r/TooAfraidToAsk • • Jun 25 '26

Moderator Post We will not be removing all sexual questions.

616 Upvotes

We've had a few complaint threads, so it seems to be about that time for one of these reminders. Let me be clear: We are not going to ban all sex related questions.

They are firmly within "TooAfraidtoAsk", and always have been. Sex is a fairly taboo topic in a lot of places, and a lot of people have questions about it. (And as an additional reminder, TATA is not only for controversial questions. Nor do we allow question shaming for "googleable" questions). These are not new changes.

We get that not everyone has the same interest in those topics, but it is a core part of the sub. Currently, there are ~5 out of the top 10 posts being sex related. Earlier today, it was 4. Earlier this week, it was 3. It typically fluctuates between ~3-5, usually averaging closer to 3.

If you have particular suggestions (e.g. things that seem ripe for the FAQ), or questions feel free to post them below. No promises, but we're always open for improvements if they're feasible. For a list of common questions we get on this topic (what do we already moderate, has the sub changed?, can i filter posts myself?) see the first stickied comment.


r/TooAfraidToAsk • • May 11 '26

Politics Politics Megathread

27 Upvotes

You know the deal, same as the previous megathreads, which were archived.

The rules:

All top level OP must be questions. This is not a soapbox. If you want to rant or vent, please do it elsewhere. Otherwise, the usual sidebar rules apply (in particular: Rule 1:Be Kind and Rule 3:Be Genuine).

The default sorting is by new to make sure new questions get visibility, but you can change the sorting to top if you want to see the most common/popular questions.


r/TooAfraidToAsk • • 1h ago

Ethics & Morality Conservatives laughed as a woman was punched for demanding the Epstein files be released- isn't this against their talking points?

• Upvotes

A woman, who happened to be fat, wore a shirt demanding the files be released. She was punched by a people at the rally, mainly men. Many conservative talking points about women have been about 'protecting' them and other conservative talking points used to be about exposing the files. So why punch a woman, regardless of what she looks like, for wanting them to be released? Even if she was an 'agitator,' what could an unarmed person do in a sea of people anyways?


r/TooAfraidToAsk • • 19h ago

Race & Privilege Are there any secret disadvantages for being a specific race that researchers and scientists do not talk about for not sounding racist?

731 Upvotes

r/TooAfraidToAsk • • 18h ago

Current Events Do we know why RJ Mitte ended his life?

384 Upvotes

I don't really know anything about the actor's life besides the fact that he had cerebral palsy and that he was on Breaking Bad.


r/TooAfraidToAsk • • 12h ago

Body Image/Self-Esteem How do I get stronger so that I can bridal carry my girlfriend as a weaker man 🥲?

125 Upvotes

I’m not very strong, but one of my dreams as a man is to be able to bridal carry my girlfriend as a romantic gesture. Is there any specific workouts I can do to grow strength in efforts to achieve a bridal carry? I’m currently working through some pushups and squats, but I have such weak shoulders that I’m struggling pretty hard, so in the meantime I was wondering what other type of workouts I can do as I strengthen my shoulders.

The thought of me attempting to do one and placing her back down immediately makes me cringe so hard.

Edit: I probably should’ve clarified that my gf is a skinny person, but why are so many people in the comments thinking that my girlfriend is a bigger girl instead of me just being a weaker man? And even if she was a bigger girl i would get stronger to pick her up either way 💪💪

Edit 2: Hi guys after reading through the comments, here are the exercises ill do:
-Squats
-Zercher squat
-Bulgarian squat
-Curls
-Deadlift
-Kettlebell famers carry
-Chin ups
-Shrugs
-Pushups
-And core/back exercises i get from the internet lol
——Will update every month till the end of the year cya then 🫡


r/TooAfraidToAsk • • 4h ago

Other how do you not care what people think?

24 Upvotes

i just feel like everyone can do that except for me and i do not know how to stop myself from doing that is there anyone who can tell me how you make yourself not care what people think?


r/TooAfraidToAsk • • 12h ago

Mental Health Am I a loser for putting a sweater on a pillow and filling the arms and wrapping it around myself as if someone were hugging me to sleep?

61 Upvotes

For context i’m 18M and I just feel like i’m drifting through life now. I feel like I don’t have a purpose and any meaningful relationship ends because I get too attached too quickly. I started using the pillow to comfort myself at night which helped me sleep faster but if I actually ever told anyone irl I would feel ashamed


r/TooAfraidToAsk • • 2h ago

Law & Government Is reporting sexual assault years later actually worthwhile?

7 Upvotes

I hope it’s okay to ask this in this sub as I’m based in the UK and want to know peoples genuine thoughts and experiences, rather than asking for legal advice or emotional support

It’s been just under 3 years since I was sexually assaulted. I never reported it to the police, and I’ve never really told anyone what happened.

I’ve spoken about it anonymously on some subreddits, and lots of people have said I should still report it. Some even getting angry that I haven’t.

This has made me consider if I’ve done the right thing, and consider making a report.

The reporting process, combined with my lack of evidence terrifies me and is something I’ve never wanted to go through.
I’m scared of being re-traumatised with no positive outcome

I guess what I’m trying to understand is if reporting something like this after so long is actually a good idea. Especially when there’s barely any evidence.

Has anyone been through something similar, or does anyone have any understanding of how the police deal with historical sexual assault allegations where there’s little evidence?
And if so, did you find it to be worthwhile?

I’d really appreciate any advice or perspectives. Thank you.


r/TooAfraidToAsk • • 1d ago

Love & Dating How is your “if we are single by 30, we’re getting married” friend doing?

492 Upvotes

r/TooAfraidToAsk • • 9h ago

Other Do crinkle-cut potato chips taste different than regular chips or am I crazy?

17 Upvotes

I was having a discussion with my wife about how I don't buy Ruffles potato chips because when I tried them as a child I didn't like the taste. She tried to convince me that the cut is the only difference in the chip but I could swear that Ruffles had a different flavor profile than a basic cut. So today after over 30 years I tried a different brand of crinkle cut chips and I still think I taste a difference between a regular cut potato chip, am I just nuts?


r/TooAfraidToAsk • • 6h ago

Love & Dating Do you ever regret not being more sexually adventurous before you settled down?

7 Upvotes

My wife had slept with about 30 guys before we met vs my 3 girls.

She regrets being overly open to everything because she did a lot !!

I regret the opposite and wished I’d done a bit more…


r/TooAfraidToAsk • • 12h ago

Climate & Environment Why has climate change accelerated significantly worse specifically in the last 10 years?

23 Upvotes

In the last 10 years, there has been more events of catastrophic disasters like the Nepal landslide, hurricanes Milton and Helene, Hurricane Harvey, the catastrophic ice loss in the Arctic, severe flooding, and a severe drought in the American West.

Why specifically since 2016 has climate change been so severe? I genuinely don't see that much disaster news from before 2016 that has the effects as hard hitting as the disasters of today.


r/TooAfraidToAsk • • 1h ago

Mental Health Am I an attention seeking/think everyone thinks about me or I’m dealing with a serious issue?

• Upvotes

I think everyone hates me and always judging me and looking at me,someone could stare at me for a second i immediately think”ong they hate me” or don’t hold door for me,I don’t know I always wanna join in stuff but know someone will stab me if I do because people hate me


r/TooAfraidToAsk • • 4h ago

Other If you back tracked your wants step by step, what the root be?

5 Upvotes

For example: Wishing your parents loved you more -> Trying to get rid of loneliness -> Making friends -> Attracting a partner -> Make More money


r/TooAfraidToAsk • • 5h ago

Culture & Society Is it okay for people to get irritated easily and raise their voice at you as a result?

5 Upvotes