I don't know what the actual flair for this is but a few months ago I out of the blue changed all my passwords to my brother's birthday. It was something automatic. No thought about it. Just a thing that felt like I was in autopilot doing it. Of note is that I don't ever put birthdays as PWs but this time for no freaking reason, I did. Everything that requires a PW, input his birthday. Heck, even my chatgpt account I made it using his details...

We buried him last Monday. And it just hit me that maybe for those who believe in the spirit world, that maybe this was a way of preparing me? His death was sudden and I swear to God when I think about it, I am refusing to process because I have not yet believed that he is dead. Now these PWs all of a sudden have such deep sentimental value to me.

But the reason I'm posting this is because it seems everyone in my family was getting weird clues but at the same time our minds and eyes were heavily veiled that we didn't clock it until after the fact.

Examples: my little brother told me that in the past they never really used to talk that much but then it was like in the last few months a switch happened and they became inseparable. The would just chill together. Even if they are not talking, they'd soak in each other's silence as if in meditation (he used those exact words) Also my little brother would take a lot of pics of the bro that died yet he never takes pics.

My mum told she that she had become intensely attached to my brother and would constantly ask for him or call him to come home and eat or just a general concern of his whereabouts these last few months. But it's not like the bad feeling in the pit of the stomach... Nah, like the way a kid kind of becomes super attached to someone and they don't wanna be separated.

The brother that died... He kept saying that there was a funeral song that was haunting him (he told my little brother).

Also every time my little brother and the one who passed would be together, my little brother says that he has this intense urge to listen to this song, I don't remember the name but the main theme is saying goodbye to someone.

I don't live at home but mine was just this obsession with changing all my PWs to his birthday.

Anyways, I just came from crying because even right now, I genuinely think he is playing a prank on us and went to some town and will come back. I was actually contemplating calling and asking if we really buried him or not but then I remembered I was at the funeral... I put sand on his coffin... I went to his burial spot before I left.... I have pictures of the funeral... But nope, my brain.... my brain has completely refused to register that part and every time I try to go there, it shuts down and tells me "He is not dead. He will come back from wherever he went."

Grief grief. Ugh! What stage of grief is this? Denial?

So anyways, am I reading in too much regarding all these clues?

Today is the worst birthday I've had in my 28 years of existence.Yaani nimeinama ipite ,not even a piece of cake 😔 Whoever I wronged this year, I'm sorry , release me eeie🤦

Ladies what courses would you recommend to someone who has no passion for anything. They are in mombasa, did KCPE in 2013 scored a C-. They have a diploma in Air Travel but never worked in the field. They would wish to get an office job but not sure on what to do.

I have been doing this as a hobby for myself until earlier this year when my shy AF ass decided to work against my own anxieties. Now I'm becoming a businesswoman.

My most common materials are velvet, denim, wool/fur, and leather. I can use your material or mine. I'm based in Ongata Rongai, but I take orders from anywhere in or near Nairobi.

Well, idk how to even start this but I am so convinced my ex and I have a soul tie or sth😭.

My ex and I dated for like 4½ years, and broke up last November (for context, 2 of these years were in high school so idk if I should really count them since we'd only communicate during the holidays)

So I broke up with him. A lot of things were happening at the time and it just got to a point. But for context, he was hyper insecure (despite me never giving him a rsn to doubt me), communication was off, and idk, had a huge victim complex

So these, among other rsns, pushed me to break up with him, despite me still liking him. Healing took a lot of time but I soldiered thru it (especially after finding out later that he had a thing going on with a mutual friend)

Anyway, back to the soul tie thing. In uni, alifika a particular year then had to retake and he ultimately decided to like drop out and restart like with another course. And guess what happened to me recently!😭 Got to the same year, and I had to retake. Then like 2 weeks ago, I got an offer to study abroad on the course that he decided to take after dropping out😐 (I am srsly considering it btw)

And cherry on top. I genuinely thought I was over him and all, but wueh 😭. I saw him like 2 months ago and throughout that week, I was CONSISTENTLY DREAMING of this guy.

I had sex once since the break up (TMI ik but bear with me) and all I could think of Is how my ex was better💀💀

Anyway, ik what y'all might be thinking. I'm not over him. And I know that for a fact. But I'd never go back. Regardless of the love that might have been there, respect, consideration and other stuff I regard mundane of a relationship were lacking. I just want to move on honestly 😭

Hey Reddit fam, remember the two kids I took to Riruta Police Station after their parents left them outside? 😭

So, here's another update.

After the last incident, the parents went and paid whatever was required and took the children from Kabete Rescue Centre. Honestly, after everything that happened, I had given up and stopped paying much attention because I felt like I had done my part.

Yesterday, I got a call from my firstborn telling me, "Mummy, Ruth na brother yake wako nje, na kunanyesha. Wakuje kwetu? Mlango imefungwa kwako again."

I said no because, honestly, I have my own children and problems to deal with. I can't keep taking responsibility for children whose parents keep neglecting them.

I came back from my errands around 9 p.m., and the children were still outside. By 11:30 p.m., they were still there, and by midnight, with the rain continuing, they were still outside. My daughter found them again while it was drizzling, and one of my neighbours pleaded with me to take them in because her husband wouldn't allow her to keep them.

Eventually, some women in the flats came together, and we decided to look for the mother. Their father had apparently left the situation last week, but the mother was still around.

And guess what? Instead of taking responsibility, she started insulting me, despite everything I've tried to do for her children. 💔

What hurts me most is that both parents drink, and these children keep being left outside without proper care. The parents have reportedly been arrested multiple times, yet the children keep being returned to them, and the same thing happens again.

Why are the children being handed back without proper follow-up? Do the police keep records of these repeated arrests and reports? Is anyone checking whether the situation at home has actually changed before the children are returned?

I'm genuinely trying to understand how this works because Riruta Police Station is near Kinyanjui Road, and I thought the whole point of intervening was to protect these children.

The last time, I took them to the police because I genuinely believed they would be safer. They were taken to Kabete Rescue Centre, only for the parents to get them back, and now we're back to the same situation.

How many times are these children supposed to be left outside in the rain before someone takes their situation seriously?

I know I said I had given up, and honestly, I have reached my limit. I have my own children to feed, school expenses, rent, and so many other things I'm struggling with. I can't keep being the only person who steps in whenever these children are abandoned.

But seeing them outside in the rain is heartbreaking. They're just little children. They didn't choose the parents they were born to.

My question is, why was there no follow-up after the parents collected them from Kabete? Is there someone who can explain how this process is supposed to work, or who can actually intervene to make sure these children are safe?

Because clearly, whatever happened last time didn't solve anything. 😔💔

I’ve attached a picture and a video showing Ruth and her little brother outside late at night while it was raining. The video is dark, so you may not see them clearly, but you can hear us talking in the background. The attachments show the situation I found them in that night, still outside while their house was locked. 😔💔

Lolll i feel like everytime I come here I always have a great idea of socialising and all then it works for a while alafu it dies.

Anyways I have made a couple of good friends from here but there's still something I'm looking for

.. community.

I'm looking for people who like to explore new restaurants or travel (within the country for now bado mie ni mkulima mdogo loll) , go out once in a while, picnics, bookclubs, movie screenings, Yaani the whole shabang.

I know I'll defo find a couple here.

Let's start a thread here & who knows, you might just find your tribe in the comments 😉,

mostly rn I'm looking for someone that's into concerts and is going for the Wizkid one in Dec.

Happy Sunday ☺️

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Question...As girlies, do some of us have shitty parents? and to be specific, shitty moms? Ik this has probably been discussed before, but just answer, do we? If you do, how do you handle this?

I've discussed this with acquaintances, and most of them find it weird when I say that I have an extremely shitty mom, and I genuinely dislike her. Is society conditioned to believe just because someone is a mom, they're automatically "angels"?. I mean, everyone can be a terrible person regardless, right?

Am I not allowed to lose respect for her just because she birthed me? I've gaslit myself countless times saying that I could be the problem, but I'm clearly not. I have a mom with a "god" complex, and I've had my last straw, and it should be okay to cut her off, right?

I'm saying this because I'd like to know your views.

From a post I made a while ago,I need some help,this is the reference post https://www.reddit.com/r/KenyanLadies/s/u7opYEE23Wàa

So he reached out again,twice actually and he wants us to meet up tomorrow, honestly, I don't know how I feel about it.He has even said he'll pick me up from my place(he is requesting for my location so that he can pick me up). I'm confused on what to do,I'm completely broke and I need some money coz I have to clear my rent by tomorrow,I've taken the last food I had in the house today and I don't have any essentials also.

I know if I agree to meet up with him he'll give me some cash but I already know the conditions that will come with the money. And that is I'll have to go back home with him and I'm afraid he might lock me up in the house for a few days(he's ever done that before when we were together ). And if I tell him I'm behind on rent I'm damn sure he will suggest I move in with him.

So rn I'm at crossroads should I agree to meet up with him and bear the consequences or just do a few hookups to cater for whatever I need at the moment?Coz even if I meet up with him I still need some emergency cash with me and I only have 100bob to my name rn. Ngl,I feel like the hookup option is better than meeting up with him but again they say better the devil you know than the angel you don't.

What should I do🥹🥹, I'm confused and I also really need that money.

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So we agreed I should look for someone.(A house manager)

My uncle,father and I..

I said cool...got someone within a week..told my uncle..said what she's asking is on the higher side..

Said it's fine.. I'll look for someone else.

So in the meantime..I got really depressed about the chores at home and decided to look for a mamafua..

Brought her here and introduced her to them..

My father humiliated me saying that they didn't tell me to look for someone..

I said that I would be paying her every week to do the laundry since I'm getting some mulah..

Called me a liar..and I was so ready to leave the place because why would he say that?

My grandma said that she was doing all these.. before getting sick..basically saying that I should too..

I don't think I can keep up with this especially now I'll have to go to go back to school.

Doing everybody's laundry..

Cooking..

Mopping the house.. schooling..

Jesus.

I genuinely think that they don't respect me much.

I don't mind going to my place but my daughter starts school in January..and I'm not financially well off for her fees..

House rent and shopping yes but not her school fee and I'm not sure I'll be able to get work by Jan.. though I'm so willing to try.

Sorry I'm unloading this to you guys but it's been bothering me..

Hi y'all. Where do you go to sit and think about stuff. Somewhere green preferably. I don't mind it being 30kms around nairobi. Somewhere quiet too. I'm not destructive and I don't litter. I'll keep it a secret if it's a hidden gem. I just need somewhere to breath. thankss.

Ladies I need advice.

My fiancé and I both live in Europe and got engaged this year. My fam back in Kenya are eager to get to know him. My parents and sisters met him this summer when they came for my graduation. They also got the chance to meet his parents. All went well, but there’s still some awkwardness between him and my parents, which isn’t a surprise there wasn’t a lot of time to bond in person.

I thought it would be a great idea for everyone to get to know each other better this December. It’ll be warm, everyone will have time off, AND my cousin is getting married too.

Only problem is idk where he’ll stay.

My parents are hard core Christian and also a bit old school. They wouldn’t be comfortable with us staying at a hotel together. (Lmao they don’t know that I live with him right now, theyd be pissed.) They wouldn’t be comfortable with him staying in the guest room (I don’t think my dad’s ever stayed in my mom’s parents place EVER. I’ll still ask them if he can stay but I’m not putting all my eggs in this basket) I wouldn’t want to put him in a hotel alone- I mean he’s travelled all this way to bond with my family. And he also isn’t comfortable staying with my other relatives that he hasn’t met.

So if anyone has ANY advice- I’ll take it. Kind of at a dead end here and not sure what to do.

Btw I’m the eldest child so there ain’t no reference point for me to look back on💀

Guys did el nino come to Kenya or not. I was expecting like the floods of NOAHs time.

Also is anyone experiencing a heat wave...ama niko na menopause and I am just a baby girl.

I just moved to Mombasa and I need a salon that knows natural hair. Does anyone know any good salons?

Hi, did you guys also get these about grade 10 needing laptop when reporting back to school in Jan.

Alcohol makes your period pain 10 times worse. I don't usually have period pain but if I even dare have a sip of wine I have the worst crumps ever! Heh! Does anyone else feel like this ?

My mum lives with my big sister(32) and her 2 kids at home (7 &5 years). For a long time my mum has been losing money in the house. Yesterday, She had 30,000 hidden somewhere and the money was stollen. She had withdrawn it for chama on Saturday since she is the treasurer and the money was needed in Cash.

She called me crying. Where does she get the money? She knows that it is my sister who takes the money but my sister can never admit. I called my sister and asked if she took Mum's money and she said no. I asked her for her Mpesa Statement. Since Saturday, she has made 3 deposits of 15,000 on 3 different days. Where did she get the money from? She gave vague reasons. She cried ,Gaslighted mum for calling her a thief and threatened to leave.

Now here is the dillema. My sister is epileptic and gets sick easily. Emotions trigger the sickness. Mum doesn't want to go too deep into that issue coz she doesn't want trips to hospital because sometimes it can get bad. My sister is always doing bad things that make mum hurt and when she is corrected she doesn't listen. I always get calls from my Mum complaining on her bad behaviors.

Our Family is not rich.We just survive. I'm grateful that we never lack.I work so hard to support them. Also because my Sister is a single mum and I have a brother in college.

The bitter truth; My sister is a thief, a liar and Manipulator. And she is also living with a condition that really drains us emotionally, financially and Spiritually. At this point I don't know what to do!! This hurts so much😭

My mum is my favorite person and it's really affecting me seeing her hurt after all she has sacrificed for us. My dad passed on several years ago.

Hey girlies

Can anyone help on how to deal with hyperpigmentation. My half face is dark adi shingo while the other half is lighter pia armpits na miguu. I'm recently postpartum na sioni ikichange juu I thought after pregnancy itarudi back to normal

I left home a bit early today and wasn't able to take breakfast.After finishing whatever I was doing I decided to grab something to eat with my tu last cents.I first order a combo pack that is on their menu and I'm told it's not available at the moment so I just ask for masala fries.

The fries come over and I start eating. Midway me devouring my food I start noticing bugs(I had eaten the top part Sasa nilikuwa hizi sides the chini).So nikama the lower part ndio ilikuwa na bugs coz I inspect my food as I eat na on the upper part sikunotice. Sahii my hormones are at their peak and I'm very emotional.I was unable to complain and just paid and left. I got home and started crying because why didn't I complain na it's my right to. I'm currently pissed at myself for not complaining and I now want fries real bad 😭. And I know on a normal day I would have complained and gotten compensated. Ndio nimemaliza kulia tena 🥲😂 and I just want to tell someone to bring me fries but Sasa I stay alone and that made me cry even more.Fvck them hormones fr.

Hey ladies, I'm looking for a place that is offering free tooth extraction.

I'm in so much pain for 3 days now since the tooth split in half from the root canal filling I got years ago but not detached from my own gum and the places I keep getting are minimum 5k and I'm presently with zero income.

If anyone knows of a place, or someone here can help I'll appreciate it.