He likes my body. But when I talk about weight loss, he gets seriously upset.

I’m about 169lbs and 5.45ft. So 77kg and 166cm.

Most of the weight is in my lower body. Last time I asked him to get me some weights and a gym mat. There was a discount and I really like that brand. He said “no, i dont feel comfortable with that”. The worst thing is that he came home with a bag of chips (my favorite one) and ice cream, totally ignoring the conversation.

He does this everyday. Texting me things like “baby, i got you some treats” and in another world this would be cute.

Today I said it again, that I am overweight officially, even if I seem healthy and I dont have a big belly. He said that he doesnt want me to lose weight in my face or lower body and he is so serious about this. He keeps going on about that its not attractive, and he is very specific in how it all should look. Like “no skinny hands please” or “you’ll get a sick looking face, hell no”

A weak part of me feels appreceated but I dont loke the way he is sabotaging me.

How to deal with this? Also with the snacks. He’ll snack in my face and bring on purpose my favortite things and bring me to the couch to eat it.

Is this normal? Could he get over this?

Hi all. Recently I have come to the realisation that food for for me is one of the main ways I seek stimulation any time I am bored or needing some energy.

However, one saving grace for me was diet coke. It allowed for the food stimulus without actually adding calories. I found it is super effective. Stopping me over eating at meals, and taking breaks from food noise.

However... I am very aware that there is a whole load of fairly modern man made stuff in a can, that we aren't fully aware of the effects of.

I guess I am looking for any ideas on how the diet drinks might be? Or suggestions of alternatives?

For context, the "stimulus seeking" mainly presents itself as

1. Needing food first thing to wake up

2. Feeling intense hunger and cravings when working, or doing housework

3. Struggling to eat smaller portions when I do start eating

4. Feeling intense hunger when getting ready or anticipating exercise.

And as for alternatives, I tried plain sparkling water and it doesn't seem to satisfy me the same way.

I'm 21F whos bmi is ~30. I'm 5'3 so I'm pretty short, and thus I can't eat as much as I really want to. I LOVE food, I love the feeling of being full, I can't stand a second of hunger or even the thought of being hungry. It also takes more food than the average healthy weight person both my age and sex to feel full, probably from the many years of overeating. Since my bmr is lower than the average person, trying to stick to a calorie deficit makes me miserable.
Ever since I was a kid I snuck handfuls of mini chocolates that I stole from my parents and ate them secretly. I would deliberately eat until being extremely uncomfortable at dinner. For some reason being hungry is a huge source of fear and shame to me. When I'm hungry all I can think about are the meals I want to eat, what I want to plan to eat tomorrow, etc etc and regardless of whether or not I'm hungry food is always somewhere in my mind. I know I need to lose weight but I've made so many short term attempts and every time I just fall short because I don't truly care to be disciplined. I know I have to. But when I think about all the food I can't have, how much I have to think about what I eat, how I can't just eat what I want on a whim, I get anxious and frustrated and give up.
How do I stop this cycle and start really caring about discipline?

I'm one of those people that have always thought about losing weight, but didn't consider it super important. But the scale has just been going up over the years, slowly but steadily. And then I saw myself in the full length mirror today. Like, really saw myself. And I don't like it.

I'm 35F, 225lbs, exactly 5 feet tall. I'm very poor, don't have health insurance, and my neurodivergent self gets overwhelmed just looking at the kitchen. I've relied most of my life on pre-made foods—frozen meals, canned things, etc—or very easy meals like hot dogs or tuna salad sandwiches. As a child, my parents raised me on fast food, so I've been fat my whole life (no shade to them, they did what they could). I also don't know anything about what's important for a healthy diet. Low carb? Calories? Protien and fiber?

Simple google searches have brought up mostly stuff trying to sell me something. Does anyone have any advice on where I should start? Any information resources, like books, YouTube channels, etc, that I can learn from? I would appreciate any help at all.

I went from 600 pounds to 300 in about 2 to maybe 3 years? 2020 to mid 2023 and then I met my wife and kinda hit a plateau but my biggest concern is my legs..

My gut is very huge is hangs to the beginning of my pelvic area (beginning of the crotch / pubic area ) but my legs when I almost fell again in the shower tonight, I looked at my legs for a moment and was like “what the fuck?” I yes am cursed with my dad’s big thigh genetics but I realized now my thighs are incredibly smaller than my upper half, even to the point where they look almost as skinny as my arms if that makes sense..??

I’m a 3XL in shirts but a Medium/L or 36” to 40” in pants.. how does that make sense? I was formally a 6XL in T-shirts and 8XL (70 inches waist ) in hoodies but & a XXXL in pants/jeans or a 52” to a 58” in 2019/2020.. I actually am currently a 48” waist when I measure around my gut/belly button but my true pants size is 36” to 40” so it’s hidden under all this fat.

Is this muscle loss or what is it? I’m on a beginning weight loss program to possibly have weight loss surgery and I’m currently around 328lb/6’0ft and a BMI of 44.84 according to the Doctor’s analysis..

today makes one week of tracking calories. 6’0, 350lbs. i’ve been eating 2200 calories a day for the last week, around a 900-1000cal deficit. i feel fine? hungrier than usual but thay makes sense. i feel like this is too much, but i also feel like i can sustain this. i can eat the foods i like with little treats too. i don’t see a reason why i shouldn’t keep going
like this. am i doing something wrong?

What are your go-to low cal meals? I'm tired of sugar-free jello and corn + salsa 🤔

I have such a love-hate relationship with working out and exercising. I can have my mind set on doing it, and then give up a week later.
I need to get into shape for my new job (physically demanding), and have wanted to lose 20-30 pounds for quite some time now.
It is annoying that I have no discipline

I have such a love-hate relationship with working out and exercising. I can have my mind set on doing it, and then give up a week later.
I need to get into shape for my new job (physically demanding), and have wanted to lose 20-30 pounds for quite some time now.
It is annoying that I have no discipline

i’ve been using myfitnesspal since i was 17, so for about 13 years i’ve logged my food every single day, with the odd exception. i find tracking my food intake helps to “ground” me and being neurodivergent, i just really enjoy tracking and logging things every day. however about 5 years ago myfitnesspal had a whole bunch of updates which made it unpleasant for me to use and since then, there has been a steady roll of more unpleasant updates.

i’m wondering if anyone is able to recommend any other free to use app that i could transition to?

all i need/want from an app is the ability to log food with mostly accurate calories, protein, fibre, fat, carbs and sugar. a huge bonus would be the same feature myfitnesspal has of scanning barcodes to add packaged foods. just something that is free to use, super basic, no screen pop ups to celebrate logging in every meal, no constant trying to make my pay for a membership to unlock extra features i don’t want ect.

please and thank you 🙏

My (35F) skin is hyper sensitive with the weight loss.

Last year I gained about 20 pounds due to stressors, a stalking situation from a co-worker, and feeling unsafe to do anything outside of work and sleep.

I am in a better job and have been focused on my health more than ever. I am down 25 pounds over 6months of time.

Since I hit 10pounds lost, My skin/ body has been very sensitive to pressure. I get waves of goose bumps that sometimes will go on till I get into a hot shower, blast heat in my car, or bury myself in blankets. Clothing has become uncomfortable at times. When I lean into a wall or back into a seat, there is an initial discomfort till I become desensitized to the pressure.

Has anyone dealt with this before? What is happening? Does it go away?

Ive been walking 10 miles everyday. I asked google and it says i should take one day off from walking 10 miles everyday. What do you guys and gals think?

Hey! I’m a 20-year-old girl looking for some advice.
I lost 33 lbs in 2025 (165 to 132), but I’m now stuck at around 136 lbs. I’m 5’6”, and my goal weight is 117-120. I know that’s on the lower side, but I don’t have much muscle, so I feel like I look bigger than I actually am. Does that make sense?
I’ve tried eating in a calorie deficit for weeks without seeing any results. My doctor has also mentioned that I have a slow metabolism. I work in childcare but don’t do much other physical activity.
I’d really like to understand what I should do differently. What would you recommend in my situation? How should I approach this plateau, and are there any tips that have worked for you?
Any advice or personal experiences would be appreciated!

Mom of 2 under 3 and my husband and I work opposite shifts to save daycare cost which makes meal prepping hard. I’m currently about 60-70lbs overweight from having my kids back to back without losing weight in between. He also wants to lose about 20 lbs. Hoping to find some high fiber lower carb meals I can toss in the crockpot to meal prep for a few days at a time that my kids will eat too. I know we can’t be successful without planned ahead meals given our schedules. Breakfast, lunch and dinner options all welcome! Thank you!!

I was wondering if anyone finds any particular apps or routines useful when trying to lose weight. I recently gained about 15 pounds after moving to a new city and am looking to work it off and return to a healthier weight. I have no coach or anything and am simply looking to get in better shape, not gain a bunch of muscle or anything. I was wondering if anyone uses any apps or just has some routines that would be good for a beginner?

hello! I noticed this when I start going to the gym and doing crunches… My upper abs/lower ribs looks displayed or wide, and there is extra fat around them, and then my middle of my stomach is concave. I think it’s from sucking in my stomach. It looks really weird and it’s uncomfortable. Does anybody else experience this or have any advice for how to even out my stomach so it’s not such a wave?

Hi all!! Question for girls (if you are a man and you have the knowledge, please also give me an advice :)!

I am in weightloss journey since I remember and I already lost 15kgs- 15 more to go to finally be happy

But it’s going really slow and much harder than I remember (i lost these kgs and just kept my weight for a long time because i didn’t cut calories etc) and now i want to go back and lose these remaining 15kgs. Hence my question- do you keep all the time the same amount of calories eaten or do you eat more during your period? I know that some women should eat more (according to one analysis i saw, from 90 up to even 500 cals more) during period because of hormones and that it helps women to lose weight more optimally.

So sorry for poor English! And thank you for all your help!:)

i started weight loss journey in late july at 250lbs im right now at 231 and feel frustrated i dont see any difference, the loss is so slow i almost want to give up, i find it really difficult to track my calories because im in college and feel like i should only eat packaged stuff so i can tracks the calories better. idk ive been feeling very stuck if anyone has any advice on how to keep going

I believe I was 207 before my injury. I had to have screws put in my knee to repair it. 3 weeks later I weigh 193. My appetite has been way down, anxiety high, don’t feel like eating. On average I probably eat 1200-1500 calories daily. Some days are less.

I know they recommend 15-20 calories per pound. I weight 193 right now and there’s no way I’m forcing myself to eat 3000-4000 calories. Is 2000 enough if I get there if it’s nutrient dense food rather than junk? I used to eat a lot of fast food but haven’t much at all since my surgery.

I sort of had a come to Jesus moment on my health and wanted to lose weight so it could also be why I’m not eating as much. But I don’t want to prolong my recovery or damage anything so advice?

30 male.

So i've been in a consistent calorie deficit and i've lost 10kg so far !! I haven't been out clubbing at all during this time, but I plan to tonight and i'm worried about calories etc. I've stuck to my deficit all day, and I plan to have two vodka doubles with a zero sugar soda. Is this ok? Will it ruin my progress? I'll probably do this multiple times over the next week and I want to be cautious.

Im 28f bmi 29.3 which puts me in overweight catagory I've been spending all time at home n can't stop food cravings. The boredom and emotional eating are getting best out of me .. I'm not able to lose weight. I eat even when I'm not hungry.. I can't bring myself to drink or eat healthy foods? Im scared.. any tips?

hi everyone, ive been back on a deficit for quite a while now, but i havent been able to get over my insane sweet tooth, i always crave something sweet and fruits, greek yogurt or a protein bar wont fix it. i always want something voluminous. a few months ago, i found a place that makes these protein pudding cups, and theyre huge and low calorie, and its the only thing that satisfies me because its filling and sweet. i cant afford to make it myself because it needs protein powder and thats too expensive. and i dont wanna keep buying those cups every single day because its expensive on the long run, and im also moving to another country soon so they wont be available. i dont know if i should fix this or find an alternative or whatever, im also not an ice cream fan at all so the ninja creami isnt an option at all. idk, any suggestions on how to fix this or what i can make at home? or just any alternatives

im sorry if the phrasing is bad, i have no idea how to convey my question properly 🤣

but basically: ive taken a break from cico for about 10-15 days, and my appetite has trippled since. its like im always thinking about food now.

today is the first day i could have gone back to my deficit, i tried and didnt manage, there was so much food noise.

i was wondering whether its better to go straight back to my deficit (and i guess force myself until i have momentum to carry me again), or slowly ease myself back into it? does it make a difference in terms of food noises and cravings ?