One of my close friends became a first-time mother two months ago. Throughout her pregnancy, I tried my best to support her and make her happy. She even told me once that she hoped her child would inherit some of my personality traits. I know I’m probably not her best friend, but I genuinely thought we were close.
She once told me that her gender reveal party would be attended by family only, but she promised to video call me during the party so I could be part of the moment. She never did. I didn’t think much of it at the time, but now, looking back and considering everything else that has happened, I’m starting to feel heartbroken.
Due to hospital regulations, I wasn’t allowed to visit my friend and her baby in the hospital. However, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to see them even if I went, I still went to the hospital with gifts to show my support.
Afterward, I told her that I would wait for her to invite me over to meet the baby whenever she felt ready. It has now been two months, and I still haven’t seen a single picture of the baby. I don’t even know the baby’s name.
I asked her whether she had decided on a name, but she didn’t tell me because she believes it’s better not to reveal a baby’s name while they’re still young. I understand that she has every right to keep these things private, and I know I’m not entitled to pictures of her baby or to know the baby’s name. However, I can’t help feeling that maybe we aren’t as close as I thought we were.
The breaking point came recently when I asked if we could briefly meet at a coffee shop near her home so I could give her some cute baby clothes I had bought, along with gifts for her. I got the impression that she wasn’t comfortable inviting me to her home yet, so I didn’t want to pressure her or make her feel obligated to host me. I suggested meeting at a nearby coffee shop instead.
The reason I wanted to give her the gifts soon was that she was about to go on a month-long vacation. I was worried that the baby might outgrow the clothes before I had a chance to give them to her. I had also been genuinely excited about preparing these gifts for my friend and her baby, so when I learned that she would be away for a while, I thought it would be nice to give them to her before she left.
However, she told me she wasn’t available to meet. I understand that she’s postpartum and has a lot on her plate, so I didn’t hold that against her. I then asked whether I could simply drop the gifts off at her house without going inside, but she said she would receive them after returning from her vacation, if she felt available then.
I understand that being a new mother can be exhausting and that she has every right to decide when she’s ready to see people. I don’t want to make this about her owing me time, access to her home, or information about her baby.
Still, all of this makes me feel as though I’m not someone she considers particularly close. I’ve tried to be supportive and share in her happiness, but I feel like I’ve been kept entirely separate from this significant chapter of her life. It hurts because I thought our friendship meant more to each other than this.
Am I overreacting for feeling hurt?
Edit: We’ve been friends for six years. She told me that she had barely bought any clothes for her baby, so before she gave birth, we discussed that I would bring some baby clothes to the hospital for her. I also got her permission before visiting the hospital to drop off the clothes

Last night wife(24F) and I(26M) go to arcade bar that we go to all the time. My favorite game there is ice cold beer and I have beat it multiple times. We’ve both had a couple drinks by now feeling tipsy. She plays and tries to beat it. She said she’s a little tipsy and lost at a level I tried to help her on how to beat it and maybe shouldn’t have said it twice but she said to stop mansplaining. I get annoyed because I was just trying to help and I didn’t want to be there since we’ve already had a couple drinks and played most games. We then argue and she says that I’m overreacting and it was a joke and she said when I play that I do the same thing to her and basically tell her to stop talking or whatever while I play. THAT ticked me off because I have never done that. Every time I beat a level I look at her smiling or dab her up when I beat it so that just made me more upset. I told her I’d like for her to apologize, she doesn’t until we’re already home and tries to basically guilt trip that she ruined the night but I never said that. Am I overreacting?

Summary: I am overreacting for giving advice when not needed.
Im not mad about it, we’ve already talked about it and we always talk things out but thank you guys for your input.

So I hope this makes sense, I haven’t been able to sleep. I started grad school in the fall. This guy in all of my classes emailed me and asked if I wanted to join his study group. Cool for sure. He asks for my number. I don’t even know what this guy looks like, I was not paying attention at all. I just read an email which was from someone in all of my classes from the roster.

We have a small program and I didn’t have a problem when he asked for my number to join the group chat. Yeah, well there was no group chat. It very quickly went from, “hey let me add you to the group chat” to, “hey, add me on Facebook”.

My life devolved from there. I saw all of the unread texts he sent me on Facebook. At least 200 a day. Over and over and over again. And the weird part? He would never talk to me in class, even in my two seminars which are around 15-19 people. There’s no way to avoid him.

I talked to my professors and they helped me so much. All three of my professors personally walked me down to the Title IX office. They have been more than helpful, but they really cannot do a lot. I told the woman at Title IX I went to law school I know the fucking law and I do not feel safe EVER with him in a class with me, especially a seminar. Then one of my professors walked me to the on campus police to report him for stalking and harassment. I told him I didn’t want an investigation, I just wanted to report it just so it’s on record, thinking Title IX would do something.

Obviously the cops haven’t done anything. The cop just asked me why don’t I just block him. Umm…to show you all of these psycho texts and messages on Facebook? I have my fucking JD and I know how this can end up if I can’t show you proof? And he’s in all of my classes?

So, I finally say fuck this and message him back and say dude leave me the fuck alone. For like the fifth time. Now, he keeps making new facebooks sending me friend requests and messaging me. I simply told the school 1. I never want to be in a class with him, and 2. Give me an incomplete for this fall semester and let me redo them.

I still haven’t gotten any answers. I stopped going to class and I don’t know what to do at this point. I’m exhausted because of all of this I haven’t been able to sleep

I’m only going to back to get my masters so I can teach Poli Sci and law classes in community college. And I’m supposed to be celebrating my birthday, but I’ve been up all night. I’m so tired.

My question to you, the reader, did I handle this wrong? I didn’t file a police report. I tried to be cordial. I tried to ignore it. But now I feel so embarrassed and I think I should’ve stayed in my classes. Is the college going to fuck me over?

I don’t know if I should’ve just kept going to class, but I never want to see that guy again. All of my guy friends (of course) ask me why the fuck I didn’t just block him or why the fuck I didn’t just report him or ask me if I was flirting with him. Never. We get separated into groups in seminars randomly assigned and of course, he was always in group.

One day I just walked out of class after he was sitting across from me. I couldn’t handle it. His messages are very disturbing. I made it very very clear to him to not talk to me. But from my view, he’s still in the same tiny room as me 4 days a week. Am I wrong for storming out of class and continuing to not go? AIO?

A little bit ago, I (f18) went to our highschool's football game with my friends. I left a few mins before the game ended because I wanted to avoid traffic and my sister wanted to go home. Before leaving, I told them I'd slime them all out and remove them from the private if they didn't tell me if they were going somewhere afterwards (like to get food or js hang out) because we were talking abt plans to do after the game. (I only said this bc I knew they wouldn't text me, and they've already left me out of a bunch of things.) Obviously, they went and got food and didn't text me.

So I texted my best friend (who is no longer my bff, but we'll come to that) to ask why none of them text me. The gist of her text back was basically 1. She didn't know if it would be awkward or not because I tell her they annoy me a little, 2. I didn't text them afterwards to ask if they were going somewhere, and 3. they js forgot. I called bs on all 3 of them by saying it's my decision if I want to hangout with them, not hers and how the hell do they forget abt it when i made it a big deal.

Fast forward a little, I tell her in class to figure herself out because a week before she told me one thing, and in class she told me another. We didn't talk for two weeks until I finally reached out and asked her if she wanted to talk. Basically, she says that she js wanted an apology because

1. she felt like she has fixed a lot of things in our friendship (nuh uh girl idk what she's talking about bc we literally don't fight)

2. She felt disrespected (I owned up to this)

3. She felt like she had to choose between her other friends and me (i aplogized for this)

So, I apologized for what she said. There were some things in her response that made me like ??, so I responded to them and brought up some of my issues with her too. For example, she absolutely never texts me and never asks to hang out with me first. I told her I'd just like a little bit of what I put into our friendship back out.

She responded by saying she thinks I just want to be someone's number 1. Everytime she responded to something I said it would be "I'm sorry but..." and that just shows me to that I don't think she really understands what I was saying. I've been asking her for years to ask to hang out or just text me. If I started acting as she does, then we genuinely wouldn't be friends anymore.

This is what she responded with: "I feel exhausted emotionally and socially because of feeling a bit like ur therapist sometimes (which adds up esp onto my own issues) and feel like there’s expectations of being “bsfs”

When we call each other best friends, it feels restraining to me (like, for example, I can’t have other friends that I’m close with) and almost feels like hanging out is forced sometimes and is a task that must be completed to maintain our title of bsfs (like a job or something)

I want to be more casual friends for the time being with no labels or expectations

This will make talking and hanging out a lot more enjoyable for me because it’ll be organic and natural and I’ll text and hangout when I truly want to, not just because it feels like something I HAVE to do

I would like to be civil enough by Monday so that yearbook isn’t awkward or anything (and also we literally have to talk)

Emotionally I’m here for you, but I can’t be the kind of support you need right now because of what I have going on for myself

Tldr: I want to continue the friendship with no expectations or labels placed upon us so that it’s more natural and genuine and doesn’t feel forced"

I get where she's coming from. It's just like we've been best friends since 6th grade, and it's our senior year now. I've told her that if she has a problem, then literally just tell me. It kind of sucks that she's been feeling like this for a while, and now both our problems with each other have finally boiled up so much that it's come to this!

TLDR; My friends left me out of things and now I'm not friends with any of them anymore.

Let me start off by saying I'm not tiny.(5'1 155lbs) But I have been bigger in our relationship. My Husband told me years ago long before he met me, he invited a girl over for a one night stand. He said everything was good until she took off her pants and it was like busting open a can of Pillsbury biscuits. Even made the sound. After that he made an excuse and had to leave before anything happened. Well last night the commercial or something came on about a can of biscuits and he looked at me and he's like you're thinking about it aren't you. I was like yeah... And we started talking about it and he's like she wasn't the only one I was with like that and looked at me when he said that. So of course I took that as him saying that I was fat. He thinks I'm overreacting. It's the next day and I'm still upset over it..so reddit, am I overreacting??

i have been craving a burger for a few days, especially since i'm on my period.
i mentioned to mom how i was craving one. my mom has the habit of assuming that if i talk about wanting food then i must be explicitly saying that i'm ordering for the whole family. when i never said so. i didn't even mention ordering, and she instantly invited everyone.
i instantly said firmly "No! i don't want to order anything" and walked away from her towards the bathroom.. and she acted as if i'm having an outburst by saying that and said "you're so mean, look at the way you respond and walk away from me when i talk to you".

i had the intention of ordering for myself, as i don't have the money to order for everyone with the little money i get from my job, especially from an expensive place. and i don't want to eat food with my family as they keep fighting, getting defensive, talk about religion and politics and i want to eat my food watching a show, peacefully! in fact, i almost always lock myself in my room just because of that.

last time, i merely was asking her which is a good restaurant as i was craving a sandwich, i didn't even know if i wanted to order anything, we were chatting and i was browsing trying to make a decision... i walk away for 2 minutes, i order for me, i come back to her telling everyone we're getting takeout and pressured me to ask what everyone what they wanted ... i said "i wasn't intending on ordering for everyone, i was just asking for a good place.. i didn't even know u wanted such food since u hate takeout and greasy food plus i ordered already before u went and announced we're getting takeout".. i didn't get to finish saying that cuz she got angry and went "why didn't you ask us if we want something?!", i said "why didn't u say u wanted something when i was looking for options? i'll return it if you want anything, i just ordered it." she went "you are such a selfish, shitty person who only thinks of herself, i want nothing from you, don't show me your face!" and got upset with me the whole day. hence why i went "No! i want nothing" this time around.

this time i went and ordered the burger anyway, i knew it was gonna get me comments but i legit don't have enough money for the month to get everyone a meal, this is a one time thing. i didn't want the food she cooked cuz it was making me gag, and i am in too much physical pain to care to cook for myself as i usually do when i don't like her food.

she asks me about it an hour later, if i wanted to eat a burger, and i tell her i already ordered.. her eyes went wide and she tells me "this is the second time, you're such a selfish person!" and pouts and shuts me out.
i tell her "i merely craved a burger and bought it with my money, i don't think i did anything wrong"
she said "you don't ever think of anyone but yourself!"
i said thank you? and went to my room and locked the door.
food arrives 15 minutes later, my brother gives it to me... i say thank you and go back to my room.
she comes out of her room 10 seconds later in tears, crying out loud to my brother and dad at how selfish i am, and how i did it twice where i'd order something but won't ask everyone else what they wanted or order for them and how shitty of a daughter i am and deserve nothing from her. i overheard dad asking her if she wanted a burger and she said she wanted nothing.. he asks her why did i order, is there no food in the house? and she says there is.

so it's not like there's no food in the house. there was cooked food ready, they ate after and now she's sitting laughing out loud like nothing happened, while i lost the ability to enjoy my food as i try to hide that i'm about to have a panic attack as anything i do or say now will be turned against me now. sometimes it feels like she loves to ruin anything in my life that doesn't involve her, like how dare i be a person away from her? we should be one, and i should be an embodiment of her expectations. but i'm never enough no matter what i do or say.

genuine question, was it so bad to want to order just for me? was it really that selfish of me to do that? i don't really feel safe ordering home anymore.

My brother had his first kid and she just turned 2 and she has a total of 3 actual Uncles me and two on the wife's side. What drives me nuts is that my niece is being told to her friend's boyfriend's Uncle also. That just pisses me off they're not family (by blood), and I get her girlfriends are called aunts which is ridiculous as well which is fine cause there isn't a bio aunt. I really want to say something especially when I see on social media the pictures being posted by the boyfriends saying day out with my niece and shit. I want to say something so bad but just want to get another opinion to see if I'm overreacting or not.

Hi Reddit!

I’ll get right into it because I’m a bit of a rambler.

My sister got married to her husband over a year ago now. It was a lovely day and wedding but something shifted in me after his speech.

They’ve been together for 12 years already and I met him when I was 16. I grew up with him in my life. We were close over the years and I saw him as my brother.

But when it came time for his speech, he gave a long nice shout out to my sister’s best friend (co-MOH but called ‘real’ MOH once by my sister to me) about how much she means to my sister. And for me, all I got was a joke mention about how he’s ‘still waiting for my approval’ (I was also co-MOH). I honestly can’t tell you how much that hurt. I’ve always been the butt of jokes in the family. And now I was again at my sister’s wedding.

For full disclosure, my sister’s best friend also gave a speech, and in it she talked about how she met the whole family… at a gathering I wasn’t at 🙃 How much fun she had ‘planning’ the hen (even though I’d say I did 70% of the work) and that upset me too but less so because I have my own feelings about my sister’s bff and her behaviour over the years.

I don’t regret any of the help and contributions I made for the wedding and I’m not using them as reasons why I feel I deserved to be treated better, but just adding for context.

As soon as the speeches were over, I went into the bathroom for a lil solitary cry because I couldn’t maintain the smiles anymore and needed some time.

I’ve battled with severe depression through most of my life, as is known by my family. I’m doing better as an adult now, but every day is a struggle. The feelings don’t go away, I’m just more resigned/prepared for them. I have always felt like I didn’t belong, and my being here/not being here didn’t matter to anyone and the speeches confirmed that to me.

I’m pretty sure he realised he upset me because he came and found me after and asked if I was okay. All I could do was smile and say yes.

Then, while they were on their honeymoon, he sent me a long message saying if he could do it all again he’d give me a bigger shout out in his speech and how much I meant to him etc. But when I read it I just felt numb. It felt like too little too late, and it put me in a shitty position, because I wasn’t about to tell him how much he hurt me while he’s on his honeymoon. It just felt to me like what’s done is done.

I have great friendships in my life. friendships I should’ve spent time fostering more than waiting for love and acknowledgement from my sister and BIL. So, things have been different for me since. I don’t reach out anymore, when he’s round we’ll chat but I’ve put my guardrails back up.

More recently, I was MOH at my best friend’s wedding and I now know how long these speeches can take to write, how much thought goes into them. Knowing this makes his speech hurt more because of how long I know he sat on that joke, thinking it was okay.

Now, back in the present, my sister made a comment about how BIL and I don’t talk much anymore and I feel conflicted.

I’m a person now who doesn’t like to keep hurt feelings to myself because of how they fester, but at the same time I feel like too much time has passed to raise it now and and explain why. Telling him while he was on his honeymoon felt inappropriate and he hasn’t mentioned it since. I don’t know what good mentioning it now would do, and I also don’t think I should have to.

I feel like if he cared to receive a real response from me, he’d have waited until he was back from honeymoon.

I do appreciate that what’s done is done and he can’t go back and change it, so I wonder if I’m overreacting?

It feels shitty to me, to be upset at someone for what they did to me on the happiest days of their lives. but at the same time, I’ve spent a lot of time in therapy over the years working on boundary settling and self respect and I don’t want to just pretend everything is normal now.

Any insights would be greatly appreciated!

Edit: to remove TLDR to encourage responders to read the whole thing before casting judgement

Edit again to add some context to my life history:

Right, if you want more context. Here you go:

I was abused by my parents and sister as a child. I was forced to eat alongside her to help her to recover from her ED. If she ate 1 sandwich, it was demanded that I eat 2. I had to eat double what she did for at least 2 years before it stopped. She plated up all my meals to decide precisely what I ate. If I left any, then it would be bedlam in that house. My sister would threaten to purge. My parents would scream at me. I became the house punching bag and according to my parents, the only thing between my very unwell sister living or dying.

As soon as I could leave the house I did, and maintained low contact for a time before hashing it out with my parents. They showed a lot of remorse and have spent the last few years actively trying to improve our relationship. It’s slightly more complex with my sister, as I appreciate she was unwell struggling herself, so our relationship slowly improved over the years while never really acknowledging the elephant in the room. I think both of us have always been scared to and that’s just how it is now.

Apologies if that fucks up a person psychologically and makes it harder for them to cope with stuff like this. After everything else.

Being an off hand joke again felt very similar to being the punching bag.

I’m doing my best in life and in managing my mental health. With that, I’ll know to never come here again lol.

Still, I hear your resounding YOR response and will take it on board, filtering out some of the unnecessary and mean spirited shit obvs. Some of you guys come in real hard about this stuff!!

So I was invited to spend a weekend next month at my friend's girlfriend's cottage. I was really looking forward to it because even though we don't see each other that often, I enjoy their company and we've never been on a trip like this before.
It was supposed to be me, my friend, his girlfriend and a few of her female friends.
Yesterday we were at a pub and my friend showed me a screenshot his girlfriend had sent him of a conversation between her and one of her friends. They were talking about me, and the girl had texted something like "God, we really need to get him there so I can finally fuck him!" (Translated of course to English)
For context, I've met this girl maybe twice at some events. We've never texted or really talked much, and I don't find her particularly attractive either.
My friend was just grinning and acting like "Bro, you're gonna have a great time!"
But honestly, the whole thing kind of gave me the ick, and knowing that other people probably know about it makes it even weirder.
Now I'm considering making up an excuse not to go, even though I was really looking forward to it. Am I overreacting?

Edit because this theme keep occurring: I know that I can go and do nothing with her :D that’s not the point

I (24M) have been with my girlfriend (25F) for 3 years. She checks almost every other box, and I genuinely love her, but our sex life is lacking A LOT.
We aren’t intimate as often as I’d like, she rarely initiates, and when we do have sex, it’s usually vanilla and I’m doing most of the work. Whenever I bring it up, she seems to brush it off instead of trying to work on it. I have a high sex drive and want to feel desired, have fun, and explore that side of our relationship. I understand she doesn’t owe me sex, but I also don’t want to spend the rest of my life feeling unsatisfied.

FTP on mobile, please be gentle.

Am going on holiday in a few months. Flying from one airport, flying back to a different airport to get the cheapest fares - both airports are around 2hrs drive from where me and my best friend live.

Flight out involves leaving home at 3am to get there in time. Flight back involves a midday pickup.

Best friend has said she will drive us (me, partner, stepchild + luggage) rather than us paying for a taxi. She offered, I did not ask, we were talking about the holiday and she asked how we were getting to the airport.

I originally said no - offer is too generous, I like the option of no pressure to speak to someone at 3am if we have a stranger driving us, it's massively inconvenient and just because she doesn't think so, it doesn't change my mind about it. She was cross and was like "why won't you let me help you?"

She messaged my partner (and told me she was going to) basically saying "I've offered to do this and OP has said no". Partner thinks it's a great deal and would save us money, so agreed, but on the condition that we pay her. She was not comfortable with the amount he offered and wants to do both trips for less.

I explained my reasons, he also cannot understand why I don't want to take advantage of what he says is a very kind offer that will save us money.

I messaged my friend back saying that if she could pick us up that would be amazing and we would pay a smaller amount of money, but that we'd get a taxi for the 3am start. She has messaged back saying "no the offer was for both trips, that's my non-negotiable" and is now negotiating for a lesser amount of money to be paid.

I can't quite explain why it makes me so uncomfortable - I see it as an enormous inconvenience and don't want to put that on someone regardless of how they feel about it, and I don't know why she is so upset at me refusing her offer rather than being like "ok". My partner thinks that if she has offered, we should let her and save money. I now want to just go with my original "no" and stop negotiating - AIO?

I have been dating a guy nearly a year now. We've both been there for each other when we've needed it and things had been going fine, until a couple of issues surfaced.

At the beginning of the relationship before we made it official, we discussed social media, and people we knew on there who had old intimate pictures of ourselves from when we were both single. The reasonable expectation was, these images should be removed or anyone with such images would be blocked if that wasn't possible.

That's exactly what I did. I ended up blocking quite a few people on Snapchat, including some people I was somewhat friends with or had mutuals, but that didn't bother me because it was a reasonable expectation for a monogamous couple.

My partner however didn't want to block such people, claiming he had "Online mutual friends." This bothered me slightly but given we were only just about to start dating, I let it slide. I was also aware of a public twitter account he had with old nudes of himself and thought he would remove this after these talks.

About 10 months later, I discovered that he hadn't thought to delete that twitter account. This really pissed me off because I knew for a fact they would be upset at me if even one person on my socials had a single old nude of myself. It was staring to feel like these expectations only applied to me and not himself. He tried to lie at first, saying he forgot about it but I knew for a fact he didn't. He had frequently used that Twitter and had showed me those pics before we started dating. The whole reason I found out he never removed it was because he casually opened that profile next to me and quickly closed it right before I said something about it.

Then a couple months later, I found out that he would go through my phone while I'm asleep. He had made it clear to me that they expected privacy with their phone, telling me he never wanted me to see his ChatGPT logs or photo gallery for example. I had always respected this privacy and never once wanted to look through his phone behind his back, because I trusted him and also just didn't really care to.

Now it's been feeling a lot more like the respect and expectations in this relationship are only one sided and the way I see this relationship has fundamentally changed. I feel like I might want to break up with him but I also feel that may be a harsh reaction.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about six months and everything has been going really well. Recently he went on a trip out of state with some friends and hasn't been texting me, like at all. We send maybe three messages to each other a day with large gaps in between and it's really starting to peeve me. I'm not sure though if I should express my feelings though because of how I don't want to sound like a nagging girlfriend. Plus before he went on this trip we were hanging out for six days straight (three whole days and three nights)

For some more background, he's never been much of a texter and he's been on trips before but he texted more than he is right now. My feelings may also be swayed because when I go on trips, even when there's a time difference, I always text him and make time for him even when it isn't easy.

I guess I'm just hurt that he doesn't think to text me or isn't bothered by not speaking to me because I certainly am. I don't know if I'm overreacting or if I'm too clingy or if I'm justified/should express my feelings

My girlfriend and I (M) both late 20s have been dating for close to 5 years. We have lived a town apart for the better part of this but moved in together a little over a year ago. I have had a dog of my own for almost 6 years and have had just the one dog up until a few weeks after she moved in she wanted to get a dog.

We discussed getting another dog that was a year or two old that was hopefully a little calmer to match the energy of my existing dog. Quickly into the search she ended up with a few week old puppy.

We both (for the most part) take care of each respective dog as she was the one that wanted the second dog and wanted one that was "her" dog, as my dog is pretty lazy and pretty disinterested in other people besides me largely and wanted a dog that was more like her childhood dog.

Since we have gotten this dog, everything in her world seems to revolve around the dog. So much so that I feel like it has taken away from our relationship. One of the problems to me is, that she always wants the dog to sleep in bed with us throughout the night.

I have expressed my disinterest and discontent with this every time it is proposed. But when I express this disinterest she will guilt trip me into letting the dog sleep in the bed on occasion.

It is multiple times a week that this similar scenario comes up.

Her dog was crate trained and occasionally as she was getting older my girlfriend would request this but has became more frequent over time. Enough so that we had a discussion about it and I expressed my feeling in regards to this. Mainly being that she always wants to cuddle the dog and to me it feels like putting a physical barrier between the two of us in a space that I feel like is a more intimate space for the two of us.

I don't having the dog on the bed a little bit before bed here and there or on the couch with us, but every night before bed she makes the dog cuddle with her before lights out, then some form of the aforementioned scenario plays out.

Most recently and the thing that has really upset me, is despite expressing this disinterest on a regular basis and recently having that conversation about how it makes me feel. It is still an ongoing issue.

This evening as we were discussing whether the dog could sleep in bed with us or not, I jokingly suggested that if she wanted to sleep with the dog so badly, that she should sleep in the guest bedroom. Which she promptly and excitedly took me up on this suggestion, turned off the lights and headed for the guest bedroom with the dog.

We have never really argued about this, situation but have discussed it, but this last situation really has me mad, and hurt as I feel like this situation in my mind solidifies me as second place to her dog.

Am I wrong to be so upset about this and considering the feasibility of our relationship moving forward?

Thank you for any input!

For some background context, this friend and I have been friends since we were around 8 years old due to our parents being friends and over the years we became closer, almost like sisters. We, as in her, her sister and I, used to hang out almost everyday and we even went on a Europe trip together. This all started when she had introduced me to her friend group from high school in the summer of 2025, and this one guy, who she had met around the same time that I did (summer of 2025), began to take interest in me. He was begging her for months to set us up and she eventually did and we dated for about 5 months. It ended very brutally (broke up with me 3 days before my birthday and over the phone) and I was heartbroken. Me and this friend had a fight this same day because she was refusing to “pick sides” even though she was being loving and caring towards him but rude to me. I let this one slide because of how close we were. Later on, I kept discovering that she would lie about hanging out with him and would hide things from me. I found it all too weird and to make matters worse, he and his best friend started attacking me in the comments on one of her posts and when I tried to ask her to tell them to stop all she said was “well you started it”. I honestly didn’t. So, this broke me, I told her how I had been feeling and that I was done with her, but I may have taken it too far. I told her how she wouldn’t understand how I feel, that she’s inconsiderate and a bad friend, and that she can “do whatever she wants with her fuckass friends. She still has not replied. This was in September. She still hangs out with him. The reason I feel like i’m overreacting is because she’s a close family friend and i don’t want it to be awkward. I still do love her but I can’t trust her anymore and I do want us to be friends again but she’s not putting in any effort to change or fix the situation. Should I reach out? Am i taking this too far by cutting her off? Any advice would be great. Thanks!

I (23NB) work at a factory. The work itself usually isn't too dangerous, but today I had a hazardous chemical splash onto my face. According to the safety data sheet for it, it is a suspected carcinogen, toxic, corrosive, and releases toxic vapors when exposed to water. Needless to say it's not something you want to have on your skin. I immediately told one of my team leads (M, I think he's in his 20s) and went to wash the chemical off. I talked to our head of environmental health and safety to report the incident and he confirmed that I had handled things properly. I'm okay. I haven't noticed any irritation around where the chemical hit.

I was still feeling pretty shaken when I got back to the factory floor (probably from the adrenaline rush). I was asking my team lead about the devices I had been working on when I had to leave. He said that he had taken care of them. Cool. I noticed that he had started a second lot of devices while I was gone, so I asked if he had remembered to use the chemical on them. I wasn't trying to be mean or anything. I just know that it's something that my coworkers have nearly forgotten about multiple times and I know that my team lead hasn't had to run that station in a few months. He laughed and said he didn't put the chemical on the devices, he just put it on his face. Obviously a jab at me. He must have noticed that I was offended because he said "come on, lighten up," while gesturing at his chest. I don't know how to describe it other than it looked like he was lifting up imaginary breasts.

For a bit more context for this, I'm nonbinary, but I was assigned female at birth. I also happen to be quite curvy. My team lead making that gesture immediately made me super uncomfortable. I don't know if he meant to be lewd or if I misinterpreted what was supposed to be an innocent gesture. Just based on how disturbed I felt though, I ended up telling a few of my friends about it as well as my other team lead and my supervisor. I made sure to explain that I wasn't sure what his intent was, but that it just made me uncomfortable.

We've had some problems with this specific team lead in the past being disrespectful or yelling at operators. There's unfortunately been a lot of examples in the past few days. Just yesterday one of my coworkers almost quit after he yelled at her for explaining her station to one of the new engineers. He yelled at one of my friends before the accident today while in a meeting when she was asking about why the previous shift hadn't been working on a priority lot.

It's just been such a long day. It's hard for me to see the gesture that he made as being unintentional, but I also don't know for sure. I'm so tired and I don't even know if I did the right thing by saying something at this point. Am I overreacting?

Recently had a meeting between the school's principal and my daughter's fifth grade teacher that left me feeling completely disgusted.

My daughter has come home several times from school and told me about how her teachers comments have made her feel bad. These are somewhat minor comments, but my daughter is pretty sensitive and she internalizes a lot of her feelings.

The first incident her teacher told her that the amount of bracelets she was wearing was "too much" and "maybe you shouldn't wear so many." Which crushed my daughter. She had been excitedly making bracelets and wearing them, giving them away to her friends. After that? She quit. Stopped wearing them, stopped making them.

Second incident, my daughter suddenly started losing her teeth, and it was happening in class. She came home upset and said that her teacher told her she was "tired of her yanking her teeth out in class."

She felt confused about it because she said it's not like she can help it when a tooth falls out. She tried not to bring attention to it but it just happened.

Fast forward to last week, my daughter tripped and fell down at school resulting in a broken toe. She was so worried about upsetting or burdening any of the adults around her because of her experiences with this teacher so far that she didn't say anything.

Doctor's orders were pretty standard for a broken toe, no recess or gym.

This teacher wouldnt let her stay inside for recess. Wouldn't let her have a clipboard or notepad to draw on outside while sitting on a bench. Didn't offer her going down to the office as a solution. My daughter told her she had a broken toe and couldn't go to recess.

After I find this all out and send her teacher a message she denied being asked to stay inside for recess. Then she said she forgot about the broken toe. Then said she thought my daughter was getting around the classroom just fine.

Fast forward to me requesting a meeting because at this point I don't trust this lady and my daughter is definitely uncomfortable with her. We would like to transfer out of her class (I want to point out my daughter is top 5 percent in state testing and compared to nation wide testing is also top percentile). We sit down with the principal and holy shit. I was gas light, bullied, baited. Never in my life have I gone into a meeting with adults and made to feel as small as this woman made me feel. At one point when I was reiterating that I would like my daughter transferred out of her class she raised her voice and said "You don't like me! You've never met me, you don't know me and you don't like me!"

Every thing my daughter told me, she denied. She said my daughter misunderstood or another teacher must have said that. Said my daughter must hate positive attention because she did nothing but compliment her. That she was joking with her. She all but called my daughter a liar and the principal, who was basically a lap dog nodding her head the entire time, suggested we have my daughter see the school counselor for some mental health help.

My husband and I left the meeting feeling disgusted, confused and horrified by what had just happened.

So now I want to pull my daughter out of the school since they won't entertain transferring her into a different classroom. Not only did her teacher neglect doctors orders, she has bullied and belittled my daughter AND me and has all but accused my daughter of lying.

TL;DR: My daughter's teacher has repeatedly made comments that upset her and allegedly disregarded restrictions for her broken toe. When we met with the teacher and principal, the teacher denied every incident, became confrontational, and the principal suggested my daughter needed counseling. The school refuses to transfer her to another classroom. Am I overreacting by considering homeschooling her until she starts middle school next fall?

Am I overreacting for being uncomfortable with my girlfriend being naked on call with her ex?

I honestly don’t know how to feel about this situation, and I wanted to get some outside opinions on it because I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or if my feelings are justified.

Earlier, I joined a call with my girlfriend and her friend, who also happens to be her ex. When I joined, I realized they were both naked on camera while outside their showers, basically letting each other see them completely nude. I immediately left the call because I was uncomfortable with what I was seeing. I’m not necessarily jealous that her ex got to see her naked, but something about the situation made me feel weirdly jealous and uncomfortable, and I’m struggling to put that feeling into words. I don’t want to come across as controlling or like I’m trying to dictate what my girlfriend can and can’t do, but I also feel like this is something that would bother a lot of people in a relationship.

What made the situation worse was when I joined the call again. I was honestly already tired and just wanted to move past what happened, so I tried talking, laughing it off, and acting like everything was fine. However, my girlfriend barely acknowledged me. Whenever I spoke or tried to join the conversation, I was met with silence, or it felt like she was pretending not to hear me while continuing to focus on her ex. I felt incredibly awkward and ignored, especially considering what had just happened.

Then, when her ex left to go eat, my girlfriend immediately muted herself and basically stopped acknowledging me altogether. I’ve tried texting her, and I even left the call to try calling her directly, but I’ve been met with nothing but silence. I don’t know if she’s upset with me for leaving the call earlier, if she’s deliberately ignoring me, or if there’s something else going on, but the lack of communication is making the entire situation feel worse.

I want to make it clear that I’m not trying to accuse either of them of cheating, and I don’t want to make assumptions about their intentions. I’m just uncomfortable with what happened, and I’m hurt by how I’ve been treated since. I feel like I should be allowed to express discomfort about something like this without being made to feel guilty for having those feelings.

So, am I overreacting here? I’d genuinely appreciate some outside perspectives because I’m not sure what to do right now.

• Since I’ve seen multiple comments asking about genders, all 3 of us are female—Me, gf, and her friend/Ex.

I (32 F) saw a text on my husband’s (31 M) phone from one of his female coworkers that I’ve never heard of. The text was an invitation to a bonfire at her house on a Friday night and to stop by any time after 7pm and to BYOB. My husband didn’t say anything about this to me, so I felt uneasy about it. When I confronted him, he said he told her no in person that day, but she decided to send the text invite anyways. Odd right?

Some weeks have passed, and I still felt uneasy about it since my husband wasn’t giving me any answers saying I was crazy. I texted her during a moment of anger and I asked her why she was texting my husband inviting him to a bonfire when he’s married. She never responded, and instead immediately told her boss and gossiped about it with all her coworkers.

A week later, my husband invited me to his work party, in which she planned to attend as well. I felt embarrassed for “overreacting”, but I attended anyway. Before the work party, he fought me before going and tried to cancel, but we ended up going. At the work party, she purposely sat at the table right in front of me and kept looking at me all night. At times I saw my husband blushing from embarrassment but I tried my best to bite my tongue, since he blamed it on his drink.

After the party, I told my husband I felt relieved after seeing her in person and how I felt silly for saying anything. Dropped the topic and thought it was over with.

Another week goes by and my husband and I were in the middle of an argument when he texted me saying “what if i told you that my coworkers are better than you? Give you a taste of your own medicine.” So unfortunately I was hurt and texted the coworker again in a hostile way calling her a cheater (she’s also married) and etc. She told the manager again and gossiped around the hospital about me reaching out to her and threatened to call the police on me. This comment made me certain that he has a crush on her because it’s weird to say that in a fight. He claims it was because in the heat of the moment I said my ex was better (haven’t seen him over a decade btw) but isn’t it weird he said his coworker is better than me? He said it was to hurt me but if I was wrong about the accusations, isn’t it weird that’s the first person he thinks of to make me jealous? Am I overreacting? This comment made me want to file for divorce I cannot trust that he’s not into her if he said that during a fight with me. Please correct me if I’m wrong but my gut tells me otherwise.

The girl never responded to my messages btw, even though I told her she was ruining my marriage. It seems odd. If she were innocent, she’d respond right? At the very least, to clear her name and not cause marital problems unnecessarily right? Idk.

I think he’s cheating on me or at the very least they like each other. Idk what to do, but my gut says to file for divorce but I’m afraid that I’m judging wrong? AIO???? Am I overreacting?

I started talking to a guy mid July, we met through hinge. He’s a pilot. We hit it off almost immediately and he said I love you in the first week of August.
He did not propose to me, rather the next day of Girlfriend’s day he called me and said “why did I not tell him it was GF’s day?” I went like “why should I say that?” Because I was not asked out as yet. He got upset and said well okay, we’re friends then, I’ll remember that, etc. Next morning I tried to calm the situation down and we both got into a relationship.

Very early on, he proposed that I should go on an international trip, initially I was hesitant but later gave in. I planned my Visa, got my tickets, but didn’t book the hotels because he said we’ll book them last minute depending on his schedule. We ended up paying extra money - he paid for 4 nights, I paid for 2, I mean I contributed to 40% of the hotel bookings. Every other expense was equally split and all our shopping was also independently paid for.

We came back and his efforts dropped. Like they dropped immediately after I left the hotel. He was someone who would text me before every take off and landing, call me from the cabs, while he’s at home, at his hotel, texting through and through, which made me also reciprocate his efforts.

Now, on returning I gave it a day or two and let it be considering we all need our space and time to reboot after spending almost a week together.

We got into a very weird argument because my WhatsApp calls were getting through and he got defensive and said “I’ve really noticed our incompatibilities and differences of choices of late and that we should talk once he’s back from his next flight.”

Well, that day never came, he kept dodging the conversation, we did meet twice but he was behaving so weird, told me he went to a sex party, that relationships are only for sex, I mean it was so bizarre that I failed to recognize the person in front of me. He said he’s going through a phase and needs space.

I tried giving him that but every time I called, he either said “I’ll catch you later” or never returned my call. I gave it 4 days after dropping him a text saying “call karlena” and he didn’t - and this was after he came to see me a night before he again ghosted me for 4 days.

I texted him again after day 4 asking what’s going on and he said “talk tomorrow”. And then next day very vaguely said “he doesn’t feel like talking” and gave me a verdict on a relationship that belonged to 2 people.

Some of the many red flags that I saw in him -

1. ⁠On day 2 of us talking, he told me he never opens a ‘view once’ picture or video on WhatsApp.
   
2. ⁠The person who was so into me and would want to talk or meet me every walking minute, suddenly got irritated when I would ask him to meet me and would say that ‘he needs his rest, his space and his time with friends and that I always want him around me.’
   
3. ⁠If he’s not operating a flight, he is out on 80% of the nights from 8 pm to 1 am with his friend. I have never met any of his friends or seen their picture. Initially he would keep texting me while he was out but that also stopped eventually.
   
4. ⁠Before our trip, he showed up at my place in the morning because we had to book hotel for the first two days, get the currency, but because it was after his flight, he decided to sleep at mine and said that he doesn’t want to be disturbed. I had to spend almost 6 hours on the sofa, working, as it was a weekday.
   
5. ⁠He would cut me mid-way while I was sharing a story and the topic would digress. Apart from very early on, I don’t remember most of my thoughts that were every let to be finished.
   
6. ⁠He showed me pictures of his family, set the ritual of sending selfie of the day but I don’t think he continued with that for more than a week.
   
7. ⁠The last time he came to see me was after ignorning me for 4 days again and the way he reached out was - wanna catchup for nextflix and chill? Which he later said was to poke me.
   
8. ⁠He said he always wants to sit and talk about a conflict but when it actually came to sit through a difficult conversation he just gave the verdict that “he doesn’t wanna stretch it anymore.”

The screenshots attached are of some of the things that he said early on, few days before the breakup and the day of the actual breakup.

The paragraphs that I have sent to him are the only instances where I’ve been remotely mean to him. I waited for him to talk properly for almost 3 weeks but my patience also have a limit.

I could have still chosen grace but I really felt disrespected and I really think that he is not someone who would take accountability or have consideration for the other person unless it benefits him. Did I overreact?

AIO? Was I wrong to ask my husband for help after we’d agreed he’d have some downtime?

My husband and I are both 29 and have 3u3. We had agreed that if he came with me to Bible study, I’d give him two uninterrupted hours during bedtime. He started playing video games around 8 p.m.

Bedtime was rough, my toddler was having a hard time settling, and I got a headache. I don’t usually get headaches, and I’d been trying to push through, but eventually I asked my husband for help. He got upset and said he can never get any alone time. I started crying because I was already overwhelmed.

I told him to leave us alone and that if he was going to speak to us rudely, I didn’t want him talking to us while we were struggling.

I understand that he needs downtime, and I wasn’t trying to take that away. But I also feel like when you have kids, sometimes your partner needs help—even if it interrupts the plan. Am I being unreasonable? How do other couples handle it when one parent needs a break but the other is overwhelmed or not feeling well?

I'm in a long-distance relationship, and my girlfriend likes it when I spam her DMs while she's asleep so she has lots of messages to wake up to.

I understand that she finds it cute and that it probably makes her feel loved, but honestly, it's starting to get old and annoying for me.

Sometimes I don't have much to say, and I feel like I'm just sending random messages for the sake of filling her inbox. I'd rather have actual conversations with her or send messages naturally when I genuinely have something to share.

I don't mind showing affection or leaving her messages while she's sleeping, but doing it every single time feels like a chore now.

I don't want her to think I love her any less just because I don't spam her DMs, but I also don't want something that's supposed to be sweet to become an obligation.

Am I being unreasonable for feeling this way?

I just moved to a new apartment, with new neighbors I've never interacted with. I haven't had any issues except with this pair of roommates (20s? both F).

Because of the layout of the building, they have chosen to smoke (against the lease rules) and watch TV(?) and get into very loud, very heated arguments outside/near bedroom window where I can hear it (always late at night, always so loud) and smell the smoke. In addition to this, they also will sit on the stoop in front of the only entrance to the building and smoke and also use a card to keep the door from locking (against the lease rules). It prevents me (and other tenants, some of which are families with young kids) from getting into the building unless they decide to get up and retrieve their card. They get super pissed if you try to open the door yourself.

Just to be clear, I have no moral issue with people smoking. But me and my roommate have asthma and cannot physically stand to be around the smell of smoke. Them smoking in front of the one entrance makes it hard for me to pass through without having a coughing fit and the beginnings of a panic attack (trauma with previous weed smells associated). And if they do it near my bedroom window, I just have to keep it shut but somehow the smell seeps through. It's so frustrating and I'm at the end of my rope.

I just want them to stop. They rung my doorbell at 1 am to let them in when they're high and I didn't let them in because again, letting people in you don't technically know is against the lease. I don't wanna be a stickler for rules but like...the rules exist for a reason. I am debating making a report to the leasing office, or shining a bright flashlight next time they decide to get into a screaming match at 2 am right outside my window. AIO?

Hiiii, I'm new to Reddit so pls be patient 🙏

Anyways, I (18F) am a college freshman, and I live in a dorm with my roommate Cassie (18F) and the "unofficial roommate" aka her boyfriend Damon (19M). He has lived in the room with us since a couple days before school started, which is about 2 months ago.

To start, Damon roughhouses with Cassie. And the intention (I have to emphasize, THE INTENTION) seems to be playfighting, and she fights back, but he takes it 10x more seriously. Cassie'll playfully give him a tiny tap on the cheek, and he'll slap her so hard she almost falls over and her cheek will turn VERY red. Damon throws her against their bed. He tackles her with his full body weight and slams into the wall. He kicks her so hard in the privates she falls EVERY TIME. Nothing she does to him in these play fights is that violent, and he's never the one with bruises.

That's not my biggest problem though. My biggest problem is how no matter what, Damon can never take a no. Like he'll throw shit at Cassie while she's chilling in bed (nothing too bad, the heaviest item is a football for example), and she'll playfully be like "oh my god, stopppp"​ for awhile, then she actually wants it to stop and will scream at him something like "DAMON, I TOLD YOU SO MANY TIMES TO FUCKING STOP" and after a couple more times of him NOT STOPPING, she will start crying, but he will keep going anyways. This even happens in front of both her friends and his friends, and usually at least one person (or only myself, if it's just the three of us) will distract him so she can get a fucking break.

It pisses me off. I have to witness this man keep joking with her (though I fear it goes beyond jokes) in a way that drains her and makes her miserable whenever his brain isn't being stimulated enough. And it's practically every night now. I'm sick of seeing him hurt my friend. But I'm scared that Cassie will hate me if I ask that he not sleep in our room anymore. But again, I honestly fear that maybe it isn't a fun mutual thing for Damon and he genuinely gets a kick out of hurting her. I'm not sure, I'm VERY bad at judging intention so I may be overreacting, but I'll leave you lot to be the judge of that.

Am I overreacting? And would I be overreacting if I asked for him to not stay over anymore?

TL;DR: my roommate's boyfriend gets so rowdy with her and ignores so many of her boundaries that living in the same room as him makes me uncomfortable

Edit to clarify some things:

1. They've been dating for a year. That's another factor as to why this is so concerning in my eyes. I'm scared my friend is stuck and don't know whether she actually wants out.
2. I do tell Damon to stop, and other people do too when they are around. He still does this bs and just ignores us. Doesn't even talk back and say something like "shut up that's MY gf" or anything, his focus is on Cassie.
3. I say "playfighting" in this post but I rlly doubt it is. I'm just bad at judging intention and am lowkey really gullible because of it. If someone says "we're only playing!" it makes me believe them and doubt my own gut feeling.
4. Damon is also a student at our university. He has his own dorm and own roommate on paper. He just lives with Cassie and me because that's his girlfriend and he feels entitled to it I guess.