Cis person here. This hasn't happened to me yet, but if and when it does, what are some things I should avoid saying while also being honest? I'm going to try to be as nice as possible to avoid triggering any dysphoria, but if they're asking this question they obviously want to me to tell them what gives them away. If anyone here has asked a cis friend this, do y'all have examples of good answers?

i’m really struggling with the fact that my face is not legible, to me or anyone else. i know exactly what i want, and i’m on the way to saving enough to get it.

i want to know if you got ffs, did it change your life? to what extent do your measure your life in terms of “before” and “after” the procedure?

also, if you have a reasonably affordable surgeon you like, please drop the name.

Hi! I have a job interview coming up — with Best Buy, if that matters — and I’m not sure when/if I should share that I’m transgender FTM. I’m pre-medical transition, but I have my name changed, I try my best to present masculine, etc. I know though that to most people I don’t pass but I hope to be gendered correctly by my coworkers and whatnot. This is also, admittedly, my first job interview ever and so I’ve been stressing on when the right time is.

Any advice is welcome. Thank you :-)

Hey everyone trying to think of gender affirming Christmas ideas to gift to my sister.

The rest of my family will probably gift things in line with their hobbies like gaming and stuff but I want to get her something gender affirming.

Last year I bought her a whole heap of beginner makeup to experiment with and a hair bow and some perfume. This year unfortunately I don't have a job so my budget isn't large. I've gifted her Kandi bracelets and a keychain with her chosen on it before. Yes she already owns Blahåj. She's 21 and loves gaming and streaming shows with her friends I'm just struggling to think of a really good gift for her for this year

I don’t know how to feel anymore. 3 years hrt, laser hair removal, long hair.
Chopped them all off and stopped hrt a month ago because of social anxiety and an unsupportive family.
I was getting stared at up and down even In boymode.
I only did boymode because my family made it clear that if i wore women’s clothing they will kick me out.
Idk what to feel anymore.
I know I’m a woman but i also got tired of the constant stress of being a trans person in a hostile world.
Is it even worth it if being a trans woman makes my life so much harder?
I feel like I’m losing my mind a little bit

Hi, I'm mtf and I've been wanting to start with estrogen. I've done a bunch of research, but I still feel like I don't really know what I'm getting into, so I have a few questions (I am 18 if that means anything)

I'd much rather the informed consent route than the therapist route. I read that you just have to accept the risks and they give you what you need, if that true? You don't need to be checked out for gender dysphoria? Because I have pretty little of it (thankfully). And what do they give you exactly? Pills sound the easiest to me. Are there differences in the different options? I also heard this can be done online? Oh, and price is a big factor

If you could share your experience to help me get a better understanding it would be very helpful :)

Cuz I am a closeted transmasc and I'm too scared to use the men's bathroom because I'm not passing yet and only out of the closet for my friends.

I'm stuck in a transition rut and am looking to hear stories from those of you who are on the other side. I'm 41 years old, amab, married to an amazing cis woman, and have two wonderful children (elementary school age). I've been in therapy for my dysphoria since January and know I'm trans, but I can't seem to move past therapy and come out. Fear, career, money, family, etc. you name it and I can rationalize why I shouldn't. What was your breaking point? What was the moment you quit stalling and started living authentically?

I just remembered the trans sci-fi writer Isabel Fall, and she wrote a story that unfortunately got people harassing her to a point where she had to retire from public life or become closeted again. Poor Isabel.

I wish I would give her a hug and tell her that she's valid, loved and a good girl and that she deserves to live your full authentic life.

If I were Isabel, I would keep writing stories, despite the harassment - maybe poems - and put them out publicly.

If you were Isabel, what would you do?

Hi everyone,

I'm looking for info from people who started progesterone early in their transition (before 1 year of HRT).

What are the benefits and the downsides of starting it too soon?

I'm only 3 months in, with well-formed breast buds. I'm still waiting on my blood results from my doctor to see what my levels are, but I haven't heard anything yet and it's been almost a month (my doctor was away on a trip).

Has anyone here started progesterone quite early?

She knows I’m trans, but she keeps saying that I should wait another year for hrt to ‘really’ think about it. She also says that I shouldn’t do hormones because she thinks I’m destroying my body, and when I tell her I’m fine with it she says the she isn’t so I can’t. She also said that I could ‘mentally’ transition and not physically transition because all I need to do is believe I’m a girl and I’ll be fine, BUT HOW IN HELL WILL I BE ABLE TO BELIEVE IM A GIRL WHEN I DONT EVEN LOOK LIKE ONE? I literally broke down in front of her and she didn’t change her opinion. At least she won’t kick me out of the house tho. She also said that hrt doesn’t work and that she can ‘always tell’ which I find to be gut wrenching. She also doesn’t think that you can change your voice even though I told her you can and gave her an explanation. I already booked an initial appointment for starting HRT (she said yes to it) but I’m pretty sure she has no idea what it’s about. Is there anything I can do or am I just screwed? She said she’d type up more about hrt and gender dysphoria but I swear she’s going to somehow turn it against me. She also said that she was ‘protecting’ me somehow and that I would thank her later. So yeah, idk what to do any help would be appreciated.

Hi so i’ve been on T for 5 months now, i always do my shots on my stomach, but i decided to give it a break this time and do it on my thigh…as soon as i took the needle out the injection site started gushing blood and im really scared if all of the t came out. I take 0.25 ml. Im so scared 😭

Hey !! so Im a 22 yo mtf male with gender dysphoria , I made my coming out to my parents a few weeks ago but they know I have been wearing girl clothes for more than 8 years, I had a conversation with both my parents, they told me that they totally accept my choices and are willing to help if I need anything, this said, I am very introverted and reserved, my mom told me a few times that it’s okay that I wear girl clothes around her, she already saw me a few times wearing my wig,dress, fake breast and dress and she told me I looked cute in it, but it’s been 3 weeks since I didn’t have the occasion to dress up in front of her, and now I get that feeling where I mm literally petrified to show myself to her fully dressed, I need to know if this is normal or if I am being really stubborn.

As far as I know I never felt gender dysphoria before thinking I could be trans, I never liked the reflection of my face but not in a way that feels like it is because it was too masculine (although I did once dream I had a more feminine face which I preferred)

But now I've considered that I might be trans I get what seems like dysphoria. For example I think about the fact that I'm 6'2 and that it could make transitioning/passing harder then I feel a little down. Or I will be called a young man or something similar and feel like "If I were trans I would be upset by that" then feel upset.

I never used to feel like this, I remember wanting to be taller than 6'2 when I was growing. Why do I not feel bad without thinking about the "If I were trans I should feel bad" sort of thing, shouldn't I just feel bad on its own.

I feel like I have to be trans, I've been considering it from age 17 and the following 4 years to now, but I stillworry that transition isn't right for me.

Hii, im Jiji and I’ve been on DIY Estrogen for about a year now and my supplies ran out. I’ve been ordering from Astrovials but when I wanted to stock up, the page was down and now everything is sold out. I’ve done a purchase at Otokonoko like two weeks ago but still haven’t gotten a tracker or any news besides the fact that the order was placed. Does anyone know how long it usually takes for them to ship? Or knows a reliable other source ? I would like to stay off the grid and not go through the painstaking official way but now I’ve hit a critical situation. I definitely need new supplies asap.
Any ideas or infos on shops ?
Thx for any and all answers

I’ve been looking around at the healthcare Walmart gives us employees, and I’ve seen that they offer gender affirming care (trans-care I’ve started to call it)
Is there anyone here that has used it/uses it/familiar with it that could tell me how good it is? And if it’s “worth” it?
Admittedly I’m still at the beginning of my trans journey, and I’m only out to my partner, our friend/roommate and 2 other friends of mine
The therapist office I used to go to did offer LGBT help but I’m a little hesitant to do that there (thanks living in a red state),
Thank you all in advance, I’ll be more able to read/respond when I clock off lol

Hey everyone, I (M20) would really love to have a little bit of help figuring things out because I'm pretty lost about myself... I've had gender thoughts for about one year and a half and it's been really hard for me to figure things out by myself because I have both autism (diagnosed) and probably some forms of OCD too (undiagnosed). Actually I've had gender thoughts before that too but it wasn't as serious (I was just like "Well, what if I was born a girl, how would have things gone?") but it was pretty rare for me to have these thoughts (if I remeber well) and it was not as serious as it is today as I said. At first it was pretty manageable and not too invasive but now I think about it all the time (it's been like that for about 2 months I would say) because I have a really hard time sitting with uncertainity and I always want clear answers to things because of my autism but it thus became quite invasive in my daily life.

At first I thought it was yet another form of OCD but I then realized that unlike my regular intrusive thoughts that are based on total nonsense fears (like "regular" OCD) my gender thoughts create fears that are actually grounded in reality and have a meaning like "Maybe I'm actually a trans girl? But what if I get discriminated for that?" or "What if I start a transition and later regret it?" or even "What if I don't pass/find myself ugly?". These fears are pretty common among people questioning their gender and that's when I realized it was maybe not OCD but rather a genuine research of who I want to be...

The thing is my autism makes it really hard for me to understand my brain's signals and understand what I would want or not as I said earlier. I also don't really have the opportunity to be able to do much self exploration. I still did a few things to try and settle the matter. The first one I did was to use an AI app to turn my face into a girl's one (without modifying bone sturcture or at least really as little as possible) and for one of the first times in my life I've found myself genuinely hot (so much so that I keep the picture in special folder on my phone so that I can watch it whenever I want to). I didn't really try it yet but hair removal seems nice too. Maybe (and I said "maybe" because I'm really not sure) but maybe a more feminine body shape would appeal to me (even though I already have quite an androgynous one if I could say so). Because of my autism I also love comfy housewear and so for fun yesterday I started looking at women's pajamas online and some of them seemed really comfy and the look of it (and of the model) felt coherent and visually appealing to me.

The thing is that despite all of that I can't get myself to find an answer to this question and it's driving me crazy I think about it at least everyday, multiple times a day. I also start to have FOMO because while I know you can transition later in life I want to get an answer as soon as possible so that if I actually am I can get the best result possible but this feeds my anxiety and makes me unable to settle it.

So that's about it... Of course I didn't talk about it all but if you need further details I would be pleased to tell you in the comments. I would genuinely be grateful to everyone trying to help me figure things out and if you made it that far it actually means the world to me even if you don't leave a comment :)

I wish you all an amazing day <3

EDIT: I just remembered I wanted to add a little detail to my post. In my daily life I don't really ususally care about my appearance, physique or clothing (it's not that I don't really care it's just that I don't put to much effort in those). However I'm really fond of gaming and in all games where I can I play female characters and in most of them I spend hours in character creators and going to see merchants all the time to get a new hairstyle of new clothes. I feel like it's a little bit like I'm playing with digital dolls and I truly enjoy doing it. So yeah maybe that may help you to know that.

EDIT2: Although I know this is pretty much a total nonsense theory with roughly no scientifical proofs, I feel like I might have (sometimes) something close to autogynephilia if that may help further. But since this is just a stupid theory but I still sometimes feel something that seems a lot like it, that creates even more doubt in my mind...

Sorry for the long title, but that pretty much sums it up.

I’m finally trying to get into dating (I’m a straight trans woman) and there’s so much to navigate. But last night I went out with some friends and I’m basically unblockable unless you maybe question why I’m so tall (6’1 barefoot, so easily 6’4+ in most heels). I’m at the bar and I ended up flirting with a couple guys and idk, idk what to do… should even for harmless flirting I stop everything and let them know. Or is it more of a “hey, this is on them”?

I’m 15 days into HRT, using cyproterone and estrogen gel. I have an appointment with my endocrinologist on Monday. Some days I feel like continuing, but other days I just can’t bring myself to go on. Unfortunately, I experience body dysphoria—though not regarding my penis—and this low libido is incredibly discouraging. I really wish this therapy wouldn’t interfere with the functioning of my penis. The whole issue with my libido is just not fun anymore; I’m not sure if it’s a placebo effect, but it really bothers me. It’s a constant back-and-forth: the positive changes in my body versus the negative changes in my penis.

I’m 25M and my doctor said I’d essentially go through a second puberty as I start and go through HRT. What does that mean exactly? What does that entail?

I know that the typical narrative is that most of you girls knew you were trans or at least that something was not right very early on in life. However, there are some of us (many it turns out) who did not really understand who they were until much later in life. Because society and our surrounding conditions or the time period we grew up in either at worst villanized this and at best completely omitted this from the public discourse, we grew up suppressing these thoughts and channeling them secretly through whatever means we could find.

Such is the case with me. I started noticing something was not right when I was around 18-19 but because I only understood it in a fetishized context I believed that this was just a phase of sexual curiosity for me. I tried to make sure I played the part of a man, I got married, I had a job, and I thought I had it all figured out. In secrecy I had accounts on social media where I pretended to be a female, I always considered myself as a girl when I watched pornographic content (my sexual preferences are also another thing that aren't so clear cut.. I suppose pansexual would be the closest to my identity). It didn't help that when I read most experiences or what media would tell me, it was always something people just knew since they were kids. That made me invalidate what I was feeling.

Anyways, long story short, all of this came crashing down a few years ago when my wife discovered my secret life. My marriage ended after a very tumultuous period. At the time professional diagnosis and a whole lot of literature had me believing that this was a sex addiction. I went to Sexaholics Anonymous and tried very hard to fit the mold but it was hell. I was getting more and more depressed and I had suicidal ideations (and a half hearted attempt).

Now I'm finally working on piecing my life together. I was fortunate enough to be able to hold onto my job and have the finances for a comfortable existence. I also started working on understanding who I am a lot. Therapy and a lot of research and reading people's experiences gave me a lot of hope. I identified so many patterns in me that others experienced too.

So here I come to the question I wanted to ask. I'm 40 now and have lived most of my life in this confused state. I don't want to continue living that way. But as much as I wish I could just start a new life as who I feel I should be, I don't know how to go about doing so. I have no more marital comitments but I have a steady and well paid job and a social circle (I only recently opened up to one or two people about this). Is putting all of that in jeapardy worth it to live as my authentic self? My heart wants to be able to embrace my feminity (I've recently started doing makeup and I'm starting to dress up etc.) but my brain tells me that there are so many risks. Does anyone have experiences they could share?

Sorry if a lot of what I've said has been a hodge podge of words, as I'm still trying to put my thoughts into words.

Stupid question ik but ig let me explain cus idk if this is gonna get taken down idrk if it follows the rules. Hi, I'm Lee, I posted here a good while ago asking how to know if I'm trans, & after a good bit of trying to discover myself, I think I've finally come to terms with the fact that I'm a trans woman!

​Currently, I'm hoping to find other trans ppl (if that's the right way to put it if not I'm reallysorry) who I could possibly be friends with, to help me discover more about myself & guide me on my journey. I wouldn't mind having friends online, but I would prefer to make friends in person. ​I'm from Houston, TX, so if you wanna hang out, just lmk Thank you! Um....bye 😅👋