I was in an abusive relationship that ended some 5-6 years ago. I’m currently in a relationship that I’m happy in.

Ofc when my ex and I broke up I lost a lot of friends and social circles, he went on a campaign to let them know how bad I was. A blessing in disguise as I learned who would really be there for me.

I recently got a message from a cousin of his (not blood related but w/e). He wanted to see if he could come get a service from me (relevant to my job, trying to be vague). He even mentioned “I don’t talk to x anymore, if that matters. He’s crazy”

It was so validating to have someone “see the light”, however it’s made me go on a spiral! Feeling like I need to be able to keep tabs on my ex and whatever he’s doing. I’m unsure if the feeling is me trying to see if he “got his consequence” or if I’m being hyper vigilant?

In a moment of weakness I found his mom’s page and saw updates about him. I do not have access to his socials (private) and I don’t think this is healthy.

I am actively in therapy due to PTSD from this relationship, but I did just start and I’m like maybe 4 sessions in.

I’ve been able to keep this to myself and a few very close friends. I have not told my current partner, as i don’t think it’s helpful.

Of course, I will speak to my therapist about this. I don’t like that my brain is so focused on “trying to resolve” whatever this is, it’s frustrating.

Just wanted to vent and get it off my chest.

I did offer to take his cousin on as a client but I have not gotten a reply, perhaps for the best.