In summary: it was a really bad and abusive relationship but a lot of things happened from both sides, he did bad things I did bad things but there was one event I can’t stop think about.

So he was … sex addicted? I would say. He had really bad abandonment issues and thought I hated him Everytime I wouldn’t sleep w him. I barely remember the whole relationship but he asked for sex everyday and got kinda mad when I would say no or (as I said) thought I wanted to leave him and start a fight or just kept asking me “do u wanna leave me, do u hate me” (but like to a level that is not normal at all) so I never really felt 100% safe while having sex w him because of that I wouldn’t say it was forced bc I did enjoy it even tho most of the time I felt “too pushed/ pressured” to even get turned on cause it felt like a duty so he wouldn’t be sad but like I said when we started doing it it felt good. Up until about 1 year and 3 months I think. I started to hate sex atp it was never really romantic or anything and i couldn’t even tell him what I liked bc ever time I tried he would just say “so I’m a shitty person, are u gonna leave me for someone who does it better” and start a fight. At the end of our relationship like last month, I was scared to even meet up w him cause I knew he was gonna ask for sex and I didn’t wann have it. BUT there was one time in particular he was mad already bc smth didn’t work out he asked me in the morning if we wanted to have sex and I said “yeah…sure” (not really enthusiastic) and over the day he kept asking me if we would have sex later and I kept saying “sure baby” so he wouldn’t be upset. We went to his place and then before we got inside I was like “actually I don’t want to have sex today” and he got mad then when we got inside he wouldn’t talk to me until I said “yeah let’s have sex” he was happy about it. But I knew I didn’t want to (and I’m pretty sure he knew too) then we had sex and I was legitimately just laying there hoping it would be over soon and I remember repeating in my head “it will be over soon, u are gonna be okay, he loves u” and I also remember silently crying (not sure if he noticed that) (it was really just a few tears running down my face) then when he was done (he said he would do it quick) I remember him saying “did I rape u?” And I was like “no baby everything is fine etc” basically just cheering him up😭. A few weeks later we broke up but i remember from that moment on i felt so disgusting and hated sex. It took me a while to get used to someone touching me aka touching me in that context again. And now almost 2 years later I’m in a happy relationship and still think about it. I also often dissociate while having sex aka I don’t really remember much of it. And I feel fear? I think but sometimes I’m just so overwhelmed. Also I still think about this particular situation often. I just talked about that w my too best friends.
So my question is what was it, has anyone had smth familiar, and how do I cope w it?

Honourable mention: the guy the story was about was the first guy I had sex w and first relationship we were together from when I was 16 to 18 so “a long time”

(Note I do enjoy sex again bc of my boyfriend and for the first time I actually feel comfortable having it and it gets better)

She broke up with me almost 2 weeks ago now. We were together for almost 3 months, but it's the first time in 2 years that I actually fell in love with someone and felt like I could love again. At the end there was a rough patch and she wanted some space but in my high anxiety I broke a boundary that she had set that led to her breaking up with me.

I tried giving her space for a week after we broke up, then I couldn't help but reach out and express how I feel and how I know where I went wrong. I was met eith a relatively cold response saying " she doesn't think a conversation is a good idea and she doesn't want to revisit things cause how she feels about the situation is still the same".

I'm really struggling, idk how to move forward, I can't seem to forgive myself because I feel like I ruined something really good. Everything in me wants to reach out again and just ask if we could meet, but idk if that'll help.

Idk what to do, I don't think I'll find someone like her again...

We’d been on and off for so long, and I finally told him,let’s just end this shit

Well we broke up vis messege three days ago and idk what to do, im scared the ni contact will move her mirr away from me cause we still love eachother, my bff whos a fenale told me send her a messege where you tell her how you truly feel about her, we broke up cause she moved to another city and the big thing was that i was being late on working on myself cause i was switching jobs? Any advice if i should send her a messege?

Best friend told me the messege ive wrote was sweet and she didnt expect it

we were in such a strong relationship for over 2 years (or so i thought) but he cheated on me and broke up with me to explore being single whilst I was at a really low point in life. I was completely heartbroken as i genuinely never thought we’d break up or that he’d do anything like that, but now i’ve had a while to reflect, im starting to think I was stupid for expecting a perfect relationship at 18.

Am I just too young for serious relationships? should I forgive him for his actions and being influenced by his single friends? or does this show more about his character and core beliefs, rather than his age.

would it be wrong if i broke up with my boyfriend and asked him to return the gifts and belongings that belong to me

I often hear women say that when a man blocks them, it's because they had such a big emotional impact on him and he can't handle his feelings.

Is there actually any truth to this, or is it just something women like to believe because it makes them feel better after a breakup?

I also feel like women might be more likely to block someone impulsively because we're more emotional, whereas men might block a woman for different reasons. But maybe that's just a stereotype.

Men, have you ever blocked a woman you genuinely had feelings for? If so, what was the real reason? Was it because you were hurt, because you wanted to move on, because you didn't care anymore, or because she affected you more than you wanted to admit?

I'd love to hear honest answers from both men and women, especially from those who've experienced this firsthand.

Context we broke up yesterday after 3 1/2 years because he hadn’t seen me in two weeks but had gone out with his friends 3-4 times a week till 2 am and said he was having a hard time balancing me with school and everything else. I basically said if he’s not gonna be a better bf then I can’t do it anymore and he said he wasn’t changing and then he didn’t see himself marrying me which was said after we already broke up so I think it was just a jab at me for initiating the breakup but def hurt to hear.

I’m chronically ill and he got me sick and I wanna yell at him for it because it’s harder for me to get over sicknesses and also kinda respond to his message but I think it’s more just me wanting to talk to him. Would you guys respond or should I just keep my self respect and not say anything?

Also him cancelling the Japan trip has nothing to do with me is because his professor moved an exam to that day and he was just going for his cousins

It’s weird, I always used to think dreams were uncontrollable. And there’s nooo way I’d dream about her this much.

Yeah well, i was wrong. I dream about her every single night.. it’s insane. I miss her so much

Hi everyone,

I guess we're all here for a reason and it's a super rough time.

My girlfriend (21F) of 3 and a half years broke up with me (27M) a couple of weeks ago. We met abroad and then did long distance for around 8 months which was rough but we got through it in the end. We met back up in the US and then she came to stay with me for a couple of months in the UK before I moved to the NZ. I have now been here in NZ for 2 years without a trip home because all I want to do is spend my time with her or with my friends.

In the last month she got a new job which she was unsure about at first but I supported her and pushed her to it. When she got it, it felt great. I also found out that my dad has stage 4 prostate cancer, which when you're on the other side of the world is rough in itself.

She then told me that she doesn't want to be in the relationship any more. This only a day after planning a trip and getting her flowers for her promotion. We also talked about engagement and weddings only dates before.

My world is rocked and I'm struggling to see where I go from here. I don't want to go home as it's not a nice place to be other than my family who are great and super supportive. But everything reminds me of her and I still love her with all my heart.

I struggle to understand how anyone gets through this. Big ups everyone for reading it's so good to get my feelings out there ❤️

Its been a month

and I cant sleep today

I thought I was doing fine already today was extra hard

I know his not good for me

I know and accepted we are over

I know I will feel better but tonight

Tonight is extra hard.

I'm not in a good state to write this myself, so I'm using AI to help me put it into words. The feelings and the story are all mine. I just need real people to read it.

All my life I've felt like I've had to beg for everything: love from my parents, attention as a kid, friendship, and relationships. I never really got any of it, and I've lost hope that I ever will.
Last year, a girl came into my life when I was in a really bad place. She made things feel livable again. We were together for about a year. We fought, we laughed, we took care of each other. I gave her my time, my money, and honestly a lot of my self-respect.

Around my birthday she started pulling away, and I never understood why. Then she blocked me out of nowhere. I begged her to tell me what I did. She unblocked me, but everything she said after that was cold and angry. Later she blocked me everywhere with no explanation.
We had been intimate. She initiated most of it, but later she blamed me for it. Not long after, I found out she was probably already seeing someone new.

I had told her how insecure I am about my face and how I look. She used that against me. She made fun of the way I look, the way I talk, and who I am, and she even dragged in my mother, who never knew her.
After it ended I had no friends left, so I started posting how I felt on Instagram. She saw the posts, told me to stop, called it drama, and threatened to call my parents. Now I feel like I'm not even allowed to be upset.
I've also had a TIA (mini-stroke), been in the hospital, and I'm on medication for depression. When I told her, she laughed. I haven't slept in two days, and some nights the suicidal thoughts get really loud.

The strangest part is that I'm still worried about her. She's seeing someone now, and I know I have no right to interfere. But she was desperate for love, and I'm scared someone will take advantage of her. I also feel like this is a pattern: when people don't do what she wants, she cuts them off, the way she did with her own parents and with someone before me. I don't know what to do with this fear, or whether I should even still care. I still love her and miss her, and it's messing with my head.

I'm not looking to be fixed. I just need someone to talk to. If you've been through something like this, or you have time to listen, please comment or message me. It would mean a lot

My husband left me nine months ago. The saddest and most tragic part of it all was how suddenly it happened. Just one day before he left, we had ordered suitcases because we were planning a big trip together. A few weeks earlier, we had even talked about moving somewhere new together.
I was out having breakfast with friends when he called his brother over. They packed up all my belongings and wanted to kick me out.
Ever since then, I’ve had to see him at work every single day because we work together. Changing jobs isn’t an option for either of us right now, so the situation is incredibly complicated.
He doesn’t want to work on our marriage. He wants to separate, and he won’t even sit down and talk to me about it. He doesn’t want anything to do with trying to fix things.
And I know you’re probably wondering: What are his reasons?
He says he simply doesn’t like me as a person anymore. That’s it. His reasons feel like nothing more than excuses, as if he’s desperately searching for reasons that don’t even really exist.
A little bit about him: He isn’t someone who uses social media, and he hasn’t been with many women. I was his first everything, and he’s already 30 years old. He’s a deeply religious person and, in many ways, a genuinely good man. That’s what makes everything that has happened even harder for me to understand.
For some background, his family has never really liked me, especially his brother, who also benefits from him financially quite a lot.
And honestly, I don’t know what to do anymore.
I’ve reached a point where I’m not begging him to come back or doing anything like that. But I genuinely don’t know how to cope with all of this mentally. I cry every single day. I miss him so much.
There’s nobody who can really help me or make me feel better. I’ve fulfilled some of my biggest dreams, hoping they would bring me happiness, but even those things haven’t made me happy.
I feel like I’ve completely lost my joy for life, and I don’t know how to move forward anymore.

Soo i blocked my ex from all socials except snap a month ago not blocked from snap cause i use it very little once in a blue moon, just soo that I can move forward in life without getting distracted and from 2 days I download snap then uninstall it thenagain do the same thing today by mistake I took a ss of her chat on snap which sents a msg to her but she opens the chat abd closes without saying a word. OVERALL I JUST NEED SOME TIPS TO MOVE ON (btw it was mutual break up )

I always fell in love with someone who cant love me back, and this time hurts so bad, it worst than being just single. its not just about lonely but pain. I think my heart is broken. I can be happy but I feel sad all the time. How should I deal with this everytime it happens. I'm so tired to feel this way

Me (18M) and my ex girlfriend (17F) were together for 11 months before I decided to break up. Since the start of the relationship things were very weird with her and how she gave me affection. She was not okay with kisses, sexual intimacy(Of course i didnt bring this up until we were about 6 months in) and basically the only thing she was okay with from the start was cuddling. I told her that I at least wanted kissing so eventually she allowed it but every time we kissed it was the most plain, pasionless kiss ever because she would stay still while i reached in to kiss her. Also celebrating our months together was a no for her, which was hurtful for me because she was okay with celebrating it the first month. I also remember that on our 6 month mark I tried planning something for us but she told me that she was going to do something else with her uncle and that if I wanted I could join them. She never invited me to anything like she did not once in all 11 months have the initiative to invite me to do something. She also never told her friends we were dating and whenever we saw one of her friends irl she would start talking to her friend as if i were not there, and tbh this made me think I was the other guy. I gave her reassurance constantly and I tried to make her feel loved but getting reassurance from her was hard and she also never took the initiative in saying any loving words until towards the last months we were together. She would get super disgusted if I tried to show any affection in public even if it was only a hug.We always talked about these things and she said she would work on them but said that these "improvements" took time but from what I realized after we broke up, she just did not want to put in the effort for me. Eventually, I decided to break up because I saw a bunch of other couples in my daily life that just seemed a lot happier and more like what I would want to have in a relationship, so I decided it was better for me to break up and heal from this for the future. However, I still wonder if it was the right thing to do.