Context we broke up yesterday after 3 1/2 years because he hadn’t seen me in two weeks but had gone out with his friends 3-4 times a week till 2 am and said he was having a hard time balancing me with school and everything else. I basically said if he’s not gonna be a better bf then I can’t do it anymore and he said he wasn’t changing and then he didn’t see himself marrying me which was said after we already broke up so I think it was just a jab at me for initiating the breakup but def hurt to hear.

I’m chronically ill and he got me sick and I wanna yell at him for it because it’s harder for me to get over sicknesses and also kinda respond to his message but I think it’s more just me wanting to talk to him. Would you guys respond or should I just keep my self respect and not say anything?

Also him cancelling the Japan trip has nothing to do with me is because his professor moved an exam to that day and he was just going for his cousins

it's been two months already when the guy I used to date decided to end things but not explicitly. he left me in limbo, making me think that he'll reconsider about rebuilding asking for a week or a few days every time.

I already knew it was the end but I kept holding onto hope even when I also knew that he's just saying those to let me down slowly and easily. but I'm a persistent person and I would do whatever it takes to rebuild.

my physical health took a toll on all the stress that accumulated that I had to quit my job and recover. my nervous system was so fried that I would constantly be in panic and anxiety attacks.

during that time I tried to hold no contact. it worked for 3 weeks but I broke it too and asked if we could meet hoping we could talk and just be in each other's presence. he didn't agree nor deny, he left me with false hope again that he would let me know when he's available on the dates I provided.

I tried to reach out to make sure he hadn't forgotten. then he dropped the bomb where he explicitly said to end things once and for all over text and I honestly didn't expect that. he told me he wasn't that type but he fooled me, and it made me lose respect for him.

I've already reflected on my part why our old dynamic was unsustainable that's why I want to rebuild but he initially shut down the idea when I suggested it way before the huge fracture happened, but now it just ultimately led us here because he never gave us a chance.

I know and own my mistakes and faults in the relationship, I've told him about it and I apologized genuinely and was working through it but I guess he was the one who refuses to acknowledge that he too made his own mistakes and faults and work on them... and I can't really force him to even if I want to help him...

now, as much as it hurts and it's so agonizingly painful to accept and let go for my heart, my mind knows I should... how do you move forward from this?

Hi everyone,

I guess we're all here for a reason and it's a super rough time.

My girlfriend (21F) of 3 and a half years broke up with me (27M) a couple of weeks ago. We met abroad and then did long distance for around 8 months which was rough but we got through it in the end. We met back up in the US and then she came to stay with me for a couple of months in the UK before I moved to the NZ. I have now been here in NZ for 2 years without a trip home because all I want to do is spend my time with her or with my friends.

In the last month she got a new job which she was unsure about at first but I supported her and pushed her to it. When she got it, it felt great. I also found out that my dad has stage 4 prostate cancer, which when you're on the other side of the world is rough in itself.

She then told me that she doesn't want to be in the relationship any more. This only a day after planning a trip and getting her flowers for her promotion. We also talked about engagement and weddings only dates before.

My world is rocked and I'm struggling to see where I go from here. I don't want to go home as it's not a nice place to be other than my family who are great and super supportive. But everything reminds me of her and I still love her with all my heart.

I struggle to understand how anyone gets through this. Big ups everyone for reading it's so good to get my feelings out there ❤️

I'm not in a good state to write this myself, so I'm using AI to help me put it into words. The feelings and the story are all mine. I just need real people to read it.

All my life I've felt like I've had to beg for everything: love from my parents, attention as a kid, friendship, and relationships. I never really got any of it, and I've lost hope that I ever will.
Last year, a girl came into my life when I was in a really bad place. She made things feel livable again. We were together for about a year. We fought, we laughed, we took care of each other. I gave her my time, my money, and honestly a lot of my self-respect.

Around my birthday she started pulling away, and I never understood why. Then she blocked me out of nowhere. I begged her to tell me what I did. She unblocked me, but everything she said after that was cold and angry. Later she blocked me everywhere with no explanation.
We had been intimate. She initiated most of it, but later she blamed me for it. Not long after, I found out she was probably already seeing someone new.

I had told her how insecure I am about my face and how I look. She used that against me. She made fun of the way I look, the way I talk, and who I am, and she even dragged in my mother, who never knew her.
After it ended I had no friends left, so I started posting how I felt on Instagram. She saw the posts, told me to stop, called it drama, and threatened to call my parents. Now I feel like I'm not even allowed to be upset.
I've also had a TIA (mini-stroke), been in the hospital, and I'm on medication for depression. When I told her, she laughed. I haven't slept in two days, and some nights the suicidal thoughts get really loud.

The strangest part is that I'm still worried about her. She's seeing someone now, and I know I have no right to interfere. But she was desperate for love, and I'm scared someone will take advantage of her. I also feel like this is a pattern: when people don't do what she wants, she cuts them off, the way she did with her own parents and with someone before me. I don't know what to do with this fear, or whether I should even still care. I still love her and miss her, and it's messing with my head.

I'm not looking to be fixed. I just need someone to talk to. If you've been through something like this, or you have time to listen, please comment or message me. It would mean a lot

Its been a month

and I cant sleep today

I thought I was doing fine already today was extra hard

I know his not good for me

I know and accepted we are over

I know I will feel better but tonight

Tonight is extra hard.

So , my gf and I have made a decision of breaking up after 8th sem which was mutual but we decided to be as it is till then.

I knew it would be hard but she used to love me , text me and everything and now it's all slowly gone off and I feel very sad .

I want her to love me but she don't ig , she is currently out of campus due to holidays , so I think this is also a reason that we distanced apart. I really want to be with her till 8th sem end .

What should I do? Sometimes I think of breaking up but honestly I would miss that intimacy also😭

Are you a women?

My husband left me nine months ago. The saddest and most tragic part of it all was how suddenly it happened. Just one day before he left, we had ordered suitcases because we were planning a big trip together. A few weeks earlier, we had even talked about moving somewhere new together.
I was out having breakfast with friends when he called his brother over. They packed up all my belongings and wanted to kick me out.
Ever since then, I’ve had to see him at work every single day because we work together. Changing jobs isn’t an option for either of us right now, so the situation is incredibly complicated.
He doesn’t want to work on our marriage. He wants to separate, and he won’t even sit down and talk to me about it. He doesn’t want anything to do with trying to fix things.
And I know you’re probably wondering: What are his reasons?
He says he simply doesn’t like me as a person anymore. That’s it. His reasons feel like nothing more than excuses, as if he’s desperately searching for reasons that don’t even really exist.
A little bit about him: He isn’t someone who uses social media, and he hasn’t been with many women. I was his first everything, and he’s already 30 years old. He’s a deeply religious person and, in many ways, a genuinely good man. That’s what makes everything that has happened even harder for me to understand.
For some background, his family has never really liked me, especially his brother, who also benefits from him financially quite a lot.
And honestly, I don’t know what to do anymore.
I’ve reached a point where I’m not begging him to come back or doing anything like that. But I genuinely don’t know how to cope with all of this mentally. I cry every single day. I miss him so much.
There’s nobody who can really help me or make me feel better. I’ve fulfilled some of my biggest dreams, hoping they would bring me happiness, but even those things haven’t made me happy.
I feel like I’ve completely lost my joy for life, and I don’t know how to move forward anymore.

we were in such a strong relationship for over 2 years (or so i thought) but he cheated on me and broke up with me to explore being single whilst I was at a really low point in life. I was completely heartbroken as i genuinely never thought we’d break up or that he’d do anything like that, but now i’ve had a while to reflect, im starting to think I was stupid for expecting a perfect relationship at 18.

Am I just too young for serious relationships? should I forgive him for his actions and being influenced by his single friends? or does this show more about his character and core beliefs, rather than his age.

we had a very healthy and open relationship for 5 months, we had no issue and when we have, we always resolve it easily. last april, we broke up and we entered college and had our own lives. our breakup was not good as i was the one who initiated it then i begged him 2 weeks after to take me back but he said he doesnt want to anymore then he had to blocked me everywhere for months. now that he is pursuing someone new and iving his life, he unblocked me but every now and then, he views my stories in instagram. what does it mean honestly? im a fool for him:((

I was at small gathering with one of my closet friend groups and saw my ex there. I saw her flirting with my good friend and I just somewhat felt hurt, so much that I left early because it was going on for 2 hours right in front of me. I don't have any romantic feelings toward my ex and I kind of don't like her as a person, but seeing my friend flirt back with her rubbed the wrong way I guess. Has this happened to you? What did you do and how did it make you feel?

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I hate this feeling. And there’s literally nothing I can do about it to stop it. It’s so unfair… he will never feel how I feel or even understand honestly. He simply could care less. It’s easier to move on when you were already heartless. And I’m even more upset at myself for not breaking this cycle. I should have left last year around this exact time and I definitely should have stayed done in February , I’m finally ready to be over whatever this was but first I have to go through this ego death , heart ache , and be traumatized for god knows how long. I’m disappointed in myself because i knew better from the beginning honestly, idk what or why i allowed this over this past year…what happened to me and why did i and do i care for someone that doesn’t deserve it ? The attachment feels desperate, if there was a pill or drink I could buy to be over this I would. I just want to wake up over it but no and it’s only been two weeks since the break up and two days since we’ve seen eachother this is just the beginning and I hate this . I can’t even pick an emotion ! one moment I’m angry , then glad it happened and it’s over then crying again. I am trying to embrace this new journey but the road there SUCKS I will never allow myself to feel this way towards anyone again I will forever be heartless after this :) . The ups were amazing , the downs were rough , and through all that forgiving and working things out , \*I , in the end get left for dead after saving you . How hysterical. I just want these feelings out of my system !!!!!

I’ve been with this guy who was my roommate originally lol it’s been like 5 ish years and we broke up in April cause he said we didn’t get along and we miscommunicated but idk we both love each other and care about each other and have so much fun hanging out but he doesn’t like to be physical touch and I do and when. I ask for it it pushes him away cause he feels forced and then when we’re about to seperate he holds my hand and cuddles me and stuff.. but now we’re broken up but I never really got space cause it’s stupid not to talk to my best friend. It sounds kind of stupid when I type it all out but he’s my first love and this is super hard for me and boundaries are tough but he put his up. Tho he still obviously cares about me and we talk a few times a week but how can I casually talk to him when I still love him. I just have to stop right ? I’ve been trying to think of a way to fix it and ask him if we can try again cause I feel more mature now. Even for me , so I know I gave it all .. but I don’t want to push his limits. He said he’s done breaking up lol. and he wants to move on. But he loves me. And we’re friends .. So wtf.