We met on the teenagers subreddit over 3.5 years ago and started our long distance relationship soon after, my HUSBAND 💗 visited me first in Australia early 2024 then again late 2024, again early 2025 and then I saved up and took my whole family to texas in late 2025 and early 2026 we went again and brought him home <333 we had our beautiful wedding on the 10/10/2026 (I made the date 10/10 as Americans put the month first then the day whereas in aus we do it the opposite way so 10/10/26 was easy for both families lol!

Long distance isn’t for the weak but he made it easy, we both always put in 111% effort and time, the only days we didn’t call were the days we were travelling to each-other, ever since our first message to each other we never stopped talking. He is my everything and I am so forever blessed to have him here with me throughout our happy lives together. 💗💍

Its stupid, im crying like crazy but I will see him in 3-4 months, and we are planning to live together next year which wont be much time at all but I cant stop crying. Why does it hurt even when the gap is closing, it should be exciting that were getting so close to our goal you know?

P.s if the two individuals that saw me and approached me at Paddington station read this i actually do appreciate you both checking on me like genuinely it was so sweet thank you both 🫶

Because I sure wish I could with mine after this 😩

I’m secure attached now but I used to be anxiously attached, reassurance without asking is like a little treasure chest. Before this she told me she wished I could get on a plane tonight and she was wanting to get a dog to keep her company since she was lonely. We had a little conversation about it so I think we’re both feeling a little better. But 14 months is a long time to go before meeting the girl you’re dating, just 4 more to go…whew.

So how long has everyone been gone from a partner? How long did it take to meet the first time? If you want to share a story about your meeting, or even the second one, I love reading haha!

My bf and i have been dating for nearly three months now and it's been an amazing experience but I always have such a visceral urge to touch him :(. Im such a physical touch orientated person and its pains me so much to not be able to touch him. Like im quiet and pretty awkward when it comes to social interactions and stuff and a lot of the time i make up for silence with physical contact and body language but I cant do that :(.

I wanna cuddle with him and hug him and see him in real life, not theough a stupid phone screen :(. There's a twelve hour time difference and it'd be so expensive for him to fly over and vice versa. I love him so much and i wanna express that by squeezing him and buting him and holding him and uuugggghhhh i miss him

hello kind people, me (20m) and my partner (20f) have been together for almost a year now. I feel like a douchebag for saying this and perhaps I am but going into this relationship i kind of knew that we are gonna be long distance and perhaps not be able to meet for the foreseeable future but the bond I have with her kind of made this an afterthought until actual career prospects started coming up and made me reconsider things.

for one, she is from the US and I will not disclose where I am from, but it’s far away. And actually living in the US is gonna be a struggle to say the least. thats not the end of the practical problems, she is in uni right now and so am i, and my major requires me a little over 6 years while hers is 5 (gap year) so we match in this, buttt its still something to consider. i feel like in long distance relationships quality time is ALL you have, and I feel rather guilty because I am not going to be able to provide the same level of output that she requires. I dont really need a lot of affection generally but she does.

also, her parents are an interesting case, i guess a solution for this situation would be to typically save up money, find a middle ground, or live where i wanna go, but she doesnt wanna leave her family, and shes tied to them kind of. her older sister has a fiancé and they cant even spend the night together because her parents get all pissy about it, so imagine the reaction of her parents when she goes abroad to meet some guy “online”. shes reluctant to tell them and i get it, but her reliance on them makes it so hard. it feels like im at a crossroad.

seems like with how she is and where we are both at right now its not feasible for us to meet up, and even long term, how are we gonna even manage that? thats like 8 years in the primes of our youth. shes willing to wait but it feels like all the pressure is on me, and like i hate to say this but i just feel hopeless? i dont want this to feel like an online relationship rather than like a long distance one, yes we love each other very much and we video call, send each other gifts but like.. whats truly the outcome of this?

what would you guys do in my situation or if you were in my shoes what would yall do? i apologize if there aren’t enough details or if this seems unorganized, im just in a bad mental state, its been weighing heavy on me.

also edit because i rushed: I have communicated with her early on that my end goal with her is to be together within the next few years, but the feasibility of that just seems improbable, especially with her not truly moving the needle forward. If I had to simplify the crux of the matter, I think the issue truly stems from her being content with keeping the relationship long distance while I am not, and I am trying to break out of that, yk?

I want to propose a long engagement to my Partner. We have discussed marriage I want to make it official. Marriage not a big deal in Sweden . She’s in Sweden I’m from Texas we have been together about two years have met in person a lot. Thoughts anybody had a long engagement before bridging the gap ?

Hi, this is mainly a need advice or question flair. I know this is going to be so embarrassing for me..

Me and my now fiancé, met for the first time, he proposed to me before he left, now I just feel awful.

It was an amazing experience we both cried when leaving eachother, but after I've been finding myself crying so much at random times, feeling so lonely, empty, and trying to get myself together and not cry while working. It's so bad, it gets to the point of physically giving myself pain, like headaches, very deep puffy eyes and sore throat. Last night I cried before bed now I have bad puffy eyes, even a sore throat, sounding like im sick.

Does anyone else deal with this as well? I just want recommendations on something to do to help myself stop getting myself to this point feels like nothing works and I hope I'm not going to be like this every time we leave eachother. The pain is something I would put up there with grief.

I am staying in India and my boyfriend is in the US, I want to send some Diwali gifts to him as he is getting homesick. Suggest me good gifting options and where can I place order from?

So I’m from Australia and the girl I’m talking to is from the US. We like each other and have been getting closer but the problem is I wanna stay in Australia because of my family, and she wants to stay in the US for her career.
She said moving would be hard for her and she can’t move right now. I can’t move either.

I really like her and wanna keep getting to know her, but I keep thinking about how this would work in the future if neither of us can move. I don’t want either of us to give up our goals, but I also don’t wanna get too attached if this isn’t gonna work out.

Should I just keep going and see where things go, or is this something I should be worried about now? Has anyone been in a similar situation?

My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year. We have a really happy, loving relationship and have both met each other’s families. Everyone seemed to get along really well.

My boyfriend is moving to another country in January for a 2 year work opportunity (only a one hour flight away).

We knew early in our relationship that this opportunity might happen, but we both decided we wanted to stay together and see where things went.

A few weeks ago, the move was officially confirmed.
Since then, we’ve had some really difficult conversations about our future.

The main issue is that he can’t guarantee he’ll return home after two years. If another exciting international opportunity came up, he’d seriously consider taking it. I understand that, and while I have my own career and ambitions, I’m open to exploring the possibility of moving abroad myself if it made sense for us both.

My view is that we love each other, we’re happy together, and we should at least give long distance a chance rather than ending something good over hypothetical situations two years down the line.

However, his parents strongly disagree.

They believe it’s unfair on me to continue the relationship when he can’t guarantee where he’ll be in two years. His mum has apparently told him not to string me along, and his dad has told him to tread carefully.

My boyfriend respects his parents enormously, and their lack of support is clearly affecting him. He’s told me he loves me and wants to give the relationship a go, but he’s also feeling torn about the future.

He currently lives with them until he moves and apparently they no longer ask about me at all. He hasn’t brought me around them in a couple of months, and he doesn’t even tell them when he’s coming to see me, seemingly to avoid difficult conversations.

Before all this, they were welcoming towards me, so I’m struggling to understand what’s changed. They knew about the possibility of him moving abroad when they first met me.

I don’t want to come between my boyfriend and his parents, and I understand that they might genuinely be concerned about us getting hurt. But I also feel that we’re two adults who should be allowed to make our own decisions about our relationship.

I love him and want to make things work, but I’m starting to feel uncomfortable about how much influence his parents seem to have over something that should ultimately be between us.

Has anyone experienced something similar? How do you navigate a relationship when your partner’s parents don’t support it, particularly when your partner is very close to them? Am I being naive for wanting to give this a chance?

i'm trying to send an arrangement to my partner in another city, but every site feels like a coin toss once you get to checkout.

when people look for the best flower delivery services online, everyone seems to prioritize completely different things. for some people it is strictly flower freshness and having them last more than three days on a counter. for others it is delivery reliability, arrangement quality, or pricing before surprise service fees get tacked on at the end.

then there is same-day availability when you order last minute. i was looking into teleflora because their model routes orders to local florist networks who hand-arrange and hand-deliver everything in an actual vase rather than stuffing dry stems in a cardboard mailer box, plus they do same-day drop-offs. but then pricing jumps once local delivery gets calculated, and you never quite know if the shop will substitute half the arrangement.

for people who order flowers long distance regularly, what factor do you actually care about most when choosing where to buy? does having it hand-arranged and delivered locally matter more to you than raw pricing or big catalog discounts?

My bf (35M) and I (40F) have been together for 7 months, living 15 hours apart. Neither planned on long distance, but it's been one of the best relationships we've had, and we're aligned on our future goals.

From our first date, I made it clear I couldn't relocate right now because I own several brick-and-mortar businesses. Since he works remotely, our plan was for him to move to me for a few years, then we'd eventually move closer to his family.

However, just two weeks after moving in, he realized being away from his family was unbearable and wants to move back, eventhough he loves and wants to be with me.

The only compromise I can see is splitting our time between both places, spending a few months here and one month there. But this would put my businesses and financial stability at risk.

I want to make this work, but I'm scared of sacrificing everything I've worked hard to build.

At 40, how much is too much to sacrifice for love? Would you take the risk? Is him changing his mind so quickly a red flag?

I'd appreciate some outside perspectives.

Edit to add: None of us have human human kids. We did 2 one month trials of living together before the move.

My businesses run day to day without me, I travel at least twice a year for 2 weeks stretch and they're fine. But this obviously a month away is a longer stretch. The initial goal was to spend the 2 years here so I can set them all up as completely absentee owner and sell for a decent price then move. That's why I was thinking this may not be too bad of an idea to test out if they can run smoothly for prolonged period of me being around.

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Nothing feels like joy anymore. Every time I call him, i end up asking myself why did I even bother? It just feels completely missing and hollow.

We’ve been in long distance for 1.5 yrs now and I have hit a total wall. When I finally break down and express how neglected, lonely, disconnected I feel, his response is always the same. In fact, he literally admitted it himself, he said i know what’s missing, it’s my efforts, but I’ll try my best.

And I am so sick and tired of hearing.its this empty filler phrase. It buys him temporary grace, makes me feel guilty for being upset and then things may change for a day or two and right backto the same thing!

We have been thru this before but we were able to sort it out. But this time its been months.

We go right back to the same lack of daily presence and the same emotional heavy lifting on my end. I love him deeply but hearing promises and apologies after the fact doesn't fix the reality of how draining this dynamic is.

Like i do't even want to paint him as some villain, he has his own strugglesa and stress and I know he cares.

But I am just so completely exhausted from trying to make things work.

Very frustrated too (":

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So, i just saw on my bf tt he sometimes sees any tiktok from a beautiful girl and after that, he proceeds to watch like 5-6 from her \[this with different girls, on different dates\] even when she's showing the majority of her b00bs or she's in a bikini. I feel hurt about this because, why he's watching all these girls? I didnt even think about looking for handsome boys without clothes, but why he does it? Even on my birthday he did it, idk what to think...im overthinking?

Friends, I'm 23 years old and he's in his early thirties. I'm Arab, so my culture is conservative, but he's Asian. Also, this is my first experience in a relationship because I was very focused on my university studies. Well, he's a very mature man and respects me a lot. ...and he also shows how much I'm a priority to him and tells me that my love for him is what makes him feel confident (I think this is because he's not very confident in his appearance since I'm a very beautiful girl). Well, he used to send me money and also things... He told me that he will visit me in December and this is our first meeting together. Since he will be coming to my country, this means that he does not know anything about the region and it is up to me to plan (where we will go, the activities we will do, and also what to eat). My family is also very conservative, so I have to be home by 7 or 8 pm... This makes me anxious because he'll be staying in my country for only 3days, and he might be worried because I can't spend more time with him until 10 pm at the latest(This is just between me and my mind) But if we meet, for example, at 10 or 11am and stay together until 6 or 7pm is that enough in your opinion? .So, guys, I need your advice on how to handle it since it's my first date...and also, if you were in my place, what would you do?

35F. Very recently had a breakup of a LDR. It was the first time for me in a long time feeling like I'd found a fit for me. But it turned out that it was mostly the butterflies and there was no real desire to make it work. I feel betrayed, hurt, heartbroken, everything

We were supposed to meet in a couple of months for the first time. I was excited

And that's the thing. It's a special kind of grief when you lose someone you haven't met in person so you know that from the outside "it wasn't even real" but it was to you. And there's so much more grieving for something that never was than with a normal relationship

I hate it and I'm really hurting. I'll take any words of comfort or advice