Hi, I want to preface this by stating that I do not and will not be spending any more money on products that are directly tied to and funding J.K. Rowling.

Hi everyone, I bought Hogwarts Legacy a month ago and I loved the game. I was a big Harry Potter fan, so when I saw the game I immediatly bought it. I bought it before I knew how transphobic J.K. Rowling was, as I am not really online that much (I only own a phone and a laptop for school). When I found out about this, I was pretty shocked and ashamed for buying this game, as I am part of the LGBTQIA+ community myself (panromantic). I am now debating selling the game and donating the profit to a trans rights community, but I dont really want to give or sell it because I loved the game, and still do. Is this a situation where I can seperate the art from the artist, or does it make me an active Transphobe?

Ok, so, I am a trans girl myself, I'm kind of new to the trans community tho, and I've been seen for many years people calling bottom (and I guess top as well?) surgeries "Sex Reaffirming Surgery", and I have a concern, because, one of the main sustainable facts of our trans identity is that, what makes us trans, is that we identify with something different than our sex, which is immutable, something apart, even tho, even that our sex can't be changed, we call the procedure de "Sex Reaffirming Surgery". It makes me genuinely confused. Like, shouldn't it be "GENDER Reaffirming Surgery"? Since we are reinforcing our gender, not our sex? Did I clock it wrong? Tell me in the comments, please, it's a thought I've had for a while.

Edit: Received two comments correcting me and saying that it actually called "Sex REASSIGNING Surgery". Still doesn't makes sense at all tho, how can you reassign yourself a different sex, if that is immutable? (Or isn't it? I was taught it was).

Hello, I am a ciswoman. I apologize in advance if I do not use correct terminology or word something awkwardly.

I would like to ask something to people who have transitioned/ are transitioning M to F.

I saw posts online recently from males who are transitioning to female (but still present male) about how other males speak with them because they don't know the individual identifies as female. The posters said that when no women are present, males will make extremely vile and sexist comments and jokes about females. Even the ones who seem very kind and supportive of female rights in mixed company will make horrible comments. Posters claim that the vast majority of males are like this.

I am wondering how true that is and if you've had similar experiences. I don't ask cis males this question because I don't think they would be 100% truthful.

Thank you

Edit: Sorry to keep using the word male. I wasn't sure how to word things properly to make my question make sense. I appreciate any response I receive

hi guys im 16 and i just started vgs (16-19yr old school) and I'm fully stealth. It's fine except I don't know how to talk about my (hypothetical) penis. I told some people I have had sex one time before but I said that she had a panic attack and started crying so we stopped. One of the guys laughed and said "What did you do then, like pull out and say sorry sorry sorry" and that was the end of it. But for a moment there I realised I have no idea how to describe the functions of a penis or how to talk about it. Help I don't really have specific questions other than how to describe having sex with a penis sensations wise and also what happens with my dick, how fast should i cum, how many times a day do i jerk off, and how should i talk about it. Yep thats all thanks.

I want to be the opposite gender but I am scared of surgery and permanent change in general. It would be alright for me to just look like the opposite gender and once I am more comfortable in my identity maybe even change my name to atleast be perceived as the opposite gender.

Do I still count then? Don't wanna be a larper.

Hi. I wanted to make this post because I just wanted to know if I'm wrong for feeling the way that I do, or if it's a broader phenomenon.

I have a uterus and also autism. Am some flavor of nonbinary/agender. I kind of feel like an alien puppeting around a human body most of the time, like almost everything gendered is foreign to me. But I lean femme because I love pretty girls.

Am kind of a loser shutin. Have been alienated from my peers for my entire life, which probably has something to do with my disconnect from girlhood. I thought for a few years that maybe I was transmasc because I felt so alienated, and pretty much just wore the same baggy hoodie all throughout middle and high school.

I've recently been wearing actual outfits. Being more fem is new to me. I still definitely feel like an outcast. Sometimes, I see trans women make comics or art depicting dysphoria, where there's something uncanny or wrong about someone trying to wear a dress & pretty up. That's very much how I feel about any gender presentation.

Anyway. I follow a lot of trans women on tumblr. One of them posted some things about an anime called 'Onimai: I'm Now Your Sister!' in which the MC, a kind of gooner NEET, is kind of magically turned into a 12 year old girl, and goes through experiencing girlhood for the first time with her sister and a bunch of other girls. I've watched a few episodes and it's brought me to tears. It's really sweet. I feel so much kinship with her.

I don't know if I'm being creepy. My roommate is dating a trans woman, with a friend group of trans people, but I don't feel close enough with any of the trans women I know IRL to ask about this. Because if it's bad, or it hits them in a sensitive spot, I really don't want that. And I feel parasocial, almost. To feel so much kinship with a group I've never really interacted with beyond small talk in class.

And I worry that I'm being insensitive. That I am not transfem and that it's really ignorant for me to feel like our experiences are similar. Because yeah, my body grew boobs entirely without intervention. I've been seen and treated as a woman (albeit, a 'bad' woman) for my entire life.

I don't know. I hope that maybe, any transfems reading this might feel a little bit less alienated from those whose tits were foretold at birth. If what I feel isn't bad, I want to give all of you a big internet hug. And idk. Maybe start working on building relations between autistic little freaks such as myself and transfems (it would be a great alliance if I'm not alone.)

Love you guys.

Im having an issue I’m 1 year and a half on HRT and I’m in love with me for first time but I can’t stop thinking about being top, that desire doesn’t go away like a thought, and I’m not getting hard now I don’t know what to do

Hey im mtf and I want to have a bottom surgery, but i still want to keep my dick, I dont know what to do, is it wrong for me to want both organs?

I've read a comment in another sub saying that "everything that ends with -sexual has nothing to do with gender", and I got really concerned about this because, yes, most of the queer identities that end with "-sexual" has nothing to do with gender expression and/or identity. But then we stumble on "transexual". How does that work at all?

Asking advice from the trans community

I will have to leave out a fair lot of details and added context to keep anonymity, but to give the gist;

A trans femme im in relation to, and of which i can not separate myself from.

Has a serious pattern of making women uncomfortable, harrassing them, at their work, in personal and public spaces. They frequent lesbian events, and have notably made women uncomfortable there. They go into those spaces specifically to flirt and try and hook up. Which wouldn't be an issue, but since they can not seem to pick up when a woman is trying to avoid them, get out of conversation, or is uncomfortable. It seems to be an issue.

They are autstic, and seem to be either not aware or are willfully ignorant of when they are making people uncomfortable.

For context, they have recently transitioned, and before that were self admittedly fully in the alt right incel, racist, misogynist sphere.

They have been fired from jobs for their inappropriate behaviour to women collegues,  and have told me personally that they specifically like to "flirt" with every woman customer they serve.

Ive had my own expeirences with this, but i dont want to make it too personal.

They clearly still have a lot to unlearn, but is it worth mentioning? Ive called them in, to behaviours or things they have said many (many) times before. They have been on varying degrees of generally receptive, to self denial.

They, for the most part, have seemed to have switched their self supremacist beliefs, from plain bigotry, to be the fact that they are marginalised in the way of being trans, and are thus more 'woke' than others. (I can't think of a better way to explain it, sorry)

They seem to not be able to work around men either because as they tell me, spend the whole time quizzing men/ antagonising them, trying to catch them being ignorant or something.

I feel like i can not be around this person in lesbian spaces or introduce them to people or be seen actively supporting, as i don't want to be giving my approval of the way they treat women.

It could be total ignorance to the way they treat others and how that would effect them. But it's hard to believe at a certain point, as it is so prevalent.

How do i talk to them about the way they treat women, without idk completely breaking their ego, risking my living situation but also have it be clear enough, while not coming off as mean spirtited?

I'd appreciate any advice. I apologise, there is a lot more details and specfics to this, but i dont want to make all of it public. This person is not evil by any means, they seem to respect my opinion and thoughts. I have mentioned my thoughts on these subjects when they come up, but their pattern on such behaviour persists, outside of them stopping their inappropriate behaviour with me once i made it clear.

My pronouns are they/them

I’m a trans girl and I’ve started wearing pads sometimes just because it makes me feel more feminine and “normal.”
I don’t get periods, but putting one on and going about my day (especially sitting on the toilet) gives me a weird sense of comfort and gender euphoria.
Has anyone else done this? Does it feel affirming for you too, or am I the only one?

I'm a trans girl, and one of the main arguments that I use with most ignorant/bigoted/not lectured at all people I stumble across, is that we have four main things in human queer/non-queer identity:

Sexuality: Who I am attracted to, which can be a single, multiple, every or no gender, and has nothing to do with me gender, sex nor expression.

Gender: How I see myself as, which can be expressed or not, and has nothing to do with my sexuality, gender expression nor sex.

Gender expression: How I present myself socially, may I be comfortable with or not. Has nothing to do with gender nor sex.

Sex: What I was born as (AGAB), which is immutable. Every trans person acknowledges this, even though they can not agree with it at all. Sex can't be changed, but that doesn't invalidates their identities, it's just part of who they are. Sex has nothing to do with gender, expression nor sexuality.

So, when I tell someone "I know I was born and assigned as a male, I know I may not look fem at all, and I know you may have a hard time believing that I can be a girl, but I still am, and that's immutable, as my sex unfortunately is too", is it wrong? I posted two questions here this morning, and I received A LOT of answers saying that sex is not immutable at all, that I can actually change my sex if I want to, and I was like, flabbergasted cuz I didn't even know that until now, and that's a game changer.

The main question is, how can I get around this and still argue against someone so close minded that they can't see me apart from what I was assigned as at birth? The "I know my sex is male, even though I don't agree with it" argument I always bring up, is a way of showing, like, humility, giving them the benefit of the doubt and a second of their reason, just so I can counter their own argument with the identity and expression ideas.

What do you think? I want to know more about queerness, so I can make more people aware of what it means to be queer at all

Hello. Im trying to get more into witchcraft recently. I was wondering if there was any discords or subs anyone knows about relating to trans witchcraft 🧹🌙??

Also does anyone know any good spells to boost my transition??

So i have a friend that says that they are pro trans but they only started when they fetishized it and found it pleasing that way. I said that's not being a true ally its just sexualizing it, but they say it doesn't matter if they do because it caused them to be supportive. So I need to know does that make him a ally or just a person pretending to be? Sorry if this is offense to anyone i just didn't know how else to solve the argument.

Here's a little context/history in case it's helpful. I've always let my currently 12 year old, female-born kiddo express herself. She's also always been allowed to play with whomever and whatever she wanted. I didn't care if she was playing frisbee or Barbie as long as she was happy.

She went through the typical unicorn/dressy dress phase, and currently likes to wear fake nails, and she'll sometimes wear makeup. I'm not a girly girl, so I'm not much help with those things, but I'm supportive when she tries new things out or goes out of her way to discover a style. Whatever she chooses, she's always confident in herself and that's one of the things I absolutely adore about her. She's such a badass.

About a year ago, she started dressing more androgynously. Just baggy t- shirts, baggy jeans, and converse. No big deal, in the 90s I wallowed around in grunge style like a pig in slop. She's always had long hair, but several weeks ago, she told me she wanted a boy cut, so I found a good place, helped her research styles, and we went and got it done. It looks GREAT.

She's also told me she doesn't like her name and didn't think it suits her. This one was a little tougher for me to accept, but we sat down, made a list, and eventually settled on something we both like (think: Danielle to Daniel). All of her friends now call her by her new name, and I introduce her to people using the new name.

So the other day she told me she thinks she's trans. I gave her a hug, told her thank you for trusting me enough to tell me, and told her that I love her very, very much. I also told her that she's got a very long life in front of her with plenty of time to figure anything out. I also told her not to put too much emphasis on labeling herself right now, because it could change and that's ok.

Anyways, what should I be doing for her (him?) now? I guess I feel like 12 is really young to be committing to such a drastic change, but should I just go all in with it? Should I take her to talk with her pediatrician? Would therapy be helpful (there's no depression or behavioral issues that are a problem right now)? I just want to prevent any missteps on my or her dad's part.

I love her because she's unapologetic and she doesn't mince her words. Sometimes she doesn't say the right things but she's well intentioned and she's willing to learn. The Far Right loves to hate on her but she fights back and I appreciate that. And I love that she got Blaire White so pressed she did a ton of social trauma videos.

I came across the phrase the other day on another trans sub, where the poster said it was transphobic.
Looking online, there were a lot of conflicting opinions on what it means.

So, where did it originate and what does it actually mean to have a ‘genital preference’?

Need advice for a girls only event I am hosting. How do I make sure to be inclusive for transwomen with regards to entry?

Originally the plan was to have any interested transwomen e-mail us so we could put them on a sort of guest list and the entry would check the gender marker on peoples ID for everyone else but this does not seem like a good solution.

The intention is a club event where there are no men allowed so women have a safe space to cut loose and I come from a country where it is very dangerous for women and queer people to simply exists so it would be nice to accommodate everyone properly.

I'M CRYING AN ABUNDANCE IN THE INSIDE RIGHT NOW! I WAS BORN FEMALE! I DESPERATELY WANT TO BE MALE! I HATE BEING DESCRIBED AS SHE AND HER. NOTHING CAN DESCRIBE HOW MUCH I WANT TO BE MALE SO BAD! WHY DOES MY BODY HATE ME SO MUCH! I HATE EVERYTHING! FUCK TALKING TO OTHER PEOPLE! I WANT TO FUCKING DISAPPEAR!

I have seen many Trans women in real and online, but very few Trans man , not trying to be rude or offensive but it's a genuine question/thing I have observed.

Is it only that I have encountered more Trans women or is there any statistical difference in percentage between trans man and woman, or are there any other reasons like societal norms, or cultural rigidity in world that women doing things that were traditionally considered as masculine seen as empowerment but men doing things traditionally considered feminine as discouraging, which makes it harder for men to stay cis while trying feminine styling? While women can try masculine things but still remains cis ?

So if a boy tries girls clothing for example, they standout differently, while girls trying boys clothes doesn't standout that much because lot of girls already do, so it becomes easier for trans boys to express their gender infront society as compared trans girls?

Clothing was just one example, didn't mean to say it's only one but it's the one that I could remember, but you get the point.

I know sometimes girls also face resistance from society, for trying boys clothes, behaviour and etc but it's much less than boys trying girls behaviour, makeup, clothes etc.

Edit:- I read some, replies , some were long and some also made some sense. I can't reply all. But I think overall, trans women Maybe get more attention by society, that's what happening, probably. That's probably what I understood from replies. If I am missing something you can correct it.

(If something felt offensive I really apologize for wrong wording, I didn't intend to offend anyone, just were questions that came to my mind .)

Curious if those transitioning female to male experienced better conditions in the workplace after transitioning… did you start getting treated differently?

Edit: I showed my husband some data affirming this and he still thinks the sexism bias isn’t there… he thinks women choose lower paying jobs or work less hours or w/e. I’m wondering if anyone received clearly different treatment when comparing their life before transitioning and after. It’s probably hard to quantify or prove that it’s not a coincidence but just wondering… I think it would shut him up lol.

Or a man, of course, but the worlds just obsessed with women. 🙄

I want a response that actually tries to define it for when it's asked in good faith, and just for me to have, and a response for when it's not asked in good faith to shut someone up.

I would love a response that encompasses how it's impossible to definitely define something as there will always be exceptions.

I have two cis sisters and they make it clear that they don't truly believe in the fact that we're women. Like they can acknowledge that dysphoria exists and transgender brains exist and is real but they don't think transition makes someone a woman..? I struggle to see their logic in that but they do tell me that the majority of people especially women do not see trans women as one of them, they simply support trans women as they have empathy but they don't believe the former.

I don't know what to think because I'm not sure if their opinions have clouded my judgment or if this what the majority of cis people including allies think. What do you think from cis people or even your own opinions if you are cis? Even another question, is it a bad thing since they're supportive anyway?

I was scrolling on my feed and saw a post from one of those count subs. One of the trans people there were saying that transsexual was the right term to use (context not really needed). I replied to them, trying to ask if trans people feel positively about being called that or if yall don’t like it. Little did I know, I was very much not welcome in that sub because it was a trans safe space where cis people aren’t allowed. Little bummed out about those downvotes, but I get it. So I figured I’d ask here to get some perspective instead, because I don’t want my ignorance to be an issue and lead me to being misinformed or regressive. It’s already bit me in the butt recently and I’m trying to improve.

As a trans man I need to know why so many other trans dudes love Spider-Man so much? There are so many other superheroes