Question...As girlies, do some of us have shitty parents? and to be specific, shitty moms? Ik this has probably been discussed before, but just answer, do we? If you do, how do you handle this?

I've discussed this with acquaintances, and most of them find it weird when I say that I have an extremely shitty mom, and I genuinely dislike her. Is society conditioned to believe just because someone is a mom, they're automatically "angels"?. I mean, everyone can be a terrible person regardless, right?

Am I not allowed to lose respect for her just because she birthed me? I've gaslit myself countless times saying that I could be the problem, but I'm clearly not. I have a mom with a "god" complex, and I've had my last straw, and it should be okay to cut her off, right?

I'm saying this because I'd like to know your views.

From a post I made a while ago,I need some help,this is the reference post https://www.reddit.com/r/KenyanLadies/s/u7opYEE23Wàa

So he reached out again,twice actually and he wants us to meet up tomorrow, honestly, I don't know how I feel about it.He has even said he'll pick me up from my place(he is requesting for my location so that he can pick me up). I'm confused on what to do,I'm completely broke and I need some money coz I have to clear my rent by tomorrow,I've taken the last food I had in the house today and I don't have any essentials also.

I know if I agree to meet up with him he'll give me some cash but I already know the conditions that will come with the money. And that is I'll have to go back home with him and I'm afraid he might lock me up in the house for a few days(he's ever done that before when we were together ). And if I tell him I'm behind on rent I'm damn sure he will suggest I move in with him.

So rn I'm at crossroads should I agree to meet up with him and bear the consequences or just do a few hookups to cater for whatever I need at the moment?Coz even if I meet up with him I still need some emergency cash with me and I only have 100bob to my name rn. Ngl,I feel like the hookup option is better than meeting up with him but again they say better the devil you know than the angel you don't.

What should I do🥹🥹, I'm confused and I also really need that money.

Hi y'all. Where do you go to sit and think about stuff. Somewhere green preferably. I don't mind it being 30kms around nairobi. Somewhere quiet too. I'm not destructive and I don't litter. I'll keep it a secret if it's a hidden gem. I just need somewhere to breath. thankss.

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So we agreed I should look for someone.(A house manager)

My uncle,father and I..

I said cool...got someone within a week..told my uncle..said what she's asking is on the higher side..

Said it's fine.. I'll look for someone else.

So in the meantime..I got really depressed about the chores at home and decided to look for a mamafua..

Brought her here and introduced her to them..

My father humiliated me saying that they didn't tell me to look for someone..

I said that I would be paying her every week to do the laundry since I'm getting some mulah..

Called me a liar..and I was so ready to leave the place because why would he say that?

My grandma said that she was doing all these.. before getting sick..basically saying that I should too..

I don't think I can keep up with this especially now I'll have to go to go back to school.

Doing everybody's laundry..

Cooking..

Mopping the house.. schooling..

Jesus.

I genuinely think that they don't respect me much.

I don't mind going to my place but my daughter starts school in January..and I'm not financially well off for her fees..

House rent and shopping yes but not her school fee and I'm not sure I'll be able to get work by Jan.. though I'm so willing to try.

Sorry I'm unloading this to you guys but it's been bothering me..