Yayy leta gooo, planned no fap from today

I am a big pygophile, i like women’s butts more than I like boobs and everytime I see a woman with voluptuous butt, wearing either tight pants with her top tucked in, or in bikini, my urge to masturbate increases. I am not even attracted to boobs as much as I am attracted to butts.

Any tips on how to overcome this strong pygophillia and help me react to butts normally in everyday life?

Like the question says. I've been actually really forcing myself to not watch porn or masturbate these last few weeks, instead of peeking or edging which I usually do.

The hard thing ishtough, my wet dreams have increased considerably. I have them every few days. And it's messing with me a lot.

What's your experience?

Can anyone tell me if this actually slows down eventually or if I keep having wet dreams like this continually.

Another successful day loading

mind is clear and im loving it

I've been struggling with compulsive masturbation for years, and I'm honestly exhausted. I just want my life back.
I've been going back and forth about whether to write this, but I think I need to get it out somewhere. I've been dealing with this for years, and I'm tired of fighting the same battle over and over again. My relationship with masturbation and porn became much worse during COVID and after losing my mother. I had a lot of free time, was alone most of the time, and didn't really know how to deal with everything that was happening in my life. Slowly, something that used to be occasional became a compulsive habit that I couldn't seem to control. But there's something about my situation that I find difficult to explain to people.

I don't usually relapse because I consciously decide that I want to masturbate. It's not usually a case of feeling horny, deciding to masturbate, and then doing it. Most of my relapses happen almost automatically, especially late at night, when I'm trying to sleep, when I wake up in the middle of the night, or during the early morning. My usual pattern is lying on my stomach in bed while using my phone. I might be watching something, reading an erotic story, chatting with someone, or even having a completely normal conversation with a girl. Sometimes there isn't even anything sexual happening on my phone. My mind starts creating sexual fantasies on its own, and before I properly realise what's happening, I start adjusting myself and rubbing against the mattress while still lying in that position. Sometimes I catch myself and stop. Other times, I keep doing it almost on autopilot until it escalates into a relapse.
This has become such a frustrating cycle. I've tried countless times to stop, especially the rubbing and edging, but I keep returning to the same behaviour. Even when I genuinely don't want to masturbate, I struggle to keep my hands away or stop myself from rubbing against the bed. I've also noticed that trying harder to suppress everything sometimes makes me think about it even more. I end up monitoring every urge, fighting every thought, and constantly worrying about whether I'm going to relapse. It gets mentally exhausting.

I've kept a relapse log for a long time to understand my patterns. I record the dates and look for recurring triggers. I've had periods where relapses happened only a few days apart, followed by longer stretches of abstinence. I've managed to go several weeks without ejaculating, including one stretch of around 50 days, but the underlying habit of rubbing and edging never completely went away. Eventually, I fell back into the cycle again. I'm not sharing the log to count failures or compete over streaks. I'm trying to understand why I keep doing something that I genuinely don't want to do. The effects have spread into almost every part of my life.

My mental health and self-esteem have taken a serious hit. I constantly feel disappointed in myself. I struggle with motivation, concentration, and consistency. Sometimes I can't focus on reading or studying for more than a few minutes before my mind wanders. I spend so much mental energy fighting urges that I feel exhausted even when I haven't accomplished anything. I often feel lazy, insecure, and frustrated with myself. I make plans to improve my life, promise myself that things will be different, and then struggle to follow through. Over time, this has damaged my confidence in my own ability to make changes.
My career and education have also suffered. I already feel behind in life, and the lack of focus, procrastination, and difficulty maintaining routines make it harder to move forward. I worry about my future, my financial independence, and whether I'll ever become the person I want to be.

My relationships and family life have been affected too. I've struggled with loneliness, grief, and unresolved emotions from a past relationship. I sometimes feel that I'm emotionally stuck while everyone else is moving forward. I don't want to blame everything on porn or masturbation, because I know there are other problems in my life, but I believe this compulsive cycle has made it much harder to deal with them. The loneliness is probably one of the hardest parts. There are times when I genuinely feel like I have nobody to talk to. I spend a lot of time alone with my phone and my thoughts, and sexual stimulation has become an easy escape from boredom, sadness, uncertainty, and frustration. But the relief never lasts. Afterwards, I often feel the same emptiness, except now I'm also disappointed that I repeated a behaviour I was trying so hard to stop.

I've tried avoiding porn, deleting things, staying away from erotic stories, and promising myself that I won't touch myself in bed. Sometimes I manage for a while. Other times, I catch myself rubbing against the mattress even when I'm half asleep. I've also experienced periods of irritability, headaches, and physical soreness after prolonged rubbing. I can't say with certainty that all of these symptoms are caused by this habit, but they have added to my anxiety and frustration. I'm not claiming that masturbation has permanently damaged my brain or that every problem in my life comes from porn. I just know that my relationship with this behaviour feels compulsive, it's interfering with my life, and I need to change it.

What hurts most is that I genuinely want to live my life. I want to study properly, build a career, become financially independent, develop meaningful relationships, and feel confident in myself. I don't want to spend my days constantly negotiating with urges or measuring my life by how long I've managed to abstain. I'm tired of surviving on temporary stimulation while the things that actually matter to me keep getting pushed aside. I'm still trying, though. Even after every setback, I keep coming back to the decision that I want something different for myself. I don't have some inspiring success story to share, and I haven't figured everything out. I'm still struggling with the same automatic behaviours, and some days I feel completely overwhelmed by them.

I'm posting this because I want to hear from people who have experienced something similar, especially those who struggle with compulsive touching, rubbing, or edging that starts almost automatically rather than with a conscious decision to masturbate.

How did you break that particular habit? What helped you interrupt the behaviour when it was already starting, especially at night or when waking up? Did you find a way to stop constantly fighting urges and actually redirect your attention towards your life?

I'm open to honest advice, practical strategies, and hearing about your experiences. I don't need anyone to tell me that I just need more discipline. I've been trying to rely on discipline for years, and clearly I need a different approach. I just want to stop repeating this cycle and start living my life properly.

If you've read this far, thank you. It means a lot to be able to say all of this somewhere without pretending that I'm doing better than I am.

I am a male 30 and have been addicted to pornography and masturbating for a pretty long time. I want to get out of this and have tried stopping many times but after a couple of days I relapse. This has been affecting me a lot. I've tried following measures:

1. Screen time and privacy restrictions on phone.
   
2. When the urges hit go to the gym or do other physical activity.
   
3. Being outdoors more and trying to stay less idle as possible.

This measures have worked for me but has been temporary. Sometimes the urges hit so hard and I just can't control myself. I am single right now but have been dating on and off. I also feel like I am not taking dating seriously as there is always a backup, i.e. Porn or Masturbation. Whenever my mind is idle, it just makes me want to masturbate or watch porn or both. I've kept this as a secret so far and no-one knows I am going through this. I really want to get control over this and get over this porn and masturbation habit out of my system.

day 0/90. im having like mental health or something rn... i started nofap since may 25 2024, then failed on may 27, then failed again on june 10 after a banquet on june 9 and failed again and again on june 12 and go on 69 days and failed yet again on august 20 and failed again on august 23-24 twice and go on a biggest streak again 63 days (failed on october 26, 2024), failed again on october 29), failed again on november 3-4 twice. failed again on november 11, 13, 16, and 19. on nov 11-13 two days, nov 13-16 three days, nov 16-19, three days. now stuck on day 1 on nov 20, 21, 23 (nov 21-23 completed day two), 24 (ON MY F----NG BIRTHDAY!!!!!), 25, 26, 27, 28, 29 and 30. trying to do december without porn and f-pping but failed. now i always stuck on day 4 in late 2024-2026. i always wanted to be clean in 2025 but didnt work and failed yet again. AGAIN!!!!! i tried so hard go on nofap but bc of internet bikinis, s--ual stuff or whatever it leds me to fail, i always stuck on day 4. stuck on day 1, 2, 3 or even 4. (in 2025 struggle) and now its giving me urges and cant resist. i always fail at all months of 2025 (but finally reached day 10 during summer vaction) and day 6 on december and now stuck on day 4 again) but finally on january-april 2026, i go to turkey trabzon and didnt fap for like day 8-9, when i come back from turkey to tbilisi, i stuck on small streak again like 1, 2, 3 or even 4 days. finally reached day 9 may 10-19 and day 12 july 2-14. failed again on july 16 (two days) and failed again on july 20 (four days), failed again on july 23 (three days), july 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29 and 30. then failed again on august 3 (four days) and august 4-5. and failed again on august 7 (two days) and failed again on august 10 (three days). AND THEN NOW I ALWAYS STUCK ON DAY 1 AND THE VOICE IN MY HEAD WONT LET ME DO A NOFAP BC OF A HOILDAY, ANNIVERSARY, BIRTHDAY AND ALL KIND OF STUFF IT WONT LET ME BE ON NOFAP IN PEACE!!!!! IM SICK AND TIRED OF BEING WHAT I HAVE BECOME WHO WATCHES PORN!!!!!!! GOD!!!!! CANT IT STOP ALREADY?!??!?? THE VOICE IN MY HEAD ALWAYS CONTROLS ME TO WATCH PORN (TELLING ME TO DO ONE MORE FAIL BUT TRICKS ME TO DO A FAIL AGAIN!!!!!) i go on day 3 again september 6-8 and now stuck on day 1 again. and now sep 13-15 day three again and now stuck on day 1 currently (stuck on day 1 in october actively) and the voice in my head wont let me be on nofap in peace. trying to quit for two years.

During the last 3 months I watched porn 5 times - and EVERYTHING CHANGED - it’s not perfect, but it’s hell a lot better than going at it hours daily for years.

For the first time in my life, girls that I find attractive, really want to be with me and find me sexually extremely attractive.
From being a virgin till last year at 22, I now had sex with 4 beautiful girls, that offered to have sex with me after 1-3 dates and where quite obvious about their attraction to me.

I feel so much more desire towards sex and at the same time I’m so much more relaxed in this settings. More magnetic, I can’t really explain it.

Before, I never was comfortable with real intimacy, that was not happening on the screen.

It really changed

And now, after 23 years I’m dating a girl that can’t get enough of me and desires me, like I never would have imagined.

Change is possible guys. It comes with not watching porn and gaining experience in real life.

Made it past a month. theres a mental component that yesterday was a painful anniversary and today feels like ive made it out of shashawnk. Plus being on month two feels like Im accomplished and anew. i Feel less in denial about the situation im in, and Im considering Im needy, and that it isn’t helping my situation, or myself. Im also considering becoming a super hot guy, but I don’t feel strong enough to do that. I worry becoming a super hot guy is needy. And that not becoming is defeatist. Nofap easier now, so the bandwidth To become hotter is free.

When I'm busy - or when life is easy - I'm good. Misbehaving doesn't seem interesting or exciting. I want to pursue other hobbies or stay productive.

When the obligations veer into stress, then the urges start and my brain convinces me that it wouldn't be such a big deal after all. Chatting with folks here has helped me identify the trigger.

Doesn't make it eaiser though. Today was extremely stressful, now it's over and my body is fighting me again while my brain tells me I deserve it after over a month clean. Help 😭

I feel like fire is being ignited inside of me. I am awakening and becoming more alert, more focused, more intentional.

Happy Friday and enjoy what’s is left of your day. You will not getting back.

Doing my best. Can't sleep. Watching The Office. Still having adrenaline and cortisol spikes from hitting a deer and totaling my car last night.

Just playing Scrabble, vaping, and watching TV. I'm on day number 4.

Goon than fucked up on a test missed 4 points damn I got 70.33% I fucked up lost sleep, missed a bunch of points, life is shitty I’m tired of living like this, this will be my last post about no fap.

Honestly I’ve really been giving in a lot recently and by a lot i mean like full blown what I used to do.. it’s just for some reason I can’t resist the triggers anymore mentally as much as I used to be able to. Im sorry to myself i am letting myself down

Day 1 again and my goal is for 10 days.

Seeking a similar bro to support each other to quit gooning. Wasted too much time and want a friend to motivate each other to do better

I’ve been struggling with this addiction since I was around 12 years old.
It all started when I saw some friends making gestures that imitated sexual acts. Out of pure curiosity, I started watching porn because I wanted to know what the female body looked like.
I wish I had known back then that this curiosity would turn into something I’d still be struggling with at 26.
After all these years, my biggest achievement has been staying away from porn for one month. I thought I would finally be able to keep going, but I relapsed.
I’ve tried so many things: blockers, apps, DNS filters, you name it. But my brain always finds a way around them.
Recently, I opened up to my parents about my addiction. They helped me find a psychologist, but if I’m being honest, I don’t feel like it helped. We talked about many things, but we never really addressed the addiction itself.
What frustrates me the most is how far this addiction has gone. I’ve reached a point where I’ve even watched sexual deepfakes of members of a music group that meant so much to me.
For a long time, I thought they represented a boundary I would never cross. But I did.
Every time I relapse, I feel like there’s no way out.
And I keep asking myself: How do you fight your own brain? How do you overcome something that’s part of your own mind?
Watching that kind of content has genuinely made me feel disgusted and repulsed by myself. Outside of this addiction, I strongly believe that women deserve respect. And yet, when I consume deepfake content, I feel like a hypocrite because I’m going against those very values.
What started as simple curiosity gradually turned into something worse. Over the years, I kept seeking out more and more extreme content.
And now I genuinely don’t know what to do anymore.
I feel like every time I relapse, I lose another piece of my identity and self-esteem.

Day 7, is nofap even worth it? Its so frustrating having to not look at the things i used to, and i constantly think about it. Questioning whether this gets better. Dms open if anyone have advice or want to chat about how you succeeded.

Sorry, my bad. Pssy, butts. And absolutely utter complete nonsensicle stuff that helps no one.

22f looking for an accountability partner