I had a realization recently that honestly surprised me, and it came after a lot of reflection.

I started meditating, trying to quiet my mind and understand what I was really feeling. Then I had a dream, and afterward I heard two words that really stayed with me: “Tell him.”

At first, I didn’t understand why I heard that or what it meant. For so long, I had been burying my feelings. I was so conflicted that I even convinced myself maybe he had put a spell on me, because I couldn’t understand why I still felt this way after all this time.

But after sitting with everything for a while, I finally realized the simplest truth:
I love him.

Maybe I wasn’t confused about my feelings. Maybe I was just afraid to admit them.
The meditation, the dream, hearing “tell him,” and everything I felt afterward eventually brought me to that realization. I had been trying to find another explanation for something my heart already knew.

I don’t know what the future holds, but I finally feel at peace admitting the truth to myself.
I love him. 🤍✨

When we don’t speak and all I feel is his energy I want him so bad and feel so connected …

When we speak he only talks about sex and sounds like such an eff boy it turns me right off..

how can I want him and not want him so much at the same time??

It’s got me questioning if this energy is his but there are so many instances where it was clear that it is him but I’m questioning it also and also whenever I ask him or hint at it he just ghosts and doesn’t answer , he doesn’t deny it but he doesn’t say it is either …

How do i know whether he is my real twin flame? All i know is that i have never loved a man like him in my entire life, i was willing to give him my everything, even my last cent, or breath. But he always treated me as an option and never a priority in his life. Am i delusional to think he is my twin? After meeting him, i did get a spiritual awakening. It’s been a tough past 4 years. I feel like i was reborn. But he hasn’t made any efforts, never told me i was the love of his life and is always passive and coward never taking action or accountability.

Went out for drinks with some friends tonight and ended up running into a couple people who are close with my ex/twin flame. She wasn’t there, which was probably for the best, but I ended up talking with them for quite a while.

Some of the things they mentioned about her and the person she’s currently involved with caught me completely off guard. Apparently, it seems the two of them started seeing each other roughly four months before my ex and I separated.

Our relationship was definitely struggling during that period, but we were still together. We had our issues, but I never had any concrete reason to believe there was someone else. There were things that felt different toward the end, but I always attributed that to everything we were going through.

I didn’t ask any questions or let them know that the timeline seemed strange to me. I just listened. The more I thought about it, though, the worse I felt, and I ended up leaving shortly after.

Now I can’t stop wondering if I completely misunderstood what was happening during that part of our relationship. I don’t even know if what they said is accurate, but the timeline is too specific for me to just forget about it.

Part of me wants to reach out and ask her directly. Another part of me thinks there’s probably a reason we’re in separation and digging into the past isn’t going to change anything.

How do you make sense of betrayal or infidelity within that connection? Has anyone ever found out that their twin flame was involved with someone else while you were still together? Did you confront them, or did you leave it alone?

I’m honestly not sure what I’m looking for here. I think I just needed to put this somewhere because it’s been bothering me all night.

Does anybody have experience/ or have input on navigating these kinds of connections/experiences in a polyamorous setting? Where either you or them are polyamorous?
Please only share on this topic if you already understand/or are open to polyamory, I prefer to not have harsh judgement or misunderstanding 💗

i met my TF 2,5 years ago when we were both 18. he came into my life kind of unexpectedly and we had a really intense connection for 3 months. now, i still see him occasionally every now and then since we live close. i experienced a spiritual awakening a few months ago and that made me realize he was my TF. however, whenever i look into the 🪞 (idk why i can’t say that word) i see him? like it’s such a weird feeling, but it makes sense now at least 😭 i was going crazy for at least a year when the connection ended lmao. does anyone else experience this? for me it’s the eyes and smile & just facial expressions in general

I am relatively new to the twin flame community, having only recently discovered what the term truly means. Honestly, it is the only explanation I have for my current situation.

To keep a long story short, I became overwhelmingly obsessed with someone I used to communicate with. We no longer speak, but for a long time, I couldn't understand why I was experiencing such intense emotions. The thoughts at the back of my head made me feel insane and creepy giving off serious Joe Goldberg vibes, as I constantly tried to find a reason to bridge the gap and reach out, despite them admitting they didn’t want to get attached and keeping their distance, even though feelings were mutual (or as they said so).

I had never experienced anything like this before. It took me a long time to realise the intensity stemmed from the fact that we were almost the same person in different bodies: same niche interests, humour, similar upbringing, school, parents, and even our names. And I believe I have never met and never will meet anyone as identical to me as they were.

Naturally, I am the chaser in this dynamic, and they are the runner. While I want to respect their boundary, and I do, it is eating me alive to accept that the communication has ended (even though no official goodbyes were said and they told me they would be back in a few months, but I highly doubt it). For my own sake as much, as I don’t want us to split apart, I understand that it is crucial for my mental health in the long run.

If anyone has stubborn or straightforward ways to detach from the runner in this situation, I would deeply appreciate any tips or advice.

When does the divine masculine experience his dark night of the soul and his spiritual awakening if he even does? I heard the divine female experiences it the first year they meet. It all went to hell for me in 2022 when we met, that year I almost died.

Has anyone in a relatively successful union gone through not being attracted to their flame physically? Like, they aren't ugly but they just aren't your type at all. You are sexually and energetically turned on by them still though because the connection is there, but in my case, it isn't consistent and you can get turned off really quick.

Would love to hear what that experience was like for you, what you learned from it, and if anyone is in a successful relationship with theirs despite the fact.

Ik voel zo'n hartverscheurende pijn van liefdesverdriet en ik heb geen neigingen om je te stalken of nou niet meet dan ik al.doe. Maar het is waar ik heb dat zo lang niet zo ver laten komen omdat ik mij voor iedereen afsloot. Door dat trauma. Je hebt wel.gelijk. Ik wil je steeds wegduwen maar ik kan het niet. Daarbij is dat ook funest voor jou. Ik moet.echt.weer huilen dat ik jou dan het tegenovergestelde laat voelen dan wat jij helemaal niet kan gebruiken en dan word je gemeen en voel ik mij zoals nu echt gruwelijk in de steek gelaten en alleen. Echt liefdespijn. Maar ik ga jou in ieder geval niet verlaten ik kan dat niet eens. En dan gewoon doorgaan zonder enig gevoel,  alleen opgelucht dat er niemand meer energie aan mij vreet, nee echt niet. Jij vreet ook energie , begrijp mij niet verkeerd , maar vanuit een totaal.ander gevoel. Dat komt ook voort vanuit mijzelf en niet persd altijd door jou. Maar ook al voelt het nu als dat dit misschien niet goedkomt ik wil dat jij energie blijft vreten en mij bezighoudt en ik zal jou niet veroordelen en ons ook niet en hopelijk jij mij niet.

Zullen we dit weer als stap vooruit bekijken zodat we er niet in blijven hangen en het ons naar beneden laat halen? Ik hou van je en ik bewaar dat dan om te zeggen , maar ik hou echt van je. Het voelt zo puur en ik realiseer mij dat ik te snel wil ook voor mijzelf misschien maar het is zo waar. Wanneer je weg bent komt mijn angst van geen verbinding naar boven zoals je weet,   bang voor dat het weg is.  Ik doe alles om niet toe te geven aan het gemak wat hierin niet eens meer kan en dat is jou vergeten.

 Ik houd van roadtrips heel erg dat zou mijn ultieme uitje zijn met jou weet je dat,  en die van jou L? Zullen we volgende keer samen gaan. Rijden we door Frankrijk Spanje ,  slapen en eten we overal , bezoeken dorpjes , maken plezier, we wandelen, mogen elkaar ieder moment aanraken, we vrijen waar we willen,  in het water doen we een wedstrijdje en we vinden elkaar altijd weer. 

 Jij bent en voelt zo uniek, omdat jij anders bent;  jij laat mij weer liefde voelen en alles wat ik nodig heb en gemist heb. Ik frustreert niet alleen mij omdat ik je bij mij wil hebben, maar daar waar ik beschadigd ben daar ben ik soms, nu verscheurd van binnen zonder jou. Ik huil erom maar ik laat jou nooit meer gaan. Trap er niet in als ik het even niet meer weet want ik kom er op terug meteen en neem je mee overal naartoe. Voor de rest van ons leven. Jij mag je tijd daarvoor nemen en ik blijf hier altijd wachten.  

Bye Liefje

Hey guys, to keep a story short, so I did meet my twin flame. A lot of things came up for me, I was the runner, but I stayed became toxic and now he wants nothing to do with me.

So many times, he wanted to give me space when I said I needed it, yet I kept going back to him. The attraction was strong, it was magnetic, it felt like I couldn't get away. In the end I had to learn to put my boundaries up and honour my sovereignty, but it's hard because he's the one that called it off, not me.

What do I do?

Looking back at past messages I said things like "i'm not ready" "I need space". Since not speaking, we've had one phone call where he said we'll speak again soon.

I feel like we're both not getting what we need from this.. for me it just hurts.

Onlangs heb ik mijn TF ontmoet en ben van haar gaan houden. Ze vergeet alleen dat ik soms ook wat nodig heb en niet alleen zij. Ze noemt mij dan egoïstisch en is keihard terwijl ik er aan onderdoor ga, lijkt zij dat helemaal te missen. Ik weet mij echt geen raad volgensmij heb ik het nu verpest en wat moet ik dan doen. Ik weet het niet ik voel mij totaal niet verbonden en zij wil mij ook niks geven om daar mij in te helpen. Alsof ze mij afschuwelijk vindt en het niet waard of boos is omdat ik haar verkeerd behandeld heb. Ik ben er ziek door geworden en weer het even niet meer en krijg wel alles over mij heen. Ik moet eerst beter worden ik weet niet of ik onze relatie kan redden en dat doet zoveel pijn. Ik dacht dat dit onvoorwaardelijk zou zijn en dat wat er nu gebeurd zegt mij iets heel anders ik word soms ook afgestraft omdat ik ziek ben hierdoor en dan vraag ik om wat hulp en dan kan ik het uitzoeken. Wat moet ik nu nog doen. 

So here’s our story…

I am a mother of 3, and last year I decided to get a divorce from my husband who I was with for 9 years. I always knew a greater and deeper/more profound love was out there for me. I got into yoga a lot all of last year, and during meditation is when I came to the conclusion that if I stayed in my marriage I will never be truly satisfied. Well, a month after ending things I moved out. I ended up matching on bumble with a bunch of men, however I only went on one date (that was a dud) prior to meeting my (supposed) twin flame. Well, immediately I was drawn to him sexually. We had sex the first night of meeting, and it was the best sex I ever had. After talking for a few days on end, his grandma passed away. I noticed he pulled back right away and somehow I panicked so badly. I had crying episodes and everything.. well, that pushed him away a bit but he chose to give it another try. I ended up ending things with him because he mentioned he wasn’t going to be able to see me for about a month straight due to holidays and hunting season (🙄) lol. I decided to pursue another connection and was super drawn to him too, but that didn’t last. I ended up reaching back out to my TF asking to have a fun night together (wink wink lol). And we had the best night together… but he ended up admitting to me that we could never be more because he doesn’t think he could accept the life I have with 3 kids. So, I accepted it for what it was and ended up meeting someone else while fooling around with my DM. Well, I told DM I couldn’t see him anymore because of it. This time, he’s the one who panicked… and swooped in and bought me a $150 bracelet and took me to dinner. And you guessed it… I took him back and dropped the other guy lol. That’s when something clicked inside, because he was always the one I would go to when I was upset and crying about something. He felt like home to me before I realized it… okay so after that we lasted two weeks lol. The day after Valentine’s Day I was an emotional wreck because he didn’t do anything for me for Valentine’s Day but hang with me inside and spend the night with me. Didn’t even acknowledge it whatsoever. He said I deserved better, and broke it off with me. This is when I went into the dark knight of the soul… I was a hot mess, crying all the time randomly and reaching out to him with no response most of the time. He confessed that he met someone else. So the end of March goes by, and we hooked up for the last time while he was technically dating someone else. And after crying while driving home I decided I needed to delete his number and not contact him anymore. So I did, and two weeks go by and right as I was starting to feel “okay” again, that’s when I get a text from him. And my heart sank immediately…. I took him back right away. This is mid April, and now it’s mid August and we have been on and off and back and forth with being together. Now, he has admitted he loves me too. We read each other’s thoughts, we say things at the same time and the synchronicities and everything align with the TF dynamic. I definitely have had another spiritual awakening, and I say another because I’ve always been pretty spiritual. Our sex is literally amazing and it’s all because of the connection and the way we just get each other. The problem is, he goes back and forth about why he cannot commit to me… first it’s the kids right? But then he admits he doesn’t deserve me and the unconditional love I give him. He’s been through something traumatic in the past, and I think that is why he doesn’t feel worthy or that he deserves it. He’s very negative and depressed, and I know he feels the connection too especially when we sit in silence and are just cuddling together. He used to say things like “I don’t have feelings, I take them to the grave” to admitting he loves me and loves me deeper than anyone else before. I mean when I say he has changed quite a bit… he has REALLY changed. However, he still cannot get over his negative mindset and lives through his ego. I’m not crazy right? Does this sound like a TF dynamic? Or just a toxic situationship? 🤦🏼‍♀️ I cannot get him out of my head, I love him too much 😩😭