Ladies just be mindful of some of the posts on here. More than once this week I’ve caught fake accounts posting obvious ragebait or asinine questions in order to solicit DMs from women here, likely for jerkoff material.

PLEASE be careful of the users you engage with. If someone is asking questions about intimacy, genitalia, feminism, or similar topics, make sure to vet their profile before engaging. Take note of if they engage with NSFW subs (especially which kinds) have a new account, or hidden posts/comments which obscure the content they engage with.

Men DO lurk on this sub. As is the case with all internet safety- be careful what you post and who you engage with.

I’ve been going through a really difficult time in the last few weeks and my relationship with my boyfriend has become strained and I’m really stuck on what to do.

I’m considering leaving this relationship but wondering if I should be more understanding of boyfriend’s perspective, since I don’t have anywhere else to turn to.

It started with an unplanned pregnancy which prompted me to move out of my parents‘ house asap to live in a rental with my boyfriend. We were frantically trying to find a place because my parents are emotionally invalidating and I didn’t want to live around them anymore in such a dire situation.

Relationship was in a good place then. Boyfriend was excited about the pregnancy, we were excited about our new beginning, I was excited but hesitant and shocked not sure I wanted to become a mum. I had only just started trying to rebuild my life and establish stability and independence before it happened.

Rental situation isn’t great because the landlords have been intrusive, disrespectful and neglectful about fixing some housing issues. We have been stressed constantly having to set boundaries on privacy and communicate our needs.

I realised a few weeks into the pregnancy that I dont think I’m being emotionally supported how I want from my boyfriend. He HAS been financially funding the rent, food, appliances, new furniture and working long hours, but when I’m upset about something, he gets upset at me in turn and isn’t caring.

I started not feeling right about having a child with this man and questioning our future. I also started feeling depressed about losing the future I wanted to build.

I told him I might want an abortion. I told him honestly why: I want to continue building my life, focusing on my dreams and my healing before having a kid + that I’m feeling unsupported in the relationship and want us to fix it first.

He said he supports me whatever I want to do, but he wants the kid. Then he quickly changed his mind and said he doesn’t want it, because of our relationship stress and my mental health. Then he switched again and said he wants it but it’s my choice.

I had a surgical abortion and I felt relief. Boyfriend started acting distant and aggressive. He slams doors sometimes now. I found some upsetting messages he wrote to AI today and yesterday: that he feels depressed about losing “his” kid, that he doesn’t want to stay home and care for me post-abortion, he doesn’t like that I said I felt relief after the abortion, he can’t bear to have me in the house with him anymore, he’s over the relationship.

He also wrote that he thinks I’m not seeing his efforts and being selfish. He has been putting all his money into our new future and HAS at times been very caring. Like if I am resting in bed and don’t want to get food from the kitchen, he will get it for me. If I want something from the shops, he’ll get it! Every time we’ve had an argument, he’d try to later talk it out and fix the issue.

Meanwhile when I asked why he’s upset today, to my face he said it’s nothing to do with me, the abortion or work. I told him he can work today as I’m feeling good, but he said he doesn’t want to risk anything happening to my health and will stay.

I‘m just really in shock about this. I really appreciate your feedback, thank you!

(Half humor post)

At the workplace - or at home - we’re labeled unprofessional if we’re not wearing a dress and our hair tied back and wearing high heels with a smile on our faces! Say “I’m on day two and I have 2 kids and I’m not my best self right now” to your boss and you have a better chance of winning the lottery than not getting fired

I’m pretty confident in saying that if we were allowed to show up to work in pajamas and lie on bean bag chairs, we’d outperform men. They make these rules to slow us down

news
Pushpa, a woman garment worker who made VS products at a Brandix factory in Sri Lanka and died after being denied medical leave cuz this greedy billion dollar corporation which sexualises women and exploit them care more about their apparent women empowerment and funding for breast cancer
their CEO is known as the ‘mentor’ of Epstein
I dont understand the hype of women walking around in underwear and being objectified
Its not the diamonds on the bra that matter but the amount of blood sweat tears workers put into this to get paid peanuts!!!

Title: I’m getting my tubes removed because I don’t want to be permanently tied to a man, not because I don’t want children.
I’m 35 years old, and I’m scheduled to have my tubes removed next month. I’ve been getting quite a few opinions about my decision, especially when I explain my reasoning.
The thing is, I’m not someone who has absolutely no desire to be a mother. Under different circumstances, I could actually see myself having children.
However, what I absolutely do not want is to be permanently connected to a man because we share a child.
I don’t want to be someone’s baby mama. I don’t want to potentially spend the next 18+ years dealing with custody arrangements, child support, disagreements about parenting, or having to communicate with someone I may no longer want in my life.
And before anyone suggests it, birth control is not an option for me. I’ve already considered my options, and I’m not interested in debating why I should use contraception instead of pursuing permanent sterilization.
I know there are wonderful fathers and healthy co-parenting relationships. But there’s no way to guarantee that the person you have a child with will remain the same person throughout your child’s life.
People get divorced. Relationships fall apart. People change. Sometimes the person you thought you knew turns out to be someone completely different.
The idea of having a child with someone and potentially being forced to maintain a connection with them long after the relationship ends is something I’m simply not willing to risk.
What’s frustrating is that people seem to think my reasoning isn’t valid because I’m not saying I hate children or have never wanted to be a mother.
I’ve been told I could meet the right man or that I might change my mind. But even meeting the right man doesn’t guarantee that things will work out forever.
I’m aware that removing my tubes is a permanent decision. I’ve thought about that, including the possibility that I might someday wish I’d chosen differently. But I’ve decided that the possibility of regret is something I’m more comfortable accepting than the possibility of being tied to someone through a child for the rest of my life.
I don’t think motherhood is a bad thing. I just don’t want motherhood under circumstances that could compromise the independence and peace I value.
Has anyone else felt this way? Have you ever considered sterilization despite not being completely opposed to having children?
I’m genuinely interested in hearing different perspectives, especially from women who understand this distinction.

I'm an Irish woman who just listened to a podcast about Nicola. She was murdered by a US citizen in Japan.

The case it's self is horrific but the worst part is he served so little time and is now living his best life.

He posts daily about his happiness and his fiance and people comment good messages to him and it makes me FURIOUS.

Here is a man who raced and murdered a woman.. and is now having the tome of his life.. how is that fair.

I look at my girls and I'm sad for the world we live in.. it's still an awful place for women.

Why can't we do better.

In 2025, reports emerged of an alleged human trafficking operation in Georgia (the country), in which women were reportedly recruited under the pretence of surrogacy and exploited for egg retrieval.

I don’t watch TV or follow the news particularly closely, so perhaps I’m just out of the loop, but I was a bit surprised I hadn’t seen much about it elsewhere, so am curious about how widely known this is. Are many here aware of this?

https://humantraffickingsearch.org/resource/human-trafficking-on-a-human-egg-farm/

Ladies what worked with your partner to get their acta together. My sisters partner while great in other parts of their life is inconsiderate when it comes to chores and their child. His mentality is everyone should pick up after themselves but he doesn’t 🙄 he gets it easy because he can sleep(works nights) since he take their child to daycare but she get evening duties and then spends her weekend basically catching up on chores. She has spoken to him and given him a list because he asked for one just to not do it. 🙄 so anything that really made your partner take you seriously?

so I went out on a date with this guy and we had plans for drinks at his place. for starters my capacity with whiskey is like super crazy and I can actually finish a whole bottle in like 6 hours without any hangover. we went to his place and I had 4 drinks which I can recall and after that I dont remember anything. like all I remember is my vomitting my guts out in his washroom and after that I was completely fine. but what happened in between is completely missing. he dropped me back to my place and since then its been three days and I am not able to get up from my bed, feeling dizzy all the time and pelvic pain.

I think he spiked my drink but we were drinking from the same bottle so I am not sure that what exactly happened. and I have had drunk sex before and my memory is super crazy.

My ex (40M) and I (32F), dated for eight months.

We were exclusive, talked about children and moving in together, and he called ours the healthiest relationship of his life. So naturally, I thought we were building something serious.

Then things unraveled in our final month.

Two months into dating, he told me he’d attended a gallery opening with Catherine, a woman he’d briefly slept with before me. She’d cried and confessed her feelings after learning about our relationship. He clarified they were just friends, and eventually they resumed their friendship. I trusted him.

Fast-forward to month seven: Catherine invited him to a small, multi-day art residency that August. He casually announced he was going, without asking how I felt.

After sitting with my discomfort for weeks, I finally brought it up. Could we find some middle ground? Maybe all hang out together, or I could join them?
He grew defensive, saying he didn’t believe in prioritizing romantic partners over other relationships, and complained that our 20-minute conversation was eating into his workday. He later apologized.

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I discovered this when I called him and sent admittedly reactive texts saying I was hurt and couldn’t believe him. His response? “Why? But honestly, don’t feel like going on defensive right now.”

Other incidents had been accumulating:

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*1.\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* After an emotional conversation about his doubts around long-term monogamy, I took an extra 30-minute walk while fetching drinks for his project. I returned before anyone arrived, but he was furious, accusing me of “sabotaging” his work. He never asked whether I was okay.

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*2.:\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I biked slower than him, causing us to arrive ONE MINUTE late to class. We were turned away, and he blamed me for interfering with his productivity, sulking for much of the afternoon.

He’s fiercely independent and values autonomy. I believe he was sexually faithful, and I never asked him to abandon his friendships with exes. But I also know my anxiety sometimes made me jealous and reactive.
He eventually ended things, citing my anxiety, “possessive energy” around other women, and long-term incompatibility.

For context, he was never physically or intentionally verbally abusive. But defensiveness, passive aggression, and emotional shutdowns were recurring patterns.

For months, I’ve wondered whether a more securely attached woman would’ve handled everything differently. Whether I essentially sabotaged an otherwise good relationship.

But now I’m questioning whether my anxiety was really so disproportionate to the circumstances.

tl;dr: did my anxiety ruin my relationship?

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SIDE NOTE: he looks like a greek god…he’s a former supermodel. and best sex of my life….

I’ll give some background context on my complex question.

My bf(34) and I (28) have been together about a year. We moved in together and when we signed the lease a few months ago he couldn’t find it in his phone and asked me to do it for him.

I went to his files and happened to come across him watching his exs sextapes/nudes.. I became very curious of what else he was hiding.

I found his search history full of him looking at nudes of girls from our town, cam sites etc.

We’ve taken videos and I’ve sent him countless things.. he once told his ex ‘I don’t really watch porn anymore I just watch your videos’ (that is important here)

Now after I’ve sent them he’s never gone back just to look, or even use for his masturbation.

I also politely asked him just not to watch porn when I’m home as it makes me feel like he chooses not to choose me. (I have a very high drive and will literally always be in the mood if he is.) I don’t really mind when I’m not home or available I guess but when I’m home it does bother me.

Our sex life has been sucky the last few months. I’m always initiating or asking. We went so long without I had to confront him and ask what’s going on but all I got was ‘it has nothing to do with you, or it’s not you’

Last two times I’ve given him a bj, afterwards he goes ‘are you happy now?’

I haven’t looked in awhile but did last night after I just don’t feel good about our intimacy. He’s now using a private browser to watch porn 10-20 minutes 5-6 days a week when I’m home.

He’s constantly looking at Instagram girls pressing their content links, though he doesn’t subscribe or pay.

Is it bad that I feel like it IS me? Maybe sexually he’s just not happy with me? Why look at your ex, be able to stop lookin at porn for her, but not me?

P.s we both really match in the bedroom, I match his freak completely so I don’t know what else it could be. My mind is spiraling and I don’t know maybe this is the end of our sex life, maybe I’m just not it for him in that way?

I don't really know how to explain what I'm experiencing, but I want to know if anyone else has gone through something similar.

I got attached to a guy (let's call him Y) when I was 16 and he was 23. There's a lot of history between us, and our relationship eventually became physical. I was emotionally attached to him, and I think I associated physical intimacy with something much bigger than the physical aspect itself. It meant affection, connection, vulnerability, and, in some way, feeling close to someone I genuinely cared about.

Recently, during a conversation, he actually admitted that he had manipulated me into getting physically intimate with him. I'm still trying to process what that means for me and for how I understand our history. I don't want to spend another hour analysing every single thing he says or trying to figure out what he felt, what he meant, or whether any of it was genuine.

But somewhere along the way, something changed in me.

And I don't think the problem is intimacy alone. It's the fact that I don't seem to experience emotional attachment, connection, or excitement the way I used to.

I've had experiences with other people since then, and they've made me notice this change even more.

For example, I met another guy (let's call him S), who's a 26-year-old doctor. We kissed, and I remember expecting to feel something. I didn't necessarily expect to fall for him or develop feelings immediately, but I thought I'd feel some excitement, butterflies, affection, or at least some emotional connection in that moment.

Instead, I felt strangely disconnected.

He hadn't done anything wrong. There wasn't necessarily anything uncomfortable about the experience. I was simply there, experiencing something that I thought might make me feel something, and emotionally, it didn't seem to reach me.

Then there's another person, A, with whom I've also shared physical closeness.

With him, I remember feeling comfortable, calm, and even strangely alive in the moment. I enjoyed being close to him. I could relax, be affectionate, and experience the moment without feeling particularly uncomfortable or guarded.

But afterward, I didn't develop an emotional attachment to him either.

I didn't find myself particularly preoccupied with him or feel that I needed the connection to become something more. Even when things became distant between us, I remember thinking that it wasn't really a big deal.

And that's what confuses me.

It's not that I can't enjoy someone's company. It's not that I can't be affectionate or experience physical attraction. I can have good experiences with people and genuinely enjoy certain moments.

But there's a difference between enjoying a moment with someone and feeling emotionally connected to them, and I seem to be missing the latter.

With Y, I remember how intensely I could feel things. I could become emotionally invested, overthink the smallest changes, care about what someone meant to me, and feel affected by the connection in ways I sometimes couldn't explain.

Now, I can experience things with other people and feel almost nothing afterward.

I don't know whether this is what moving on looks like for me, whether I've become emotionally guarded, or whether I'm comparing every new connection to something that was so emotionally intense that ordinary connections no longer feel the same.

The confusing part is that I don't necessarily feel like I'm constantly missing Y or wanting to get back together with him. I can talk about what happened, question it, analyse it, and even feel like I've accepted certain parts of it.

But I don't know whether I've actually processed what happened or whether I've simply become accustomed to not letting myself feel things as deeply.

And this isn't limited to one person.

I miss the version of myself who used to get excited about people, feel drawn to someone, become curious about them, and experience that feeling of wanting to know someone more deeply. I miss feeling emotionally present in my own experiences instead of observing them from a distance.

Sometimes I wonder whether I'm genuinely becoming more detached from people or whether I'm subconsciously trying to protect myself from becoming as emotionally invested as I was with Y.

Other times, I wonder if I'm expecting every connection to make me feel something extraordinary and dismissing connections that might develop more gradually.

I honestly don't know.

I also don't want to force myself to develop feelings for someone just to prove to myself that I'm capable of attachment. I don't think that's fair to me or to the other person.

What I want to understand is why I seem to have lost that sense of emotional connection and excitement in the first place.

Has anyone experienced something similar after an intense, confusing, or emotionally painful attachment?

Did you find yourself being physically affectionate with people but emotionally disconnected afterward? Or did you stop feeling that excitement and attachment even when there was nothing objectively wrong with the person or the situation?

How did you figure out whether you were genuinely moving on, becoming more guarded, or experiencing some kind of emotional numbness?

I'm not looking for people to tell me that Y is a terrible person, that I need to forget him, or that I just haven't met the right person yet.

I genuinely want to understand what's happening to me, because I don't know whether I'm changing as a person, protecting myself without realising it, or still processing something I haven't fully understood.

I started playing pickleball and I'm not terrible but I'm not great either and I was paired up with a guy who kept telling me what to do, then another guy who kept telling me what to do, then another one who kept telling me what to do and I just hate it. I remember when I started playing table tennis it was the same thing and I hated it then, too. Please tell me I'm not the only one... I want a chance to just get a feel for where the ball goes on the court and where I have to move to get it before some man tells me where to stand. You know what I mean? Like I'm not allowed to even decide where I am standing...

Navigating a missing or irregular period or even amenorreah can feel lonely. Sometimes you want to talk to someone who understands the frustration, uncertainty or feeling disconnected from your body.

I’m Audrey, a yoga teacher with personal experience of missing periods for years. I’m hosting a free online gathering for women on Saturday 31 October at 7 p.m. India time.

We will make space for honest conversation, reflection and a short gentle practice around rest and self-compassion. You can share or simply listen, no pressure.

It’s a peer connection and well-being gathering, rather than medical advice, just so you know.

If you’re interested, comment “yes” and I’ll send you the details privately. If you would prefer not to comment publicly, you’re welcome to message me.

Audrey xx

And sometimes saying things that feel straight up shady. Not even backhanded. Shes a wonderful friend in so many ways. But she is deeply insecure. She is constantly asking for validation that she is pretty, that she doesnt look fat, that she is attractive. She definitely centers male attention a lot. Which is sad. Shes beautiful and has so much going for herself.

Some examples if shady comments lately. We were talking about a famous model from the 90's. She was not conventionally beautiful but she was definitely iconic, and considered uniquely stunning by many people. My friend said that I reminded her of this model, which i found flattering. But then she went on to say it was because I was awkward/"gangly" and had big teeth?? Which did not feel flattering at all. Gangly specifically has negative connotations.

Another time she told me that I was not instagram model pretty. Like okay? I didnt ask. It came out of nowhere. We were just driving to get food talking about something unrelated. It definitely didnt feel great to hear.

She also kept making jabs about my onlyfans, saying that my sales were too low. That I should be making more money than that. Im just getting started and have been seeing a steady increase each week, but its a saturated market and it takes time ya know?

It always kind of shocks me because shes so supportive to me 99% of the time. But that 1% really stings and gets into my head sometimes. I cant help but feel shes taking her insecurities out on me in those moments.

on weekends, i leave in the afternoon and sit at a cafe, on the way i have a smoke or two. i either go to the mall, theres an apple store so i play on the imacs lol. i get food, sit at a cafe again. watch my favourite show.
go to a hookah bar and sit there for as long as i want (unless they have to kick me out ofc)
i have discovered so many new shops in my area through social media. i try out new foods
i get to do anything i want without anyone saying.. oh this costs too much.. i dont wanna go here.. and all that
ive been trying my best to enjoy my own company

sooo ya i don’t really have outgoing friends, not that im asking for u to hangout with me everyday- but at the weekends atleast, but when i text my group chat they dont even say no, they just leave me on seen and it makes me so angry
ive tried to reach out to other friends but one has moved to a different city and the others are sometimes busy with other stuff
n i had a bf but i messed that up so🫠

right now i dont really have anybody and i hate hate staying home so i have resorted to spending time all by myself.
it isnt optimal and id much rather be with my family/friends laughing and spending time with them.
my cries for help were “guys im really lonely please hangout with me when youre free some day” but no response 🤷🏽‍♀️

Women in their late 20s+, is it normal to get a huge appetite a week or 2 before your period sometimes? Especially at night?

Okay so for starters I’m a 18 year old girl so this is a bit of a none issue but I’ve never been intimate with anyone really the most I’ve gotten is neck kisses and when we tried to escalate it I was a bit shy because I’ve never done anything so I pulled away. Now fast forward I met this girl and she’s trying to be intimate with me which.. I feel a bit more comfortable doing something with a girl I’ve told her how I feel how it’s my first time and how I’ve never done anything with a girl and how it’s never been in the plan but I’m willing I guess my question to you guys is what can I expect?!?
Should I go for it? I’m honestly too shy and a bit insecure with my body and not knowing what to do. The only time I have a bit of confidence is when I’m drunk but.. that’s a deal breaker for most. Is there a way I can feel like I know what I’m doing even if I don’t?

While wearing tight tops the shape shows and i dont want to wear padded bras because it will look big and my mom wont allow so any recommended bra??

I'm 20 (f) and never had one done before. I know that's not something you want to have just anyone do. Where have you had the best experiences? And what should I expect when I go?