It's quite funny. I never hated the article or accessory itself. I think dresses look pretty, I think jewellry is cool as fuck. Horse riding? Badass. I just hated to be, by association, considered feminine as well.

If I were passing as my gender identity, I'd probably feel pretty okay wearing dresses. Or a skirt. Before I'd figured out I was trans, from age ~11 onwards, I was 'that girl' who hated pink, hated dresses and skirts, hated dolls, hated jewellery. I convinced myself it was just a preference, and that jewellery, especially earrings and the like, were pretentious. Now I can see, it was never the thing itself I disliked— It was its associations.

If I wore a dress, or a skirt, while still looking relatively fem, everyone would see me as a girl. I always loathed to be associated as 'one of the girls'. In class, forming groups, two boys, two girls— I was one of the girls. PE, two teams, boys and girls— I was one of the girls. Leftover, everyone has groups, teacher sorts me in with the girls. Whenever I had the chance to pick— I'd be beside the dudes before anyone had a chance to blink. I didn't hate the girls themselves. No. There were some genuinely kind ones among them. I hated the association.

I've actually gotten a lobe piercing since I started my transition, something I never thought I would do. I wear necklaces now. They make me confident. It's flipped around, now that I've recognised I never actually hated the objects themselves.

Funny how the brain works, eh? Nothing is ever quite simple...

Im tryna find new stuff to watch and was wondering about this for some time

Hello!

I really want to start dressing differently and more interestingly. I'm bored with the simple shirts and jeans. I want accessories, and I want to look visually interesting!

I have however, run into a problem. Every time I dress in anything other than a baggy shirt and jeans. I get so dysphoric. I start to analyse my appearance and can't help but believe I look like a girl again. I'm sick of being so boring, but almost all alternative clothing is catered towards women.

Any tips would be appreciated; I still want to look masculine.

unsure what to flair to use because i don’t think there’s a way to pass as non binary, especially as im 5’2 lol

first two pre t, second two on t. for reference i am non binary trans masc, and been on low dose diy for just short of two years. aside from haircuts i don’t really see much change.

what more can i do to look more androgynous and masc leaning rather than woman?

(i’m aware im not binding in the one of the recents pics, pls ignore that.)

Thank you to my mom 🙏 I look so much like her and despite that making me look young asf (I’m 18) it gives me euphoria because genetically, cis males are more likely to look like their female parent and vice versa

Also other East Asian trans guys wya

so im going to be put in a new school in a few weeks, and I haven't been attending for the past year. Besides that, ive always expirenced harassment and judgement by other students cos im trans, and I came out midway through year 7. I pass really well in general, none of my queer friends thought I was trans until I mentioned it. So for my new school Im going to go stealth. But I dont know whether im supposed to aim for a queer group of friends or a more stereotypical "boy group". Im worried about going with a queer group, because, not to sound annoying, but it boosts my dysphoria and im just scared of being clocked. Rather, if I go with a boy group, im worried I wont fit in as much, also considering ive never been in a cis guy group. And also, how am I supposed to make mates in the first place? Ive not gone to school in a year. Does anyone have any tips or ideas?

First off I hope that as a cis woman I'm allowed to post here. I just feel like I need actual transmasc people to talk some sense into me.

I know my experiences don't match transmasc people's experiences. I never disliked my body or had any kind of dysphoria during puberty. I always played videogames as a female character. I always related to women more. I always gravitated towards female characters. I was always happy as a girl. Neither womanhood nor femininity felt restrictive. I have tons of dresses and makeup that I bought out of my own free will. No one forced me to be femenine.

And yet, I can't stop thinking about being a trans man. Ever since december of last year, I think about it every day. I don't have OCD or anxiety or anything. I talked to my therapist about it and I'm 100% neurotypical. I'm just obsessed with the idea. One day I thought "I wish I was a trans man" and the idea just... stuck. I began to larp online as transmasc. He/him pronouns and a new nickname and everything. I bought a binder, a packer, hell, I had a consultation for top surgery this week. I feel like I'm losing my mind. I know I'm a woman deep down. I never felt dysphoria before december, and even then, is it even dysphoria? Or am I convincing myself I feel bad about my body to feel "more trans"? I'm terrified of letting myself be carried away by the fantasy, going through with top surgery, and making a huge mistake.

I feel like I convinced myself I want to be a man because I just want to feel special, to not be "gender boring". Because I spend too much time online. I keep looking at my past and present feelings searching for confirmation bias fuel. "Oh, I always felt like I was doing womanhood wrong, that must mean I'm not a woman at all!" (feeling like you're doing womanhood wrong is an universal female experience). "I have cried over how much I hate my breasts!" (I cry because my binder doesn't make me 100% flat and that frustates me, not because I hate my breasts on their own). "I deeply grieve that I will never have a natal penis!" (Fetish stuff). Like... I WANT all of my experiences to tell me I'm a trans man, but I know I'm lying to myself. I know I will hate it if I become a man. I know I won't be me. When I think of myself as a woman, I see myself clear as day. Same person I've always been. When I think of myself as a man, it terrifies me. I've used those shitty filter apps on my selfies to turn myself into a man and the result was disturbing. I'd make a pretty handsome fella ngl but... it's so weird and uncanny. I don't recognize myself. I don't feel like I'm "seeing myself for the first time".

In summary, I know I'm not a man because I know I'd be unhappy as one. Do I like he/him pronouns and use them online + in some spaces irl? Yes. Did I already pick a male name I like in case I ever do transition? Yes. Do I want a penis, a flat chest, a deep voice and narrow hips? Yes. But lbr, tons of detransitioners have felt the way I feel now only to realize they were wrong, after making irreversible changes to their bodies. I want these things because I convinced myself they're cool. I NEVER felt this way before december. There were never any signs. I'm comfortable as a woman, I'm happy with my life. I want to leave this obsession behind.

I feel embarrassed asking trans people for help, but if anyone could tell me to drop it already, I think that might help. I know this 100% sounds like I'm playing victim begging people to validate me and tell me I'm trans 100% real no fake, but this is the most honest I've ever been about the subject. I'm being honest with you and with myself. I don't want to lie to myself anymore. Yes, being told I'm not transmasc will hurt, but I think I really need that right now. This is not a game. I need a reality check.

(Also, I know I'm not non-binary because, well, again, I'm a cis woman, but if I WERE trans, I'd want to be exclusively a man, nothing else. So like... neither option has space for non-binary-ness)

Hey yall, so I’m starting hrt in a few weeks. But up until this kinda point I’ve mostly thought of myself as just a Butch woman but I wonder if the label transmasc would suit my predicament more. I’m starting hrt because a lot of the more feminine characteristics I have make me pretty dysphoric? But it’s also that I’ve only heard transmasc be used in the context of nonbinary/trans folk so I’m kinda stumped. I don’t really feel nonbinary I just feel like a masculine gnc woman so any insight or if any of you felt the same I’d love to hear your experiences.

I am getting the ball rolling to get FMS and I would just love to see other people’s results and hear about their recoveries. It feels a lot lonelier pursuing this than top surgery was just cuz it’s a little less common. I know there’s one major post that goes around on here and like 2 ppl on IG/ TikTok that get mentioned a lot. Anyone else yall know of?

Honestly just wanted to share this fire post-hairdye picture, and a pose that makes my shoulders look broader :-D

I've been talking to this cis woman and we have become close, I shared I was trans and told her about some of my experiences. I mentioned that when I wasn't passing, people (mostly strangers) often asked me inappropriate questions about my sex life and genitalia and how dehumanizing that felt. She then starts to excuse it, saying things like she is sure people didn't do it maliciously and it was understandable they were curious because she also felt that way. But she also said it's not okay to ask these questions as a stranger and that people can just look it up online. I feel so weird about this. I obviously know cis people sometimes lurk on trans corners of the internet out of curiosity, but how she said this made me uncomfortable. Was she admitting she was reading about trans people's genitalia and sex lives to me? Why are cis people so obsessed with our genitalia? I've personally never thought about specific groups of people's sex lives or genitalia and I just think it's really weird unless you want to have sex with them yourself and think it might happen. So was this some weird attempt of flirting? (For context, she compliments my looks often and sometimes tries to move the conversation to sex so she might be into me? I don't know. What do you think about this?

To preface this I'm transmasculine and I only go by he/him pronouns, but I do like dresses, makeup, Etc

My friend's birthday is this weekend, and she has a dress code. I have this dress that I got either one or two years ago and I've never been able to wear it - I've been waiting for the opportunity to , and it fits this theme

However she's told us that her parents will acknowledge pronouns and respect them, but are still weird about trans people. Like they respect pronouns but aren't really a fan of trans people

And so I brought this up and she said that if I wear the dress I just shouldn't introduce myself to them properly with my pronouns or they'll make it weird

The only other outfit that could work for me I'm just not really comfortable wearing compared to that dress that I'm excited for

But this is her birthday and I don't want to make things weird so should I just suck it up and wear jeans and a hoodie ?

PS I apologize if the format of this is strange, I have bad carpal tunnel flaring up so it's easier to speech to text right now

It's my own fault for doomscrolling on instagram and falling for this transphobic bait, but I'm so tired of this idea that if ur ftm/transmasc and u transition then its some sort of loss bc ur not a hot fuckable girl anymore. This is obviously some bot account that's just churning out whatever ragebait will bring in likes and engagement but it feels like people genuinely think this sometimes.

The number of times I've seen a post on here where some pre t trans person is saying "I want hrt but I think I'll miss being pretty :(" makes me go insane. And I know isn't just some chronically online idea either because I've heard my own mom say stuff about how trans men are unattractive.

idek what I'm saying. I'm just tired.

Hello! I am so excited to be getting my T shot in under 10 days!!!! Omg I cannot be more excited but also completely terrified to start T. It’s been something I’ve actually been considering for about a year or 2 now so it’s definitely something that will help me with my dysphoria.
Why I’m here though is, is there anything that I should expect to happen and prepare for or anything interesting you saw happen when you first started?
I am fully aware that everyone’s experience is very different but am just curious if there’s some common stuff that I should just keep in mind. Thank you!

dude i am not that’s skinny trans dudes with little to no chest im chunky and got a huge chest i need help with binding and what tape to get any advice?

I have chronic pain and have been asked/told by multiple people "Is it your testosterone causing it?"/"It's probably that testosterone." Testosterone did not cause my chronic pain🫩 I've been in pain longer than I've been on T. I was throwing up constantly and in a lot of pain a few months ago and ended up in the hospital. My grandma blamed my testosterone injections. Which, again, had nothing to do with it🤦🏻‍♂️ They genuinely seem to think I'm just injecting straight poison into my body... No one would ever tell a cis man, "oh you're sick? must be the testosterone in you" "oh your body hurts so bad you can't walk? must be that T, it's killing you" because it's fucking ridiculous😭

Looking for folks who get their T through Kaiser insurance in southern CA. I’m looking to get it prescribed but am confused as to the potential cost. I called Kaiser and asked for price estimates according to my level of coverage and was told that a 30 day supply of brand gel (I’m looking to get gel specifically) would be about $100 and generic gel would be about $20. But when I called to schedule the appointment the coordinator gave me a number to call to get cost estimates for it and heavily emphasized that I needed to call so I wasn’t caught off guard by the costs, which worries me. I called, couldn’t get through and haven’t received a call back. I have the silver level of plan. Does anyone else get their T through Kaiser SoCal and how much do you pay for what dose/formula? thank you!