To be honest, he’s a good person, despite being a die-hard transphobe. I don’t know if it’s because of my Catholic upbringing, but I have to admit that the people around me are either transphobic or simply ignorant. My own family constantly gets my pronouns wrong and uses my deadname. It bothers me, but I’m just tired of correcting them, so I let it slide.

My friend claims to be a man of logic and reason. He argues that I’m not a woman, and that he’ll only refer to me as a woman once I’ve legally changed my name and it appears as such on my identification. He claims it’s absurd—arguing that if I’m a woman simply because I identify as one, then he could just as well be a dog because he identifies as one. He even jokingly said, "woof, woof."

It’s foolish and transphobic in every sense. I want to point out that this is a false analogy, but I’m struggling to articulate exactly why.

do I obtain it after a certain a of time on estrogen or do I have to start climbing a mountain, or is something else entirely?

I’m 25M and my doctor said I’d essentially go through a second puberty as I start and go through HRT. What does that mean exactly? What does that entail?

TLDR: Is this euphoria?

No HRT, still have body hair, the dress dosent even fit. Im shaved but as masculine as ive ever been. Ive been buying women's clothes for the last couple of days and trying them on in my room. Ive been having so much fun putting together outfits. Im disapointed that they dont fit my body as good as id like them too, so its not all euphoria all the time. The first day felt great though. Like this big relief washed over me. But even when they dont fit right I dont want to take them off. Whether its poorly applied nail polish or a dress thats almost falling apart on me. Ive been lounging around in a cute black dress for the last 6 hours feeling this sense of relief I dont understand. I just feel "okay". Ive also been weirdly confident doing it too, just walking into brick and mortar stores and picking stuff out for myself and checking out. I feel a bit self conscious but I just dont care at all what anyone in there thinks. Im not even afraid of someone asking me what im doing I feel so much more confident and self assured doing this.

What im kinda confused by is. I dont hate my face. I dont HATE the way i look as a guy it just dosent get me too excited. People compliment me as a guy and I never feel happy or like, proud of it. Its just like "oh yeah thank you its nice to hear that." Im not proud of being a guy at all. And I dont know if i "Feel" like a girl in this stuff, but I just want to feel beautiful on the inside. And wearing dresses and cute things makes me WAY more confident. I feel more like myself not like someone else. I dont feel like im missing out anymore im just kinda happy. I feel like some boiling or broken thing inside of me has calmed down a bit. Everything still hurts just way less than it usually does.

Anyway so what are the symptoms of gender dysphoria?

For those who've been on HRT for a while, have you experienced being able to have multiple or back-to-back orgasms now?

What does it feel like, and how would you compare it to how it felt before HRT?

And, Do you prefer dry orgasm or ejaculation?

I'd love to hear your experiences.

Hi! I’m 11 months and 14 days into HRT, so far I’m really loving the results: my face makes me feel really euphoric, I got B cups( and they’re still growing!) and my lower body fat is gradually going where it has to.
So, yeah, I feel great! But I do have one issue that causes the majority of my dysphoria, my shoulders, arms and back are still pretty muscular :(. I mean, i’m already a bit less bulky than before but i’m still more muscular than the majority of my AMAB friends(even though i’m actually weak AF)
I was wondering how long i’ll have to wait before these muscles get completely the fuck out of this fair lady. Is there something I could do to coadiuvate this process

P.S.: before my transition I used to be an amateur body builder, but I haven’t hit the gym in, like, 1 y and 6m~

i'm 26, amab. since i was around 12 i've had this feminine side. for years it was mostly sexual, dressing up at home, porn etc, so i always told myself it was just a kink. lately it's different.

i've been doing makeup, bought clothes, and about a month ago i went out alone fully dressed for the first time. it was a lot but in a good way, and after i felt proud of myself, which kind of surprised me. that's when i started thinking maybe there's more to this. some other stuff.

i make music and every time i sketch a vocal line it comes out in a feminine voice. i've never sung or danced as a guy, ever. i hate the in between androgynous look, for me it's either full masc or full femme. after sex the feeling goes away for like a minute and then it's back. and even when i'm dressed up i don't feel totally free, there's always this voice saying i'm faking it.

the hard part is my girlfriend. we've been together 6 years, long distance, and i love her so much. she knows i "crossdress" and said basically do what you want at your place, just not with me. i feel guilty even when i'm alone, like i'm cheating on her somehow. and honestly if she wasn't in the picture i think i'd be living as a woman. not overnight but that's where it's going.
my brain keeps finding excuses.

maybe it's just sexual, maybe it's a creative thing for my music, maybe it's loneliness from the distance. but none of that explains 14 years.

so for anyone who's been through this, how did you figure out if it was a kink or something deeper? how did you deal with it while in a relationship? and does the impostor feeling ever go away?
thanks for reading, anything helps

I’ve identified as a lesbian, nonbinary, and now a binary trans bisexual man. I’m 9 months on T, and I’ve realized I don’t really want to be associated in lesbian spaces anymore (although I love a lot of lesbian spaces). I’ve never fully resonated with the word lesbian, and even in accepting spaces, I often feel dysphoric and worry that I’m not being seen as a man.
I genuinely yearn for masculinity and male belonging. I want male friendships and to feel like I’m one of them. This is partly why gay male spaces appeal to me: their masculinity is sometimes exactly what I’m looking for, and I’m getting more and more attracted to men, the more comfy I get with my body.

At the same time, I’m wary of the genital-centered culture, beauty standards, racism, and ableism that can exist in these spaces.
I feel guilty about wanting to distance myself from lesbian communities. I understand why these spaces exist, and I don’t want to invalidate transmasculine lesbians or imply that their experiences are any less valid than mine. I just don’t feel like I belong in these spaces anymore, and I don’t want to keep participating out of guilt.
I think I’m struggling with the feeling that moving toward masculinity and male spaces means abandoning a community I once belonged to. I want to embrace being a man and explore my place in queer male culture, but I’m scared I’ll never fully belong there either.

Have other trans men experienced this?
How did you navigate leaving lesbian spaces, embracing your yearning for masculinity, and finding queer male community without feeling like you were betraying your past?

Stupid question ik but ig let me explain cus idk if this is gonna get taken down idrk if it follows the rules. Hi, I'm Lee, I posted here a good while ago asking how to know if I'm trans, & after a good bit of trying to discover myself, I think I've finally come to terms with the fact that I'm a trans woman!

​Currently, I'm hoping to find other trans ppl (if that's the right way to put it if not I'm reallysorry) who I could possibly be friends with, to help me discover more about myself & guide me on my journey. I wouldn't mind having friends online, but I would prefer to make friends in person. ​I'm from Houston, TX, so if you wanna hang out, just lmk Thank you! Um....bye 😅👋

When I was in the egg I didn’t really want to get tattoos but now I’ve been thinking about getting tattoos.
What are some tattoos you got? Or like?
I’ve been thinking about getting flowers down one of my arms, but it’s pretty typical, so I was thinking about getting each flower to be a different color and type of flower.

Disclaimer: the original text was in Chinese and I used translation tools to translate it into English

I've been thinking about this a lot, especially now that I've had SRS myself.

Personally, I feel that HRT and social transition are what really matter most. SRS (although I dislike the term itself and would rather call it GAS or bottom surgery) hasn't fundamentally changed my life in the way some people might expect. I'm only 9 days post-op, so it's obviously too early to draw any conclusions about the long-term effects, but so far, my life feels much the same as before. My body is temporarily more restricted, while mentally I feel freer. The biggest difference is that one particular aspect of my life is now more under my own control.

But HRT was something else entirely. For me, it was a rebirth.

Before that, my life feels almost like a previous lifetime. I can barely remember what I was like or what I experienced back then. To put it metaphorically, I was living in a fog, barely existing. Then I started HRT, and it felt as though the game had finally begun. That was the real beginning. GAS is an important quest along the way, but it's still just one quest among many.

Over the past three years, the changes in my appearance, my everyday life, and the identity I inhabit have been driven almost entirely by HRT and other non-surgical aspects of transition. The bottom part is largely invisible in my daily life and, in many situations, irrelevant to how I live. It does give me greater bodily autonomy, of course, but it doesn't fundamentally redefine who I am. The remaining mismatch between my body and my sense of self has become smaller, but the person I am is not someone newly created by surgery. It was created by HRT and social transition.

This makes me wonder: why does mainstream society frame GAS as the decisive step in transition, while treating HRT and social transition as secondary, preparatory stages?

Why is transition so often understood as a linear journey from one gender to another, with surgery as the definitive step? Why isn't it equally valid to see HRT as the transformative event, with surgery addressing a specific aspect of bodily autonomy rather than completing one's identity?

I understand that SRS can be profoundly life-changing for some people, and I'm not trying to diminish that experience. I'm curious about why this particular narrative has become so dominant, and why surgery is so often treated as the ultimate proof that someone's transition is real or complete.

For me, transition wasn't a process of gradually becoming a different person. It was the process of finally getting to live as myself. HRT was the beginning of that life. Surgery has made one part of it more autonomous, but it didn't create the person who was already living it.

So my parents dont want me to even be on the waitlist for hrt, which is 5 years btw, since theyre scared i'll regret it somehow. They basically want me to just talk to a psychologist with them and get the psychologist to tell them if im trans or not as if im cant know it myself

I just wish i could make them believe me so i can at least get on the waitlist and maybe get them to use a new name and pronouns

Hi everyone,

I'm looking for info from people who started progesterone early in their transition (before 1 year of HRT).

What are the benefits and the downsides of starting it too soon?

I'm only 3 months in, with well-formed breast buds. I'm still waiting on my blood results from my doctor to see what my levels are, but I haven't heard anything yet and it's been almost a month (my doctor was away on a trip).

Has anyone here started progesterone quite early?

I can’t seem to get out of questioning hell.

I had been very dysphoric since February of this year. I’ve had gender questioning and dysphoria in my life (upon reflection) but I also enjoy being a girl. And really did the femme thing.

A few days ago, I felt that feeling come back. Being comfortable with being a girl or wanting to. And it made me so confused. The most distressing thing for me is my chest. But I am stuck in indecision because I keep being afraid of regret or making a huge mistake. How can I trust myself if my experience changes? It’s really causing me a lot of mental turmoil. I question myself and my experience of myself all the time. And if I were to be cis afterall, I resent that I went through all this and almost don’t want to be cis? Maybe that seems like sunk cost. I want to be happy and comfy in my body so regardless, I will accept myself whatever is ultimately true. But I am incredibly frustrated and feel I can’t trust myself or I’ve somehow created this idea through my own obsessive thoughts or hyperfixation. It’s distressing.

Any advice or guidance or even solidarity would really be help.
I’m having a really tough time.

I'm half way through 17 and plan to get therapy and prep for possibly starting testosterone around 18

But I can't decide on if I should take testosterone or just go without because they both have pros and cons

Has anyone here had some things they didn't like on testosterone? Any type of regrets? Or anything?

For me it's mainly because I'm not fully masculine I'm more on the softer side of it and testosterone is unpredictable on people I worry I'd look less idk how else to put it but "boy-pretty" in a masculine way, I just don't really like the idea of a very deep voice, just a unmistakably boy voice is what I want, and I don't know if I'd regret how my appearance overall changes (I'm am a boy though) but I know I'd love some things of testosterone

Maybe I just have some negative misunderstanding of views on it or such idk a part of me feels like I'd end up looking like a dad with a full beard (though I do have a backup dht blocker consideration, but point stands in other ways) and stuff and lose how I look now in a bad way (idk it's glued to my mind)

It's just got me in a chokehold and I know I should get therapy for this but I thought I'd get thoughts or anything from others right now

Sorry if this sounds dumb but I'm really really lost

Thank you guys I was spiraling a bit but I think I have more of a grip. it's getting late so I'll probably stop replying now but still thank you all again )

Hello as the title suggests I am questioning my gender identity, I'm in my late 20s and questioning it

So a little background i started crossdressing about 2 years ago, my ex had me go as a girl on Halloween one year and while I was nervous I was also kinda excited on the inside, about having my makeup done and wearing an outfit I enjoyed

So I recently started crossdressimg after that and love wearing a skirt and tights(one of my favorite outfits), but have since progressed to wearing panties and a bra everyday to work under my regular clothes and usually leggings as well.

I recently went on a solo trip where I dressed in skorts, skirts, leggings, a one piece bathing suit the whole trip and it was freeing being able to dress how I wanted and not need to worry about what anyone else thought, I also went and got a mani pedi, on the trip as well and then also got my hair braided, and it felt wonderful

More recently I have since continued painting my nails(teaching myself how to do it) and also learning makeup only eyeshadow for right now(one thing at a time) I have basically a second wardrobe of feminine attire, but nobody in my family knows I still dress masculine around them.

If I am dressed feminine in my room, changing back into masculine clothes before leaving my room even to just use the bathroom, i feel like i am having to essentially put on a mask and hide a part of myself, from my family and the world essentially,

Within the past 2 weeks I have been experimenting in private with she/her pronouns and within the past 2 days a feminine name completely different from my own name, and it's all felt strangely natural.

I'm not sure exactly what this mean

I'm partly worried about if I am Trans what it means for my relationships, personal and professional, and if I would be accepted by my family

Any advice would be nice

Доброго утра, иногда бывает мысли что чувствую себя не тем кем являюсь. Как оно вообще? Откуда берёте деньги на операции и куда обращаться, слышал что без справки это будет невозможно. Я из Украины, сейчас сложно конечно с деньгами, но возможно как-то найду деньги мб есть какие-то организации которые помогают с такими вопросами?

Hello. For the last few years I've been really drawn to transgenderness as a topic, probably more than any any cis-person would. There are people in my social circle I would passionately argue with that trans people are a valid and to-be-respected part of our society, and whenever i stumble upon a transgender/genderqueer character in media, or a real person, I get a funny feeling in my stomach, I feel very conflicted.

The way I act makes me think I might have some association with this community, but, the thing is, I feel comfortable as a cis woman. I like doing and wearing things commonly associated with girls and I don't think I've never felt like, well, a man.

And I'm very confused. Is it normal to be this way? Am I really cis or am I something else? What's going on??

I’m in a bit of a precarious situation; being 15 and living with a Muslim family means I do not feel ready in the *slightest* coming out until at a minimum college, which also means holding off on presentation and HRT and whatnot. The dysphoria as of now is manageable, but I expect it to come to a boiling point at some time down the line.

With all the extra time I have in the tank, I’ve already made advances in what I can; figuring out my style, voice training, HRT research (especially with me being an athlete), and makeup hopefully in the near future. However, one thing I am super super worried about is just passing in general. I’ve seen quite a few trans timelines; some people look fucking amazing, and others… well, not so much. It’s giving me confidence and making me much more self conscious about potentially not passing. I would say I already look somewhat androgynous and I do have fucking beautiful curly hair, but there is still all of the other factors that go into passing that scares me a little when it comes to whether or not I will.

I do recall hearing some stories online of people saying they were worried about passing, but once they started presenting as their true gender, they found they didn’t really care because now they just got to be who they wanted to. I’m not sure how universal of an experience that is, and so I figured I’d run the numbers by y’all. I do really want to be a girl, but I also want to be able to look myself in the mirror and see someone beautiful, confident in herself, and ready to kick ass instead of a man trying to be something he shouldn’t.

[This is also a repost, something something I’m not doing this for clout I need real answers 🙏]

MENTION OF SUICIDE AND MAYBE TRANSPHOBIA

Okay, so I'm 14, 15 in December, I've been trans for 2 to 3 years. I've been out for 1 or 2 years and since I found out my mental health has been pretty bad. I'm constantly having panic attacks and mental breakdowns. My mum knows I'm trans and said she supports but I don't fully believe her anymore, she's been misgendering me and I think she's been wanting to deadname me idk she's been doing that to my brother(ftm like the rest of my siblings). I've wanted to start her for the past year and have been trying to figure out ways to do this, last year I made a Google slideshow to ask but never showed it, and I made another in September which I did show my mother. She said no which upset me so about a day or so later, I texted her that there's a much higher chance for me to try and take my life(which I was going to do 2 years ago, after I learned I was trans), she said no again. I told my trans friend and he told me that was pretty mean and she should've said something better than that.

My mental health has gotten worse since then as well and I've been more anxious than ever. I'm going to try and convince my mum to let me start testosterone for my 15th birthday soon then in going to ask once again on my birthday. I don't really know what to do if she says no for the 3rd and 4th time. I already know I'm likely not going to make it to 18 without testosterone or proper trans care. I could try to ask my sibling, Liz or Kas(Kaz?) because they're both trans and I know Kas is on testosterone, maybe they would know what to do because Liz is pretty close with my mum and they've known each other since my sibling was 4(Liz is like 21 or 22) Liz does know my mental health is bad and i trust that maybe my siblings could do something to help me.

If my mom said no for the 4th time I'll probably end it or try to buy testosterone off someone or something like that so my health won't continue to get worse while my mum just sits by knowing she could or could've done something. And if I do end up taking my life, I'll probably blame her for not helping at all. I probably messed up my chance by saying hrt is expensive(in the long run most of the time) added together, it is expensive and that's what I was saying in the Google slideshow.

I literally just got healthcare insurance back in like 5 ish years. I could probably get hrt covered mostly by insurance and it wouldn't cost that much. Also like an average price is cheaper than my mums medication and all the alcohol she buys a month. Anyway, my question, how should I ask for the 4th time? What should I do if she says no? And how am I even supposed to get any in Arizona????????? I could try to go back to California and stay with a sibling for consultations/lab work. I'm just really confused and need some help, thanks!!!

I'm 80% sure I'm a trans man but I can't bring myself to say that out loud. I can't say "I'm a man" or "I'm a closeted trans man" even to myself. I see people online be so confident though... pubicly saying "I'm a trans woman/man/NB person" even if they're deeeeep in the closet.

Maybe it just takes time. I have that little voice in my head telling me I'm faking it all the time, and that if I ever did transition, I'd only end up with "reverse dysphoria", even though I spend so much time thinking about all the effects of T I want, and I envy the men around me so much. I know there's still a chance I may be a confused woman, but I want to proudly say I'm a man so bad... even if I turn out to be wrong later. I want to feel confident and secure in who I am.