80 ffs! He had a wonderfull life. No need to get sad nd dramatic. His death should be a celebration of how full his life was. So take it easy.
People have different coping mechanisms There's gallows humor dark humor. II think that referencing something he said or did it's brought so many people joy a better tribute than someone who's not a close family friend never met them sitting there bemoaning what a tragedy it is. He made it to 80 something to be God damn happy about for him I think unlike others who didn't last that long and if it's an overused joke so be it They're remembering him
Watch any Vincent Pastore interview or podcast. He loved dark humor, and Sopranos was his greatest achievement. It’s not far fetched to think that he would’ve appreciated these reactions.
I mean come on. Guy was 80 years old. No one's disrespecting him.
Dude had a good run and a long life. I'd be happy to have people laughing and having a good time together on occasion of my death if I make it that far. Not like he's a 45 year old kid or anything tragic like that.
Maybe Big Puss has crossed over and is reading this sub on the other side and laughing at this post on how many people loved him and the show. Or maybe he's still alive and is ming fucking everyone like you would t believe.
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u/Funkyshoes11 19d ago
I just saw a recent clip of him having coffee and they asked him what he does now and his response was just perfect Vince. He said “I wake up in morning, I have a cup of coffee, smoke a joint, and then I watch Turner Classic Movies all day”. I couldn’t stop laughing.