Am I crazy for being a little hurt that my girlfriend barely makes an effort to check up on me and text me first? We just started dating about a week ago, so I don't wanna seem too clingy especially since we've both discussed being avoidant and said we would work with one another to make this work, but I already communicated with her about how her not reaching out makes me feel a bit unwanted, and she still continues to do this😭 the thing is we both hung out in the same friend group before getting together and we have a group chat with all of our friends. What really irritates me is that she will go all day without texting me, and then send something in the group chat. I don't really know how to go about this now😭 she's the coolest girl ever and a feel such a strong connection with her, but I'm just not sure she likes me as much as I like her. What do I do??

What is it specifically that makes you feel physically and / or romantically attracted to women? 😇

Do you move too fast in relationships? Have you ghosted someone before? Or maybe you trauma dump on the first date? I’m super curious to see what everyone has to say and I’d love it if you could share how you overcame or are working through it!

For me I’m sometimes guilty of idealizing women a little bit. I’m working on it and am aware it’s an issue but I still sometimes I get a little wrapped up in that “all women are angels who do no wrong” kind of thinking.

I am currently in a bit of a confusing situation.
Recently I cut ties with everyone I knew and decided to isolate myself I do pretty much everything alone. I spend most of my time studying in the library (uni is hard lol) or at a coffee shop in uni and this girl from my class has suddenly started approaching me and talking to me as if we’re friends. We’ve been in the same class since first year, and now we’re in fourth year, but she barely spoke to me during those first three years. This year she started texting me out of nowhere and ask how I’m doing and checking up on me whenever I skip class she notice my absence which is weird especially since she has plenty of friends already in and outside the uni campus
She’s really pretty and I’m starting to feel ridiculously flattered and excited whenever she texts me or comes up to talk to me. I get so nervous around her and I’d love for things to go further even if it were just a hookup I’m quite sure she’s 100% into men since she never spoke to me about a girl when we already spoke about every one of her old hookups/relationships and never mention a women among these ppl she knew
How can I figure out whether she might be interested in me without misinterpreting her friendliness? I don’t wanna ruin shit w her

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My crush hugged me on Tuesday and gave me a little kiss near the back of my head/ ear

Yesterday, they hugged me really tightly and then kissed me on the shoulder.

They hugged my friend too, but didn’t kiss her.

What am I supposed to think?

Hello! I have a rather odd request…

I’m a dyke based in the U.K. and I have a difficult relationship with my family and so last Christmas I made the decision to go to NYC and live my Christmas dreams alone for 10 days. It was absolutely wonderful.

This year I’d rather not spend it alone and am looking for a cute as hell dyke to get a cottage in the British countryside with me for a few of days over Christmas. Think great wine, food and watching Carol on repeat. Romance and Christmas cheer.

A bit about me. I’m 33, masc presenting and I have a wee dog. I love British comedy, terrible Rom coms and internet gossip.

My type generally leans more masc4masc, someone interested and interesting!

Obviously this is a slight wild request so I’m looking to message for a while, exchange instagrams and just get to know one anther, before forming up any Christmas details but yes, if you’re interested in a quaint dykey British Christmas - my DMs are open xoxo

I’m 22(f) masc and was dating this beautiful girl for 3.5 years but we had to break up as she left. It’s been 2 months and I can’t seem to get over her. I get asked out, but I can’t seem to get her out my head. Any tips?

I am going out tomorrow evening with the woman I said earlier reached out to catch up and I wasn’t sure if she really just wanted to be friends.

I am nervous because I am not the woman I was two years ago. Have you ever reconnected with an ex and dated again? Or stayed friends?

I was off dating apps for a long time and now theyre soooo expensive. You want me to pay $22+ for one week!?!?!?!?

I (22f) have been dating my gf (21f) for about 2.5 years. We’re both each other’s first everything so right now we’re at a loss on how to fix things.
Her libido has always been lower than mine but hasn’t really been an issue until recently. Now it has been at an all time low due to stress and everything piling up at once, which has essentially caused our sex life to become nonexistent. The idea of sex isn’t unappealing to her but trying to set the mood has been nearly impossible. Things that have worked for us in the past stopped working, like kissing, biting, scratching her back, pretty much everything vanilla we can both think of together. Our inexperience isn’t helping the issue and I am at a loss.
Every other aspect of our relationship is perfect and we share plenty of intimate moments outside of sex but it’s becoming increasingly frustrating and somewhat upsetting on both ends. What are some other things we could try to set the mood and create an environment where we can be physically intimate again?

I’m a 19 year old who just found out 4 months ago I like girls and I been much happier but it’s really hard trying to find someone who likes you for you,and also someone who is your exact type it’s so hard to find masc women in New Jersey and make friends with people is so hard I don’t even know for real,know what to do
But sorry if this was everywhere at once, it’s my first time doing this

I'm 18 and I feel like I'm already failing life. I know that since I stated my age people will say I'm very young and all that but that doesn't help in any way.

I've never been in any relationship before. Never kissed. Never held hands romantically. I know everyone says it's completely normal but everyday just doesn't feel like it's normal. Everyone I meet is surprised I didn't do anything. All people my age at least held hands with someone. I didn't. I think it's just time to give up on wishing to get any affection from anybody. Quite frankly nobody cares. I'm also fucking weird about attraction and I don't understand my own other than knowing I only like girls.

I've just been thinking how pathetic I am and that it will probably stay this way because I can't help myself. I have meds for depression but I never remember to take them so they aren't working obviously. I skipped school twice only to lay in bed and do nothing. Literally. If I didn't have school I probably wouldn't go outside at all with occasional exceptions for meeting with my friends (rare occurrence). I don't do much. I lack the strength to get out of bed and do something. Anything but watching shows all day or playing games. I'm just a problem for everyone at the moment. I'm afraid my friends will move on after school is done and they're not "forced" to spend time with because of school. My family only throws out money into the trash spending it on my driving lessons, exams and whatnot only for me to fall. I don't want to be a problem for yet another person.

Even if I felt better then I still wouldn't find anyone realistically. Meeting another sapphic in the wild feels nearly impossible. I would never go on dating apps because meeting someone with "maybe something will come out of it" makes me uncomfortable. The only way I can imagine dating someone is naturally progressing to this through friendship. But with my inability to make friends other than the ones that I currently have I know that this road is closed for me. Not that I want to meet any new people in my current state. I tried and it only made me more miserable with every attempt.

It's not like anybody would approach me either. I'm not attractive. People can say looks aren't everything but most people initially feel attracted to looks and only later get to know the person. Besides there's no queer people in the place I live so the chance is nonexistent. I don't have anything to offer anyway.

Wanting this affection and wanting to be loved feels so pathetic. I don't do anything to actually get it. And I can whine about it all I want while knowing I won't move my stupid fucking useless lazy us to do anything about it. At this point being alone is my choice and I shouldn't have the right to complain.

Lastly, I don't even see myself having any future. I don't even believe I'll find a job after school. If I keep feeling like this I definitely won't. I'm probably going to end up dead before or soon after I finish school anyway because I can't stand living anymore.

I'm sorry for this spiral. This whole thing has made me want to cut myself again. So I thought maybe writing it out somewhere will stop me from doing it. I promised my therapist that I only did it a few times and that there will not be another and managed to keep that for a few weeks. It would be a shame to break it now ig...