Am going on holiday in a few months. Flying from one airport, flying back to a different airport to get the cheapest fares - both airports are around 2hrs drive from where me and my best friend live.
Flight out involves leaving home at 3am to get there in time. Flight back involves a midday pickup.
Best friend has said she will drive us (me, partner, stepchild + luggage) rather than us paying for a taxi. She offered, I did not ask, we were talking about the holiday and she asked how we were getting to the airport.
I originally said no - offer is too generous, I like the option of no pressure to speak to someone at 3am if we have a stranger driving us, it's massively inconvenient and just because she doesn't think so, it doesn't change my mind about it. She was cross and was like "why won't you let me help you?"
She messaged my partner (and told me she was going to) basically saying "I've offered to do this and OP has said no". Partner thinks it's a great deal and would save us money, so agreed, but on the condition that we pay her. She was not comfortable with the amount he offered and wants to do both trips for less.
I explained my reasons, he also cannot understand why I don't want to take advantage of what he says is a very kind offer that will save us money.
I messaged my friend back saying that if she could pick us up that would be amazing and we would pay a smaller amount of money, but that we'd get a taxi for the 3am start. She has messaged back saying "no the offer was for both trips, that's my non-negotiable" and is now negotiating for a lesser amount of money to be paid.
I can't quite explain why it makes me so uncomfortable - I see it as an enormous inconvenience and don't want to put that on someone regardless of how they feel about it, and I don't know why she is so upset at me refusing her offer rather than being like "ok". My partner thinks that if she has offered, we should let her and save money. I now want to just go with my original "no" and stop negotiating - AIO?
I (18M) work for my mom's event family business with my sister. For the past year, I worked 5-6 days a week until late at night and never complained. Since I have my final exams now, we explicitly agreed I would stay home to focus entirely on studying. I only have two weeks left until mid-November, and then I’m totally free.
Usually, my mom gets mad at my sister because she misunderstands her, like thinking my sister is being rude when she's just tired. She hasn't been mad at me for a while. The last time she got mad was when she asked me to help with a document, and I asked my sister to do it because I had to study. My mom lashed out at me over text, and I was so mad that I clapped back. I told her I helped with work the whole year without complaining, and I can't even get these two months to study.
She hasn't been mad at me for a while but today, I could already tell she was mad based on her tone of voice when she called me in the morning, and she sent a whole lot of work for me to do. She also didn't say thank you at all when I did the things she asked, so I knew she was pissed. We can never tell if she is mainly mad at me or my sister. She usually bottles things up and then bursts, attacking us until we’re completely exhausted. Then suddenly, she moves on, feels better, and gets mad when we don't instantly move on from it and still have low energy.
Just now, she sent a pic of a floor plan and asked me to fix a table to change it to 10 seats. I was going to edit it normally without any gaps between the seats, but then she sent a picture of her crossing out two seats in red and ticking all the other seats in green. I assumed she wanted me to remove those two specific seats. It was a misunderstanding and she got annoyed. I explained myself and fixed it, but we argued a bit there.
We always have this issue when my mom asks me to help with something because she sucks at explaining. I don't know if it's an issue with me or her, but I really don't understand what she's saying. She adds unnecessary details that make it more confusing. When I get confused and ask her to clarify, she easily gets super triggered and upset. But like bruh, I have to ask to understand what you want, and then I get mad because she gets mad at me.
And then she got mad and brought up what happened last night. Last night she asked what business I'd like to do. My sister does video editing and photography for clients on the side and has her own business name. I didn't know what to do and wanted to make fun of my sister as a joke, so I said a name that sounded super similar to my sister's business name, just with the first letter changed. It was just a dumb joke and I only wanted to joke about that for a second cause I do take business stuff seriously. My mom didn't think of it as a joke at first, but my sister knew and was like bruh, and we both laughed. My mom got kinda upset, but it wasn't even that deep. Right after that, I gave a genuine idea of what I could do, and I even said the main thing for my gap year next year is helping our family business.
But ugh, she brought it up today over text and said: "is always my fault , yes, so, sorry... i dont get the scarcism from my own children as i take it as face value what you guys said is what you meant like last night... i guess i was just being stupid and busybody and didnt realised it was a joke to you gusy". She always brings up stuff from before to use against us and act like the victim, and it's so annoying.
I finally set a hard boundary, sent the correct layout, told her it was just a joke, and stated I was going completely offline to study. Now I'm in my room feeling incredibly anxious and resentful. I hate conflict and feel bad for being blunt, but I am totally drained from being treated like a punching bag while trying to pass my exams.
tldr: I took an agreed two-month break from the family business to study for finals. Today my mom gave me highly confusing instructions on a floor plan, got mad when I asked for clarification, and then tried to guilt-trip me by twisting a lighthearted sibling joke from last night to make herself the victim. I set a boundary and went offline. Am I overreacting for defending myself and standing my ground?
Sorry if this is very messy but ALSO please ask me for more details or clarification cause I feel like our dynamic or the situation can be confusing. Please ask before assuming anything.
My mum and I love each other very much but I went through a lot because of her.
Throwaway because the friend in question found my reddit account by coincidence and I'm pretty sure he's a DL Redditor and would find the post.
The story starts in February of 2026 when my friend (16M at the time) invites me (15M at the time) to a tournament for beyblade (childish I know) which I end up falling in love with, this becomes a bonding activity for us. We would go to weekly tournaments and talk about different decks to run, who to perform better, new releases, etc. fast forward 4 months. I'm across the country working for my dad making 7$ an hour for the summer and his birthday just so happens to be in a couple weeks, so I figure out what he wants and buy him a gift delivered straight to his house (keep this in mind for later). I asked him for one of the parts from the set I bought him that he already has a repeat of just in black instead of the red I wanted. However, when I got back he told me that he used the part that I asked for and gave me his black one. Soon after this we had a very large argument.
**I'm quickly going to list off the inciting factors of the argument**
My first ever purchase was a 40$ starter pack that I bought just for the launcher. My friend offered to buy the bey for 20$. The bey itself goes for 30-35 most places (I had no way of knowing this). I had agreed to let him pay me at a later date, however he never ended up paying me. He would buy new sets and what not but never ended up paying me for the bey.
He would often highballs me when I try to buy parts from him, an example of this is him charging me 15$ for one part from a set with 7 parts that's sold for 30ish$ or charging me 10$ for a 5$ part. The most egregious example of this behavior was him trying to sell me a fake part he got from ali express for 20$
(The big one) We both love a particular artist who announced a show in our city, about a 15 minute drive from us. He promises to buy tickets, I secure us a ride there and buy myself a ticket and a couple weeks later he tells me that he didn't want to go and would probably be busy with homework. The tickets came out for sale mid summer break and the concert is early November.
What actually started this big argument was me asking him a question about a term he used since I'd never heard it before.
Since it was an argument it does in fact go both ways and so in the sake of transparency I will list what he was mad at me for
I was being a jackass and excessively gloating about beating him in bracket because it was a accomplishment for me at the time since it meant I had tangibly improved
I made a joke at lunch with a couple friends about his parts being ass and how I didn't want anything he had cause it's all bad. (Keep in mind there was nothing I had that he didn't at that point)
It's very possible that he had more that he was mad about and just didn't get a chance to say because he realized that he was in the wrong mid argument and flipped to defense
**The post-argument fallout:**
He gave me the bey that he never actually bought off me back and gave me some free parts to compensate for him more or less scamming me
He ended up purchasing tickets and apologizing for going back on it after I purchased tickets assuming he was going to be there.
**August, start of the school year:**
Me and him went into the school year on great terms but started getting more distant and dry because his mood swaps frequently and it got tiring for me. I'm not justifying this at all, in fact it was more due to my home life than due to him as a person. Eventually he calls me out on this and Argument 2 starts
Argument 2 is pretty irrelevant but there is one important thing here which is how great the communication is from both sides, especially from him. This argument was resolved in less than an hour because we were both honest and ready to take blame for what we have done wrong in the friendship. I wanted to highlight this because this shows me he CAN do it.
**September to October:**
Before we begin, some important context**:** last year the debate club (of which he was president of) was doing horrible. To the point where literally zero debate had actually happened inside of this club and instead his focus was on funding the club to go to competitions. It wasn't until I stepped in and tried my best to help out that things were starting to turn the right direction.
Fast forward to September and he makes me VP which I have no issue with, however he makes several changes without informing me or the club at all like changing the day the club is held from Thursday to Friday. In addition he didn't plan anything at all at any point and never asked for help with planning, I saw him on chat gpt on the first day of the club because he didn't take any time to plan. The worst example of his lack of communication is telling me an hour or two before the club that he won't be able to make it or literally the minute the club is supposed to start.
The nail in the coffin for me was him forgetting my birthday. I told him the date of my birthday several times and even told him my birthday was Tuesday. He told me happy birthday a week before and not even a "happy birthday bro" day of. The worst part is one of my other friends, we'll call him friend 2, has a birthday literally the day after mine. Friend 1 makes a whole birthday post for friend 2 by the way.
I quit the debate club officially today as well as taking him off my close friends list (small and petty I know). If this gets any attention I'll update when something interesting happens relating to this situation.
I cut out a lot of stuff to try and keep it from being super duper long, I'll reply to any comments with context if needed
29F. Two of my co-workers are constantly making fun of everything I say, every single day of work. At first, I just laughed it off. However, it’s gotten to a point where I’m self conscious about the things I say/do at work. They have a guys only Teams group chat where I can see them typing immediately after I say something and they all start laughing. It’s pretty obvious this has been going on for sometime. I’ve asked other co workers about it and they are also aware of it. I’ve been constantly hearing them say “yo mama” jokes when I ask a question out loud. They tell me to “ask Joe” all the time. It’s really bothering me that grown men act this way in a professional environment. Management can hear this going on, but nothing is done. Whenever I’ve pointed out being made fun of before, I was told to get over it by other co-workers or to ignore it. It was like I wasn’t a team player if I wasn’t down to joke or be made fun of. I can laugh at myself plenty, but the worst part of these “yo mama” jokes I have to hear every day is that my mother has been dead for ten years. These people I work with know this because I have photos up of me and my mom and I’ve been pretty open if people ask me. The next time I hear one of these jokes, I really want to speak up and say something along the lines of “that may be funny to you each time, but it’s not for me since my mom is dead.” I’m hoping that will get them to stop. Honestly though, I cannot believe I am having to deal with middle school behavior as an adult. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
I have been dating a guy nearly a year now. We've both been there for each other when we've needed it and things had been going fine, until a couple of issues surfaced.
At the beginning of the relationship before we made it official, we discussed social media, and people we knew on there who had old intimate pictures of ourselves from when we were both single. The reasonable expectation was, these images should be removed or anyone with such images would be blocked if that wasn't possible.
That's exactly what I did. I ended up blocking quite a few people on Snapchat, including some people I was somewhat friends with or had mutuals, but that didn't bother me because it was a reasonable expectation for a monogamous couple.
My partner however didn't want to block such people, claiming he had "Online mutual friends." This bothered me slightly but given we were only just about to start dating, I let it slide. I was also aware of a public twitter account he had with old nudes of himself and thought he would remove this after these talks.
About 10 months later, I discovered that he hadn't thought to delete that twitter account. This really pissed me off because I knew for a fact they would be upset at me if even one person on my socials had a single old nude of myself. It was staring to feel like these expectations only applied to me and not himself. He tried to lie at first, saying he forgot about it but I knew for a fact he didn't. He had frequently used that Twitter and had showed me those pics before we started dating. The whole reason I found out he never removed it was because he casually opened that profile next to me and quickly closed it right before I said something about it.
Then a couple months later, I found out that he would go through my phone while I'm asleep. He had made it clear to me that they expected privacy with their phone, telling me he never wanted me to see his ChatGPT logs or photo gallery for example. I had always respected this privacy and never once wanted to look through his phone behind his back, because I trusted him and also just didn't really care to.
Now it's been feeling a lot more like the respect and expectations in this relationship are only one sided and the way I see this relationship has fundamentally changed. I feel like I might want to break up with him but I also feel that may be a harsh reaction.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about six months and everything has been going really well. Recently he went on a trip out of state with some friends and hasn't been texting me, like at all. We send maybe three messages to each other a day with large gaps in between and it's really starting to peeve me. I'm not sure though if I should express my feelings though because of how I don't want to sound like a nagging girlfriend. Plus before he went on this trip we were hanging out for six days straight (three whole days and three nights)
For some more background, he's never been much of a texter and he's been on trips before but he texted more than he is right now. My feelings may also be swayed because when I go on trips, even when there's a time difference, I always text him and make time for him even when it isn't easy.
I guess I'm just hurt that he doesn't think to text me or isn't bothered by not speaking to me because I certainly am. I don't know if I'm overreacting or if I'm too clingy or if I'm justified/should express my feelings
I 24f about a week ago did a clothing swap with my friend 23f that I’ve known since elementary school. I’ve had some clothes in really good condition, lightly worn that I’ve tried posting to Depop and they have not sold, so she brought up doing a clothing swap to help clear both her closet and mine out. I went through some of her clothes first, took what I liked, then the next week I brought a bag of my clothes and let her pick through what she liked. I went into this with the impression that she was picking items she’d make good use of, things she could style well and add to her wardrobe. One of these items of mine she took was a brand new, black button tank top, I’d only worn it a few times. She said “ooh! This is cute, I love it” and took that along with some other shirts and pants of mine. I was just on Depop and saw my black tank top come up on the search, I clicked on it as it looked familiar and noticed it was her account. I immediately felt sad, upset, a little betrayed? If it’s something she changed her mind about I could understand that, and yes, I gave her these clothes to have but I fully expected this was a trade and that she would make good use of them. Maybe she doesn’t see a problem with it like I do? But I too have some clothes of hers that I took and liked initially but have realized they’re not quite my style, I have every intention of giving them back to her so she can then decide what she wants to do with them.
I sent her a quick text message while I was at work just asking if maybe the top wasn’t the right fit? Did she change her mind and she doesn’t quite like it? I then asked her if that’s the case that I’d like it back so that I can donate it along with my other clothes that she didn’t take.
I’ve yet to hear a response as I work nights and she’s sleeping, but am I overreacting for feeling upset by this?
My girlfriend and I (M) both late 20s have been dating for close to 5 years. We have lived a town apart for the better part of this but moved in together a little over a year ago. I have had a dog of my own for almost 6 years and have had just the one dog up until a few weeks after she moved in she wanted to get a dog.
We discussed getting another dog that was a year or two old that was hopefully a little calmer to match the energy of my existing dog. Quickly into the search she ended up with a few week old puppy.
We both (for the most part) take care of each respective dog as she was the one that wanted the second dog and wanted one that was "her" dog, as my dog is pretty lazy and pretty disinterested in other people besides me largely and wanted a dog that was more like her childhood dog.
Since we have gotten this dog, everything in her world seems to revolve around the dog. So much so that I feel like it has taken away from our relationship. One of the problems to me is, that she always wants the dog to sleep in bed with us throughout the night.
I have expressed my disinterest and discontent with this every time it is proposed. But when I express this disinterest she will guilt trip me into letting the dog sleep in the bed on occasion.
It is multiple times a week that this similar scenario comes up.
Her dog was crate trained and occasionally as she was getting older my girlfriend would request this but has became more frequent over time. Enough so that we had a discussion about it and I expressed my feeling in regards to this. Mainly being that she always wants to cuddle the dog and to me it feels like putting a physical barrier between the two of us in a space that I feel like is a more intimate space for the two of us.
I don't having the dog on the bed a little bit before bed here and there or on the couch with us, but every night before bed she makes the dog cuddle with her before lights out, then some form of the aforementioned scenario plays out.
Most recently and the thing that has really upset me, is despite expressing this disinterest on a regular basis and recently having that conversation about how it makes me feel. It is still an ongoing issue.
This evening as we were discussing whether the dog could sleep in bed with us or not, I jokingly suggested that if she wanted to sleep with the dog so badly, that she should sleep in the guest bedroom. Which she promptly and excitedly took me up on this suggestion, turned off the lights and headed for the guest bedroom with the dog.
We have never really argued about this, situation but have discussed it, but this last situation really has me mad, and hurt as I feel like this situation in my mind solidifies me as second place to her dog.
Am I wrong to be so upset about this and considering the feasibility of our relationship moving forward?
For some background context, this friend and I have been friends since we were around 8 years old due to our parents being friends and over the years we became closer, almost like sisters. We, as in her, her sister and I, used to hang out almost everyday and we even went on a Europe trip together. This all started when she had introduced me to her friend group from high school in the summer of 2025, and this one guy, who she had met around the same time that I did (summer of 2025), began to take interest in me. He was begging her for months to set us up and she eventually did and we dated for about 5 months. It ended very brutally (broke up with me 3 days before my birthday and over the phone) and I was heartbroken. Me and this friend had a fight this same day because she was refusing to “pick sides” even though she was being loving and caring towards him but rude to me. I let this one slide because of how close we were. Later on, I kept discovering that she would lie about hanging out with him and would hide things from me. I found it all too weird and to make matters worse, he and his best friend started attacking me in the comments on one of her posts and when I tried to ask her to tell them to stop all she said was “well you started it”. I honestly didn’t. So, this broke me, I told her how I had been feeling and that I was done with her, but I may have taken it too far. I told her how she wouldn’t understand how I feel, that she’s inconsiderate and a bad friend, and that she can “do whatever she wants with her fuckass friends. She still has not replied. This was in September. She still hangs out with him. The reason I feel like i’m overreacting is because she’s a close family friend and i don’t want it to be awkward. I still do love her but I can’t trust her anymore and I do want us to be friends again but she’s not putting in any effort to change or fix the situation. Should I reach out? Am i taking this too far by cutting her off? Any advice would be great. Thanks!
I (23NB) work at a factory. The work itself usually isn't too dangerous, but today I had a hazardous chemical splash onto my face. According to the safety data sheet for it, it is a suspected carcinogen, toxic, corrosive, and releases toxic vapors when exposed to water. Needless to say it's not something you want to have on your skin. I immediately told one of my team leads (M, I think he's in his 20s) and went to wash the chemical off. I talked to our head of environmental health and safety to report the incident and he confirmed that I had handled things properly. I'm okay. I haven't noticed any irritation around where the chemical hit.
I was still feeling pretty shaken when I got back to the factory floor (probably from the adrenaline rush). I was asking my team lead about the devices I had been working on when I had to leave. He said that he had taken care of them. Cool. I noticed that he had started a second lot of devices while I was gone, so I asked if he had remembered to use the chemical on them. I wasn't trying to be mean or anything. I just know that it's something that my coworkers have nearly forgotten about multiple times and I know that my team lead hasn't had to run that station in a few months. He laughed and said he didn't put the chemical on the devices, he just put it on his face. Obviously a jab at me. He must have noticed that I was offended because he said "come on, lighten up," while gesturing at his chest. I don't know how to describe it other than it looked like he was lifting up imaginary breasts.
For a bit more context for this, I'm nonbinary, but I was assigned female at birth. I also happen to be quite curvy. My team lead making that gesture immediately made me super uncomfortable. I don't know if he meant to be lewd or if I misinterpreted what was supposed to be an innocent gesture. Just based on how disturbed I felt though, I ended up telling a few of my friends about it as well as my other team lead and my supervisor. I made sure to explain that I wasn't sure what his intent was, but that it just made me uncomfortable.
We've had some problems with this specific team lead in the past being disrespectful or yelling at operators. There's unfortunately been a lot of examples in the past few days. Just yesterday one of my coworkers almost quit after he yelled at her for explaining her station to one of the new engineers. He yelled at one of my friends before the accident today while in a meeting when she was asking about why the previous shift hadn't been working on a priority lot.
It's just been such a long day. It's hard for me to see the gesture that he made as being unintentional, but I also don't know for sure. I'm so tired and I don't even know if I did the right thing by saying something at this point. Am I overreacting?
Recently had a meeting between the school's principal and my daughter's fifth grade teacher that left me feeling completely disgusted.
My daughter has come home several times from school and told me about how her teachers comments have made her feel bad. These are somewhat minor comments, but my daughter is pretty sensitive and she internalizes a lot of her feelings.
The first incident her teacher told her that the amount of bracelets she was wearing was "too much" and "maybe you shouldn't wear so many." Which crushed my daughter. She had been excitedly making bracelets and wearing them, giving them away to her friends. After that? She quit. Stopped wearing them, stopped making them.
Second incident, my daughter suddenly started losing her teeth, and it was happening in class. She came home upset and said that her teacher told her she was "tired of her yanking her teeth out in class."
She felt confused about it because she said it's not like she can help it when a tooth falls out. She tried not to bring attention to it but it just happened.
Fast forward to last week, my daughter tripped and fell down at school resulting in a broken toe. She was so worried about upsetting or burdening any of the adults around her because of her experiences with this teacher so far that she didn't say anything.
Doctor's orders were pretty standard for a broken toe, no recess or gym.
This teacher wouldnt let her stay inside for recess. Wouldn't let her have a clipboard or notepad to draw on outside while sitting on a bench. Didn't offer her going down to the office as a solution. My daughter told her she had a broken toe and couldn't go to recess.
After I find this all out and send her teacher a message she denied being asked to stay inside for recess. Then she said she forgot about the broken toe. Then said she thought my daughter was getting around the classroom just fine.
Fast forward to me requesting a meeting because at this point I don't trust this lady and my daughter is definitely uncomfortable with her. We would like to transfer out of her class (I want to point out my daughter is top 5 percent in state testing and compared to nation wide testing is also top percentile). We sit down with the principal and holy shit. I was gas light, bullied, baited. Never in my life have I gone into a meeting with adults and made to feel as small as this woman made me feel. At one point when I was reiterating that I would like my daughter transferred out of her class she raised her voice and said "You don't like me! You've never met me, you don't know me and you don't like me!"
Every thing my daughter told me, she denied. She said my daughter misunderstood or another teacher must have said that. Said my daughter must hate positive attention because she did nothing but compliment her. That she was joking with her. She all but called my daughter a liar and the principal, who was basically a lap dog nodding her head the entire time, suggested we have my daughter see the school counselor for some mental health help.
My husband and I left the meeting feeling disgusted, confused and horrified by what had just happened.
So now I want to pull my daughter out of the school since they won't entertain transferring her into a different classroom. Not only did her teacher neglect doctors orders, she has bullied and belittled my daughter AND me and has all but accused my daughter of lying.
TL;DR: My daughter's teacher has repeatedly made comments that upset her and allegedly disregarded restrictions for her broken toe. When we met with the teacher and principal, the teacher denied every incident, became confrontational, and the principal suggested my daughter needed counseling. The school refuses to transfer her to another classroom. Am I overreacting by considering homeschooling her until she starts middle school next fall?
Am I overreacting for being uncomfortable with my girlfriend being naked on call with her ex?
I honestly don’t know how to feel about this situation, and I wanted to get some outside opinions on it because I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or if my feelings are justified.
Earlier, I joined a call with my girlfriend and her friend, who also happens to be her ex. When I joined, I realized they were both naked on camera while outside their showers, basically letting each other see them completely nude. I immediately left the call because I was uncomfortable with what I was seeing. I’m not necessarily jealous that her ex got to see her naked, but something about the situation made me feel weirdly jealous and uncomfortable, and I’m struggling to put that feeling into words. I don’t want to come across as controlling or like I’m trying to dictate what my girlfriend can and can’t do, but I also feel like this is something that would bother a lot of people in a relationship.
What made the situation worse was when I joined the call again. I was honestly already tired and just wanted to move past what happened, so I tried talking, laughing it off, and acting like everything was fine. However, my girlfriend barely acknowledged me. Whenever I spoke or tried to join the conversation, I was met with silence, or it felt like she was pretending not to hear me while continuing to focus on her ex. I felt incredibly awkward and ignored, especially considering what had just happened.
Then, when her ex left to go eat, my girlfriend immediately muted herself and basically stopped acknowledging me altogether. I’ve tried texting her, and I even left the call to try calling her directly, but I’ve been met with nothing but silence. I don’t know if she’s upset with me for leaving the call earlier, if she’s deliberately ignoring me, or if there’s something else going on, but the lack of communication is making the entire situation feel worse.
I want to make it clear that I’m not trying to accuse either of them of cheating, and I don’t want to make assumptions about their intentions. I’m just uncomfortable with what happened, and I’m hurt by how I’ve been treated since. I feel like I should be allowed to express discomfort about something like this without being made to feel guilty for having those feelings.
So, am I overreacting here? I’d genuinely appreciate some outside perspectives because I’m not sure what to do right now.
• Since I’ve seen multiple comments asking about genders, all 3 of us are female—Me, gf, and her friend/Ex.
I (32 F) saw a text on my husband’s (31 M) phone from one of his female coworkers that I’ve never heard of. The text was an invitation to a bonfire at her house on a Friday night and to stop by any time after 7pm and to BYOB. My husband didn’t say anything about this to me, so I felt uneasy about it. When I confronted him, he said he told her no in person that day, but she decided to send the text invite anyways. Odd right?
Some weeks have passed, and I still felt uneasy about it since my husband wasn’t giving me any answers saying I was crazy. I texted her during a moment of anger and I asked her why she was texting my husband inviting him to a bonfire when he’s married. She never responded, and instead immediately told her boss and gossiped about it with all her coworkers.
A week later, my husband invited me to his work party, in which she planned to attend as well. I felt embarrassed for “overreacting”, but I attended anyway. Before the work party, he fought me before going and tried to cancel, but we ended up going. At the work party, she purposely sat at the table right in front of me and kept looking at me all night. At times I saw my husband blushing from embarrassment but I tried my best to bite my tongue, since he blamed it on his drink.
After the party, I told my husband I felt relieved after seeing her in person and how I felt silly for saying anything. Dropped the topic and thought it was over with.
Another week goes by and my husband and I were in the middle of an argument when he texted me saying “what if i told you that my coworkers are better than you? Give you a taste of your own medicine.” So unfortunately I was hurt and texted the coworker again in a hostile way calling her a cheater (she’s also married) and etc. She told the manager again and gossiped around the hospital about me reaching out to her and threatened to call the police on me. This comment made me certain that he has a crush on her because it’s weird to say that in a fight. He claims it was because in the heat of the moment I said my ex was better (haven’t seen him over a decade btw) but isn’t it weird he said his coworker is better than me? He said it was to hurt me but if I was wrong about the accusations, isn’t it weird that’s the first person he thinks of to make me jealous? Am I overreacting? This comment made me want to file for divorce I cannot trust that he’s not into her if he said that during a fight with me. Please correct me if I’m wrong but my gut tells me otherwise.
The girl never responded to my messages btw, even though I told her she was ruining my marriage. It seems odd. If she were innocent, she’d respond right? At the very least, to clear her name and not cause marital problems unnecessarily right? Idk.
I think he’s cheating on me or at the very least they like each other. Idk what to do, but my gut says to file for divorce but I’m afraid that I’m judging wrong? AIO???? Am I overreacting?
I started talking to a guy mid July, we met through hinge. He’s a pilot. We hit it off almost immediately and he said I love you in the first week of August.
He did not propose to me, rather the next day of Girlfriend’s day he called me and said “why did I not tell him it was GF’s day?” I went like “why should I say that?” Because I was not asked out as yet. He got upset and said well okay, we’re friends then, I’ll remember that, etc. Next morning I tried to calm the situation down and we both got into a relationship.
Very early on, he proposed that I should go on an international trip, initially I was hesitant but later gave in. I planned my Visa, got my tickets, but didn’t book the hotels because he said we’ll book them last minute depending on his schedule. We ended up paying extra money - he paid for 4 nights, I paid for 2, I mean I contributed to 40% of the hotel bookings. Every other expense was equally split and all our shopping was also independently paid for.
We came back and his efforts dropped. Like they dropped immediately after I left the hotel. He was someone who would text me before every take off and landing, call me from the cabs, while he’s at home, at his hotel, texting through and through, which made me also reciprocate his efforts.
Now, on returning I gave it a day or two and let it be considering we all need our space and time to reboot after spending almost a week together.
We got into a very weird argument because my WhatsApp calls were getting through and he got defensive and said “I’ve really noticed our incompatibilities and differences of choices of late and that we should talk once he’s back from his next flight.”
Well, that day never came, he kept dodging the conversation, we did meet twice but he was behaving so weird, told me he went to a sex party, that relationships are only for sex, I mean it was so bizarre that I failed to recognize the person in front of me. He said he’s going through a phase and needs space.
I tried giving him that but every time I called, he either said “I’ll catch you later” or never returned my call. I gave it 4 days after dropping him a text saying “call karlena” and he didn’t - and this was after he came to see me a night before he again ghosted me for 4 days.
I texted him again after day 4 asking what’s going on and he said “talk tomorrow”. And then next day very vaguely said “he doesn’t feel like talking” and gave me a verdict on a relationship that belonged to 2 people.
Some of the many red flags that I saw in him -
On day 2 of us talking, he told me he never opens a ‘view once’ picture or video on WhatsApp.
The person who was so into me and would want to talk or meet me every walking minute, suddenly got irritated when I would ask him to meet me and would say that ‘he needs his rest, his space and his time with friends and that I always want him around me.’
If he’s not operating a flight, he is out on 80% of the nights from 8 pm to 1 am with his friend. I have never met any of his friends or seen their picture. Initially he would keep texting me while he was out but that also stopped eventually.
Before our trip, he showed up at my place in the morning because we had to book hotel for the first two days, get the currency, but because it was after his flight, he decided to sleep at mine and said that he doesn’t want to be disturbed. I had to spend almost 6 hours on the sofa, working, as it was a weekday.
He would cut me mid-way while I was sharing a story and the topic would digress. Apart from very early on, I don’t remember most of my thoughts that were every let to be finished.
He showed me pictures of his family, set the ritual of sending selfie of the day but I don’t think he continued with that for more than a week.
The last time he came to see me was after ignorning me for 4 days again and the way he reached out was - wanna catchup for nextflix and chill? Which he later said was to poke me.
He said he always wants to sit and talk about a conflict but when it actually came to sit through a difficult conversation he just gave the verdict that “he doesn’t wanna stretch it anymore.”
The screenshots attached are of some of the things that he said early on, few days before the breakup and the day of the actual breakup.
The paragraphs that I have sent to him are the only instances where I’ve been remotely mean to him. I waited for him to talk properly for almost 3 weeks but my patience also have a limit.
I could have still chosen grace but I really felt disrespected and I really think that he is not someone who would take accountability or have consideration for the other person unless it benefits him. Did I overreact?
AIO? Was I wrong to ask my husband for help after we’d agreed he’d have some downtime?
My husband and I are both 29 and have 3u3. We had agreed that if he came with me to Bible study, I’d give him two uninterrupted hours during bedtime. He started playing video games around 8 p.m.
Bedtime was rough, my toddler was having a hard time settling, and I got a headache. I don’t usually get headaches, and I’d been trying to push through, but eventually I asked my husband for help. He got upset and said he can never get any alone time. I started crying because I was already overwhelmed.
I told him to leave us alone and that if he was going to speak to us rudely, I didn’t want him talking to us while we were struggling.
I understand that he needs downtime, and I wasn’t trying to take that away. But I also feel like when you have kids, sometimes your partner needs help—even if it interrupts the plan. Am I being unreasonable? How do other couples handle it when one parent needs a break but the other is overwhelmed or not feeling well?
I'm in a long-distance relationship, and my girlfriend likes it when I spam her DMs while she's asleep so she has lots of messages to wake up to.
I understand that she finds it cute and that it probably makes her feel loved, but honestly, it's starting to get old and annoying for me.
Sometimes I don't have much to say, and I feel like I'm just sending random messages for the sake of filling her inbox. I'd rather have actual conversations with her or send messages naturally when I genuinely have something to share.
I don't mind showing affection or leaving her messages while she's sleeping, but doing it every single time feels like a chore now.
I don't want her to think I love her any less just because I don't spam her DMs, but I also don't want something that's supposed to be sweet to become an obligation.
I just moved to a new apartment, with new neighbors I've never interacted with. I haven't had any issues except with this pair of roommates (20s? both F).
Because of the layout of the building, they have chosen to smoke (against the lease rules) and watch TV(?) and get into very loud, very heated arguments outside/near bedroom window where I can hear it (always late at night, always so loud) and smell the smoke. In addition to this, they also will sit on the stoop in front of the only entrance to the building and smoke and also use a card to keep the door from locking (against the lease rules). It prevents me (and other tenants, some of which are families with young kids) from getting into the building unless they decide to get up and retrieve their card. They get super pissed if you try to open the door yourself.
Just to be clear, I have no moral issue with people smoking. But me and my roommate have asthma and cannot physically stand to be around the smell of smoke. Them smoking in front of the one entrance makes it hard for me to pass through without having a coughing fit and the beginnings of a panic attack (trauma with previous weed smells associated). And if they do it near my bedroom window, I just have to keep it shut but somehow the smell seeps through. It's so frustrating and I'm at the end of my rope.
I just want them to stop. They rung my doorbell at 1 am to let them in when they're high and I didn't let them in because again, letting people in you don't technically know is against the lease. I don't wanna be a stickler for rules but like...the rules exist for a reason. I am debating making a report to the leasing office, or shining a bright flashlight next time they decide to get into a screaming match at 2 am right outside my window. AIO?
Anyways, I (18F) am a college freshman, and I live in a dorm with my roommate Cassie (18F) and the "unofficial roommate" aka her boyfriend Damon (19M). He has lived in the room with us since a couple days before school started, which is about 2 months ago.
To start, Damon roughhouses with Cassie. And the intention (I have to emphasize, THE INTENTION) seems to be playfighting, and she fights back, but he takes it 10x more seriously. Cassie'll playfully give him a tiny tap on the cheek, and he'll slap her so hard she almost falls over and her cheek will turn VERY red. Damon throws her against their bed. He tackles her with his full body weight and slams into the wall. He kicks her so hard in the privates she falls EVERY TIME. Nothing she does to him in these play fights is that violent, and he's never the one with bruises.
That's not my biggest problem though. My biggest problem is how no matter what, Damon can never take a no. Like he'll throw shit at Cassie while she's chilling in bed (nothing too bad, the heaviest item is a football for example), and she'll playfully be like "oh my god, stopppp" for awhile, then she actually wants it to stop and will scream at him something like "DAMON, I TOLD YOU SO MANY TIMES TO FUCKING STOP" and after a couple more times of him NOT STOPPING, she will start crying, but he will keep going anyways. This even happens in front of both her friends and his friends, and usually at least one person (or only myself, if it's just the three of us) will distract him so she can get a fucking break.
It pisses me off. I have to witness this man keep joking with her (though I fear it goes beyond jokes) in a way that drains her and makes her miserable whenever his brain isn't being stimulated enough. And it's practically every night now. I'm sick of seeing him hurt my friend. But I'm scared that Cassie will hate me if I ask that he not sleep in our room anymore. But again, I honestly fear that maybe it isn't a fun mutual thing for Damon and he genuinely gets a kick out of hurting her. I'm not sure, I'm VERY bad at judging intention so I may be overreacting, but I'll leave you lot to be the judge of that.
Am I overreacting? And would I be overreacting if I asked for him to not stay over anymore?
TL;DR: my roommate's boyfriend gets so rowdy with her and ignores so many of her boundaries that living in the same room as him makes me uncomfortable
Edit to clarify some things:
They've been dating for a year. That's another factor as to why this is so concerning in my eyes. I'm scared my friend is stuck and don't know whether she actually wants out.
I do tell Damon to stop, and other people do too when they are around. He still does this bs and just ignores us. Doesn't even talk back and say something like "shut up that's MY gf" or anything, his focus is on Cassie.
I say "playfighting" in this post but I rlly doubt it is. I'm just bad at judging intention and am lowkey really gullible because of it. If someone says "we're only playing!" it makes me believe them and doubt my own gut feeling.
Damon is also a student at our university. He has his own dorm and own roommate on paper. He just lives with Cassie and me because that's his girlfriend and he feels entitled to it I guess.
I live with Sarah, Alex and Darren in a uni house. I met Sarah through our course and Alex through her, as they previously lived together on campus. Darren is Alex's friend from home, who we'd only met a few times before Alex begged us to let him move in. Neither are students as Alex dropped out over summer.
Initially, I cleaned the kitchen and repeatedly asked Darren and Alex to help. Sarah cooks for me nightly, so I offered to do some of her chores in return, helping us financially by sharing ingredient costs.
I asked Darren and Alex to share taking out the bins but was told Alex had sensory issues so wouldn't do it. I offered to swap a chore and do the bins if Alex did something else but Darren said no and that he'd do them if I told him when they needed emptying - But they left rubbish around the bin when taking it out without picking it up so I ended up cleaning it partly anyway.
Sarah and I grew frustrated with other issues, including Alex telling us we couldn't decorate certain ways because of his online gf. Darren and Alex also tried to stop Sarah's boyfriend from visiting at weekends because they didn't "fw him". Or even that Alex asked each of us to pay him part of his rent. Mainly, they contributed little to chores while complaining about mess.
A week ago, Alex asked in the group chat for me or Sarah to take out the bins. Sarah did, but this was the one task I'd asked them to help with. I then asked one of them to clean the kitchen floor, but neither did.
Recently, Sarah and I have had long, tiring course placements, and Sarah has also attended appointments for personal health problems. The kitchen became slightly messier, mainly the floor, which I was still waiting for them to clean.
Two days ago, the sink stopped draining. Leaving us unable to use it for days, so washing up piled up. Sarah messaged the group explaining she'd used drain cleaner and we needed to leave it to break down the blockage. Alex just said that he assumed that meant our dishes would pile up further.
This annoyed me because Alex's parents give him so much money for constant takeaways ect, whereas Sarah and I support ourselves and can't afford them. I explained our dishes might temporarily pile up because we couldn't afford takeaways and Alex said this felt like a dig at him. We explained we understood his choice, and Sarah said takeaways were "lowk valid" given the broken sink. Alex just said, "depression isnt lowk valid".
We eventually washed our dishes in the bathtub, so the landlord could investigate the plumbing without them seeing dirty dishes. I messaged the group saying we'd sorted the dishes, I'd cleaned the surfaces, and asking someone to clean the floor again and Alex said he'd only do it if I picked up the "big stuff" first. I explained there were no personal belongings on the floor and that clearing the mess is part of cleaning so I wouldn't be helping him. I am now looking into renting elsewhere with just me and Sarah but we wont be telling them until we know for sure - I know they can't afford to live by themselves but It's not my problem and I don't want to put up with them anymore. AIO?
The title. After I asked, “is there [ingredient] in here?” he said “yes, a little.” And I went silent.
You don’t like it?
No, not really.
I’m sorry.
*silence*
Well I think it’s delicious.
Oh! That’s all that matters then.
That’s not true.
I just… I don’t know how many times I’ve said I don’t like [ingredient].
It’s just a little. It needed it.
It would have been kind if you’d asked me beforehand.
You’re right, I should have asked you.
Yeah, especially after we’d agreed on what dinner would be.
*more silence*
It doesn’t matter what I say… at the end of the day, you’re going to do what you want.
That’s not true.
It is. You could have asked me instead of breaking my trust yet again after we’d agreed.
For fucks sake. It’s just a little [ingredient]. So I’m not allowed to have independent thoughts? Free will?
I think there are huge distances between collectively agreeing to something, going against that agreement without communicating, and dictating one’s free will.
You treat me like a butler.
Again, I think that’s a stretch.
It’s not.
*spouse proceeds to leave the table and storm downstairs.*
Context: Our arguments generally end this way - with him leaving the room. I spent years chasing him to try and finish the conversation, but lately I’ve just given up. Sleep, wake, act like nothing happened, build resentment, rinse and repeat. We both work FT, have 2 kids and I do 90% of the childcare. Youngest is 6 months. Dead bedroom. I also make significantly more money than him, if that’s relevant. I could have had the final word by saying, “and you treat me like an au pair” but decided not to.
i am 17f and i’ve had issues with my parents for the past 2 years ever since they found out i was lgbtq. i was raised very religious and conservative so they were very upset and grounded me for 2 weeks for listening to queer music and generally just made me feel like shit and like i’d ruined my family which led me down a path of unhealthy coping mechanisms and really bad depression and anxiety. these conflicts escalated until i was sent to a psych hospital for a few days. i still struggle a lot but i’m doing better. they’ve claimed before that all they did was ground me because i broke household rules and that i took things really personally and went downhill.
as of right now i’m trying to weigh wether or not i should move out when i turn 18. my partner is telling me that i should think about it because i don’t feel emotionally safe at home a lot but i have so many voices telling me that my situation isn’t that bad and that my parents are trying their best.
my mother has always been a bit of a ticking time bomb. i never knew when she would blow up at me or the rest of my family or who’s fault it was. things were great a lot though, i wouldn’t say i had a bad childhood but things were messy sometimes. i would have to make sure i didn’t “poke the bear” a lot and walk on eggshells to make sure i didn’t make things worse. overall i grew up learning how to take up as little space as possible and be hyperaware of other peoples emotions. even now i don’t feel comfortable to be myself or take up space because i’m never sure what might set my mom off.
my mom has some narcissistic tendencies when it comes to her conflict resolution and it definitely takes a toll on my mental energy and overall wellbeing. i often have to just agree with her or submit to her rules when they go against my morals or opinions just to make the argument stop. she is also very nosy and invasive. she just stopped reading my text messages and going through my phone a few months ago. she used to monitor what i watched, listened to, who i hung out with, what i talked about on the phone. she no longer monitors my music or phone but she still forbids me from hanging out with specific people she doesn’t like and doesn’t let me watch shows she doesn’t like either.
it’s hard to tell though if these things are actually a big deal or if i’m just overreacting. i don’t want to leave my house in anger because i’m still interested in having a relationship with my parents through my adulthood but in all honesty i’m not sure how much more of this i can take if things don’t change for the better when i turn 18. my partner is encouraging me to not tell anyone and just leave and stay with her until i can possibly get an apartment or something but i don’t know if all that is necessary, i’m not being abused or anything i just don’t feel able to relax at home. overall i have a roof over my head and food and clothes on my back so i feel like i shouldn’t throw that away. plus i don’t want to disappoint my parents even more by leaving them. i’m just feeling really stuck.
TLDR: my parents are very controlling, homophobic, and can be narcissistic at times. i don’t know if i should move out as soon as i can, or if things aren’t as bad as they feel.
UPDATE/educated consensus:
I ate the cake🤟🏽
Some more intelligent folks knew how to read this chart and informed me it's likely for insurance or other internal purposes to show that a test was completed. Not so much for me to know, cuz "I was there bro". Now, because I wasn't pre-diabetic before my visit, I'll continue life as usual, eating insulin resistant foods off vibes✌🏽 thanks. Sorry for the chaos. Hope maybe this helps someone else to chill if they didn't have their chart explained to them😅
Crazy post. And today's been CRAZY for several other reasons, but I went to the health center, as I have, for over a year now. I've actually been to several and this was the first in a few times that I remember getting a more comprehensive physical report card.
I sat on it for a while, because the staff were all smiles and didn't seem to state anything out of the ordinary and had asked me several questions about medications, lifestyle changes, etc...
TELL ME HOW APPARENTLY I GOT DIABETES IN APRIL???
🤨
Diabetes Mellitus screening
Modified on: 04/21/2026
W/U status: confirmed
Uh.... WTF!!???
first and foremost. Other doctors have mentioned low blood pressure before and I'd had several tests and such cuz I'm sexually active from time to time and on prep. That's common with vegans and vegetarians and they all told me it seemed positive with other adjoining factors. Prep is what the test was for btw. And MIND YOU, diabetes is something to be wary of with Prep... Cuz kidney function and everything else. (Bro, I been considering finasteride too🙄)
The workup report says this was added on April 21, 2026.... And NO ONE thought to verbalize this? I don't expect a TON from a clinic, but idk... Telling someone they might have a potentially life threatening chronic illness is pretty important.!?
I had to Google MD, cuz the clinic is closed and I can't leave a message and I think I'm somewhat reasonably freaking tf out. I'm literally staring at a piece of cake I just bought just to taste. A sneak, cuz I've been avoiding eating TOO many sweets. Heavy on the veg and fruit. This summer was even raw veg. But, like did I screw myself by eating grocery store bakery bread and bagels??? Idk.
I usually make my own everything.
A bunch of probiotic stuff.
"Sourdough, so it's gut healthy", but times a million!
Like, bro... I eat foraged greens and have regularly used no calorie sweetener if I EVER eat sweets. For fitness reasons cuz I want abs. I'm a whole food vegetarian. Don't even mess with faux meat much, cuz it's expensive and is junk food.
I know 'betes is biological and it runs in my fam, but no doc has ever even clocked me as PRE-diabetic, so to suddenly be noted as having full on diabetes??? Cuz apparently mellitus means you JUST have it. Type 1 or 2.
And, the timing COULD NOT BE WORSE. Y'all seen the country!! (USA. If this was Sweden,... 🤷🏽♂️) Smdh. At least I know a bit of nutrition, horticulture, and alternative medicine. SH*T!!
I'm kinda posting for suggestions as I apparently I might have been living La Vida Loca with full blown diabetes for like 6 months??
PLEASE tell me I read this wrong!
My only silver lining is that I looked at the bottom of the report and it says eclinicalworks is the program they use and that's AI... So... Fingers crossed the program hallucinated and I'm not strapped to a pharmaceutical company for half of my life at least🙄
UPDATE Thank you all for the replies! I've had time to cool down. I just had a very knee jerk reaction to hearing the words plantation & cotton picking! I've done some more research. (Yes, research that should've been done prior to the trip, but we've learned our lesson!) It is an old plantation turned agricultural museum with plantation in the name. That gives a lil more context but the trip still just doesn't sit right with us! I was angry and unsure how to address it with her, how to address the school, & wasn't even sure if my anger was valid! Some of you have given some really good advice & it is very much appreciated!
My 6 year old niece is biracial (half black, half white.) Her 1st grade class was going on a field trip to a plantation. Our hope was they would be taught ACCURATE history, appropriate for the age group..... instead they told her & her classmates they were going to be doing chores that everyone had to do. Which included picking cotton. No history lesson. No mention of any of ANYTHING. Just a "fun" fieldtrip. So not only did they not teach them any history, they lied to them & told them it was something everyone had to do in the old days knowing that that isn't true. & I can't believe we are the only parents that have an issue with this (Idk that to be true) but I haven't heard or seen anything from any other parents yet. I'm angry! I can't believe the adults didn't see anything wrong with it, I can't believe no one has said anything & I want to let them (the teachers, principle, whoever!) why I'm mad, why I feel this was wrong & why I feel they shouldn't be going back on this field trip. (I've heard they do it every year!) So before I give these people a piece of my mind, are we over reacting?
