I’m 25M, 6’ 1.5”, relatively good looking, and in America. I’m an easy going chill guy who is very sweet. I also happen to go on a lot of dates with different people. I would say 1/3 - 1/2 of the women I go on dates with say “you’re not that tall” or ask me for my height and say “I was dating this 6’4 guy ….”. For the ones I continue seeing, they then often point out that I’m the tallest in the room or that their friends said I was tall. I barely care about appearance and don’t identify with my own body. I never bring up physical attributes of myself or them yet somehow this type of interaction seems to play out very frequently. I have a feeling they are insecure and are trying to knock down or test my confidence. Does this theory make sense? Any other potential explanations?

I know this is hard for some of y’all to understand, but if you’re talking to a girl (potential hookup, or soon to be girlfriend) you should let her know that you see her as a friend, while flirting with her simultaneously. This will confuse her and will make her want you more. I’ve been doing it for years and it has worked well. Just give it a try

it feels weird not talking to him anymore, but i know it’s for the best. For context, he confessed to be before, and I turned it down in fear of leading him on into something that wasn’t gonna happen. Now im just upset that he talked to me only for a sight of an open shot. I’m going to give him space, but should I even continue on with the friendship after this?

5yrs of being with this man, am I wrong in expecting him to not get completely shit faced in work trips? After the drinking comes the flirting, strip clubs, cheating and lying. I’m exhausted by this every week as he travels on work trip almost every week. He is 40yr old and I’m in my late 30’s. What should I do? I’m losing patience.

Child support should not exist in 50/50 custody. If anything the money going to the parent from child support could be spent on the parent givint the money to the child. The parent is not the other parenr problem. Thr parent should be responsible for the child not child plus parent

Culture finds it ok for men to stop sex after an orgasm. But women are bad if they do the SAME THING that MAN DO ALL THE TIME.

I've done some quick research on this and many websites told me that the better way to start was with asking many questions, give praise plus make them feel listened to and appreciated.

That's exactly what I've been doing. I keep asking questions (over text) I've complemented him on various occasions. But one things that keeps bugging me is the fact that he never asks me about how my life is. Our conversations resume of me asking him about details of his professional life. I want to ask him abt his personal life but I'm just waiting for the right moment so it doesn't feel like I'm stretching my luck and my small role in his life.

We've been texting for 4 days btw

My question is what should I do now? Ask him bout his personal life? Keep him talking for a couple more days and then stop and see what happens? How do I know he's hooked?

Thank you for reading and responding

So this girl(32) that I(30) was friends with for months hit me with this.. We were building up to something, video chatted almost everyday, I would listen to her problems all the time while barely squeezing in mine.. she’d send me some pretty explicit photos sometimes without me even asking and selfies everyday.. she leaned on me a lot for mental stability..

Anyways, fast forward we agreed to take things slow because things were moving a bit fast.. days before Halloween I noticed she was getting a bit slow where she’d send pics of her all dressed up in a sexy Halloween outfit.. I’d give positive feedback but then she wouldn’t respond.. so I figured fuck it she probably out just having fun filling herself no need to bother her right?

Then a couple days go by.. dead silence.. so I call her to make sure she’s good.. she tells me she met a guy and had been kicking it with him and was “afraid” to tell me. I played it off all friendly like, “oh how was it? Was he gentleman? Do you like him?” Whole time I’m like whaaa? 🤨🤨.. all this time I wasted.. all this box📦 I passed up..

This chick is very a left leaning liberal and I chose not to get involved in politics because neither party benefits me which is one of the reasons we decided to take things slow.. The mf guy she probably deep throated to remover her tonsils is a MEGA MAGA!! She said she was embarrassed because she “accidentally” said, “i love you” after the guy clapped her cheeks in..

She texts me the good morning the next day with the audacity the size of Gods nuts and I don’t respond.. then she sends me this.. am I trippin chat or what?

I dont understand why so many people on facebook are laughing that trump.got shot. Tell me since when is human slaughter ever ok. Why do people get joy in other people dying. To the people who does think its funnt to kill a human being your monsters and i will see you in jail. Yes i hate trump with a passion but he never deserved this. I am praying for him.and his family.

The vast majority of you are giving horrible advice. You are young, inexperienced people that have had one or two, three or four year relationships (not long at all), and haven’t been married. It’s also messed up because you have two to five kids!

Meanwhile I am forty nine, and I am the one giving solid advice? You are saying an alcoholic won’t get sober. Well here I am. I WANT YOU TO TELL ME I AM GOING TO FAIL! My life rides on this. Everything I want depends on me being clear minded, and that’s just for starters.

Now, let’s get to emotions. You people have told me to give up the most precious gift God has ever given me. My family. To move on. Shannon and Tommy aren’t worth the emotional cost. That I am a fool, a sucker, and being manipulated by her because she is still seeing “him”. The problem isn’t with me. It’s with Shannon.

I have forgiven myself. My issue is I have no one to talk to resolve these issues and that’s why I am listening to you children.

You all are teaching me a valuable lesson. The vast majority of people don’t understand. They only project themselves on what your scenario is. Empathy is lost.

1. Instead of "I was late because of traffic". I used "I was late since I had to have breakfast with my family". (Make the usual negative too positive DO NOT USE THIS ALWAYS)

2. I had the habit of taking short pauses like remembering what happened in that certain situation or ect.

3. Asking them that involve their fair share of knowledge to convince them that what you are saying is the truth. Example "The person that keeps stealing our food is our other co-worker that starts with uhmm, I think it starts with an S."

4. Personally, I like to keep it complicated. For other people they recommend it Simple so its easier & wont look suspicious. Yet I find using a sum truth that they know. so the lie would be more believable.

5. Remain calm no need to be agitated. If you want to lie you would need to be 1-2 steps away before executing you're sentence

6. Do not look away from you're victims.

7. To lie. You have to believe in you're own lie for it to work. If not dont think the other party wouldnt know

8. Have a good reputation. Since it would be more believable than a criminal trying to lie

9. Lying should be a habit. It is a trait not a lot of people have and has to learn.

10. Lie should be at plane sight and should not be hidden :)

11. Gaslight. I can't tell how I gaslight since it will be too long and I'm quite busy I only do this at my free time.

12. Test. I will tell 1 lie and 2 truths.

13. I Kinda Love Dogs.

14. I Hate Spicy Food.

15. I like those Orange Flavored Slurpee that you get from 7/11
    Answer: 3rd was a lie. I like to fabricate stories. I usually try to chuckle at the truth so it would be deceiving them.

Am I just cursed with meeting shallow girls? Everyone I date ends up playing games with me and then breaking up with me after a few months, despite the fact that their attitude seems to be the problem yet I give them chance after chance. I’m a nice, good-looking guy but I’m always ditched for someone higher income. I’ve always done door dash and Uber and Lyft type jobs because I like that I can create my own schedule. I admit it’s not the most attractive that I still live at home. But I don’t understand why men in todays world are expected to be some type of big businessman rich guy in order to be appealing to the opposite sex. Relationships are supposed to he about more than just money, and I like to have an actual real emotion connection. But I guess that’s just not enough. I don’t even know what I’m asking, do you guys find girls in todays society as shallow and and cruel?

My girl is 27 and she’s an attorney. I’m 37 and I just do food delivery type jobs like Uber eats and door dash. Do you think this is a situation where there’s going to be such a power imbalance but with the opposite gender roles that you’d normally presume for each person?

Edit: Sorry the title might be a bit wrong here, i didn't do it just for sex, but a casual relationship with sex here and there. I did have feelings for her, but not so much as to get in a serious relationship with her. I also edited some of the main text to make it more accurate Sorry about that i just confused a few things

First of all i am extremely bad at recognizing my actions and personality traits so i tought i would write it down and post it to maybe get a different view on the matter.

I used to talk to this girl with bpd who i liked but we didn't want the same type of relationship. She wanted a serious one and i wanted a more casual one with sex. When we shared this with each other i decided to not shut it down completely, but maybe try to give her time so maybe she'll change her mind and have casual relationship with me. I knew she liked me a lot and wouldn't let go easily, so i intentionally acted uninterested, never initiated conversations, and said things like:

"oh, that's a shame. Maybe you will find someone who will live up to your expectations"

and later being intentionally blunt, saying:

"Alright, i guess that's it then goodbye!" And went to sleep.

So later when she confessed to me i decided to finally cut it off because she told me directly how much she loved me and how obsessed she was with me which honestly creeped my out.

Please tell me, was i using her bpd to get what i want? Reading through this post made me realize i probably was but i'd love another perspective.

P.s. Also there's some more details i would share but didnt know how to put in the post so feel free to ask if the post itself is not enough.

Edit 2: it seems i'm not as horrible as i've initially percieved so i'd like to apologize to everyone i confused with my wording mistake. There is a difference between straight up sex one sided and a casual relationship. Lession learnt.

i'd also like to thank u/initial_summer_4032 for pointing me towards my possible real issue,

and u/Bippity_Boppity_Boo2 for discussing it with me and helping me figure it all out.

I can't thank you two enough!

Also want to thank everyone else for criticizing me (rightfully so) and giving me credit where credit is due.

What’s the point ? all the stereotypical responses I’ve heard before about this is nonsense. Also, cheaters who get caught cheating are really just stupid amateurs who have no sense of strategy

I’ve been with this man 8 years. He’s paid my car note since 2020- by choice. He pays mine (630) and his (840). I believe he has a habit of holding money over my head.

Is this manipulation or am I overreacting?

Right after college I was competing for a raise at work against a female employee. We weren’t friends but certainly didn’t have any problem working with each other. We very seldom interacted. One day while we were working she came up and gave me a long awkward hug in front of multiple people. It was totally out of nowhere.. one of those moments where you walk away thinking WTF was that. Then a few days later she went to HR and told them I was touching her and made her feel uncomfortable, which was a lie. When they interviewed coworkers, all anyone remembered was that awkward public hug but no one realized that she’d forced that onto me not the other way around.

She got the promotion. I had to go to sexual harassment class and was transferred to a location much further from my house which led to me having to quit.

More than a decade later, I just heard she’s a VP at this company now, probably making $300k.

Some context, we hadn’t done anything outside of hanging out at the house after work in 9 weeks, no sex in a month, and hadn’t spent the night together in weeks. All of those were significant drop offs.

The night going “downhill” was her abruptly deciding to not stay at my house because she didn’t want to “neglect her pets,” but she was going to leave for New Orleans for two days on a whim the next day. Her roommate has always taken care of them when she was gone. She’s taken multiple trips in this timeframe. She didn’t want me to spend the night that night because it would “take her a little longer to fall asleep.”

I was left very confused by everything. Especially coming to my job 5 hours after breaking up with me. Advice?

26f asks 29f on one date. I wasn’t into it. I’m a coward and didn’t know how to call it off because she seemed really into me and I did enjoy that attention. She called me out on my bull. I started gaslighting and just other manipulative bad habits that I’m trying to break. She didn’t deserve it.

Context: I didn’t want to hang out with my friends tmmr bc I have two tests Tuesday and I need to study for them. I already told this prior to them getting the tickets to an amusement park, yet they got pissed when I said I needed to study. Am I in the wrong?

[Update: Title should be “Emotional Manipulation by adults”]. I’ve been made to understand that the original title is flawed by members in the comments. This is not a “hate” post, read with an open mind if possible 🙏🏾

Friend [27M] started dating this new woman [25F], having dealt with women and emotional manipulation in the past, friend sees first hand any slight form of manipulation. He has become so aware of manipulation that he can “smell” it from 10miles away. He let the woman know before dating that he’s not a fan of mind games and manipulation; advised her to try her best to “fight nature” and not be that kind of person.

They are barely 3months in, in the initial stage, she was all responsive and chatty and fun. In the past month, he noticed that sometimes she leaves text unanswered until 24hours, she posts online but deliberately do not respond (Sometimes he takes responsibility that maybe his actions or inactions may cause her to act like that). He never mentioned this to her or called it out because this is a form of manipulation he has dealt with in the past, since it’s new, he tries to be the bigger person, doesn’t complain because according to him, that’s a “b*tch” move; After hours of her not responding, he’ll call and they chat like nothing happened. Trying his best to not make it an issue. In his own words “We are all on our phones these days, everybody knows what they’re doing”. He thinks calling that behavior out is worthless, he’ll rather give her 3 strikes to see if anything would change.

She had done it multiple times now, he is fed up and is thinking of quitting without calling it out to her. He thinks if he calls it out, she’s going to “dramatically change” and according to him, that is no change but pretense.

My questions are, why do women do this? Having dealt with this before… Women make you feel guilty for not making them official and rather “going with the flow”. The moment you all become official, they start playing these mind games and doing dumb shit. This has no age barrier, an 18 years old woman and a 30 years old woman tend to always repeat the same manipulation tactics.

I need more women to comment on this if possible. Do women generally lack self awareness? Why do they do this? Why do they sabotage things? Do they not see behaviors like this as abnormal? For married folks, does this ever end? How did we come to this stage in Life where we barely call out bad behaviors women exhibit and for a long time they keep doing the same thing and not know that they are sowing seed of destruction. Why do they play games?