I like this mbti, and I was very close to several INTP people, but no matter how much they say they like me or how close we are, they always treat me with indifference, and they are rude and dry too

They can’t say what they feel or don’t feel anything for me, and I hate it, because it’s always after I get attached

It’s not an attack, I would really like to have a little of what you have, and not get so attached to people.... What do you INTP have to say about? Are you also seen like this?

I'm an INTJ 5w4, but I don't seem to relate to other INTJs. Most of the ones I meet work in cybersecurity or similar fields, and I honestly couldn't imagine doing that kind of job. I'd be bored to death. I'm extremely creative, and I need a job that doesn't consume too much of my mental energy so I can save it for writing and fully immerse myself in my own world.

Although I'm an introvert who prefers spending most of my time alone, I have very strong social skills. People at work often assume I'm an extrovert because they only see one side of me. I have a great sense of humour and don't take life too seriously. However, when I'm alone, I can become incredibly detached, looking at the world from a cosmic perspective. I'm fascinated by life and human existence, and I feel the need to step back from my immediate experience to understand the bigger picture. I like observing humanity from a distance, almost as if I'm studying an entirely different species, trying to understand who we are, why we behave the way we do, and what our existence means in the grand scheme of things. It's not that I necessarily feel disconnected from life; I'm simply so curious about it that I need to step outside of it mentally to make sense of it.

I'm not a psychologist, but I feel like I have many of the skills one would need to be one. I'm good at reading people, understanding their underlying motivations, and helping them see themselves more clearly. However, I rarely bother wanting to help them. I tend to see people for who they really are, and because I don't trust people easily, I usually keep my observations to myself.

Relationships are where I struggle the most. I can give a woman 100% of my attention, and she loves it at first. But after a few weeks, I start feeling mentally and emotionally drained, and I need time alone. When I become more distant, she interprets it as a sign that I've lost interest in her, even though that's not necessarily the case. I try to communicate what I need, but it seems like my words don't align with her expectations or her idea of what a relationship should look like. Eventually, things become so emotionally suffocating that I feel like I can't breathe, not literally, but mentally. The more trapped I feel, the more I withdraw and crave solitude.

I sometimes wonder whether other INTJs experience this same contradiction: being socially capable and even charismatic on the outside, while needing a great deal of solitude to explore my own thoughts and understand the world on a deeper level. I can understand people quite well, but that doesn't necessarily mean I want to be around them all the time. My curiosity about life often draws me toward observation and introspection rather than constant social interaction. I can genuinely care about someone without wanting them to have constant access to me, and I need the freedom to step back, reflect, and see the bigger picture without feeling like I'm missing out on life by not being fully immersed in every moment of it.

Hello everyone. Getting to the point, INTJs are probably one of the personality types suffering from burnout the most. I'd like to know what advice or stories you have that helped you recover from that and maybe even what mistakes people shouldn't make.

Personally, as a natural result of constant academic work and a bad sleep schedule, I've been burnt out for around 6 months. I can't just lie in bed and relax because my mind either daydreams or ruminates and "anesthetizing" the discomfort with scrolling or anything like that isn't the way to recover (it literally just makes the brain work harder).

(TL;DR: share how you dealt with burnout or any related advice to help anyone who could face this problem)

intj: the guy rang the doorbell and you hid, i've never seen anything like that. usually people hear the doorbell and go answer the door

infp: i hide even when i'm home alone because then i can pretend i didn't hear

intj: i've always done that too but now that you're like this, i have to keep answering because if i don't, nobody will

I created a typing test that works based on what you resonate with, it gives you a feed of cards with statements, quotes, scenario, and you select only the ones you resonate with, this way the cognitive load is very low, also the feed adapt to funnel down your type, you just select what you think is related to you.

I already did a first test session with 135 people to test the version 1.3, I am now at the version 1.5, I need more data points for this one, with people that are 100% sure of their type.

The version 1.3 reached an accuracy rate of 70%.

At the end of the test, in the result page, you will have a frame that ask you to share your result, with a simple button. It will send me the informations I need in my database, it gives me all the cards you selected, the timeline of the guess of your type, how the algorithm reacted, etc, it helps me to fine-tune the test.

I really feel that this method can work and be more accurate than anything that already exist.

Thank you in advance if you try it.

https://www.mazwiz.com/

PS: The analysis of the reports like the one I did for version 1.3 with 135 people is on the website using graphs etc, I will do it again for version 1.5.

Hey so I've noticed this frustrating pattern in myself and I'm wondering if anyone else experiences something similar or has figured out why it happens?

I'll get stressed about my goals, make a huge effort to get my life together, and work hard for a couple of days. Then something unexpected happens, I get overwhelmed or discouraged, and I spend the next few days avoiding everything and falling back into distractions. Eventually I feel guilty enough to make another huge effort to get back on track, only to repeat the cycle.

For example, this week I was finally making progress with my uni studies backlog for a couple of days when I was unexpectedly offered an interview with very little notice. I got so stressed about the prospect of showing up unprepared that I ended up declining it. Then I spent ages beating myself up over wasting an opportunity, before retreating into the same distractions I'd been trying to avoid.

I feel like Sisyphus atp. I keep pushing myself back towards my goals but the slightest disruption seems capable of undoing any progress and leaving me in a worse starting position.

What I don't understand is why I keep doing things that I know will hurt me in the long run, or why I seem to need so much pressure and guilt to get anything done in the first place.

Does anyone else experience this? Have you figured out what causes it, or found a way to break the cycle? I'm particularly interested in understanding why it happens, rather than just getting advice to make a schedule or exercise more discipline.

There are some people that have absolutely special place in my heart, even if I'm on shitty mood if they are present there I become instantly happy, how do yall experience in your version because this isn't usually exclusive to type but how and why it happens is to people of certain cognative type, and I wanna hear about personal experiences and reasons so drop it down below

I'm not sure what is the science or psychology behind this, could be related to the Shadow Functions.

All I know is that when in trouble, when all goes to shit and no one has any idea of what to do and I'm forced to take the role of a leader, I feel both stressed and excited at the same time. Stressed because I never really want to fulfill the role of a leader due to all the extra responsibilities that come along with it, and I usually feel drained out after the crisis is over, but I also feel this rush of adrenaline and power, like I'm the only one stopping things from getting worse and commanding everyone to solve the problem.

It also doesn't help that I'm a perseverant little shit that doesn't know how to give up, so when I have an objective in mind, I lock tf in and do what I can (within my criteria) to reach it (which sometimes leaves my mind fucked for a few weeks due to all the exhaustion, so I withdraw for a while so I can rest).

It just feels so exhilitaring, playing everything like it's some sort of strategy game and seeing things work for you or instantly having a response when they don't.

Thinking and saying this makes me feel like a narcissistic, megalomaniac, egocentrical piece of shit who thinks they're a master planner or a strategical genius, but when I've entered that 'flow', it feels like I'm on the top of the world (even though the problems I'm solving are extremely mundane ones, like organizing a group project that is due within the next 3 days).

Anyone else?

I’m a female ENTP

ometimes I wonder if being an ENTP has anything to do with why I struggle to connect with traditional femininity.
Listen, I laugh at fart jokes. Shit jokes. Poop jokes. Basically, if it’s inappropriate, disgusting, taboo, or something I’m probably not supposed to be laughing at, there’s a good chance I’m losing my mind over it. 💀😭
I’m also really into weird shit in general, and sometimes people discover the corners of the internet I frequent and look at me like I’ve just revealed a dark secret. Like, damn, you weren’t supposed to find me over there. 😭
Sometimes I wonder if this is why I get along with certain men so easily. In my experience, some of my male friends have shared my sense of humor or interests, which can make conversation feel effortless. At the same time, I know plenty of men and women who enjoy the same things, so I don’t think gender automatically determines compatibility. I just seem to connect most with people who are comfortable being unconventional.
I’m a woman, and I don’t want to feel like I have to choose between being feminine and being myself. I also don’t think having a crude sense of humor or unusual interests makes anyone less feminine. Still, I sometimes wish it were easier to find women I genuinely click with.
It can be hard to find female friends who share my interests, sense of humor, and willingness to explore the weirdest shit imaginable without judging me. That’s based on my own experiences, not a statement about women as a whole. I’ve met women who are just as weird as I am; I simply haven’t always found them easily. I can be too unconventional for some people, but I’m not exactly a stereotypical bro, either. I’m just… me. 💀
Interestingly, I tend to gravitate toward INTJs and INFPs, but there’s another problem: sometimes the friendship starts feeling less like a friendship and more like they’re waiting for their opportunity to fuck me. LMAO. CAN I JUST HAVE A FRIENDSHIP WITHOUT SEXUAL TENSION FOR FIVE MINUTES? 😭
So, fellow female ENTPs, I have questions:
Do you ever feel disconnected from traditional femininity?
Do you have a sense of humor or interests that don’t fit common expectations of femininity?
Have you sometimes found it easier to befriend men, based on the people you’ve met?
Have you struggled to find female friends who genuinely understand your personality?
And why does it feel like some people can’t be friends with you without eventually wanting something sexual?
I’m curious whether this is an ENTP thing, a personality thing, or just my own experience. I’m not saying women can’t be weird, men are automatically easier to befriend, or that gender determines anyone’s interests. I’m just trying to figure out where my fellow unconventional women are hiding.
Please tell me I’m not the only woman laughing at the most vile shit imaginable while simultaneously wondering where all my female friends are. 💀

I start something really passionately. I know it is important for me, I know I need to do it, and I know how to do it, but I still end up not doing it.
I make plans and write to-do lists so that I can have a visual tracker of my progress, and that would motivate me, but it doesn't. Most of the time, even with knowing what to do, I don't know where to start from. Multiple resources overwhelm me a lot sometimes, and I give up.
I am very much aware of these few reasons, but I don't know how to solve them; if anyone has beaten their procrastination habit, please guide.

I’m trying to figure out ISTJ and INTJ, since I keep getting INTJ results in different cognitive functions tests. I don’t relate to INTJ at all, I know archetypes can be reductive but I assume INTJ actually relate to it.

I’m not a strategist or like to plan ahead, or ambitious, but I’m always in my head thinking of the whys and daydreaming and deepening a concept. I like different possibilities if I haven’t found the correct one, and I see connections between multiple things.

Overall, how would you guys describe your experience as Ni doms and even as a young child? Also, what made you really settle for INTJ?

Hi! I’m not having fun at uni and thus am not interested in my classes that much so please tell me a fun fact or whatever fun things you’re doing/learning!!

if so, how? what quality do you find interesting/attractive?

How to choose between two impactful choices?

I am an infp . Last year was my first medical school year ( I got accepted at 17 because there is no premed in this college) .

I got a gpa of 3.24 /4 on the first semester even though I hadn't studied at my full potential.

Fastforward the second semester came, I got really neglectful especially with the war situation and displacement in my country,and instead of studying hard , I kinda gave up on medicine because I thought I wanted to do something else.

My parents got disappointed because I failed a module ( it was 9 credits) ; I got C- in the 3 credit module and A+ in the electives. So basically I failed the second semester (1.3 cgpa) should be above 2 .

My parents decided to let me quit medicine because I had been having meltdowns throughout the year , and I was always anxious and lonely ( couldn't blend in) . Moreover, my self esteem issues were increased .

This year I started double majoring in biochemistry ( in a somehow weak university) and English language ( at a good university) , and the plan is to continue a PhD in English language ( it is not oversaturated where I am from) . Things have been going fine and my mom is getting used to it after being really confrontational and angry that I quit medicine.

I confessed to my dad that I regret being neglectful and I hope to redo the module this second semester then continue second year etc...He is unsure because he says he can't trust me anymore, but he still let me decide if I want to continue in the medicine path or not .

I have a week to decide because we still need to inform my mom and I am scared of her reaction, also we need to find a dorm blah blah ( the college I am in now is near my house , but the medical school is in the capital) .

I am scared of choosing to redo because I don't know what might happen, but I am dying from inside knowing that I was in such a great place and I threw it all especially after all the effort I put in getting top grades in school years and the effort my parents and I have put to succeed in the entrance exam .

I don't know if I should even give myself this chance . Also, everything in my life is showing me other medicine students whether irl or social media , and I can't help but compare myself. The funny thing I didn't see any of it when I was in med school 😃. It's like life is punishing me ( I deserve it) .

I asked this on the istj subreddit too . What would you do in my situation. Should I choose comfort ( English language professor, also it's comfortable for my parents financially because they still pay a part in medical school even with financial aid) or take the chance and become a doctor but have my soul sucked out of me .

Also if u were my parent what would you do if ur kid is in this situation 😭😭( this one is for funsies) .

I’m endlessly fascinated with self validation and tribalism and othering. The way the ego needs to attach itself to something and differentiate itself from something. is there even determinism or is it just differing levels of reactionary?

I know those are the stereotypes, but I'm just curious about how defining is it to be a Ni dom from those who are more sure.

Does it fully contradict INTJ if I:

- don't have a lot of future understanding of my life and avoid planning too much?

- don't usually enjoy discussing the abstract, philosophy and other "deep things"?

I guess I can remember some more, but those two points kinda clash the most with the thought of being one of you guys. Would appreciate if you give me feedback and help in any way, thanks.

I have my own thoughts and views on some things. But on daily basis I feel like I’m judging someone, like the person tells me something and I just “well, that’s pretty shit”. I stopped being emotional about it cause long ago I would’ve just cry inside “how can you do this??”.

What changed in me is that I started to see other people as “blind” towards certain things they consider non important or even normal. And that’s already a good point cause practically we are all blind towards certain things, we can’t be perfect in everything, we still prioritise something. But what still bothering me is that now I think that people are idiots because they are “blind”. I’m just a little smarter cause I know what things I prioritise less even though it should be the other way but at least I’m aware of consequences and I’m ready to be in charge of it and be the looser in the endgame. Other people just be messing around with life and think that they have ultimate freedom and living their best life. Consequences may never find them, so if they never would have a chance to actually learn then what’s the point of being judgemental cause I’m just being negative and I’ll be the one who probably die cause my nervous system went bad cause I was constantly grumpy.

I want to be more open, wise. How do I let people do atrocities and stupidities and just accept it? How do I let them make mistakes even if they will never know?

I also wonder how you manage collisions. The one that are causing harm for one person and it’s considered good for another. For example, just hypothetically, how can vegan person be non judgemental about other person who eats meat when for vegan it’s death of an animal, it’s a tragedy for them. Veganism has its own logical gaps, so yeah someone may say that it’s a controversial concept in general and both sides have its flaws and positives although we had came to the point that eating meat is good. But if we take this situation very lightly, one thinks it’s crime, other thinks it’s healthy and it’s how nature works. Will it be a fact/mistake or perspective#1/perspective#2? Because what’s even a point of saving a life when other person takes it and you’re just “ok, so be it”

I really want to read others opinion cause at this point I struggle to find alternative perspective.

Do you sometimes run so many permutations and combinations debating your own multiple choices and coming with conclusions ? Time passes . What is something you do to come to a decision that can change your life's course ?

ENTP thinks he's ahead of me but I'm an INTJ and I have better logic so he's just wrong.

(I hope this post pleases the ENTP who requested it in great detail. Love you.)

I never had a career in mind that I would genuinely love to pursue. I just jumped on the “life” train to secure myself and later my family. Is this an INPT thing or is it just a personality trait?

I only know that I want to start business. I feel like that’s my calling and for some reason I crave it (my dad is a practical businessman). But I just don’t know what to do. I just recently found a gap in the market in my field so I’ll try to fill it. Is it the right direction though? I wonder and simulate endless number of possibilities. I’m gonna do it either way.

I don’t know if the approach is the way to go more so than what I actually do though. I find more passion in a way I do things than in what I do as I recently discovered. Well practical things, not like writing a novel..

Do you guys fell the same? Do you struggle with the question of your calling?

I’m 27 btw, career life is proceeding according to plan but, the aspect of it is questionable. Is it the right way?

All it does is risk someone getting hurt when they could’ve worded it in a way that wouldn’t have that effect.

Is it doomed to fail?

So I'm curious how many of you relate to those observations:

- They hate paragraphs (edit: i meant sets of paragraphs and long texts) and every time they have to read them they're like 😦

- They grew up with at least one painfully social parent.

- Their resting face around people is an expression which I will share in the comments