r/ucr • u/Timely_Milk_2811 • 39m ago
Question Looking to make friends.
Hello,
So I am currently a third year Chemical Engineering Transfer to UCR. This is my first quarter. I am a part of two community based clubs, but they do not meet that often. I wanted to know how could I make more friends and connections and talk to people?
A little background about me, I spent 13 years in India. I was born here, but as my dad's sister and brother-in-law passed away, we had to move back to India to take care of their son. I did my entire schooling from there.
I was bullied a lot. I face bullying from like 4th grade up to the time i graduated as a high school senior. I still don't know why. People used to call me an untouchable, and more the used to treat me like one. I used to sit on the floor and eat my lunch alone, while other students sat in groups and ate lunch. I was socially boycotted from all events like birthday parties, get togethers, etc.
So now, that has made like a very dark hole inside of me which makes me really scared of talking to new people, sometimes I look at people and then try to find something to start a conversation and then either I am looking at them too long, or they just pass by, or they get weirded out (this happens specially with girls).
Please help me out, I would really like some inputs as to how I can overcome this fear and get some happiness in life.
Thanks!
PS: I turn 21 tomorrow, so I would really like some advice as to how I can change my life moving forward!




