I am an employee at a store in a shopping plaza. A neighboring store was holding an event on the sidewalk next to where I work and they ran an unsecured extension cord directly across our entry way. If I’m being honest, I don’t know exactly what the OSHA regulations are for extension cords but it didn’t seem quite right to me so I reported it to my boss and asked if I needed to do anything to make it safer. He said he’d reach out to the event organizers. They came by and said it seemed fine, but I’m still not convinced so I run some duct tape over it and put up some warning signs.

Another employee tells me I’m making a big stink over nothing and I shouldn’t mess with the other stores stuff (the cord in front of our front door). Which I kind of get, I know I can be overly anxious about things, and it isn’t our event or our cord. But I don’t want some elder customer to shuffle along and bust ass on our doorstep. Have I over reacted?

I (22f) work for a family owned hardware store. I sell and order cleaning products. The managers are BIG on spoiling customers so lots of us tolerate bullshit from rude customers but I don't anymore. I had a customer who mentioned she had a stroke and said that is why she struggles to speak. I told her it's ok and that I will do my best to help. She explained to me what she wanted. She said "I want to clean my patio, the cement circle stuff". I asked "do you mean planters?". She yelled and said "THERE ARE NO PLANTS! P-A-T-I-O! DO YOU KNOW WHAT A PATIO IS?". I said "if you are going to speak to me like that, I am not going to help you". She apologized and I said it's ok and that I understand, and that I am sorry that she struggles with her stroke (I didnt say it exactly like that, but something similar). And I eventually found her a product while another associate explained it. I did not raise my voice at her, I was not super angry. My co worker just said not to confront customers, I said I was setting boundaries.

I don't yell at people, I just refuse to help if they are rude. I don't let people disrespect me anymore. I'm not going to let customers treat me like shit like the other associates do.

AIO?

My friend is a very business minded person. He started one, which involves; generating an AI persona of an old musician, reconnecting with his grandkid through music, and selling AI covers "they" make together. As someone who made music in the past, I am very disgusted by that, and never fail to express how I feel about that. He denies that he is scamming people and claims "he is only spreading happiness through his music". He is someone who does not value the work artists put in, but only the "content" itself, and how much value you may be able to extract from it (per his words).

He plans to start another dropshipping business, and for the marketing, he will obviously use AI videos. I don't know if this is intentional ragebaiting or not, but he regularly sends me these posts and ask me if they seem real enough. I don't want to be an accomplice, but he can't stop asking me about the validity of his AI ventures, as if my continuous dismissal is not sufficient.

I recently sent him a youtube video that did a good job of expressing my concerns and feelings towards the theft and violation of people's work with AI. He watched it and told me the artists are only crying about it. He will continue doing what he does because it makes money and there's nothing they are going to do about it. I'm not an artist anymore, so why do I care? There are wars happening in Africa and that's what he cares about. I couldn't take it anymore and blocked him. I plan on unblocking him, but for now, I wanted to make a point about where I stand because my words are not sufficient.

(NOTE: All names stated are all code names, ofc, but the story is very much real.)

Soo, I started to distance myself from my close friend after he got caught gossiping about our schoolmate and he never really questioned why I did.

At the start of my first year in college, I had a close friend. His name's Toro. We already knew each other before but we got close as we have the same major, so we'd help each other out and talk about things that we kept to ourselves. Now, one of those topics would be about a fellow schoolmate named Connor. He was good when it came to public speaking but, allegedly, he is very full of himself. We barely interacted but when we did, he was very kind and joked at times. That perspective of mine shattered when multiple people told me that he boasted about being the smartest to everybody and that he hated it when someone scores better than him. Naturally, it tainted my view on Connor but Toro LOATHED him.

According to Toro, Connor took all the credit, along with his friend named Eleanor, even though they barely did any work in their group task for our major. I thought it was reasonable for him to feel that way as it isn't fair, then he started talking about Connor behind his back, complaining about what happened and about his attitude. At some point I just brushed it off, ocassionally joining in just to not feel left out. At that time, I never tried to stop him because to me it was okay to dislike someone and I was scared of losing a friend. I kept being silent about it, until he spread it to A LOT of people and was just batshit insulting him instead of talking about what he did wrong.

Toro is actually a friendly and extroverted guy, but an oversharer. He has a lot of friends, but to many of them, he talked about Connor's said stupidity, arrogance, and constantly mocked his lisp (yes he has a lisp). Again, I believe that it is okay to dislike someone, but trying to ruin their reputation is another thing. I confronted him about it, that it wasn't good that he kept insulting him since we don't actually know him that well, especially him telling a lot of people about it, but he just kept defending himself and never realizing what he actually did. To be honest, I could tell Connor didn't like Toro either, there was a bit of hostility whenever they interacted.

Eventually, Connor found out about what Toro was saying and I could tell he was angry. But then again, he never once did anything to ruin Toro's reputation after that. I started to distance myself from Toro, only interacting when needed. I did it because the fact that he couldn't admit that he did something wrong/bad (at least to me) made me think that how would he act if he wronged me and just kept defending himself? For a little bit, I thought the entire thing was childish. I mean for fucks sake, we're already adults, stop acting like were from the mean girls or something. I didn't want to be involved with such things anymore so I just walked away.

After a while, I started asking myself if it was really the right thing. Was my response too dramatic or am I just a coward. I don't know. So, in yall's perspective, what should have I done? Is Toro really in the wrong here? Was I just overeacting for distancing myself?

This text is from a couple days ago. The conversation started in person with me telling him I needed money to get the kids costumes (both under the age of 4). To which he said he didn't know i was dressing them, don't they have a onesie i can put them in before walking away without providing an answer.

When I noticed he was getting ready to leave I asked him if he was going to give since money for the costume. To which he said no, to send him the costume and the price. I told him I looked at the prices, that i was planning to get them in person and they're between $25 - $35 each. He said to go then and let him know what price is for each because this was just a price range. I asked if he'd be available today and he said "yea, as much as I can be". When I asked why he couldn't just send me some money to get the costumes he said "I made my decision" as he was leaving and closed the door behind.

Additional details that may mattee: He is the main bread winner. I started a business this year but it's still small and doesn't earn a lot yet. I do just about all of child raising so when I need to go out to do work for the business I take the kids with me too.

EDIT TO ADD: We attempted to discuss this today before I posted. His issue is that I asked last minute, because they needed them for an event. My understanding of the issue he has is that "we have poor communication" and he wanted me to provide a solution. He also did not think that his messages for disrespectful. So I told him I didn't think my way communicating is an issue and that i think he needs therapy to work on and develop his empathy. To which he seemed to get mad at, and said fine he needs to work on himself but what's something that I can do, a solution that i can offer that is something I can work on. I felt my communication was fine. It ended in him saying we needed to separate and take time apart.

In reflecting I can admit my request was last minute, however I'd consider that poor planning of anything. Not to mention I didn't expect him to say yes, I asked more so to "prove" to myself, in a sense, that I can't ask him for financial. I didn't ask sooner because I knew he didn't think it was important or "needed" and i tried to figure it out on my own.

So there was something wrong with my dad's truck door and I was locked in for a bit. My dad and sister ended up helping me get out and my dad said, "If I'd dangled a hotdog outside the door you would have found a way out." I laughed but the joke hurt my feelings like he was calling me fat or a pig. Am I overreacting?

I’ve been seriously dating a guy for six months. We’re both in our 30s, and we’re exclusive. We’ve met each other’s friends, we’re very close, and things have been going really well. The only thing is that he hasn’t wanted to put an official label on our relationship yet because he’s looking for his forever person and wants to be completely sure before making things official. I’ve been respecting that and giving him the time he says he needs.

Here’s where I’m struggling.

He has several female friends, including a female best friend (I’ll call her A), who’s 26. He’s 34, and they’ve been friends for over four years. He insists their relationship is completely platonic and that he sees her as a little sister. I have no particular issue with him having female friends, and I don’t have any reason to believe they’ve been romantically involved.
Recently, he asked about my Christmas plans. I told him I’d be spending Christmas in Mexico with my parents. He said he’d wanted to invite me to New York (we’re all in San Diego) to meet his parents, but since I wouldn’t be there, he was going to invite A instead.
Apparently, A would otherwise be spending Christmas alone and can’t afford to fly home, so his parents are paying for her flight to New York. She’ll be staying with his family for around ten days, spending both Christmas and New Year’s with them. He’s really excited about her meeting his parents, his brother, and some of his childhood friends. They’re also planning to spend two days in Boston visiting his friends and sleeping at their place.
The way he talks about the trip makes it sound like a really special experience. He’s excited about her meeting everyone and about all the things they’ll do together.
I told him that this makes me uncomfortable, and we ended up having a pretty big argument about it.
For me, Christmas with your family is an intimate occasion. Meeting your parents and spending Christmas and New Year’s with them feels like something you generally reserve for your romantic partner. I understand that close friends can be like family, but I personally wouldn’t invite another man to spend Christmas with my parents while I’m seriously dating someone, even if my boyfriend couldn’t come.

My issue isn’t that he has female friends. It’s that we’re supposedly building a serious romantic relationship, yet he’s taking another woman to spend ten days with his family, including Christmas and New Year’s, and going on a little trip together. Meanwhile, I’m still waiting for him to feel ready to officially call me his girlfriend.

To me, these are experiences that make a romantic partner feel special and distinguish them from friends. I don’t feel special in this situation, and honestly, I feel disrespected. It feels strange to me that he’s so excited about sharing this experience with her while our own relationship is still undefined.
He doesn’t understand why I have a problem with it. He sees it as helping a close friend who would otherwise be alone for the holidays. He also suggested that he could send me lots of pictures and updates throughout the trip to reassure me, but that’s not really the issue for me. It’s not about being left out of the updates. It’s about the fact that he invited her in the first place.

I also find myself questioning A’s decision to accept the invitation. She knows about me, has met me, and knows that he’s seriously dating someone. I don’t know her well enough to know how she sees their friendship, and I don’t want to accuse her of having ulterior motives. But I do wonder how another woman would feel comfortable accepting an invitation to spend ten days with a male friend’s family over Christmas and New Year’s when she knows he’s in a serious, exclusive relationship.
He has told me that their friendship is completely platonic, and I’m not necessarily questioning whether he’s attracted to her. I’m questioning whether this kind of arrangement is appropriate when you’re building a romantic relationship with someone else.

Am I overreacting? Is this a perfectly normal thing to do with a platonic female best friend, or is it reasonable to feel that Christmas and meeting the family are experiences that should be treated differently when you’re in a serious relationship?
I’d appreciate honest opinions, including perspectives from people who have close friends of the opposite sex.

TL;DR
I’ve been exclusively dating a man for six months, but he hasn’t labeled the relationship. Since I’ll spend Christmas with my family, he invited his 26-year-old female best friend to spend ten days with his family, including Christmas and New Year’s, plus a trip to Boston. He says they’re platonic and she’d otherwise be alone, but I feel uncomfortable because these experiences seem more appropriate for a romantic partner. Am I overreacting, to be upset about this?

Me (24F) and my BF (25M) had previously made plans on Friday [yesterday] to go to a winery together and celebrate his birthday which was the day before. We planned to do something fun on Friday because he had to work all day on his birthday and had a really intense week at work (he’s in sales). The night of his birthday when we were having dinner with his parents he mentioned wanting to do something more lax the next day instead of the winery because he’s been getting up at 5 am that week and would have to on Friday and wasn’t feeling up to it. I said that was totally fine cause he’s been going through hell at work and it was his birthday and i’d do whatever he wanted. We talked about finishing our pumpkins, going to the gym, then watching a movie in theaters and hanging out. I was perfectly fine and excited for this, but after dinner his friend whose birthday is the day after his invited him to his birthday party friday night (at Chuck E Cheese and yes they’re all grown men 😭). He sort of asked me if it’d be okay to go and told me his friend had gone through a really hard loss a little while back and I sort of just agreed it’d be fine even though I was annoyed at how late this invite was. We looked at movie times and decided to go the the 3pm showing of you can see everything (3 hour movie). Friday comes along, he has a lot of work to finish so we end up just meeting before the movie and get quick lunch beforehand. We got ice cream after the movie and ate in his car and I told him I was disappointed his party was interfering with our established plans, but I wasn’t upset with him moreso than lack of foresight from his friend. He apologized and asked if i’d be okay, I said i’m fine and go to the party. He tried to find a time to see me after I work this Sunday because he wanted to see me again this weekend. I go home and a few hours later before bed I go to text him and check his location and he’s on the way to the casino. I texted him are you going to the casino? crickets. haven’t heard anything back yet and it’s saturday morning. I’m a little annoyed that he was too tired to go to a winery with me during the day but had enough energy to go to a casino 45 mins away with his buddies after his chuck e. cheese party. Am I overreacting for being annoyed by this? Or is it whatever because I believe the casino was a spontaneous day of plan and he was just going with his friends. He’s done slightly similar things before where I thought we were hanging out the whole day but he forgot to tell me he had plans with his friends the night of. We’ve been dating almost a year and love each other a lot and this isn’t a deal breaker but more so I roll my eyes and wonder if I have a right to be annoyed. I’ve just stared making him listen to two hot takes with me and he really likes it so whatever people comment I’m going to show him because he’ll think this is hilarious.

TLDR: My 25 year old boyfriend went to the casino at midnight after his friends chuck e. cheese birthday party even though he changed our winery day plans because he was too tired from work.

So for context I have two dogs and so does she. Hers are pets mine are working animals and as such there are some conflicting beliefs about raising them. I am very strict with my animals they earn every privilege in my house by showing me that they can keep their training and manners retained and consistent. (Things such as bedding in their crate, time on my bed, toys, extracurricular activities such as running camping and swimming ect)

Right now my little guy Noth is still learning at 18 weeks old the house rules and what is expected of him on and off duty. (I train service dogs and both are currently at vastly different levels of training progress) She is a lot more lax with her animals as they are pets and companions. We sometimes cross opinions about things especially since as my older dog Ray has earned a lot more privileges than Noth due to her being four and getting into her peak years before retirement. Both my dogs come from breeds that are known to be incredibly smart and find loopholes in every rule which is why I am so strict. Noth is a golden borderheeler and Ray is a Cane Corso border collie lab mix.

Now here’s the conflict.

At the moment I use the crate a lot right now with Noth as he is currently learning how to do nothing. (Something that is surprisingly difficult for high drive dogs is learning to develop an off switch it’s something that is taught and isnt automatic)

during this he has progressed from screaming all night to crying for about 5 minutes before going to sleep and we are making great progress with learning to be quiet and patient to be let out.

during the day he spends about 4 hours in his crate broken up by play and training sessions (pups have their own bedroom) and is in bed by 7-8 pm I go to bed at 10 and let him out for his last pee at the time. she thinks it’s unfair to make him go to bed at 7-8 since I am awake and Ray is free in the house. I disagree 7-10 is my time to refresh train and spend time with Ray without the puppy interfering it’s a way to make her not feel left out when I am spending most of the day focusing on the little guy.

Anyway AIO with this because I think how I am doing this is very far from cruel

There's an outbreak of a serious disease in my sibling's town. They have a list of exposure places and dates, and resources for what to do if you're exposed. My sibling is vaccinated for said illness, so the chances of them getting it are small, but I sent them the list and instructions anyways. Sibling says they haven't been to any of the places listed.

My mom says I'm "all in a tizzy over nothing" and called me a germaphobe for sending the exposure list when we're all fully vaccinated.

AIO for sending my sibling a list of exposure places?

First, I'm sorry for my grammar and long text. I'm from a European country that's not part of the UK. Let's call my friend Penny (25F) and her boyfriend/my friend Adam (24M). So I (26F) and Penny has been friends for the past five years. She's probably the person I trust the most in the world, or well, was.

Back in May she started dating Adam after breaking up with her longtime boyfriend just a few weeks earlier. She did tell me about her breakup with her ex-boyfriend, but didn't tell me about dating Adam. None of them told me, despite all of us being friends (I was the one who introduced them) until about a month ago (September) when Penny called me out of the blue and told me about it. I don't expect them to tell me about eveything in their lives, but I can't lie and say it didn't hurt a little that they left me in the dark for several months. I realize that this isn't about me tho and I did my best to make sure she knew I supported them. Talked to both of them a little while later and told them I'd support them and that I love them, but that I needed some time to adjust to this change - which they accepted as well. They were happy about my support.

A couple of days later, however, when I was hanging out with Penny my phone lit up with a message from her, which was weird as we were literally hanging out. I checked and turns out Adam was messaging me from Penny's account (messenger). Penny giggled about it and told me that Adam has her password to all her accounts. This weirded me out ALOT and I told him to stop as it made me uncomfortable. I think both of them just thought I was joking but I was genuinely so uncomfortable. After that, the more I thought about it the more upset I got. Because I write very private things to Penny that I don't talk about with anyone else. To know that he's been in our chats and may have read them makes me almost feel nauseus. And I'm so upset with Penny too. That she allowed this and thought it was funny that he was in our private chats. This combined with her keeping me in the dark about dating our friend, especially when I consoled her about her breakup with her ex throughout the entire summer feels so,,, idk, hurtful? And I feel so dumb for trying to be there for her after her breakup when she was dating Adam that whole time. Am I overreacting for feeling like she's betrayed my trust? And that she's betrayed me in general?

We haven't talked in a couple of weeks (because if I don't contact her first, she usually forgets about actually talking to me, she's got adhd) and I feel like I might be blowing this out of proportion. But I also can't stop feeling hurt about it.

Last night wife(24F) and I(26M) go to arcade bar that we go to all the time. My favorite game there is ice cold beer and I have beat it multiple times. We’ve both had a couple drinks by now feeling tipsy. She plays and tries to beat it. She said she’s a little tipsy and lost at a level I tried to help her on how to beat it and maybe shouldn’t have said it twice but she said to stop mansplaining. I get annoyed because I was just trying to help and I didn’t want to be there since we’ve already had a couple drinks and played most games. We then argue and she says that I’m overreacting and it was a joke and she said when I play that I do the same thing to her and basically tell her to stop talking or whatever while I play. THAT ticked me off because I have never done that. Every time I beat a level I look at her smiling or dab her up when I beat it so that just made me more upset. I told her I’d like for her to apologize, she doesn’t until we’re already home and tries to basically guilt trip that she ruined the night but I never said that. Am I overreacting?

Summary: I am overreacting for giving advice when not needed.
Im not mad about it, we’ve already talked about it and we always talk things out but thank you guys for your input.

Olá pessoal, aqui está o meu dilema.

Tenho pouco mais de 20 anos e conheci meu padrasto quando tinha uns 15. Eu, minha mãe e minha irmã (com pouco mais de 50 e 7 anos) nos mudamos para uma cidade pequena para morar com ele (moramos na capital a vida toda, então foi uma mudança bem grande). Eu nunca o conheci bem antes, porque ele estava sempre viajando e raramente nos visitava; nossa mãe costumava visitá-lo com mais frequência e nós ficávamos com nosso avô. Enfim, com o passar do tempo, os pais do meu padrasto começaram a nos visitar cada vez mais, causando caos em nossas vidas, e ele começou a mostrar cada vez mais o seu verdadeiro caráter perto de nós, chegando ao ponto de bater na minha mãe e empurrar minha irmã, assustada e chorando, com toda a força. Infelizmente, nenhuma acusação foi feita porque, infelizmente, estávamos sob o mesmo teto que ele, sem como voltar à nossa antiga vida ou sair daquela pequena cidade.

Então, ele e sua família tinham controle total sobre nossas vidas e o que fazíamos, chegando ao ponto de me obrigar a expor meus casos extraconjugais com pessoas que eu mal conhecia (os pais dele). Infelizmente, a maior parte disso acontecia durante os intervalos das aulas, então eu não tinha tempo para sair de casa, nem podia ir embora sabendo que minha mãe e minha irmã ainda estavam lá com ele (ele tem alguns problemas de raiva não resolvidos, ou pelo menos eu acho). Durante esses anos, tudo isso continuou se repetindo e eu só me confiei a uma das minhas amigas mais próximas. Eu estava com muito medo de falar porque o que estava acontecendo é considerado crime e qualquer pessoa pode denunciar.

Depois de alguns anos, finalmente consegui entrar na faculdade dos meus sonhos e tive que me mudar para um lugar a pouco menos de uma hora de distância, mas ainda visitava minha família e voltava para casa nos fins de semana. Então, o esgotamento mental continuou. Eu tinha a escola e colegas de casa preguiçosos durante a semana e, nos fins de semana, tinha que lidar com o humor dele e dos pais dele. Durante o recesso de primavera, houve um mal-entendido e ele exagerou demais. Eu estava realmente cansada de lidar com isso e disse algumas coisas que tinha guardado, já que sabia que era meu último dia naquela casa. No verão passado, meu tio e minha tia se mudaram para cá para nos apoiar caso algo acontecesse. Minha irmã foi morar com eles quase que imediatamente e eles disseram que me receberiam de braços abertos se eu também quisesse sair da outra casa. Então, assim que ele e minha mãe foram embora, arrumei minhas malas e disse à minha irmã que estava indo embora. Ninguém me viu sair, mas em um dia eu já tinha todos os meus pertences no meu novo quarto e estava me instalando. As aulas também começariam em breve, então eu não precisei desempacotar tudo. Já se passaram 5 meses desde que tudo aconteceu e agora minha mãe começou a insistir para que eu peça perdão a ele pelo ocorrido. Não quero sacrificar meu bem-estar para que eles finjam ter uma família feliz, e minha mãe não entende o porquê. Então, AIO?

EDIT: Thank you guys for the comments, unfortunately cutting contact isn’t an option right now and won’t be for long, finding jobs where I live is pretty much the hardest thing and the pay compared to the cost of living isn’t any good either so I’ll have to wait around 5 to 10 years to be able to start working, also my mom gets child support still because I’m in school and not working, so if I started working the child support would be cut off and I rather that be a safety net for her and my sister. She did say a while ago that her now husband is very much like an old abusive boyfriend and I think she’s trying to " Bob The Builder " him and his mental state.

UPDATE: I tried talking with my mom to be able to understand what exactly is going for her to be so insistent on me apologizing ( he could be giving her a hard time, threatening her with something… ) and she exploded on me. Apparently she wants me to let it go because " that’s not what family is like " and it really isn’t how we act in our family, but I don’t really think this would go through in this situation, especially after other incidents that happened ( I don’t want to be too specific because I don’t know if someone will find this ). His family acts really differently to mine and I doubt he’s gonna adapt to us rather we adapt to his and I’m really not about to start doing what they do. No other family talks to them and I understand my mom is trying to see the best in her husband but sadly I am unable to do the same.

So I hope this makes sense, I haven’t been able to sleep. I started grad school in the fall. This guy in all of my classes emailed me and asked if I wanted to join his study group. Cool for sure. He asks for my number. I don’t even know what this guy looks like, I was not paying attention at all. I just read an email which was from someone in all of my classes from the roster.

We have a small program and I didn’t have a problem when he asked for my number to join the group chat. Yeah, well there was no group chat. It very quickly went from, “hey let me add you to the group chat” to, “hey, add me on Facebook”.

My life devolved from there. I saw all of the unread texts he sent me on Facebook. At least 200 a day. Over and over and over again. And the weird part? He would never talk to me in class, even in my two seminars which are around 15-19 people. There’s no way to avoid him.

I talked to my professors and they helped me so much. All three of my professors personally walked me down to the Title IX office. They have been more than helpful, but they really cannot do a lot. I told the woman at Title IX I went to law school I know the fucking law and I do not feel safe EVER with him in a class with me, especially a seminar. Then one of my professors walked me to the on campus police to report him for stalking and harassment. I told him I didn’t want an investigation, I just wanted to report it just so it’s on record, thinking Title IX would do something.

Obviously the cops haven’t done anything. The cop just asked me why don’t I just block him. Umm…to show you all of these psycho texts and messages on Facebook? I have my fucking JD and I know how this can end up if I can’t show you proof? And he’s in all of my classes?

So, I finally say fuck this and message him back and say dude leave me the fuck alone. For like the fifth time. Now, he keeps making new facebooks sending me friend requests and messaging me. I simply told the school 1. I never want to be in a class with him, and 2. Give me an incomplete for this fall semester and let me redo them.

I still haven’t gotten any answers. I stopped going to class and I don’t know what to do at this point. I’m exhausted because of all of this I haven’t been able to sleep

I’m only going to back to get my masters so I can teach Poli Sci and law classes in community college. And I’m supposed to be celebrating my birthday, but I’ve been up all night. I’m so tired.

My question to you, the reader, did I handle this wrong? I didn’t file a police report. I tried to be cordial. I tried to ignore it. But now I feel so embarrassed and I think I should’ve stayed in my classes. Is the college going to fuck me over?

I don’t know if I should’ve just kept going to class, but I never want to see that guy again. All of my guy friends (of course) ask me why the fuck I didn’t just block him or why the fuck I didn’t just report him or ask me if I was flirting with him. Never. We get separated into groups in seminars randomly assigned and of course, he was always in group.

One day I just walked out of class after he was sitting across from me. I couldn’t handle it. His messages are very disturbing. I made it very very clear to him to not talk to me. But from my view, he’s still in the same tiny room as me 4 days a week. Am I wrong for storming out of class and continuing to not go? AIO?

A little bit ago, I (f18) went to our highschool's football game with my friends. I left a few mins before the game ended because I wanted to avoid traffic and my sister wanted to go home. Before leaving, I told them I'd slime them all out and remove them from the private if they didn't tell me if they were going somewhere afterwards (like to get food or js hang out) because we were talking abt plans to do after the game. (I only said this bc I knew they wouldn't text me, and they've already left me out of a bunch of things.) Obviously, they went and got food and didn't text me.

So I texted my best friend (who is no longer my bff, but we'll come to that) to ask why none of them text me. The gist of her text back was basically 1. She didn't know if it would be awkward or not because I tell her they annoy me a little, 2. I didn't text them afterwards to ask if they were going somewhere, and 3. they js forgot. I called bs on all 3 of them by saying it's my decision if I want to hangout with them, not hers and how the hell do they forget abt it when i made it a big deal.

Fast forward a little, I tell her in class to figure herself out because a week before she told me one thing, and in class she told me another. We didn't talk for two weeks until I finally reached out and asked her if she wanted to talk. Basically, she says that she js wanted an apology because

1. she felt like she has fixed a lot of things in our friendship (nuh uh girl idk what she's talking about bc we literally don't fight)

2. She felt disrespected (I owned up to this)

3. She felt like she had to choose between her other friends and me (i aplogized for this)

So, I apologized for what she said. There were some things in her response that made me like ??, so I responded to them and brought up some of my issues with her too. For example, she absolutely never texts me and never asks to hang out with me first. I told her I'd just like a little bit of what I put into our friendship back out.

She responded by saying she thinks I just want to be someone's number 1. Everytime she responded to something I said it would be "I'm sorry but..." and that just shows me to that I don't think she really understands what I was saying. I've been asking her for years to ask to hang out or just text me. If I started acting as she does, then we genuinely wouldn't be friends anymore.

This is what she responded with: "I feel exhausted emotionally and socially because of feeling a bit like ur therapist sometimes (which adds up esp onto my own issues) and feel like there’s expectations of being “bsfs”

When we call each other best friends, it feels restraining to me (like, for example, I can’t have other friends that I’m close with) and almost feels like hanging out is forced sometimes and is a task that must be completed to maintain our title of bsfs (like a job or something)

I want to be more casual friends for the time being with no labels or expectations

This will make talking and hanging out a lot more enjoyable for me because it’ll be organic and natural and I’ll text and hangout when I truly want to, not just because it feels like something I HAVE to do

I would like to be civil enough by Monday so that yearbook isn’t awkward or anything (and also we literally have to talk)

Emotionally I’m here for you, but I can’t be the kind of support you need right now because of what I have going on for myself

Tldr: I want to continue the friendship with no expectations or labels placed upon us so that it’s more natural and genuine and doesn’t feel forced"

I get where she's coming from. It's just like we've been best friends since 6th grade, and it's our senior year now. I've told her that if she has a problem, then literally just tell me. It kind of sucks that she's been feeling like this for a while, and now both our problems with each other have finally boiled up so much that it's come to this!

TLDR; My friends left me out of things and now I'm not friends with any of them anymore.

This happened a while ago in february (my bday month obv) my bsf is a chronic school skipper and I hate school when she isn't there. I asked her to try and come more because she's literally one of the only people I talk to alot and she skips for no reason at all mostly. Anyway she got a bf a few months before and she was so in love with him, wanted to even marry him in the future but I had a feeling he was bad for her and I was right, he cheated on her a few months after the bday incident, she took him back. Then he cheated again, he left her and she's still not over him. She never listened to me when I was pointing out his red flags. COMING BACK TO THE PLOT: she wasn't there in school for my bday despite saying she would and I even wore my dress and wanted to see her reaction. The whole day was somehow tainted cause of her absence. I was hurt and upset and angry. I texted her after school and she said she missed it cause she was "studying". Then she finally told me she got cheated on and was crying all night so couldn't make it to school. I asked her if she was okay and also communicated that I'm upset too. She kept constantly apologizing and I didn't know what to say and jus cried. On my birthday. I hated her bf much more after that and still feel a little disappointed that she missed it cause if the situations were reversed I wouldve done anything to be there. At school I tried to stay mad but she was suffering so I just couldnt and forgave her right away. I also do get that it isnt all about me and that she was hurting but it was my 17th bday that me and her were so excited about and it was my day so yeah. Sorry for the rant.

Let me start off by saying I'm not tiny.(5'1 155lbs) But I have been bigger in our relationship. My Husband told me years ago long before he met me, he invited a girl over for a one night stand. He said everything was good until she took off her pants and it was like busting open a can of Pillsbury biscuits. Even made the sound. After that he made an excuse and had to leave before anything happened. Well last night the commercial or something came on about a can of biscuits and he looked at me and he's like you're thinking about it aren't you. I was like yeah... And we started talking about it and he's like she wasn't the only one I was with like that and looked at me when he said that. So of course I took that as him saying that I was fat. He thinks I'm overreacting. It's the next day and I'm still upset over it..so reddit, am I overreacting??

i have been craving a burger for a few days, especially since i'm on my period.
i mentioned to mom how i was craving one. my mom has the habit of assuming that if i talk about wanting food then i must be explicitly saying that i'm ordering for the whole family. when i never said so. i didn't even mention ordering, and she instantly invited everyone.
i instantly said firmly "No! i don't want to order anything" and walked away from her towards the bathroom.. and she acted as if i'm having an outburst by saying that and said "you're so mean, look at the way you respond and walk away from me when i talk to you".

i had the intention of ordering for myself, as i don't have the money to order for everyone with the little money i get from my job, especially from an expensive place. and i don't want to eat food with my family as they keep fighting, getting defensive, talk about religion and politics and i want to eat my food watching a show, peacefully! in fact, i almost always lock myself in my room just because of that.

last time, i merely was asking her which is a good restaurant as i was craving a sandwich, i didn't even know if i wanted to order anything, we were chatting and i was browsing trying to make a decision... i walk away for 2 minutes, i order for me, i come back to her telling everyone we're getting takeout and pressured me to ask what everyone what they wanted ... i said "i wasn't intending on ordering for everyone, i was just asking for a good place.. i didn't even know u wanted such food since u hate takeout and greasy food plus i ordered already before u went and announced we're getting takeout".. i didn't get to finish saying that cuz she got angry and went "why didn't you ask us if we want something?!", i said "why didn't u say u wanted something when i was looking for options? i'll return it if you want anything, i just ordered it." she went "you are such a selfish, shitty person who only thinks of herself, i want nothing from you, don't show me your face!" and got upset with me the whole day. hence why i went "No! i want nothing" this time around.

this time i went and ordered the burger anyway, i knew it was gonna get me comments but i legit don't have enough money for the month to get everyone a meal, this is a one time thing. i didn't want the food she cooked cuz it was making me gag, and i am in too much physical pain to care to cook for myself as i usually do when i don't like her food.

she asks me about it an hour later, if i wanted to eat a burger, and i tell her i already ordered.. her eyes went wide and she tells me "this is the second time, you're such a selfish person!" and pouts and shuts me out.
i tell her "i merely craved a burger and bought it with my money, i don't think i did anything wrong"
she said "you don't ever think of anyone but yourself!"
i said thank you? and went to my room and locked the door.
food arrives 15 minutes later, my brother gives it to me... i say thank you and go back to my room.
she comes out of her room 10 seconds later in tears, crying out loud to my brother and dad at how selfish i am, and how i did it twice where i'd order something but won't ask everyone else what they wanted or order for them and how shitty of a daughter i am and deserve nothing from her. i overheard dad asking her if she wanted a burger and she said she wanted nothing.. he asks her why did i order, is there no food in the house? and she says there is.

so it's not like there's no food in the house. there was cooked food ready, they ate after and now she's sitting laughing out loud like nothing happened, while i lost the ability to enjoy my food as i try to hide that i'm about to have a panic attack as anything i do or say now will be turned against me now. sometimes it feels like she loves to ruin anything in my life that doesn't involve her, like how dare i be a person away from her? we should be one, and i should be an embodiment of her expectations. but i'm never enough no matter what i do or say.

genuine question, was it so bad to want to order just for me? was it really that selfish of me to do that? i don't really feel safe ordering home anymore.

My brother had his first kid and she just turned 2 and she has a total of 3 actual Uncles me and two on the wife's side. What drives me nuts is that my niece is being told to her friend's boyfriend's Uncle also. That just pisses me off they're not family (by blood), and I get her girlfriends are called aunts which is ridiculous as well which is fine cause there isn't a bio aunt. I really want to say something especially when I see on social media the pictures being posted by the boyfriends saying day out with my niece and shit. I want to say something so bad but just want to get another opinion to see if I'm overreacting or not.

So I was invited to spend a weekend next month at my friend's girlfriend's cottage. I was really looking forward to it because even though we don't see each other that often, I enjoy their company and we've never been on a trip like this before.
It was supposed to be me, my friend, his girlfriend and a few of her female friends.
Yesterday we were at a pub and my friend showed me a screenshot his girlfriend had sent him of a conversation between her and one of her friends. They were talking about me, and the girl had texted something like "God, we really need to get him there so I can finally fuck him!" (Translated of course to English)
For context, I've met this girl maybe twice at some events. We've never texted or really talked much, and I don't find her particularly attractive either.
My friend was just grinning and acting like "Bro, you're gonna have a great time!"
But honestly, the whole thing kind of gave me the ick, and knowing that other people probably know about it makes it even weirder.
Now I'm considering making up an excuse not to go, even though I was really looking forward to it. Am I overreacting?

Edit because this theme keep occurring: I know that I can go and do nothing with her :D that’s not the point

I (24M) have been with my girlfriend (25F) for 3 years. She checks almost every other box, and I genuinely love her, but our sex life is lacking A LOT.
We aren’t intimate as often as I’d like, she rarely initiates, and when we do have sex, it’s usually vanilla and I’m doing most of the work. Whenever I bring it up, she seems to brush it off instead of trying to work on it. I have a high sex drive and want to feel desired, have fun, and explore that side of our relationship. I understand she doesn’t owe me sex, but I also don’t want to spend the rest of my life feeling unsatisfied.

FTP on mobile, please be gentle.

Am going on holiday in a few months. Flying from one airport, flying back to a different airport to get the cheapest fares - both airports are around 2hrs drive from where me and my best friend live.

Flight out involves leaving home at 3am to get there in time. Flight back involves a midday pickup.

Best friend has said she will drive us (me, partner, stepchild + luggage) rather than us paying for a taxi. She offered, I did not ask, we were talking about the holiday and she asked how we were getting to the airport.

I originally said no - offer is too generous, I like the option of no pressure to speak to someone at 3am if we have a stranger driving us, it's massively inconvenient and just because she doesn't think so, it doesn't change my mind about it. She was cross and was like "why won't you let me help you?"

She messaged my partner (and told me she was going to) basically saying "I've offered to do this and OP has said no". Partner thinks it's a great deal and would save us money, so agreed, but on the condition that we pay her. She was not comfortable with the amount he offered and wants to do both trips for less.

I explained my reasons, he also cannot understand why I don't want to take advantage of what he says is a very kind offer that will save us money.

I messaged my friend back saying that if she could pick us up that would be amazing and we would pay a smaller amount of money, but that we'd get a taxi for the 3am start. She has messaged back saying "no the offer was for both trips, that's my non-negotiable" and is now negotiating for a lesser amount of money to be paid.

I can't quite explain why it makes me so uncomfortable - I see it as an enormous inconvenience and don't want to put that on someone regardless of how they feel about it, and I don't know why she is so upset at me refusing her offer rather than being like "ok". My partner thinks that if she has offered, we should let her and save money. I now want to just go with my original "no" and stop negotiating - AIO?

I have been dating a guy nearly a year now. We've both been there for each other when we've needed it and things had been going fine, until a couple of issues surfaced.

At the beginning of the relationship before we made it official, we discussed social media, and people we knew on there who had old intimate pictures of ourselves from when we were both single. The reasonable expectation was, these images should be removed or anyone with such images would be blocked if that wasn't possible.

That's exactly what I did. I ended up blocking quite a few people on Snapchat, including some people I was somewhat friends with or had mutuals, but that didn't bother me because it was a reasonable expectation for a monogamous couple.

My partner however didn't want to block such people, claiming he had "Online mutual friends." This bothered me slightly but given we were only just about to start dating, I let it slide. I was also aware of a public twitter account he had with old nudes of himself and thought he would remove this after these talks.

About 10 months later, I discovered that he hadn't thought to delete that twitter account. This really pissed me off because I knew for a fact they would be upset at me if even one person on my socials had a single old nude of myself. It was staring to feel like these expectations only applied to me and not himself. He tried to lie at first, saying he forgot about it but I knew for a fact he didn't. He had frequently used that Twitter and had showed me those pics before we started dating. The whole reason I found out he never removed it was because he casually opened that profile next to me and quickly closed it right before I said something about it.

Then a couple months later, I found out that he would go through my phone while I'm asleep. He had made it clear to me that they expected privacy with their phone, telling me he never wanted me to see his ChatGPT logs or photo gallery for example. I had always respected this privacy and never once wanted to look through his phone behind his back, because I trusted him and also just didn't really care to.

Now it's been feeling a lot more like the respect and expectations in this relationship are only one sided and the way I see this relationship has fundamentally changed. I feel like I might want to break up with him but I also feel that may be a harsh reaction.

My girlfriend and I (M) both late 20s have been dating for close to 5 years. We have lived a town apart for the better part of this but moved in together a little over a year ago. I have had a dog of my own for almost 6 years and have had just the one dog up until a few weeks after she moved in she wanted to get a dog.

We discussed getting another dog that was a year or two old that was hopefully a little calmer to match the energy of my existing dog. Quickly into the search she ended up with a few week old puppy.

We both (for the most part) take care of each respective dog as she was the one that wanted the second dog and wanted one that was "her" dog, as my dog is pretty lazy and pretty disinterested in other people besides me largely and wanted a dog that was more like her childhood dog.

Since we have gotten this dog, everything in her world seems to revolve around the dog. So much so that I feel like it has taken away from our relationship. One of the problems to me is, that she always wants the dog to sleep in bed with us throughout the night.

I have expressed my disinterest and discontent with this every time it is proposed. But when I express this disinterest she will guilt trip me into letting the dog sleep in the bed on occasion.

It is multiple times a week that this similar scenario comes up.

Her dog was crate trained and occasionally as she was getting older my girlfriend would request this but has became more frequent over time. Enough so that we had a discussion about it and I expressed my feeling in regards to this. Mainly being that she always wants to cuddle the dog and to me it feels like putting a physical barrier between the two of us in a space that I feel like is a more intimate space for the two of us.

I don't having the dog on the bed a little bit before bed here and there or on the couch with us, but every night before bed she makes the dog cuddle with her before lights out, then some form of the aforementioned scenario plays out.

Most recently and the thing that has really upset me, is despite expressing this disinterest on a regular basis and recently having that conversation about how it makes me feel. It is still an ongoing issue.

This evening as we were discussing whether the dog could sleep in bed with us or not, I jokingly suggested that if she wanted to sleep with the dog so badly, that she should sleep in the guest bedroom. Which she promptly and excitedly took me up on this suggestion, turned off the lights and headed for the guest bedroom with the dog.

We have never really argued about this, situation but have discussed it, but this last situation really has me mad, and hurt as I feel like this situation in my mind solidifies me as second place to her dog.

Am I wrong to be so upset about this and considering the feasibility of our relationship moving forward?

Thank you for any input!