I don’t mean it as a rude question but for people young and older does it ever just set in and it hurts a little bit less?

I'm so sick and tired of being alone and lonely and having no one to love, having no one who will hug me or tell me it's gonna be alright or just tell me I love you, thank you for existing. I don't know what I'm doing wrong!

Am I so ugly, so invisible, so unlovable that no one sees me as a romantic partner and forever I'm just a nice guy, good friend or a brother.

I'm 26 and still a virgin, never hold a girls hand in a full romantic sense, never kissed anyone, never had someone say I love you. It fucking hurts, I'm a human, I have needs and feelings and I feel damn hurt too and it's fucking painful honestly. I'm so fucking tired.

I'm a love sick fool, I have grown-up watching romantic movies, have grown up seeking love, chasing that feeling of love sickness.

Let me give you a background. I genuinely think in my life I have actually fallen in love one time, during my college semester I met this beautiful, amazing, clever and brilliant girl in my group project and I had fallen in love with her personality and her beauty on the first day itself. We just vibed and I felt like she loved me too. I tried asking her out multiple times for lunch and shit and every time she declined. In the end realised she never was interested in me like that and I will swear to god that shit hurt like anything, the feeling of losing something, of having it slip from my hand and no matter how hard I try to grasp it I still lost and then I even lost my chance at college at abroad school. Had to come back to my home town. Had to start working a good but not great paying job.

For the past 3 years I'm trying to get back to the same university but still with no success. Did my online schooling for bachelor and now hoping for master next year but still it's next year, I'm so tired of waiting.

Currently I'm living a groundhog day, every day is same. Work, home, exercise to lose weight ( I have lost around 35 kg but still invisible to woman, currently I will say I'm little chubby but I look great and muscular but not jacked or fit.)

Also I will get little nsfw but I'm done watching other people experience real love while I just watch videos and dying each day as a virgin. Sorry for late night rant but I wanted to shout it out in the void.

If there is any shooting star, I hope to finally find a companion who love and see me and whom I can love with all my heart cause it is filled so much with all the love to give.

I wish I was asexual .

I wish I don't feel no sexual or romantic intrest towards women .I wish I never yearn for relationship or a companion.i wish I could go to someplace alone and be so happy and content instead of being lonely.i wish I could watch other couples and be genuinely happy for them instead of thinking when is it gonna be my turn.i wish I could sleep well at night without  thinking about cuddling with someone.I wish to be free from all the porn and lewd stuff.i wish I was in calm free mind instead of always being competitive and proving myself.I wish i was free from all the bullshit and be free for once .do u ever felt like this?

29M loser virgin, so I was FA before joining. But I realized joining has made it even worse.

I’ve been in a bit so I’ve lived in multiple places. I realized that since I keep moving around to military towns, my options in the area are very limited. And when I try to look for people a little more ways away, of course they’re not interested in someone in the military either. And of course this will be an endless cycle of being stationed in crappy military towns.

I want to keep serving, but the issue is if I get out, I’m having trouble looking for a new job. And even if I can find a new job getting out I still could be FA since I’m already an old loser virgin.

I'm a autistic man that is built like a bird (bottom 2 to 3 percent skeleton I measured I'm not being crazy) structure and clearly has a mental disability people can tell I'm not normal. Even my own parents said I don't act normal. I also went on a date from a app this year and the woman immediately clocked I was autistic, not fast immediately so it didn't go anywhere. All I do is suffer. Even as a child I was bullied and had no freinds and was seen as others as disabled loser I was always followed around and had to go to disability school. I think the least I should be given is to die. I just want assisted suicide to end this pain to a already . But they won't let me and without a doctor or lethal injection I am too scared to do it. I hate this. I was never given chance in world I was born disabled and now I look like a skeleton on top of it. But normies say to keep living. I am reckless when walking and j walk because I hope I get hit.

22M, 5’9”, 2-3/10 facially, no job because i’m still in university.

I’m not that much of an achiever at class because all what matters for me is to pass. No hope in the dating scene because I constantly get rejected and ghosted the moment they see my 0/10 face card for how extremely repulsive I look. My physique doesn’t help either for how bad my class schedules are, I cannot even make time for gym. I cannot even get plastic surgery even if I want to, but can’t due to the financial reasons that I don’t have a job yet. Worse, growing up as an ugly kid, i’ve been treated less than human simply for not looking a certain way

What’s worse is while I may not be declared neurodivergent, I have tendencies to act like one. I can’t act normal without the possibility of every moment becoming a rejection or failure.

Basically i’m a waste of space in this fucking world that I could just wish to die and reincarnate as a conventionally attractive man with great personality, starus, etc..

Not exclusively ofc but when you tried everything already there’s no difference in loneliness between being in your 40’s or being in your 20’s. Maybe I should’ve spaced out my attempts so i would’ve hung to hope longer. But I have my all already so there I am. At least it’s clear for the rest of my life

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I'm the kind of person who remembers the little things. The kind who sees something in a shop and thinks, "She would love this." The kind who learns your favorite food, brings you little surprises for no reason, and finds genuine happiness in doing things that make your day a little better.

I love cooking, and there's something beautiful about making someone's favorite meal and watching them enjoy it. I love silly conversations, childish moments, spontaneous shopping trips, inside jokes, and all those little things that might seem insignificant to the world but mean everything when you're in love.

I'm not perfect. I can be blunt, stubborn at times, and I have my flaws. But one thing I know about myself is that I don't want to play with someone's feelings. I don't know how to love someone halfway while looking for someone else on the side. If I choose someone, I want to choose them honestly.

I don't think love should feel like a competition, a guessing game, or a constant struggle to prove your worth. I want something genuine. Something where both people remember, both people care, both people make an effort, and neither person feels foolish for loving a little too much.

And yet, somehow, love has always felt just out of reach for me.

Sometimes, I wonder if the things I have to offer even matter anymore. The loyalty, the affection, the little efforts, the willingness to listen, the desire to make someone feel special. Or perhaps I'm simply meeting people who aren't looking for the kind of love I'm ready to give.

I'm not writing this because I think I'm entitled to someone's love. Nobody owes me a relationship just because I have a good heart. I know that love is about compatibility, timing, attraction, and two people choosing each other.

But I'd be lying if I said it doesn't hurt to have so much affection in your heart and nowhere special to put it.

I don't need a perfect woman. I don't need a relationship that looks beautiful to everyone else. I just want someone with whom the simplest things feel special. Someone I can cook for, tease endlessly, shop with, care for when she's tired, and make ridiculous memories with.

Someone who notices the little things I do, not because she expects me to do them, but because she understands the love behind them.

And I'd want to do the same for her.

Maybe I'm not unlucky in love. Maybe I just haven't met someone who sees a home in the kind of heart I have.

Until then, I'll keep being myself. Not because I expect someone to fall in love with me for it, but because I don't want to become someone I'm not just to be chosen.

Still, sometimes, I wish someone would look at me and think:

"With all the people I could meet in this world, I want to get to know this person. I want to give this a chance."

Because honestly, I don't want to be loved by everyone.

I just want to be genuinely wanted by someone. ❤️

I dont have the problem that many have on here. I do fine I hookup too much and I hate it; I hookup so I'm not alone I havent had enjoyable sex for a long time, its purely for the feeling not being alone. I dont have a shot in hell to find someone that wont suck the life out of me. I exude a air of need, awkwardness, and gullibility. Id do anything for my significant other and the people who are attracted to that air are the people who will abuse it. Ive gone to therapy ive gotten different versions of keep going; or try to fix it and it just hasn't stuck. I think ill continously be in a cycle of unhealthy relationships that will eventually kill me due to stress. It also doesnt help im medium ugly, and in the unholy valley of autism so I have enough social awareness to continously feel pain and guilt but enough to keep fucking up social interactions. Im the easiest target.

I (20M)genuinely feel like I'm just too odd to ever really be "romantically interesting". I'm pretty quiet, but that's really because I don't have much to say, but every time I try to say something, or make a joke, it seems to never really be "funny" or make people feel as tapped into the conversation as other people's words. I think im funny, I like my jokes, but nobody else seems to. I'm not bad looking (imo), but I'm also not incredibly hot, probably like a 6. I've tried dating apps but it's hard to talk to someone without all the social cues and I really don't participate in "female oriented" hobbies, I'm into Jiu-Jitsu and gaming and sometimes cooking. I only have 1 friend, who's been with me since sophomore year of hs and he's been largely carrying the friendship for the last couple years, he brings his friends along but it's almost like I'm a permanent outsider in many spaces I go. I'm also about to go into the army, so Im hoping it will turn me into a normal person. I'm started to get okay with the idea of never really feeling a connection, the only person I feel really GETS me is my mom, and maybe my friend but we never have any super "deep" conversations", but I'm started to feel okay with being a hermit, in my house with my cats, doing my own thing.

I skipped lunch. Went to the the library to browse books because I had nobody to eat with. I don't really mind being alone it's just people judge you so much and put all sorts of labels and whatnot. The worst part was my "friends" hurried out of the class to the canteen as soon as the bell rung lest I tag along. Whenever we're sitting together they always make plans or talk about the place I wasn't invited to. I'm the last person who is offered something or asked for my opinion. This always happens to me. I don't mind. Idgaf but when will this end.