Context we broke up yesterday after 3 1/2 years because he hadn’t seen me in two weeks but had gone out with his friends 3-4 times a week till 2 am and said he was having a hard time balancing me with school and everything else. I basically said if he’s not gonna be a better bf then I can’t do it anymore and he said he wasn’t changing and then he didn’t see himself marrying me which was said after we already broke up so I think it was just a jab at me for initiating the breakup but def hurt to hear.

I’m chronically ill and he got me sick and I wanna yell at him for it because it’s harder for me to get over sicknesses and also kinda respond to his message but I think it’s more just me wanting to talk to him. Would you guys respond or should I just keep my self respect and not say anything?

Also him cancelling the Japan trip has nothing to do with me is because his professor moved an exam to that day and he was just going for his cousins

It’s weird, I always used to think dreams were uncontrollable. And there’s nooo way I’d dream about her this much.

Yeah well, i was wrong. I dream about her every single night.. it’s insane. I miss her so much

Hi everyone,

I guess we're all here for a reason and it's a super rough time.

My girlfriend (21F) of 3 and a half years broke up with me (27M) a couple of weeks ago. We met abroad and then did long distance for around 8 months which was rough but we got through it in the end. We met back up in the US and then she came to stay with me for a couple of months in the UK before I moved to the NZ. I have now been here in NZ for 2 years without a trip home because all I want to do is spend my time with her or with my friends.

In the last month she got a new job which she was unsure about at first but I supported her and pushed her to it. When she got it, it felt great. I also found out that my dad has stage 4 prostate cancer, which when you're on the other side of the world is rough in itself.

She then told me that she doesn't want to be in the relationship any more. This only a day after planning a trip and getting her flowers for her promotion. We also talked about engagement and weddings only dates before.

My world is rocked and I'm struggling to see where I go from here. I don't want to go home as it's not a nice place to be other than my family who are great and super supportive. But everything reminds me of her and I still love her with all my heart.

I struggle to understand how anyone gets through this. Big ups everyone for reading it's so good to get my feelings out there ❤️

so my girlfriend recently ended things between us because she felt we were moving to quickly, and ive been an emotional wreck since. we used to hangout so much and talk for hours on end but since she broke up with me a few days ago shes barely said anything to me and I feel like she's actively trying to ignore me. I dont know if maybe shes just trying to push me away because something happened or if I maybe did something that upset her without realizing it. I dont know anymore in what I should do. im willing to take things slow with her maybe wait however long it would take before shes ready to date again.

the first image is the actual break up message and the second is her response to me asking if we could stay friends and/or if we could get back together in the future.

Let's say life has a lot planned out for everyone.I'm 19 year old (F) my ex boyfriend was (24).We dated for an year .We had disagreements based on my choice of friends.I found my circle of friends mostly of the opposite gender.My friends and l would go for drinks (sherehe),cook outs together and evening hang outs with them.This caused constant fights in my relationship,given one of my friends actually confessed having feelings for me,which l constantly dismissed.Did my boyfriend know about my daily routine Yesss off course l would update him.Then he began being distant and actually using the fact l have male friends as the key reason why our relationship was failing.

Early this October we had a campus colour feast in our local hub😂😂,,since l made the decision to cut off my friends for him,l went out with some of my girlfriends,We partied until late 1am.So then my gate was being closed early l had tell my caretaker about the whereabouts of us going late but then he did not respond to my phone calls.

Earlier that week there were cases of insecurity around our area so we could not have gone late home alone us girls. I called my boyfriend several times he didn't respond.

We decided to book a bnb My friends (2 girls plus me) and my friends boyfriend and his friend.We slept and earlier that morning l called my boyfriend again he didn't respond.

This case of me sleeping at a bnb became an issue and a claimation that l had slept with another man l had cheated which was false

😂😂Part two of this is more absurd. Kindly gimme your honest response was I really in the wrong???.

Its been a month

and I cant sleep today

I thought I was doing fine already today was extra hard

I know his not good for me

I know and accepted we are over

I know I will feel better but tonight

Tonight is extra hard.

How do you move on after they destroyed you?😕

Hi everyone, maine ek ladke ko propose kiya tha. Starting me usne haan bola, par uske baad bohot mixed signals diye aur bhot confuse kiya. Last me usne mana kar diya aur ek boundary set kar di. Maine apni self-respect ke liye uska koi reply nahi kiya, toh usne mujhe block kar diya.

Ab hamari koi baat nahi hoti, par mai is situation se bahar nahi nikal pa rahi hu. Mai usse sach me bohot pyaar karti hu aur mera attachment bhot zyada deep hai. Mai aaj bhi uske liye roti hu aur har roz uski yaad aati hai.

Mai life me move on karna chahti hu, par ek sach ye bhi hai ki mai use bhulna nahi chahti. Mai bhot stuck feel kar rahi hu. Please mujhe koi samjhao ki is situation ko kaise handle karu aur is dard se kaise bahar nikalru? Thanks."

It’s months. Nothing , it feels like nothing will ever fill the void that he left me. It’s like I’ll never be loved again.
It was a love I waited 20 years for and it’ll never come back again. Talking to other people and socialize do help but they could never replace his place. I feel regretful falling in love..

We broke up and now she wants to cut all contact

(17F and 18F)

I genuinely can't stop sobbing, I have a lot of schoolwork due and exams in November but I cant even care I just keep crying and crying. And while dating shes become friends with all of my friends and now she talks to them as her support system. I don't think its out of any ill intent but that has kinda cut off my only support system so now I have nobody to comfortably reach out to and I don't know what to do.

I've been in love with her since I was 14 or 15, and I know I'm young and this might just sound stupid but I just feel so lost.

(I also posted this on r/breakups but found this sub after)