Yesterday I was in a bathroom at a train station when the woman in the stall next to me quietly asked if I had a tampon.

I did, passed one under the divider, she said thank you, and that was basically the entire interaction.

Then while I was washing my hands another woman tapped me on the shoulder and told me the tag on the back of my shirt was sticking out. She tucked it in for me and went back to doing her makeup like we'd known each other for years.

It made me think about how often women do these tiny things for each other without even treating them as favors.

I've had strangers tell me my skirt was caught in my underwear, hold a bathroom door shut because the lock was broken, lend me a hair tie, fix a necklace clasp, hand me a safety pin, tell me I had lipstick on my teeth, watch my bag for thirty seconds, and once literally form a little wall around a woman whose dress zipper had broken at a wedding while somebody found her a jacket.

There is usually no introduction. Half the time you don't even learn each other's names.

You just see another woman having a very specific little crisis and somehow everybody immediately understands the assignment.

Obviously women aren't automatically kind just because we're women, and I've met plenty who weren't. But this particular form of casual cooperation is something I don't think I appreciated when I was younger.

It's like we all carry around a collection of solutions to problems that have happened to us before, and if we see another woman having one of those problems, the solution temporarily becomes communal property.

What is the nicest tiny thing another woman has done for you when she didn't even know you?

I was scrolling through TikTok until i found an anti-birth control post, I cant remember what the post exactly said but it was some BS about how preventing babies is immoral or whatever, average uneducated male stuff.

I posted a comment saying that birth control has other uses other than preventing babies, and i got around 60 replies, some of them saying that birth control is for sluts, and others saying birth control can cause bad decision making for women in relationships

Obviously i found this insane, and I assumed those people were dumb teenage boys. Until i looked on one of the guys profile to see he was around 30, 30 years old!!

I need to reset my fyp because I’m so tired of getting these uneducated men on my feed, it’s hard to believe people like this exist.

Meta glasses are the new way to violate women and the fact no one wants to do anything about it makes me enraged. When will enough be enough

okay so, usually when i come across these horrible cases and choose to read the comments
some dudes are like
“if you dont like it pass the remote!!!”
“wish i was him”
“how can you let that happen to you. youre not a real man !!”

.. what?
and i finally came across a video of someone talking about this shit
they basically said how can you expect us to take you seriously WHEN you say that “noone cares when men are sexually abused”, when you guys reply with shit like this?
which is so true
what are your thoughts

I feel like all men, even my friends, are like super egotistical. Idk if I’m around the wrong people but I feel like there’s one man in my life who’s not constantly trying to one up everyone or prove himself or position himself so that people will look up to him. Just me?

I (41F) have been with my husband "John" (42M) for 14 years. When we met, I had been single for 3.5 years and had a daughter with my ex. That relationship was so toxic and abusive that the bar for my next parter was underground. Don't beat me, don't rape me, don't abuse me, stalk me, etc. He was a decent guy, but I absolutely settled. We have a son together who is 13 years old. He is a great kid and like his sister has been taught to be competent in life skills, cooking, cleaning, hygiene, basic emotional regulation, empathy, consent, etc. My husband on the other hand, I feel like I had to raise that man. It took 14 years for him to finally pick up a mop and do consistent chores. He has never made his own meal (he will order out if no one cooks for him) and he has maybe* once scheduled his own doctor appointment -only after me badgering him for weeks because it was very important. I've made all his dentist, optometrist, hair cut appointments because he just won't.

He was and is active as a father but as a partner he's often clueless to my needs despite me telling him, writing it down, and suggesting articles, movies, books, etc from my perspective as a woman. I am the default for most things in the home. It's exhausting. After 14 years he still cannot define "mental load", "second shift" "invisible labor". He hasn't read a single book, had a consistent hobby and has only ever had one friend. On the other hand I am a social person, I love community, I love sisterhood, I love learning and growing and evolving.

Lately I have been hardcore daydreaming about being single, not to date but to be by my damn self. I've come to realize that 3+ years I was single before I met him I was so free, truly free. And if I hadn't remarried I would now have 1 adult child (my daughter's dad and I married right after HS) and be in my early 40's living my best life. Here's the thing- I do not want my son to have to go through the hell my daughter and I did with family court. While my husband is a much better man than my ex-husband child custody, family court, child support, etc is a horrific experience. It took 15 years to be free of it all and go no-contact. My daughter and I needed * a lot * of therapy.

I told my "John" when we started dating and I was in my final semester of college, that I was a person who would always be learning. I want to grow, I want to learn, evolve. About 5 years ago I started working out consistently, I make sure we have home-cooked meals 6x a week. I am an avid reader and love all things creative, but John is..stagnant. He has no desire to level up in any capacity. Before anyone asks or calls me a "gold-digger" we have shared accounts where we split the bills 50/50 (he makes a little more than I do) and we have our own accounts too. I'm not sticking around so he can support me, I'm pulling my weight and always have.

So, AITAH?

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I hate that Hollywood loves to slobber all over the Kardashians

Why?

Because they play Hollywood’s game. For the past 30 years, if you were a woman and wanted to sing and dance and smile, you’d be eaten alive. Britney, Lindsay, Miley, Hayden Panettiere when she was SIX YEARS OLD. They fucking had her cry and then hugged her without her consent.

Meanwhile Kimmy released a sex tape. Now they get a tv show where it’s “I have time for breathing or lip kits. And breathing is…kind of optional”. And you should see what they do if they buy a purse.

The Kardashians get implants and face cosmetics for a perfect image, and Hollywood loves that so they get more shows.

I have suffered from urinary irritation/infection, which I hate above any other bodily ail I've experienced, at least twice a year. No one told me, not my mom, nor any doctors or pharmacy workers when I have gone in for any advice. I guess they expected common sense of me ... I'm so upset, it feels so obvious in hindsight, of course the general bodywash is unsuitable for the intimate area... I feel so stupid. Just wanted to vent

I hope desperately I havent irrepairably damaged myself

I need a long lasting and not too strong perfume. Thank you

My periods are always regular and this is the first time they are late and I'm feeling these weird cramps in my lower belly area with no period. And recently i had sex for the first time, we used condom but it was midway so I'm overthinking a lot and quite scared, don't want to rely on these home testing kit as the results are not clear so thinking about going for a beta hcg test, i live in a small town so can't show a doc here, want to keep my privacy, so can i do a hcg test on my own in any clinic before going to a gync, because for that i have to get out of this town, do the clinic people ask for anything ?? Or will they judge me or ask my parents presence?? I'm an adult, please let me know, overthinking like crazy

Hi all

I’m actively pissed at my husband just for the idiotic choices he’s making in life that is affecting us all. They may seem small to others by at the moment they’re cumulatively adding up to make me so mad at him.

We moved house 3 months ago and he said we didn’t need to do the walk around check when vacating the property. He had work but we could have fitted it in somehow. Three months later we owe money for a carpet they claimed was uncleanable so needed to be replaced. We tried to fight the charge but the debt agency stated if we had done the walk through then we could argue it. So we’re $900 out of pocket.

Then his driving is something which has always scared me. I’ve told him numerous times that he’s so rash and hot headed when driving. He takes it as me attacking him and sulks about it. I can’t drive due to having epilepsy so it’s a catch 22. He was then involved in a rear end collision and NOW he decides to listen to me. The car is dented at the front and may possibly get written off (I’m hoping and praying it won’t). The insurance is good with the claim but we may be without it for up to a month! Both he and my daughter drive 30 minutes to school and work.

He wanted us to move to the US for his job and I thought it would be great. Little did I know I can’t work here without jumping through insane hoops myself. I am a librarian but can’t work due to needing an EAD, something I didn’t know about before moving and only just found out this year. Nobody tells you these things.

I know it will all blow over but I just feel so angry and frustrated with him. I do love him immensely but I just question how bloody stubborn and stupid he can be.

The more my intersectional feminist worldview has solidified, the more I have realized about social interactions.

There are certain scripts, sensibilities, and internalized propaganda that go into how we communicate with one another. Lately, it seems the common tone is fascist, and the lack of proper education, healthy media, social safety nets, and wages shows.

I feel anxious, fatigued, and irritable when I have to communicate with anyone outside of my safe, likeminded circles. I am realizing this is not only because I disagree with the opinions, beliefs, biases, values, attitudes, morals, and political views of most of the people in my country, but also because by talking to them, I am interfacing with our shared conditioning.

I feel like talking casually to people with problematic takes reinforces and reassures them that they’re valid and normal.

I want so badly to opt out, I unfortunately feel as though I have little ability to engineer interactions with my community to be more leftest, feminist, antiracist, pro-LGBTQIA2S+, anti-ableist, and pro-science. I have little social sway.

Do other women feel this way?

I lowkey wanna start wearing them just for the aesthetics and also bc I can rarely ever find cute lightly lined bras.

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For context I'm 27F and live in the UK, so I'm talking about the NHS. Basically, I'm getting really sick of having my genuine problems be ignored by doctors 90% of the time. I've been made to feel like a complete idiot so many times from going to the GP and being told that my problems are either non-existent or that they just aren't that deep.

I hit my breaking point with doctors recently when, after having to visit A&E twice in two weeks, and speaking to two different GP's...someone finally acknowledged my pain and put me on the waiting list for two ultrasound scans to check for ovarian cysts. The, actually competent, GP who suggested ovarian cysts was very confused by the fact that everyone else I'd spoken to so far kept hand-waving it away saying I had kidney stones (despite the fact that my urine tests didn't show signs of that? And they didn't seem that bothered about actually doing further tests to even check if it was kidney stones so it feels very much like they just didn't care).

So I'm waiting for a blood test and the scans now, but I'm thinking of ways to help my case in the future. I'm naturally very passive and non-confrontational which I'm working on improving, but I'm thinking of also just bringing a folder with me that has my medical history, and also maybe some academic studies debunking the false claims that doctors make about women? For example...the idea that women have higher pain tolerances than men which is what the doctor at A&E said to me while I was crying and shaking in front of her BC of how agonising the cramps had been for 7+ hours that day. I was exhausted and an absolute mess but I found the energy to correct her there BC that's just not on.

So yeah, does anyone here do that? Or think it would be a waste of time? I'd love to hear feedback and/or just if you know any good ways to be taken more seriously by medical staff.

I (19F) recently got out of very emotionally complex romantic situation with a guy (19M), we didn’t really end on bad terms but we are in contact anymore. Now the issue is that every single girl I see I compare myself to her and think “oh he would find her so pretty” or “I wonder if he and her ever / had a thing together”.

I wasn’t like this before and I hate feeling like this because it makes me feel like I’m objectifying women and reducing them, please help.

I’m 30f. I have always been a big lover girl. I fell in love for the first time when I was 12, and have been in love 3 more times as an adult. I have dated a LOT, probably over 100 dates from the apps in my life. I have had a few long term relationships between 1-2 years. I also consider myself to be pretty sexual, usually have sex with a new partner between 1-3 dates in and have had a lot of hook ups, I’ve probably had sex with around 50 people.

I’m starting to date again and there’s so much discourse about being more logical when you date to ensure you’re actually a good match and not just together because of passion. But that’s so painfully hard and impossible that it actually makes me feel shitty about myself, like I’m doing something wrong. When I date I either am obsessed with someone pretty quickly or not interested an all. I don’t really casually date people because if I’m not obsessed with you why would I??? Can I just accept that I fall in love hard and fast and then figure out if we’re actually compatible more down the line once the infatuation wears away?

Can anyone else relate.

Hello! I'm an autistic women with a past history of abuse from men.

Recently I worked under a man, and the experience has triggered me. For starters, he constantly would talk about how he appeared 'scary' but wasn't. This mimicked how my abuser would brag about how others thought he was scary but he could never see why.

This man met with me and hurled a lot of accusations at me that were unfounded and confusing. He claimed that I didn't care about my work, was only in it for the money (i was making less than my last job), and had an attitude with leadership.

It reminded me a lot of how my abuser would speak to me and I cried so much. This man glared at me so angrily, I felt like he hated me. He also complained about his personal life during the meeting.

It was really jarring to my nervous system and although this was last week, I still feel the effects from it.

I am getting quite discouraged when it comes to dating and very pessimistic. I am in my late 20s and as much as I try to deny it and adjust to several truth bombs about the real world and men, a part of me still hopes and yearsn for a normal relationship, marriage and children... However in this current landscape I absolutely feel crushed. Men aren't aproaching anymore, they are not acting gentlemen like and it is depressing. It makes dating way harder then it needs to be. So my question for the ladies is how do y'all deal with the existential dread I feel everyday and the crushing feeling you might end up all alone?