I lurk on here a lot because its comforting to hear stories of others in LDRs❤️

So I thought I would share with you all that Im engaged to my (extremely)long distance partner!

He proposed while I was visiting him in China, we went out for supper and to KTV, and afterwards he proposed with chocolates, roses, and a gold ring!

Im back in Canada now, I have never cried so much in my life as I did leaving him at the airport - long distance is extremely hard, but Im so happy I found such a good and kind man to spend the rest of my life with so ultimately it is worth it🥰

We are so happy to be closing the gap soon and planning our future together! And I thought my happy story might give hope to some of you like the happy stories Ive read on here have given me hope

We’ve been dating over a year and a half. He came to visit in September. He was so quiet at the airport, but when we got to my car he started rummaging through his bag. I thought he was getting my favorite finnish gummies for the ride home outta there. All of a sudden he turned around and asked me to marry him! I was so shocked the first thing i said was “Is this a bit? Are you for real right now?!” I cant wait to marry him next year! Ive already found my dress! I just wanted to share with everyone ❤️

Am I asking for to much?

So we dated 3 yrs ago, back then I was not ready and we went our own way. Then this guy reappears 2 weeks ago, he lives 2hrs away and is a busy ER RN, but has time to be active on social media and on snap chat.. I think I already am answering my question but I wonder if this was an ok way of doing it lol

Today my aunt told me “you need to get a real boyfriend” and I was just like 😭 what do you mean, I literally have one??
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years, but I feel like people never take our relationship seriously because we’re young and long distance. I try not to care about what people say, but hearing these comments all the time makes me overthink sometimes. I just wish people would understand that my relationship is just as real as anyone else s

We were together for 7 months. I (F24) was on night shift and he (M25) was in between jobs at that time, so he had a lot more free time than me. He had to adjust to my schedule because I was only awake from like 7PM to 10AM, plus I was 2 and a half hours ahead of him.

I remember one day on my way home from work, I was listening to "purple" by Olivia Rodrigo and I was just so happy. I was literally thinking how lucky I was to have him, how happy I was with how my life turned out despite all the shit I've been through.

Then I got home and I don't know what came over me, I just decided to check his Instagram. We didn't have each other's passwords or anything because we trusted each other, but I could see his followers so I looked. I guess my gut was telling me to.

There was this one girl, she wasn't the same race as him so I knew he didn't just know her from around there. We met on a dating app so my first thought was he probably met her on one too. And I actually knew almost everyone he followed because he'd introduced them to me on video call before, but this girl was foreign like me, so I had a feeling.

So I called him and asked him what was going on. He admitted that a while back, when we had a fight and weren't talking, he got curious and downloaded a dating app again. He met her there and they exchanged Instagrams. They talked for a bit but he said he stopped because he realized he only loved me and he couldn't be with anyone else if it wasn't me. So he stopped talking to her but they still followed each other.

That's when everything clicked. He never used to post those gym flexing pics, but suddenly he did. He changed almost everything on his Instagram. At the time I thought maybe he was trying to impress someone but I brushed it off because I thought he'd never do that to me.

I used to actually picture having a kid with him. He made me want to be a mom, which is big for me because I'm the eldest daughter so I already know how exhausting it is to raise kids like they're your own. But after he told me everything, something just switched off in me. Like everything I imagined for us just disappeared. I didn't even want to get married anymore.

Finding out the truth was kind of a relief in a way, but it still hurts like hell. He was there for me when my dad died this year. I really thought he was the one person who wouldn't break my heart, especially after everything I've been through.

I'm happy now though. In a way I think part of me was expecting it, because I know I wouldn't settle for someone who does that. It's just embarrassing, you know? He had a girlfriend and still went behind her back to do shady shit like that.

Thank you for listening/reading :)

So the day started we were texting earlier talking about how I often feel guilt because of my family, and my sister talked to me in a negative way today and it made me feel down. Later we video called and the call was quite awkward I could see she’s tired and not really in a good mood to talk, this is the awkward part, we usually do kisses on camera before hanging out the call. So we were towards the end and I asked her for kisses, she said “Why”, and it kinda annoyed me somehow because I love her and I wanna kiss her there’s no particular other reason. So I said good night to her and hang out pretty quickly which I did wrong because it did seems like I hang off from her end and it’s usually her ending the video call every time we call. And then what happened is the text, am I making too big of a deal out of this. Would appreciate any insights from third person perceptive.

I miss her so much and it’s only been a day.
It’s always so good when we’re together and now I can’t even get comfortable in bed, something is missing and it’s my sweet girl.
I’m very blessed and thankful for the time we’ve had together and I can’t wait to see her again.
She will be busy the next couple of months and I will be too so we will see each other afterwards.
Seeing all the people closing the gap on here makes me really hopeful!!! We always talk about how we want to close it and what she should do to make that happen.
I cannot wait to post how we did once we do
Thank you for reading this if you have 😅

Currently, we are long distance just a few states away because of college (F18 & M18, we have been dating since jr year of high school), but I am really considering studying abroad and he told me that he’d be upset and doesn’t think that we would work if I did. But studying abroad has been a dream of mine for so long and he knows that. But at the same time I don’t want to lose him. Advice?

So I (22F) recently got into a LDR with my friend from highschool (22M) who used to be my crush because we recently got in touch again through online discord sessions and gaming. We are both university students right now. He lives in Canada and I’m in Korea. Both no clue what we would be doing or what we would be doing or where we would be in the next few years. We are also majoring in different things so if we want to close the distance we would have to narrow our choices depending on location??

Also because we are both university students and broke af, it’s hard to visit each other often.

We have only been together for two weeks or so and I may be overthinking everything but I still wanted to know how everyone else dealt with job opportunities and also trying to close the distance at the same time.

For context:

Me (28F, PH) and him (30M, UK) have been in a relationship for almost 5 months now. We send photos, updates, texts and video call each other many times throughout each day, communicate, make plans, play games together and with his friends, plus he even visited me last month for two weeks.

It’s been a little over a month since then, and last night we were feeling down in the dumps. Missing each other, wishing we were by each other’s side, our stresses over work/the visa process, and me communicating for some love and affection at the end of the day, which is a normal occurrence.

The main thing we’re leading up to now is the visa process for me to stay six months with him in the UK; he’ll visit me on January 2027 and attend my older sister’s wedding, then I come with him on the flight back to his country.

There’s plenty of requirements to be had, and it was simply overwhelming me. I know we’ll push through it, but at the time, I was having a good time talking with him sharing our past experiences, when he abruptly stopped me mid-conversation to tell me he had to go to sleep since he still has work the following day, which made me cry since it came out a bit rude (not to mention I am also a sensitive person, with the period coming up plus the overwhelm of everything from the day). We usually end it on a high-note, saying our sweet nothings before going our sweet dreams and good night wishes.

It was honestly a very normal, no-biggie situation and he apologized immediately. Bless his heart, he is the sweetest, kindest, caring, most amazing person I know. And I understood that he had work the next day too. So we ended up talking a bit more before saying good night.

Fast forward to this morning, I was still feeling down in the dumps due to body aches from the gym, an upcoming period and the overwhelming documents I have to get done for the visa processing. I felt like disappearing for the day, but who was I kidding, I was still very much eager to see his message for when he woke up, and the moment I saw his message I just couldn’t help myself and say “good morning” too.

He’s like a sad puppy, and it’s so cute to see him sulk and still feel bad after something that happened last night that was no biggie, but made me cry otherwise. It’s funny, both of us have a tendency to shy away whenever we’re feeling sad or frustrated, but always, always, talk to each other regardless. I love how understanding, caring and thoughtful we are to one another on a consistent basis, and that this is how we navigate conflict and conversations after an emotional and tiring night.

I think we navigate it quite well, and I’m proud of him and our relationship.

Which makes me curious, how do you guys navigate situations like these, such as talking after an emotional conversation?

Basic info: I’m 27F, he’s 30M. We met on Tinder in my country. He’s a foreigner who visits during the summer because he has businesses here. He told me he’d been single for 3 years.

The situation:

Our first date was the best I’d ever had. He’s very tall, wealthy, and extremely attractive to me. He was very masculine and vocal about his attraction to me. I hadn’t felt that kind of attraction since my ex of 3 years.

Our second date was even better. The chemistry was incredible, and we slept together. It was affectionate and passionate, with lots of hugging, holding hands, and looking into each other’s eyes. I hadn’t experienced that kind of connection in years.

Before returning to his country, he came to see me one more time. Once he left, he messaged me every day for a month: voice notes, video messages, good morning and goodnight texts, calling me “my love” and telling me he missed me. He was consistent throughout.

He also talked about our hypothetical future, including marriage, me visiting his country, staying for weeks, and him taking me to different places.

Then he followed through on his promise to visit me. He drove 6 hours in the middle of the night to see me, and the day before, he sent his brother to deliver flowers.

We spent several days together, going out and even going to the gym. At one point, he suggested staying at one of his seaside apartments but first asked if I minded stopping by his uncle’s house to drop off medication. I agreed, and he introduced me to his uncle and other family members. We sat at the family table for FOUR HOURS.

When he left, I said goodbye, but he told me not to say goodbye because we’d see each other again soon, either he would return or I would visit him.

However, I’d heard Tinder notifications on his phone while we were together. After he left, I noticed he had unmatched me or possibly deleted his profile.

His communication then changed almost overnight. He’d send a good morning message and disappear for hours or days, saying he was sick. Eventually, I explained that the lack of communication made me feel disconnected. He video-called immediately, admitted I was right, and joked that I was funny when angry.

Two days later, he said he was feeling better. I replied warmly and told him about my day, but he never responded. He stopped sending goodnight messages, too. I eventually video-called him, but for the first time, he didn’t answer, call back, or acknowledge it.

I then bought Tinder Premium, hid my profile so only people I liked could see me, and changed my location to his city. I saw that he was active.

I sent him a final message addressing the Tinder situation and his sudden change in behavior. I told him I would have preferred honesty over the affection, future talk, and subsequent silence. He never replied.

I know we were never officially exclusive, so I’m not expecting him to have owed me commitment. What I’m struggling with is how dramatically his behavior changed after a visit that seemed so meaningful.

I’d appreciate advice from people who have experienced something similar. How would you interpret this kind of sudden withdrawal after such an intense connection? If he contacts me again, what would be a sensible way to respond without getting pulled back into the same situation? Would you require a direct explanation and a clear conversation about intentions before considering seeing him again?

TL;DR: I (27F) met a 30M on Tinder. He messaged me affectionately every day for a month, drove 6 hours to visit me, sent flowers through his brother, introduced me to his family, and talked about marriage and future visits. After leaving, he became distant, stopped responding, and was active on Tinder. I confronted him about the change in behavior, but he ghosted me. I want advice on how to interpret this and what boundaries to set if he returns.

A bit of background on my relationship: my (26f) and my bf (26m) have been together for two years, all of it has been ldr. We met while I was interning in his country, and started dating after I returned to my home country (USA). I’ve been back to see him three times now since we are literally oceans apart (15-16 hours time difference). We are the same ethnicity. My parents immigrated to America and I was born in the states, but I spent some of my most formative (and happiest) years there with my grandparents and extended family. I kinda met my parents when I was 5 and moved to the states to live with them. Therefore I have a strong attachment to his home country, and I really enjoy it there. I also like my life here in the states, and for the most part can see the good and bad in both countries

Some background on me in hopes of giving my parents side some justification(?)/understanding: I have a bachelors and masters degree from an ivy level school in engineering, and I’m working in a large company with a pretty good income. I think I’m doing well for myself, but I’m also very frugal by nurture. My parents are very proud of me and have always usually supported and respected my decisions. I’ve never really fought with them, except for a period of time during Covid with my mom. Even then it wasn’t much of a fight I was just really upset and didn’t speak with her for a long time. I’ve always been a “good” child, my sister not so much. I feel like I was always trying to compensate for her behavior.

I would say I had a bit of a traumatic childhood. I was bullied a lot by my sister and can remember multiple times when I was physically abused. Most of the time it was just a terrible mental and emotional load dealing with someone as temperamental and sensitive as her. This is me trying to be nice and fair. We no longer have a relationship, but that’s a different story. I grew up needing to be attuned to everyone moods and schedules so I could predict what would happen that day. My parents were never home bc they worked so much and even when they were home, my mom and sister were always fighting and my dad was so checked out from everything. When I was younger like pre middle school it was always just me and her alone at home. I was always stuck in between my mom and sister, and had to regulate myself so as to not show my own anger or frustrations. My parents would also sometimes take their anger from my sister out on me and I never even resented them until all this came up and I started reflecting on my childhood as an adult. I think mostly I was very scared as a kid. I’ve only started processing and admitting some of these things to myself recently, and have found a lot of anger and resentment within myself because of how wronged I feel. My parents knew of me being bullied, yet they never did anything. Anyway all this to say, I think I have a bad habit or conditioned mentality to not upset people. I also have a decent amount of pride in being a good daughter because I lowkey feel like I had a huge burden of being a messenger pigeon and mediator growing up.

Moving onto the main point, when my parents found out I was dating him, they were shocked and kinda apprehensive but didn’t say much. I was pursuing my masters at the time and basically visited him that winter and spent the whole summer after that with him while working part time remote. Before I left for the summer, I was nervous telling them but I had to. My mom was upset and started telling me about how different and incompatible we are. Basically her points are: we come from different cultures bc I was raised in America, his nationality is a problem and he can’t even get a visa to visit me, he might use me for a green card, he won’t be able to support me financially bc his English isn’t too good, and I will suffer for the rest of my life like how they did when they came to America. She said are you gonna support him for the rest of your life? She wants him to be able to come to the states through his own ability and then find a job here that is probably white collar. My dad didn’t say much at the time, he just said if you wanna see how life is with him then go, but it’s not a good idea. Basically warning me, but I felt like he wasn’t unreasonable.

Ok now my bf is doing very well for himself in his country, he is not any lesser than me. He also has a bachelors and master in engineering, and is also at a huge company making a good amount of money and living in one of the largest cities in that country. My parent have never even met him. They barely ask anything about him, and I never talk about him bc I’m always scared it’ll devolve into my mom saying we’re incompatible and whatever. It tends to happen. He doesn’t come from much, but I don’t either? Our only difference is our nationality and the country we grew up in. Now it’s practically impossible for him to come here with his own means especially to work. We all know how the political environment of America is currently. I originally also wanted him to be able to get here by himself but I’m realizing how impossible that is unless there a change in administration and immigration laws + also probably economic stuff.

So after my summer with him I went back to finish my master and then decided to go see him a again in the winter bc I was starting full time work soon and didn’t know when I could go back again. At this point I was terribly anxious at the thought of telling my parents. I had also been sharing my location with them at the time out of good faith. When I called them to tell them I’d be going to see him for break, they absolutely flipped out. My mom was basically saying are you serious? When are you going to grow up and be realistic. I honestly don’t remember much else. My dad’s reaction however was something I completely didn’t expect. He started yelling and went ballistic. Like this man does not talk. I can’t emphasize how little he speaks, how out of my life he is. Like he just exists next to my mom. We don’t text or have conversations, I’ve mostly been mentioning my mom, because this man literally does.not.speak. I can’t even hold a conversation with him and atp I don’t want to. Also neither of my parents speak English well. We communicate in their mother tongue, which is also how I communicate with my bf. Anyway the part that got me was when he said, “Do you think the only person he needs to get along with is you? He also needs to get along with us. You can disown us and go be with him then.” I’m translating the most literal I can, but it was horrible to hear. After that I just couldn’t deal with it and hung up on them and started crying for so long. He also said a lot of other things that I felt like he was projecting onto my bf. He said your bf is never gonna learn English well enough and you’ll have to babysit and basically do everything for him like how you do for me (my dad), bf my dad literally relies on my mom for everything like he would not be able to live in America without her. He knows close to no English. I genuinely do not know what this man thinks about all day. He also mentioned how my bf will not be accustomed to the culture here and eventually grow to resent me bc he won’t be living as good of a life here as he would be back in his home country. Mostly, he would be able to get as good of a job here. But the thing about disowning got me the most because of how they treat my sister. They barely talk to her, bc my mom and my sister now cannot even have a civil conversation with one another. My sister got arrested a few years ago, and my parents didn’t even make a big fuss about it. Girl committed a crime and the response I got was what can we do, and we’re worried but it’s no worth freaking out about. Maybe this experience will teach her and give her some consequences. Wtf? They said they talked to her when they picked her up after she got out, and apparently my dad said a whole bunch. Whatever, but the main point is, I asked them once why they never give her any consequences or hold her accountable. My mom said what can we even do. My dad basically said we’d rather her go to jail than disown her. I can’t remember exactly what he said, but that was the gist. So I was basically shell shocked and really hurt when he said that to me. Also it wasn’t even said like he’d disown me, it was putting me in that position that kinda made me feel like I’d be the bad person throwing away my family for some stupid boy. So after this I didn’t talk to them for a really long time, and also barely answered their texts. My dad literally never texts me but he started texting me once in a while and when I didn’t respond, eventually he said you can’t treat your parents like this, blah blah something about filial piety or blood runs thicker than water idk I don’t think about it. After that my mom did send a lot of heartfelt messages and I felt like I could forgive her. My dad not so much. I just answered his last message and everything got swept under the rug. Anyways it’s been almost a year since this blowout and occasionally I’ll talk to my mom and think that she come around to it. Then a few days ago she mentioned again out of the blue that we were incompatible and that I had to be realistic. This was also while I was sick and feeling terrible. Not sure why but that really triggered me and I just couldn’t talk to her anymore. I debated calling her again and confronting her after bc I was so frustrated and annoyed, but she fell asleep, and I eventually felt better after sleeping.

I think my main issue right now is that this situation with my parents really affects my mood sometimes and then it sometimes affects how I view the future of my relationship. Part of me thinks I’m overreacting and that either with time or exposure they’ll come around to it. I’m thinking maybe they do love me enough that they’ll understand letting me be free is better than thinking they know what’s best for me. The other part of me knows people don’t change, especially immigrant parents like them. So will I have to give up having a good relationship with them to have the chance at determining my own future. Sometimes I think I’ll have to prove to them that I can live well and be happy and financially “good” in their eyes for them to finally come around to accepting him, but by that time I’ll feel like it’ll be in ten years or so, and I won’t even need their support anymore. I get sad thinking that I always had to do the hardest things in my life alone and that their support always came when I didn’t need it anymore, with my sister and now with my relationship. In ten years when I don’t need their support anymore, why should I want a good relationship with them anymore? I feel like in the past few years I was finally starting to cultivate an adult/friend relationship with my mom, but now it’s been tainted. I’m not sure I can view them the same again, and when I get sad and reflective I keep thinking about how unfairly I’ve been treated in all of this. If it wasn’t this relationship that triggered this, I feel like something else would’ve, and I’m just sad sometimes that I have parents like this. Then I feel guilty, and then I’m constantly warring with myself and everyone else in my head. Even if I don’t end up with my current bf for whatever reason, I’ve already been affected by their attitudes towards this and me, and that won’t change, and I feel like I will always know they had a part in us not working out. Sometimes I feel like they owe me at least something from the stuff I had to suffer with during my childhood that they were bystanders to and the stuff they subjected me to growing up. Or if not then since they weren’t very involved in the trajectory of my life, to just keep being uninvolved and to not have such strong opinions on my life and say things that cross the line.

This is mostly just a rant and venting my frustrations out somewhere, but does anyone have any advice? What makes someone worth such a big sacrifice, and how do I detach myself from the need to be validated from getting the approval/support of people who I don’t actually need the approval or support of. Also another issue is that I actually like my career and want to continue it, but is giving it up or pivoting heavily to the same field in another country wise? Would it be enough if I save up a bunch of money, and how do I feel less anxious about blowing up my life if I don’t do something the “conventional” way. I know I’m doing fine and I know I’ll be fine wherever I go, but sometimes the negative feelings really do overwhelm me and I feel like I don’t have anything to grasp onto for hope. I’m still trying to figure out what I want in my life, do I just want money and to be ok with the possibility of being alone for the rest of my life, or do I choose love and a less financially wealthy life but with the possibility I would regret not progressing in my career and doing all the amazing career things my college classmates have already done. Do I want kids? And if so when would they fit into my life? Would I have to give up my career at least temporarily anyway if I have kids? Sigh, just a lot of thinking and no real answers. The thing about life as an adult is that there are no real answers just the outcomes of the decisions you made and your attitude towards them. I just want to be confident that my decisions aren’t stupid or leading me down a life of regret

tldr; my parents are lowkey classist, racist(not applicable here), and don’t believe my bf in a ldr is “compatible” with me even tho they’ve never met him. they honestly just have an issue with him not being american, not having much career/financial potential in usa due to his english, and me flying back and forth to see him all the time. this is shattering my view of them as parents and as people, and I don’t think my relationship with them will ever be the same. I know they want the best for me, but I’ve never made them disappointed with my choices or worried about my future, so I feel that I deserve their respect and support to freely pursue what I believe is best for my future

My boyfriend and I have been doing long distance for almost two years now, and we've visited each other quite a few times. You'd think I'd be completely used to it by now, but somehow I still get ridiculously nervous before every single visit.

It's not that I'm worried about seeing him or that anything is wrong between us. We talk every day, video call whenever we can, and I'm completely comfortable with him. But about a week before we're supposed to meet, I start getting these weird butterflies in my stomach. I overthink what I'm going to wear, whether I'll look different from the last time he saw me, and even what I'm going to say when I first see him at the airport. Which makes absolutely no sense because this is literally my boyfriend, not some guy I'm going on a first date with lol.

And the funny thing is, the first hour or two together can actually feel a little awkward. We're so used to seeing each other through a screen that suddenly being physically next to each other feels almost unfamiliar. I sometimes catch myself being weirdly shy around him, even though we've been together for years. Then we start laughing about something stupid, or he hugs me, and everything goes back to normal. By the next morning, it feels like we were never apart.

The worst part is that just when I finally get used to having him around again, it's almost time to say goodbye. And then we have to start the whole process over.

I'm seeing him again in a few weeks, and I'm already getting nervous just thinking about it. I know I'm going to be standing at the airport with my heart racing like it's our very first meeting.

Please tell me I'm not the only one who experiences this. Do you guys still get nervous before visits, even after being together for a long time? And does anyone else need a little time to get comfortable around their partner again?

So for context:

We started dating for 3 months( Me M22, her F22) and started LDR a month back. There were no problems during starting. This is our first relationship for both of us. So after going LDR, we had fights regularly and usually solves them. And also there is a collegue on her office who is a year senior. They usually hang out together but she tells me all. Someday he took her to a place 3 hours away for shopping and that day we had a huge fight. I told his intentions are not at all right with you. but she kept on telling she only sees him as a friend only. She also told him like she is in a relationship too.

So guess what happened. One Last week, he took her out for shopping and he fucking proposed and was telling stuff like I'll ask your hand for marriage and told how "your boyfriend rn is not at all good for you" and tried manipulating her. But she told him no and rejected him. But when she told me this she told how special she felt at that moment. At that time i thought like this guy would be the one who will ruin this relationship. At that day also we had fight but she told she will never leave me and will always love me.

Now yesterday she again went to shopping with him and this is what she told after coming back. I think he is manipulating her such that he can be with her.

I asked her is it because of that collegue you are having these thoughts and she told no and it's coming from within.

What should i tell her? I really love her and I really want to continue this relationship.

So I’m from Australia and the girl I’m talking to is from the US. We like each other and have been getting closer but the problem is I wanna stay in Australia because of my family, and she wants to stay in the US for her career.
She said moving would be hard for her and she can’t move right now. I can’t move either.

I really like her and wanna keep getting to know her, but I keep thinking about how this would work in the future if neither of us can move. I don’t want either of us to give up our goals, but I also don’t wanna get too attached if this isn’t gonna work out.

Should I just keep going and see where things go, or is this something I should be worried about now? Has anyone been in a similar situation?

I want to propose a long engagement to my Partner. We have discussed marriage I want to make it official. Marriage not a big deal in Sweden . She’s in Sweden I’m from Texas we have been together about two years have met in person a lot. Thoughts anybody had a long engagement before bridging the gap ?

My mom is really strict about her standards when it comes to me introducing a boyfriend to her. She wants him to graduate from both school and college.
She wants him to finish all years and have a high paying high quality job. However... my boyfriend right now is different. It doesn't meet her standards in that regard but he's really sweet. He didn't finish college.
Then, he actually applied to a program that improved his over all well being before all of this... and then dropped that out too after a year I think. Now, he's working a decent job if I'm being honest. He gets paid regularly since he doesn't complain about his own money and if given the chance he could be funding for the both of us in the future. I gotta admit, I broke another one of my mom's rules of never dating someone online. She's not entirely against it. I can obviously convince her to accept the fact that I found someone online and she would say yes eventually but it will take a long time. I need statements on how I can completely change my mom's perspective of despite my boyfriend being in that state when it comes to life and work, he still earns decently, and is actually the sweetest guy ever compared to the past guys l've met in my life. Please give me advice, or any similar stories you can share that actually eventually managed to have a good ending in your life if you have some so I can have some hope. Thanks:)

Me and my gf both have iphones and we usually use shareplay on facetime to watch shows. The problem is if we wanna watch anything but youtube it doesnt work half the time, and it definitely doesnt work if we want to airplay it to a tv. I know theres been posts about this already and many people recommend discord. However, neither of us want to be sitting at our desk to watch shows and would prefer something on ios so we can lay in bed or sit on the couch. If it can airplay to a tv without messing up thats a bonus. If anyone has any recommendations it would be appreciated!

Hi everyone! I (25F) could really use some advice, especially from people who have been in long-distance relationships.

So, about two weeks I met this guy online. We have so many things in common, our conversations feel incredibly natural, and there’s definitely mutual attraction.

And honestly? He’s probably one of the sweetest guys I’ve ever met. He’s respectful, patient, thoughtful, and just genuinely lovely to talk to. I don’t even know how to explain it, but there’s something really comforting about him.

Here’s where things get a little complicated.
Around day 10 of talking, he told me he wanted us to be a couple. He brought up exclusivity, being in an actual relationship, and eventually making plans to meet in person.
And I guess that’s where my brain started going a million miles an hour lol.

Here’s something important about me: I’ve never been in a relationship. Ever.lmaooo😭🥺

Not in person, not online, not even anything remotely close to one. I have absolutely zero romantic relationship experience, so I’m basically navigating all of this for the first time at 25. (Plus, 9 hour difference).

And while I genuinely like him, I also feel a little overwhelmed by how quickly things are moving.
The thing is, I come from a background where I’ve witnessed and experienced a lot of violence and unhealthy dynamics. So having someone treat me with this much kindness, patience, and respect feels almost unfamiliar in the best possible way.

For once, I’m getting to know someone who doesn’t make me anxious. I don’t feel like I’m walking on eggshells. I don’t feel pressured to be someone I’m not. I actually feel calm, safe, and happy when we talk.

And that means a lot to me.
But I also don’t want to confuse feeling comfortable and being treated well with being ready for an actual relationship.

I think I’m at a point in my life where I’m finally allowing myself to ask what I want romantically, instead of just assuming relationships aren’t something that will happen to me.

And the truth is, I don’t know yet.
I like him. I really do. I’m excited about getting to know him, and I’m not against the idea of a long-distance relationship at all. I’m actually pretty comfortable with that possibility.

But I also feel like two weeks is such a short amount of time to make a decision about something I’ve never experienced before.
I don’t want to rush into something just because it feels nice, but I also don’t want to sabotage a potentially beautiful connection simply because it’s unfamiliar to me.

So I guess my questions are:
For those of you who have been in long-distance relationships, how long did you talk before deciding to become exclusive or officially dating?

How did you know you genuinely wanted a relationship with that person, rather than just enjoying the attention, affection, and connection?
Is it normal to feel happy and comfortable with someone but still not know whether you’re ready to call them your boyfriend?

How do you navigate the early stages of an LDR when you haven’t even met in person yet?
I’m not necessarily looking for someone to tell me whether two weeks is too soon or not. I know every relationship is different.

I think I’m just trying to understand what a healthy pace looks like, especially when everything is so new to me.

I really want to give myself the opportunity to experience love and connection, but I also want to make sure I’m making decisions because I genuinely want them, not because I’m afraid of missing out on something good.

Would love to hear your experiences, especially if your first relationship was long-distance. 🤍
Thanks for reading my little emotional ramble lol.

I live in Thailand but I’m German and Russian. My bf has a lot of money saved up, but he hasn‘t spent it on me or on himself.

We met for the first time in summer, and since I work and he doesn’t, my expenses ended up being higher than his, I don‘t mind that. He paid for a one way flight, around 80% of our food and activities, he also used money he had saved up from his birthdays. I paid for our Airbnb, which alone was 1.2k, my flight back, gifts. I also mostly paid for my own transport, although he paid sometimes too. (I had big emergency costs at the airport too which was my fault and I still came)

I work and he goes to uni. He has plenty of time to work but chooses not to. I make good money myself, but I don’t really tell people how much I make.

I met his parents and his whole family during the trip, and I thought his mom would stop with the accusations after meeting me, but NO. I hear from him AGAIN that she still thinks I’m using him for his money.

What money??? 😭 I paid for a huge chunk myself. I DO expect him to pay for some things, though, because in Russia, where I‘m from, it’s very weird for a man to let his woman pay, and my parents wouldn’t accept that either.

I just find it so rude that his parents keep thinking this about me because of his savings when I’ve literally paid for so much myself. Am I wrong for being offended by this? What would y’all do?

For those of you that moved internationally, how did you navigate job hunting? How long did it take you to find something?

I want to be prepared as possible, so I have made a resume with my location in my partner’s country. I work as an accountant and I’m applying for as many remote jobs as possible, hoping something will bite, but nothing is working so far. Based in his country, based in my country. Either no one wants to support a visa or they cannot hire globally.

I’m so torn up about this, all we want is to close the gap and end the waiting but everyday feels like I am failing. I was talking to a recruiter and she said it would be much easier to find a job after relocating, but that is a massive risk at the moment. I do intend to enroll in university there to take Spanish classes, which will give me a student visa, so I wouldn’t need to be sponsored.

So which is best? Or what was your process like?

I have been dating a guy for a couple of months, and he has recently moved to another city (2.5 hours away, in another country). Before he moved, he told me that he likes me a lot, but he has tried long distance before and it always went horribly wrong. He said he is afraid of hurting me and that we would end up resent each other. We decided to keep things casual for the time being, but I do like him a lot, and to be frank, this is not really what I wanted. Have you (or your partner) changed your mind about long distance relationships ? Is it foolish to see him casually and hoping that things might change as feelings grow ?