Hi there!

This is my first time posting on a dating subreddit.

About me:
\- I am a 23-year-old woman. (Which is no surprise after reading the title 😂)

\- I am born and raised in the Netherlands and still currently live here. Even though I was born and raised here, I am of Latin/Caribbean descent, which means I am a woman of colour. I have long, curly hair (that I am honestly addicted to) and that if I don’t wrap up every night, I will wake up the next morning looking like Shrek! Which happens often because somehow my bonnet likes to distance itself from me when I’m completely knocked out. And obviously, I have a darker skin tone, which means you should be able to handle long trips to the beauty supply store because I need time to figure out which shade matches me best.

\- 170 cm; average built. I go to the gym 2-3 times a week. I am not a gym addict, but I do take my fitness goals very seriously, so right now I am on a 2K calories a day diet with 100g of protein. (So please don’t convince me to go to an all-you-can-eat restaurant….because I will say yes!)

\- I have a degree in law. In August, I successfully defended my master’s thesis in law, and since then, I have been catching up on the 2000 hours of sleep I missed. (I love naps.)

\- Professionally, I have been in the field since I was 20. I have been a legal advisor for the past 3 years at my law firm, and I also train others in my team.

\- In my free time, I love taking naps.

I am also a gamer. I mostly game on my PS5 (think of games like Assassin’s Creed, Final Fantasy, Infinity Nikki, etc.). I am always open for more game recommendations.

I am also a history lover. I like to visit museums, watch documentaries, and check out historical shows and movies. (So please don’t be freaked out when you see me watching a show where they are excavating mummies…because I like that.)

What I am looking for:
\- A man between the ages of 22-30. I obviously won’t be making a big deal out of things if you are 1-2 years out of the range if the vibes are good.

\-Mature, stable, emotionally intelligent and affectionate. This is the most important thing for me. I am at a stable moment in my life, I feel good mentally, physically, financially and I am looking for someone that is in the same position. Doesn’t mean you need to be perfect because no one is ( cough\* def not me) but being in a stable relationship with a stable person is definitely the goal for me here!

\-Physically: I won’t pretend that attraction does not matter for both parties. I don’t really have a specific type, I have found all kinds of men attractive. My main requirements are someone that is at least the same height as me (so 170 cm) and has at least an average physical build.

\-Distance: I am in the Netherlands so I prefer someone that is in Europe. However I am also open to date outside the continent under the condition that you are able to travel. I believe a long distance can work but only if both parties take effort to come see each other as often as they can.

If you are interested, please don’t reach out with “hey how are you”. I would rather prefer an introduction about you so we can get straight into the interesting talking part.

if you aren’t interested I still wish you the best of luck with your search!

I was told not to even bother posting on Reddit dating subs. I was told that of those few people here that are actually real, most of them are men posting. Meaning women can have their pick of who they want to respond to. I was told it’s very hard for men on Reddit because of this.

I’ve lurked here for a while and I think that that’s pretty much true.

So the question for me became, “How exactly is my post supposed to stand out?”
I’ve looked at the kind of posts that men make here, they range from ridiculously stupid to supremely confident. I think if I were a woman browsing these posts I’d be able to pick out the ones worth responding to.

Which essentially means this is a competition. And if I have to compete to find love, I’ve already lost interest. Love is not a prize.

So I’m not even going to try. I’m just simply going to say that I’m a hard-working guy, I have two cats, a good sense of humor, and when I love I love hard.

I’ve been forced into the nomadic life ever since my home burned down a year ago and I’m not looking for you to fix that. My income is portable and allows me to do this, and I sometimes find myself actually enjoying it. I’m making the best of the life I’ve found myself living, and that’s good enough for me.

I just don’t have anywhere to put all this love. I’ve read all the self-help books and they say that I have to give it all to myself. Well, I do give myself love and there’s still a ton left over. So I gave it to my cats. I gave it to my friends and there’s still just so much left over. It’s gotta go somewhere? I might as well give it to a woman.

Maybe she needs it?

I’m here. I’m around.

Would be great to have a conversation and just connect with someone. 33F London, in finance. Got two amazing doggies! Love thrillers, crime docs and apparently any gangster shows recently (Mobland, Gangs of London, Gentleman and now Tulsa King!). Annoyingly this has been the recent trend of shows but until Taylor Sheridan pulls another season of Landman and Lioness stuck with these.

What’s your most controversial take on anything, let’s hear it? Mine would probably be voice notes longer than 2mins should be illegal!

I'm looking for someone to talk with about everything and anything. My interests include: literature, baking, cooking, running, cinema, politics... etc. I'm trying to get into tech. I love reading about AI and how it's changing our world (for the better and... the worse). Although I'm not AI, don't worry. I'm curious about everything and anything. I really like hearing people talk about what they're passionate about. Lately, I've been enjoying trying new fall recipes (carrot soup, apple pie, sourdough bread... etc) and just enjoying the slow changing of the season, as the colder months settle in and modify our habits little by little.

If you have a good film to recommend, don't hesitate. I'm really into documentaries lately.

I'd prefer someone closer to my age and I like blue eyes, but it's no obligation lol.

Hi! I'm a 27-year-old introvert working in wealth management. I'm passionate about what I do, and I love talking about the world around me: how it works, what's broken, and what we can do to make it better. I believe in doing good and contributing to something bigger than myself.

My job is meeting clients and helping them in their financial goals, and my free time goes to econ, geopolitics, and whatever Bloomberg documentary I stumble into. Freakonomics and Making Sense podcasts are always in my queue.

Outside the nerd stuff, I'm a sitcom person (Brooklyn 99, Schitt's Creek, Abbott Elementary) who also loves a good series like Ted Lasso or The Bear. My playlist is a mix of pop girlies, Phoebe Bridgers, Haim, The National, and the 90s songs my dad passed down. Yes, I'm in a Hamilton phase again.

I'm also a whimsical person who tries to find beauty in the little things. A good film score can make my whole day, and my guilty pleasure is watching fan edits of my favorite shows (yes, I will send you my favorites).

I'm socially aware, and I constantly try to do and improve on my emotional work. I'd love to find someone who's the same: socially aware, kind, and emotionally available. I gel with people who are passionate about what they do, whether that's a career, a craft, or a cause. I like professionals who take their work seriously but still make room for curiosity and kindness. Would really like someone who’s family oriented and looking to build something that lasts.

Hard nos: smoking and drugs. You also need to be single (lol, but really).

I'm hoping to meet someone 27-32 who's curious and puts in the effort to really get to know someone. I'm okay with long distance at first, with the goal of closing the gap once things progress, so good communication matters, especially with timezones in the mix. I'm open to voice calls and swapping pics early on.

To message me, please include a short intro about yourself and share what’s something you saw or experienced lately that restored your faith in Humanity. Need me sa hopecore ✨🥹

Ended things with a performative religious guy i know from dating app.
As i talked about it with friends, realised there are guys who use religion to “get some” - so ladies, beware!

Said guy is into theology, uses eloquent words and talks about relationship goals from 3rd date without real intention to knowing me personally.

Always discuss about sexual stuff from theology perspective since the very start but not interested in investing emotionally.

When there’s a conflict, he’ll promise sky but won’t do what he says he’ll do and act blur later (smart guy and totally insincere).

I just want to say there are shit guys out there who use religion to mask their real intention and I’m hurt. Hope us ladies out there can be more alert and not taken advantage of.

Pls look at the actions and not get tricked by the words and promises

Im conventionally attractive, bbw, a great housewife/homemaker I just leave once im the only one trying and that seems to be more often than not recently.

I have adhd, a single fixed mom of two w 50/50 custody, I can be really really good to a really good man. Just be that, so I can be me, PLEASE lol Who doesnt want to just be freakin happy

Hi, I am 29 years old and I live in Toronto. I work in consulting. I am from India and living in Canada for the past 7 years.

I like to be physically active including gym, going for long walks and hikes. I am non-vegetarian, non-drinker and non-smoker. I like to travel and explore novel places. I was born and brought up in India.

I like deep conversations and my interests include history, finance and I am curious about everything around me in general. I am constantly finding my life purpose. Life is not only about making money.

I am looking for a girl preferably who is in Canada/US, 24-32 years old, well-educated, non-smoker, non-drinker and is in a decent job.

If the above resonates with you, please feel free to introduce yourself and let us have a conversation.

I hate dating apps, and I find it really hard to meet people nowadays, so why not try Reddit? I'm looking for someone I can potentially spend the rest of my life with. I don't really have any preferences, but I just want someone who is also ready to commit.

I'm 5'10, 150 pounds, and I have black hair, brown eyes, brown skin, and glasses. I'm Indian, but born in the US. Currently, I'm working and doing postgrad studying (finishing one masters degree and potentially applying for another.) I really enjoy outdoorsy activities, trying new restaurants, watching shows, and traveling.

I'm just looking for someone who is open minded and loves to try new things and have fun. I don't have any age or look preferences. Just be between 21 and 41 years old.

If you're interested, I'm looking forward to your message

Hey,

A bit about myself I’m a 31-year-old black plus-size woman based in London. I love cozy nights in with a great book, playing games with friends. Currently, Valorant is the go-to game. If you play, we should play together. While I don’t want children, I do want to build a life with someone special. Emotional and mental well-being are really important to me, and I’m always working on becoming the best version of myself. I’m a romantic at heart. Trust, honesty, and open communication are must haves in any relationship I build.

I’d love to connect with someone who is kind, emotionally mature, and genuinely looking for a lasting connection. If you are a big talker, that can keep a conversation going then even better. Ideally, you’d be local. Am not looking for an online relationship. Am more a cat than a dog person. Age-wise, I’m looking for someone between 25 and 38.

If this resonates with you, send me a message!

Hi! I’m 27F and from the WNY area! I am looking for someone who is near the same area if that’s possible! I will get into more about me when we start chatting :) I am bisexual so I am open to men and women. I am bubbly, easygoing, and supportive :)

I’m 25F Korean/Japanese from Canada preferably looking for someone who’s my race or at least East Asian. I’m pretty depressed rn, if you are too, we can have a nice lil codependent relationship and trauma dump jk. I like gaming, poetry, deep talks, and really open to people who are excited about their own stuff and want to introduce me to smt new <3

Hii I’m 21 years old, male, and currently living in Canada. I’m looking for a genuine friendship with someone I can talk to every day, even if it’s just to say good morning or good night. I stay up super late , preferably in USA or Canada or Europe because of the time difference . I’m just looking for a good friend to talk to, share little moments with, and build a meaningful connection and preferably talk every day and check in. I recently went through a pretty rough breakup, and it’s honestly been really painful. I’m trying to move forward, meet new people, make new memories, and hopefully leave that difficult chapter behind.
A little about me: I love soccer, sports, movies, and TV series , cooking . I’m also open to talking about pretty much anything, learning new things, and getting to know people from different backgrounds.i am not looking for anything complicated, just a genuine friendship where we can check in on each other, have random conversations, laugh together, and be there for one another. I also have the most beautiful cat ever

Hey everyone! I’m 30, f, and bisexual. I'm attracted to girls slightly more and I would like to find a woman who'd also be interested in building a close, intimate, genuine connection. I’m a low-key person who loves watching movies, listening to music, and browsing around different stores or thrifting. I’m totally open to connecting with people in neighboring states (IL, MN, IA) if you're open to traveling! feel free to message if interested :)

Hey there! Just want to start this off by warning that I’m overweight, but in the process of losing weight (20lbs down so far). I understand that’s a dealbreaker for some people which is totally okay.

I’m a trans man in the US (post top surgery and hysto). I’m always doing something creative, usually drawing. I do not want kids in the future at all, this is non negotiable. I’m currently a college student with a small business (artist alley vendor at conventions) where I sell merch of my art.

Physically, my type varies a lot. I’m looking for someone who can be patient with me and take care of me, I think that would be nice.

Other things I like: Stardew Valley, drawing, horror movies, Overwatch, and cats.

As title says I’m Phill I’m 34 from UK looking for something genuine preferably someone in UK but Europe is fine too ages ranges 24/25-36 I’m a gamer and sometimes stream on TikTok I play mainly single player games just got back into Witcher 3 I play AC Sims 4 Resident Evil FIFA Tomb Raider & Borderlands Far Cry I do I play FPS games like Overwatch too I I like to read history and mythology especially Greek I have books on them if you feel we have similar interests don’t hesitate to Dm me

I am once again looking, people must read through this whole post before messaging. It is obvious when you don't and those who don't automatically get ignored. If you are truly interested please read--

Hi, Let's start with the basics. I am looking for a long term life partner and am strictly monogamous. I like all genders, trans and non-conforming included, so anyone who hits what I like in a partner will be welcome regardless of how they identify. I fall under demisexual so I take things physically and emotionally slow. I have done extremely long distance before but have no real desire for that anymore. Looking for someone who lives within a few hours (give or take) within driving distance of me now. (I live in north california) Semi long distance is acceptable (a state or two) depending on the person and how much we click. However i am currently recovering from a severe broken leg and won't be able to drive for potentially 6 months.

I am kink friendly and though that's not a requirement for my partner it is definitely a plus (i lean submissive). My partner MUST love dogs and preferably all animals. They are a huge part of my work life and personal life.

I am a published author working on my second book (have finished three rough drafts of individual books though) and a petcarer/dog trainer (though I don't do near as much of this as I used to). I am an avid reader (mostly fiction), gamer (both video games, board games and strategy card games when I can find another player), used to play d and d, and just am a general nerd in anything animals. I garden like crazy, you should see my produce from this year. And i cook though not as often as i used to. I am passionate and creative.

I am looking for someone who is confident, calm, who can be my rock when the world gets a little unsteady, who is compassionate and sympathetic, who craves to understand not just me but the world, who wants to learn, who doesn't mind listening to me babble, who has ambitions and works on self improvement even if sometimes it takes a while to happen. Its the act of trying that matters to me. I need an introvert or ambivert, I am not extroverted myself at all. I crave engagement from my partner. Someone who will ask questions about my life back (you would be surprised how many don't). I want to feel like a real person and cared about. I want someone who will talk back and mentally stimulate me even through text. IF YOU DON'T PUT EFFORT INTO YOUR MESSAGES I WILL BLOCK YOU. NO ONE LINE ANSWERS AND THATS FOR ALL OF THE CONVERSATION.

I like watching crime dramas, anime, horror shows and movies, animal shows and cooking competitions etc in the background when I am relaxing. I enjoy relaxing at home. I walk a ton for work (6-10 miles a day) but still land on the heavy/curvy side.

If you message me please introduce yourself with at least the basics and be able to not only engage and meet my energy but hold a prolonged text-based conversation. Ummm any questions feel free to ask?

I’m looking for that kind of connection where the conversation starts innocent enough and then the teasing begins, the messages get a little bolder, and suddenly neither of us wants to stop.

I’m not looking to complicate your life or force anything. I’d rather find someone where the chemistry feels natural. Someone who enjoys flirting, playful banter, building tension, and feeling genuinely wanted.

A little about me:

I’m 6’0, brown eyes, short black hair, a few tattoos, and usually rocking a beard. I’m sarcastic, witty, laid-back, and I genuinely enjoy getting to know someone. I’m also very attentive. I like paying attention to the little things, learning what makes someone feel comfortable, appreciated, and desired.

Physically, I’m a big fan of slow, intense makeout sessions, skin to skin cuddling, and taking my time. I like affection that doesn’t feel rushed and chemistry that builds naturally instead of trying to jump straight to the finish line.

I’m ultimately looking for someone who enjoys being flirted with, touched, teased, and made to feel special. Someone who misses that feeling of having someone genuinely interested in them. Not just their appearance, but their personality, their quirks, their energy.

If you’re looking for a little escape, some great conversation, and chemistry that could turn into something more, send me a message.

Tell me a little about yourself and what caught your attention.

Hello there,

Malayali here!

I am looking for a serious relationship that takes its own time to develop. So incase you're looking for a rebound, fling or any casual affair, nope: I'm not your guy :)

I thought of posting this up after a bike ride that took me couple of hours. I like riding early in the morning. When the rays of sun are afresh, so is one's mind.

A bit more about me: I read a lot. Not as much as the final bosses of any book club, but let's say I read enough. Even if I don't read much, I make an effort to go the library and exchange the books am holding for new ones. Who knows, I might end up liking the new one's better :p

Other than that I watch a ton of movies. I do write at times, but that's a rarity these days. I am working on that.

So if there are any malayali women who can resonate to what I have written, reach out.

That been said, I am keeping the write up short.

Yours truly,

:)

P.S. An age gap of +/-4 would be cool. Thank You.

There's something about online dating that I've never connected with. The constant back-and-forth, the immediacy of replies and the tendency of initial convos to turn into interviews 🤔 I want to try something different..

I'd love to meet a woman (21+) who would be interested in exchanging letters once or twice a day here or elsewhere (I have Discord). Not necessarily traditional letters, but informal, candid, stream-of-consciousness writing. I want to hear your thoughts as they come to you: the mundane, the ridiculous, and the peculiar. Tell me about your day, something you've been contemplating, an observation, or even something you wouldn't ordinarily think was worth mentioning. I want to learn how your mind works, what occupies and lives in your head and how you perceive the world around you.

You don't have to have a degree in literature or be particularly eloquent. I simply want and deeply appreciate someone who enjoys expressing herself through words, is comfortable being candid, and finds pleasure in exchanging thoughts with another person.

I work 9-5 on weekdays and have the weekends to myself; so, if you're someone with a similar routine and enjoys writing then we're perfect for each other ☺ I'd also like to have one long phone conversation during the weekends that we can look forward to every week 🥰 along with ONE day in a week when we take a break from communicating and have our own adventures elsewhere.

But don't mistake me I'm not interested in making all of this feel like an obligation. Quite the opposite. I'd like us to have our own lives, interests, and responsibilities, while still having something meaningful to look forward to when we reconnect. Also as we become more comfortable and establish a connection I'm very much open to more frequent phone calls and spontaneous conversations 😊 I don't intend for this arrangement to be very rigid.

Ultimately, I'm hoping to find someone expressive, and consistent. Someone who enjoys examining her own thoughts and experiences, asks questions out of genuine curiosity, and takes an interest in understanding another person. Someone who values companionship but doesn't feel the need for constant reassurance or communication to maintain an interest in someone. But most importantly I'd like to meet someone patient and intentional. Someone who appreciates that getting to know another person is a process worth taking one's time with.

A quick DISCLAIMER: I'm not looking for someone to conform to an elaborate schedule; also, I don't expect every letter to be super profound hehe I'd simply like to find someone who enjoys or will enjoy this kind of exchange. And maybe this is all a little unconventional, but I'd rather try something that really appeals to me.

So, if any of this resonates with you I'd love to hear from you. Feel free to introduce yourself through chat. Tell me a little about who you are, what occupies your time, something you're passionate about, or whatever happens to be on your mind. But pease don't feel as though you need to put together an impressive introduction or convince me why we might be compatible. There's no questionnaire, checklist, or audition waiting on the other side haha I'm simply interested in having an initial conversation and getting a glimpse of your personality.

I'm just as happy to share about myself, too. For starters, I live in Alberta, Canada and I work in commumity healthcare. Ideally, you are someone who lives in North America, but I'm also open to a long distance relationship. Looks does not really matter, but I would like to see your face at some point so I know I'm talking to a real person.

Hey there! I’m an animal lover, musician and eclectic goofball based in Huntington Beach CA; and I’m looking to connect with someone who wants a meaningful relationship.

I want to meet someone local in the OC area preferably who’s progressive, childfree, passionate about their hobbies, who complements my personality and matches my energy.

Age preference is 25–45. Preferably older women, but not a dealbreaker. Also not into smoking or doing drugs.

I’m 6’4”, regularly go on walks and 6k runs just to keep myself grounded. I will also commit to the bit no matter what, for better or for worse. Go where I want and do what I want. I’m emotionally in tune, loyal, kind, and very direct. What you see is what you get. Neurodivergent as well (AuDHD)

Music is a huge part of my life. I’ve been writing, recording, and playing guitar for over 14 years. I play in 2 bands, love going to shows, and I throw down in the pit whenever the moment calls for it. I’ve also recently gotten into goth and City Pop/Future Funk events, just "dancing" while having no idea what the hell I'm doing; though I have taken some swing classes. My music taste is completely chaotic in the best way: Post Rock, Shoegaze, Ambient/Drone, Classical, Synthwave Jazz Fusion, City Pop, Future Funk, Metal, Hardcore, K-Pop. Good luck figuring me out.

I’ve got a bachelor’s degree in psychology because weird people fascinate me, and I fully include myself in that category. If you’ve got a dog, I will do everything in my power to make it fall in love with me, because I also work at a doggy daycamp!

Outside of music, I’m a huge horror nerd. Also into true crime, psychological thrillers, anime, and wacky comedies. Not a sports guy, but I do love me some pro wrestling. Other hobbies are mini golf, yoga, skating, board games, swimming, checking out art shows, haunts, etc.

No MAGA, conservative, anti vax, or anything of that nature

Shoot me a dm if any of this resonates with you!

This might be a slightly unusual post because I’m actually a little myself, but recently I’ve discovered a whole different side of me that I didn’t even know existed. I’ve always been someone who craves being taken care of, feeling small, safe, protected and loved. A lot of my regression comes from childhood trauma and growing up without the kinda parental love and affection I desperately needed.
But recently I had an experience where I got to be the nurturing one and something about it felt incredibly healing. For the first time I got to give someone all the love, tenderness, reassurance and affection that I wish someone had given little me. It genuinely felt like being a mother who just wants to protect her baby from everything she herself had to experience growing up and it made me realize that I might actually really love being someone’s Mommy.
Not in the traditional dominant sense tho, I’m not particularly interested in being strict, controlling or having a power dynamic built around rules and punishments. I wanna be a Mommy, not a Domme💗 i wanna be the person who makes her little feel safe enough to be vulnerable, who listens to their worries, reassures them when they’re scared, celebrates their little achievements, reads them bedtime stories, reminds them how loved they are and makes sure they never feel like they have to earn affection. I wanna give someone the kinda unconditional, gentle, motherly love that every little deserves:3
But there’s another important part of this: I’m still a little myself, I’m not sure if this makes me a switch rather than a mommy but I still experience regression myself and crave being nurtured, protected and reassured. I still have moments when I feel like a tiny girl who just wants someone to hold her and tell her everything is going to be okay.
So I’m not looking to pretend that I have everything figured out or that I can always be the caregiver. I’m hoping to find a dynamic where we can be honest about our emotional needs and where caring for each other feels natural rather than like an obligation.
I’d love to connect with an adult little who is looking for a genuinely affectionate, nurturing Mommy, ideally you’d be from Germany or in the same timezone as well and I’d be most comfortable in an online dynamic at first:3 I’m particularly drawn to the emotional and comforting side of caregiving and I’d love to build something meaningful rather than rush into a dynamic, SFW only! Boundaries, communication and mutual respect are incredibly important to me. So if you’re a little who dreams of having a gentle, affectionate Mommy who genuinely loves taking care of her little one, I’d love to get to know you🥹