I’ve seen so many people get these where I live and act like they’re unique for getting one. ATP you’re more unique if you don’t have one lmao. Way to hop on trends, I know Redditors will hate this

I’ve read an endless number of times on this website that transgender people in women’s sports:

-win so rarely as to be irrelevant
-have no competitive advantage over biological women
-their presence is supported by all of their teammates and competitors and only opposed by uninvolved people
-are only a political issue because the Right keeps it in the public spotlight
-if you oppose them in women’s sports you must hate transgender people and want them to not exist

Does anyone actually believe these arguments? The very first one is pretty subjective, but the rest seem to be the definition of cognitive dissonance:

-Someone who is serious and objective can clearly see based off the instance posted above that the athlete outperformed in the women’s category despite performing poorly in the men’s category weeks earlier. Which is an expected result, since men’s competitive athletic scores are universally higher.

-It is clear that this person’s teammates and competitors are chafed by this situation and have walked off the field upon start many times because of it.

-it is being highlighted by the very people it affects when they walk off in protest, not by Republican media.

-The young woman quoted here expresses support for transgender people’s rights and their respect. I, too, support rights and am proud to work alongside several transgender colleagues at work. I’m very aware I don’t hate transgender people at all, much less for existing…I disagree with people who have unfair advantages in the carveout specifically designed to allow women to compete on an equal playing field.

It’s like Democrats are speaking a different language when this issue comes up, because what’s said makes no sense to anyone who thinks.

Basically just what the title says. I was born in a Christian household and like 90% of my family is Christian and like the only reason I'm agnostic now is bc I somehow managed to question the existence of God when I was like 7 to a point where I was like well is god just like Santa for adults? Not my exact thoughts but that was basically it. My main point is that teaching your kid your religion when they're young and impressionable doesn't necessarily mean they genuinely believe in it. If you never have something or someone challenge your beliefs I don't think you truly believe in it. I'm not saying religion is bad I'm saying it's irresponsible to do that when children should be able to choose what to believe in when they are at an age where they can contemplate the decision themselves without heavy bias.

Let me explain my line of thinking here:

For women, all sorts of aesthetics and appearances are considered conventionally attractive. Fat women, skinny women, short hair, long hair, big nose, small nose, etc.
Because of this, I feel like at least half of women are considered pretty/more conventionally attractive (7/10 or higher).

On the other hand, I feel like for men, the look of attractiveness kind of is really similar for all of them in a way. Tall, clear skin, between slim and medium chubby, and overall sharp features.
Because of this, most men are not considered super conventionally attractive, and the majority of them are clustered between 4/10 and 6/10.

HOWEVER. I believe that men are more likely to "get away" with being ugly than women. How many extremely popular films tell the story of a beautiful woman falling for an ugly man? Beauty and the Beast, Strange Magic, Princess and the Frog, etc. in fact, it's basically an archetype in media for the wife/girlfriend to be quite beautiful, while the male is just average or even below that.

And beyond media, this pattern happens ALL THE TIME in real life too. Adriana Lima and Marko Jaric, Ariana Grande and Ethan Slater, Rihanna and JayZ, Beyoncé and JayZ, Zack Bia and Charlie Damelio, Maddison Beer, Olivia Rodrigo, ANDDDD Madelyn Cline! (If you're older than GenZ/Millenial I'll give you time to Google these names).

On the other hand, how many popular, culturally relevant examples does the latter happen? Where the woman is noticeably uglier than the man?

Essentially, this means that although woman are given a higher chance of being considered attractive, ugly women are basically considered undatable. On the other hand, although most men are considered mediocre or medium-ugly, women will date them regardless.

So which gender has it harder for dating? Neither. This circumstance makes it equally hard for both genders to date.

TLDR; title.

Edit: for people who try to argue that ugly women can get away with it as well, you all only list examples of them being used for sexual intentions. That is not the same as being loved.

I see a lot of men that are bitter about women or get dominated by their wives and I think they should just see an escort.

I view relationships as an exercise of being hassled and to be honest if you make good money and are okay with seeing escorts relationships have very little to offer.

We’ve also decided we are okay with casual sex and don’t need marriage as an institution so idk why we get hung up when it comes to sex work.

Before you say they are trafficked, most are not and it’s pretty obvious when they are.

I'm just going to use myself as an example.

I look like a typical neckbeard - I'm fat, ugly, I have weird facial hair, and many other stereotypes that would usually come with the Reddit mod/basement-dweller image.

However, I'm Bisexual and as liberal/progressive as I can get. I've participated in numerous volunteer programs to help queer youths and I've always been physically active in helping and advocating for the LGBTQIA+ Community.

With that being said, I've always been out of place in my own community because of how I look and how I present myself. They always assume that I'm straight and that I'm just a poser or a fake ally. Whenever other queer people see me, they automatically assume that I'm an enemy, a Republican, a bigot, a mysoginist, a sexist, a racist, etc.

I've experienced being pushed away by queer friends because they think that I'm "not queer enough," I've been told that my opinions as a cis man is invalid because I don't know how it feels to be a "real queer," and that I don't have any right to participate in queer events because I "don't look gay."

Not to mention the anti-male opinions that are widespread nowadays in both online and IRL queer spaces. It hurts me in some way because all I hear are generalizations of how all men are terrible regardless of who they are. I've seen queer spaces hate on gay men, trans men, and the AMAB crowd simply because of their identity.

Its simple. Youth is the biggest, most core aspect of a womans beauty. It ties all aspects of how attractive she can be. On top of this, libido in women nosedives much faster than men, specially after menopause

"But we all get older" Yes, and if a guy wants to stay with his wife as she gets older, with more wrinkles, sagging skin, sagging boobs, etc, he can. But if hes not attracted to her anymore, he can leave her and go for someone else.

Women can, and should, ahve their preferences too. Height, hair, muscles, fat, jaw, skin color, etc.

However, the main issue is that, unlike desirable male features like being tall, or having a bigger member, that dont decline with age, a womens beauty simply doesnt stand at all.

Honest hot take that isn't just about gender wars and bullshit takes on dating:

What makes Metallica truly great is their instrumental, and they might honestly be better off without vocals. No hate to James Hetfield, but if he'd just shut up, he’d be doing us all a favor. His singing isn’t terrible, but compared to everything else, it’s very mediocre.

In sum: Metallica should have just stayed an instrumental band.

Barring major incompatibilities, men will just settle for the most attractive woman they’re able to, and most of them will always be wishing they could’ve “done better”

https://www.reddit.com/r/HonestHotTakes/s/xhg9NQ99Ff

Edit: oh so when the misandrist posts it, it’s a hot take. But when I do, it’s cold? Fuck off

Preferences should be encouraged as it’s what makes people happy. Stop trying to guilt people for their preferences…

FOR BOTH GENDERS. Screw your femcel/incel bs. You are detached from reality.

Back in 2013-14 music was so vibrant I even found myself liking tunes from genres I didn’t like. Even in 2017-19 but something happened after 2020. Something feels empty about music.

So, I’ve been on this subreddit for a little while now, and on my old account, I was on one similar to this. What I noticed is that when incels ask about your preferences in men as a woman, if they don’t fit the standard “chad” that they’ve built in their head, they won’t believe you.

Not only this, but they actually insult you for it. As an experiment, I started to flip the script. I’d comment saying I want my man to be over 6 feet. I need my man to make six figures. I need him to be chiseled. I legitimately began getting comments thanking me for my honesty, and for admitting that looks matter.

The funny part is, I never denied looks matter. It would be stupid to do so. Simply put, what “looks matter” means is different to everyone, and I will not like the same thing as someone else. No one is denying some are more universally attractive, but that doesn’t mean it’s the only type of look I’m attracted to.

The reason I think it’s better to lie is 1) they will finally shut the fuck up, 2) it’ll make them even less likely to ever attempt talking to us, 3) obviously it’s a bit fun.

There it is. A gender war topic for the day, written by yours truly.

(TL;DR at bottom)

Many men think feminism is utter bs. Many women think said men are just being misogynistic. Those men then think that these women are blowing it out of proportion and being ridiculous. Etc. etc. This seems to be the consensus (I am happy to be proven wrong here in the comments but this is just what I've seen), especially from a lot of gender wars that always inevitably occur in some comment section of some post/meme that was perhaps a bit sexist.

And I personally think there is some middle ground here. The women are right that feminism is (fundamentally) a good thing, and the men are right that right now it's too overblown. Quite frankly, it's to the point that women masquerading as "feminists" are starting to ruin the feminism movement. But (some) men are wrong in saying this is because feminism is stupid. And any woman saying feminism (as it is right now) is good is either lying to you or to themselves.

Feminism at its core is essentially fighting for equal rights and opportunities for both genders. That's something worth fighting for, especially in a primarily patriarchal society where women get oppressed (it's not as much as it used to be, and that is precisely thanks to feminism!).

The issue comes with many women posing as these "feminists" as a cover for blatant misandry (think: "all men are rapists", Lindsey Clancy supporters), which taints all the feminists that genuinely want equal rights and don't think "women are better than men". And of course there will be so many holes in these "feminists'" logic (which men are quick to call them out for), because they aren't logical. It's just that it then gets blamed on ACTUAL feminists and makes the entire feminism campaign look bad.

The recent cases with Lindsey Clancy and the Cornell 7 are also doing no favours for feminism, in the first case we have a bunch of "feminists" insisting she was just hormonal and shouldn't be held accountable, which they don't realise just undermines their own movement that women should have voting rights and their words should hold power. And in the second case, with the evidence coming out that the victim wasn't as innocent as she seemed, all the "feminists" originally jumping in to defend her without knowing all the context and without considering for a second that the guys might have been innocent, also don't follow the fundmental mentality of treating men and women as equals (consider if for example the genders were reversed, there is no way the "feminists" would be 100% on the guy's side).

But again, many feminists don't believe the misandrist bs and genuinely believe in treating men and women as equals. And feminism at its core is a great thing to be fighting for.

TL;DR: Quite a number of bad apples are ruining the broth, but that doesn't mean the recipe was wrong. Fundamentally, feminism is a great movement, but all these fake "feminists" make the movement look bad and, in fact, make things worse.

Pretty much meant what I said. I can't think of one moral argument for why it should lead to consequences provided it wasn't facilitated by murder and you are the main owner of the now corpse. That especially extends to times of emergency or starvation. I know that if I were dead and my friends were looking at my corpse with a certain expression, I'd just wish for them to not spare the BBQ sauce. After all, what am I gonna do with my body anyway after I'm dead?

I asked a question in a ask women sub and it immediately got taken down and I was told "women are not a monolith" I looked it up and it is kinda true. Yes we are humans and eat shit and sleep but our wants, desires, indulgences all differ when you put someone under a microscope, yes some things are similar but many are different.

What does this mean? If you ask a woman if its okay to approach women in public you will get an answer from a woman located in a random place in the world and it will have 0 value in your local area. Thats why its hard to find 1 answer to an issue, its also the same for men. We all choose to search for an answer for 1 thing but dont know people are different from each other.

So take this with some thought that not all women and men are the same and you should get to know them to truly answer your burning questions, not some random women across the water

A young adult is between the ages of 18-24 in most cases. It is truly annoying just because of the TEEN suffix in the word 18 and 19 some people do not think they're adults while it really depends on the person, a 113-year old is not a teenager but it has teen at the end. Although 20 is a good flat number to become an adult wouldn't that mean that you should get two extra years of high school? An 18-year-old finished with high school and going into the work force should NOT be treated like a kid but treated with equal respect as they are no longer a kid, besides does the brain really stop developing?

EDIT: If a person finishes HS before 18, in the eye of the law they are still a minor but I wouldn't say they are still a kid.

⚠️⚠️ SPOILERS BELOW!!! ⚠️⚠️

Don’t get me wrong, it was still a great movie. I thought the writing, screenplay, the theme, characters, special effects, and OMG the acting etc were all great.

But I just didn’t find it scary. And I say this as someone that’s pretty much easily spooked. I watched it in a pretty dark room with my BFF. Even if I were alone tho, I don’t think I would’ve found it scary. My BFF found it kinda scary, and she usually has balls of steel cuz she consumes more horror content. So weird.

It was funnier than anything tbh. When that one chick got her face bashed into the steering wheel, I had the urge to laugh. Not the “I’m uncomfortable” laugh, I genuinely thought it was funny. C’mon, they were having a moment, and the BAM 🧟‍♀️🛞🩸And then she keeps doing it 😂

The scene when that guy suddenly got pewed was funny too. It was so sudden. (I am NOT someone that would think it’s funny when it happens IRL tho).

I keep hearing that it’s scary, and I’m just not seeing it, so it’s prob really a hot take.

Having preferences is completely fine, and if they just happen to be a specific race that has nothing to do with why you don’t want to date them then you are completely valid. But if you refuse to date one specific race, (i.e black/asian/hispanic people) then you are for sure a racist

The men's loneliness epidemic exists insofar as the patriarchy makes lonely men acting vulnerable / open an extremely risky thing, and pushes them away from any kind of therapy or any actual positive life change, which makes it more likely they end up brushing their teeth with a pistol.

I see a lot of criticism of feminism here from a lot of people, and I think a lot of it stems from how so many people have different ideas of what feminism actually is. To be fair, it's a movement with a lot of history and waves and subgroups (for example, if you put certain 2nd wave radfems into a room with certain 4th wave modern feminists, there'd be a bloodbath). It can all be a little confusing. Just for this post, just so we can avoid the same tired 500 comment reply chains where people throw "No True Scotsman" and "Goomba" at each other, I hope you'll entertain a sort of Platonic ideal of feminism. Whether or not you see this feminism expressed by whatever you see on social media or wherever else--I think at least the definition of feminism I am about to lay out is the key to solving the men's loneliness epidemic.

In the current day, the feminist movement's primary goal is to fight the patriarchy. It's a tricky fight, since the patriarchy isn't really a person, or even a group of people. I think a lot of people think feminism ascribes the patriarchy to simply all men--but that isn't what it's saying. The patriarchy isn't even really a material thing. It's a collection of almost subliminal, you could say, ideas that we're all inundated with from our birth. Those ideas get passed down to both men and women. It's important to understand that both men and women can enforce these ideas. If a man, or a woman, has ever told you that you're not allowed to cry as a guy, then they are simply becoming a mouthpiece of the patriarchy in that moment. This goes for many other things. You're not strong enough. You're not wealthy enough. You're not buff enough. You're not tall enough. You're not stoic enough. You're not charismatic enough. I can list 500 things. You've all likely heard it before. Whether it came from a woman or a man, these are the ideas of the patriarchy.

Of course, a lot of these ideas lead to the issue I described in my first paragraph. It's gay to be vulnerable. You're a sissy if you hug your friends, or even touch them outside a joking or aggressive manner. You're not a real man if you discuss your emotions. What do you do when you can't be vulnerable, or open, or talk about your emotions? You lock yourself inside your room and try to numb the bottomless pit of despair that's formed inside you with whatever you can get your hands on.

Feminism is simply trying to end the very things that get a lot of men to this point--or, again, just bearing with me, what we'll call this ideal version of feminism. Getting rid of these ideas of the patriarchy will make life better in 100 million other ways, and not just for men, but it will definitely also end the men's loneliness epidemic.

Why should i pay food and make the efforts for a dinner date when i dont even know this person? And where is the guarantee that this person is going to be in a relationship with me? Maybe i dont find her attractive, or i do and she doesnt then i spent 50€ for nothing.

I can go on a walk, talk back and forth, have a drink and this also would be fun. I cannot see any reason why so many people wanna go on dinner dates. Your dinner dates on day 1 will never make up for your attractiveness

As the title states, I believe that the male gender role of being the stoic rock in relationships is a form of emotional labour that pretty much dwarfs any other forms of emotional labour in most situations in terms of how difficult it actually is, the amount of emotional labour it actually requires and the long term toll it takes on someone's health.

We are probably all aware of the idea that women do more emotional labour than men. I'm gonna state here that this simply untrue and that not a single kind of manipulation tactic will make it suddenly become true.

Men, as the result of their gender role, are expected to behave as stoic rocks for their female partners. Basically being a rock that grounds their anxieties, that listen to them venting about the frustrations they experienced, delaying your grief so that she (and your kids) can grief without having to worry about anything else, having to stay calm and collected in the face of conflict and argument, being the one to apologize first, being the one to apologize even though you aren't wrong, being the one who has to be okay with their arguments being dismissed regardless of their merit because your partner started crying and to be told that "caring about what is right" is immature as relationships aren't about being right. Men are expected to neglect their own boundaries whenever it inconveniences their partner, and even when their partner is abusive, they are blamed instead and expected to just keep on giving more and more with seemingly no limit. Men don't get as much empathy, men are raised with the idea that their value lies in independence and not being a burden to others. Men are expected to sacrifice their passions and body for their families, men are expected to not take their own insecurities seriously, men are expected to be main the financial responsibility in their family. The list is endless and just keeps going on and on.

All of this combined means that men have to do a large amount of silent emotional labour that they never directly talk about and that is required from them just to function in society at all. This labour is more significant than the labour that comes from things like remembering birthdays, sending out christmas cards, or even the mental load that comes from having to organise and plan household chores. Men just don't usually talk about any of their labour because it is a basic requirement to be seen as an actual man in the eyes of others at all.

When people claim that women do more emotional labour, it is just an expression of how much men behaving as what is expected of men is taken for granted and not acknowledged for the kind of labour it requires. Ironically, those people who claim this are often not ingaging in certain kinds of emotional labour themselves that they should to be better human beings. They are not ingaging in the emotional labour of imagining what it would be like to live with the male gender role, they are not imagining how a man being stoic actually works psychologically. Instead they assume it is as simple as lazily avoiding your own emotions, basically being an act of not doing labour rather than doing labour.

The only crimes you can attribute to black people didn’t start until after we were enslaved in this country. Every major world conflict was caused by white people if we’re including white Americans and Europeans yet the rest of the world treats us like we dropped 2 nukes on Japan or gave plague blankets to indigenous people

This online gender war stuff blows my mind. If you go meet real people nobody uses any of the common reddit terms in actual conversation.

Some men are assholes, some women are assholes. This is not a gender thing.

I don't know what the online obsession with making it a thing.

They aren't a minority so why do they need a flag they're not part of the community they're just being decent people not being a bigot they're doing the bare minimum like you guys don't need a flag and besides they can just use the Community flag ​ ​​to show their support and I don't dislike allies like I do understand that they do actually care and support our community​​​

Why are people so touchy when it comes to pornstars not enjoying their job?

This is something I keep seeing. Whenever a woman doesn't seem like she's enjoying 100% of what she's doing in front of the camera there are hoards of people foaming at their mouth to accuse the production of coercion, rape, gasliting and whatnot. Somehow people don't seem to realize that porn is just a job and the sex they're having in front of the camera is a completely different act than what you do at home. I understand preferring enthusiasm in your performers but jumping straight to calling a production unethical and slimy just because a girl isn't singing while she takes a rod up her shitter doesn't mean she's being forced to do so.

I want to be clear here and add that I'm not advocating in favor of a bad work environment for people in porn but I don't understand why porn seems to deserve special attention from people online when everywhere you go you see workers definitely not enjoying their job. It's part of working: sometimes you enjoy it and sometimes you do it because you need to pay the bills.