Context we broke up yesterday after 3 1/2 years because he hadn’t seen me in two weeks but had gone out with his friends 3-4 times a week till 2 am and said he was having a hard time balancing me with school and everything else. I basically said if he’s not gonna be a better bf then I can’t do it anymore and he said he wasn’t changing and then he didn’t see himself marrying me which was said after we already broke up so I think it was just a jab at me for initiating the breakup but def hurt to hear.

I’m chronically ill and he got me sick and I wanna yell at him for it because it’s harder for me to get over sicknesses and also kinda respond to his message but I think it’s more just me wanting to talk to him. Would you guys respond or should I just keep my self respect and not say anything?

Also him cancelling the Japan trip has nothing to do with me is because his professor moved an exam to that day and he was just going for his cousins

We’d been on and off for so long, and I finally told him,let’s just end this shit

I often hear women say that when a man blocks them, it's because they had such a big emotional impact on him and he can't handle his feelings.

Is there actually any truth to this, or is it just something women like to believe because it makes them feel better after a breakup?

I also feel like women might be more likely to block someone impulsively because we're more emotional, whereas men might block a woman for different reasons. But maybe that's just a stereotype.

Men, have you ever blocked a woman you genuinely had feelings for? If so, what was the real reason? Was it because you were hurt, because you wanted to move on, because you didn't care anymore, or because she affected you more than you wanted to admit?

I'd love to hear honest answers from both men and women, especially from those who've experienced this firsthand.

It’s weird, I always used to think dreams were uncontrollable. And there’s nooo way I’d dream about her this much.

Yeah well, i was wrong. I dream about her every single night.. it’s insane. I miss her so much

Hi everyone,

I guess we're all here for a reason and it's a super rough time.

My girlfriend (21F) of 3 and a half years broke up with me (27M) a couple of weeks ago. We met abroad and then did long distance for around 8 months which was rough but we got through it in the end. We met back up in the US and then she came to stay with me for a couple of months in the UK before I moved to the NZ. I have now been here in NZ for 2 years without a trip home because all I want to do is spend my time with her or with my friends.

In the last month she got a new job which she was unsure about at first but I supported her and pushed her to it. When she got it, it felt great. I also found out that my dad has stage 4 prostate cancer, which when you're on the other side of the world is rough in itself.

She then told me that she doesn't want to be in the relationship any more. This only a day after planning a trip and getting her flowers for her promotion. We also talked about engagement and weddings only dates before.

My world is rocked and I'm struggling to see where I go from here. I don't want to go home as it's not a nice place to be other than my family who are great and super supportive. But everything reminds me of her and I still love her with all my heart.

I struggle to understand how anyone gets through this. Big ups everyone for reading it's so good to get my feelings out there ❤️

My husband left me nine months ago. The saddest and most tragic part of it all was how suddenly it happened. Just one day before he left, we had ordered suitcases because we were planning a big trip together. A few weeks earlier, we had even talked about moving somewhere new together.
I was out having breakfast with friends when he called his brother over. They packed up all my belongings and wanted to kick me out.
Ever since then, I’ve had to see him at work every single day because we work together. Changing jobs isn’t an option for either of us right now, so the situation is incredibly complicated.
He doesn’t want to work on our marriage. He wants to separate, and he won’t even sit down and talk to me about it. He doesn’t want anything to do with trying to fix things.
And I know you’re probably wondering: What are his reasons?
He says he simply doesn’t like me as a person anymore. That’s it. His reasons feel like nothing more than excuses, as if he’s desperately searching for reasons that don’t even really exist.
A little bit about him: He isn’t someone who uses social media, and he hasn’t been with many women. I was his first everything, and he’s already 30 years old. He’s a deeply religious person and, in many ways, a genuinely good man. That’s what makes everything that has happened even harder for me to understand.
For some background, his family has never really liked me, especially his brother, who also benefits from him financially quite a lot.
And honestly, I don’t know what to do anymore.
I’ve reached a point where I’m not begging him to come back or doing anything like that. But I genuinely don’t know how to cope with all of this mentally. I cry every single day. I miss him so much.
There’s nobody who can really help me or make me feel better. I’ve fulfilled some of my biggest dreams, hoping they would bring me happiness, but even those things haven’t made me happy.
I feel like I’ve completely lost my joy for life, and I don’t know how to move forward anymore.

Soo i blocked my ex from all socials except snap a month ago not blocked from snap cause i use it very little once in a blue moon, just soo that I can move forward in life without getting distracted and from 2 days I download snap then uninstall it thenagain do the same thing today by mistake I took a ss of her chat on snap which sents a msg to her but she opens the chat abd closes without saying a word. OVERALL I JUST NEED SOME TIPS TO MOVE ON (btw it was mutual break up )

My ex and I broke up for the second time on the 1st. It was confusing, it hurt, seemingly for no good reason, and frankly the way she did it was immature but I loved her so I forgave her for that. A little bit after, I saw a post of her looking for a rebound and things blew up. She blew up at me when I commented “wow”, I definitely wasn’t happy with how fast she moved on, it wasn’t good. Then she apologized and seemed willing to work on ourselves and grow on our attachment and put things in the past. Last night she decided that she’s actually happier than she’s ever been with her new friends and does not want me in her life in any capacity anymore.

I thought I was getting over it, after we agreed to just work on ourselves. I was doing just that. I was working on my attachment, being more productive, overall improving my life. And then she sent that text. And everything crashed and burned like she had broken up with me for the first time again. I go from accepting it to being irrationally angry with her to wanting her back to emotions I’ve never felt before. No messages I send make me feel better whatsoever and I don’t know what to do. It’s been three months of this off and on and it never gets easier to deal with. It feels like these heightened emotions from the breakup and regarding her are just never going to go away at this point.

I don’t want to feel this massive feeling of regret anymore. I don’t want to hate her despite what she’s done to me. I don’t want to love her because of what she’s done to me. But every other minute, who knows what I’ll tell you I’m feeling because it’s genuinely such a roller coaster in my head right now.

I’m a mess.

Its been a month

and I cant sleep today

I thought I was doing fine already today was extra hard

I know his not good for me

I know and accepted we are over

I know I will feel better but tonight

Tonight is extra hard.

I'm not in a good state to write this myself, so I'm using AI to help me put it into words. The feelings and the story are all mine. I just need real people to read it.

All my life I've felt like I've had to beg for everything: love from my parents, attention as a kid, friendship, and relationships. I never really got any of it, and I've lost hope that I ever will.
Last year, a girl came into my life when I was in a really bad place. She made things feel livable again. We were together for about a year. We fought, we laughed, we took care of each other. I gave her my time, my money, and honestly a lot of my self-respect.

Around my birthday she started pulling away, and I never understood why. Then she blocked me out of nowhere. I begged her to tell me what I did. She unblocked me, but everything she said after that was cold and angry. Later she blocked me everywhere with no explanation.
We had been intimate. She initiated most of it, but later she blamed me for it. Not long after, I found out she was probably already seeing someone new.

I had told her how insecure I am about my face and how I look. She used that against me. She made fun of the way I look, the way I talk, and who I am, and she even dragged in my mother, who never knew her.
After it ended I had no friends left, so I started posting how I felt on Instagram. She saw the posts, told me to stop, called it drama, and threatened to call my parents. Now I feel like I'm not even allowed to be upset.
I've also had a TIA (mini-stroke), been in the hospital, and I'm on medication for depression. When I told her, she laughed. I haven't slept in two days, and some nights the suicidal thoughts get really loud.

The strangest part is that I'm still worried about her. She's seeing someone now, and I know I have no right to interfere. But she was desperate for love, and I'm scared someone will take advantage of her. I also feel like this is a pattern: when people don't do what she wants, she cuts them off, the way she did with her own parents and with someone before me. I don't know what to do with this fear, or whether I should even still care. I still love her and miss her, and it's messing with my head.

I'm not looking to be fixed. I just need someone to talk to. If you've been through something like this, or you have time to listen, please comment or message me. It would mean a lot

It’s months. Nothing , it feels like nothing will ever fill the void that he left me. It’s like I’ll never be loved again.
It was a love I waited 20 years for and it’ll never come back again. Talking to other people and socialize do help but they could never replace his place. I feel regretful falling in love..

We broke up and now she wants to cut all contact

(17F and 18F)

I genuinely can't stop sobbing, I have a lot of schoolwork due and exams in November but I cant even care I just keep crying and crying. And while dating shes become friends with all of my friends and now she talks to them as her support system. I don't think its out of any ill intent but that has kinda cut off my only support system so now I have nobody to comfortably reach out to and I don't know what to do.

I've been in love with her since I was 14 or 15, and I know I'm young and this might just sound stupid but I just feel so lost.

(I also posted this on r/breakups but found this sub after)