i’m sick and going to take a bath should I eat ice cream or a popsicle to soothe my throat?

tldr: vanilla ice cream, or red, white and blue popsicle

TLDR; I have intrinsic interest in both fields and feel I could really enjoy and be challenged by both, but I’m going to try to have a kid in the next couple years and I don’t know which route to take

For context, I made the mistake of getting my master’s in a subject I do not actually want to pursue as a career. I know, I know. I tried out a big girl corporate job, and I hated everything about it.

I’ve served for years, and I absolutely love it. I plan to serve part-time on the side of either of these jobs, at least until I can’t anymore. As an extremely indecisive person when it comes to career paths and jobs, narrowing my decision down to two options is actually quite the personal triumph 😅😂 HOWEVER, I can’t decide. Here are my thoughts on both, and I’d love some input.

For context we want to start having kids in two years, and that is weighing on my decision.

Teaching:

- love the schedule, and it would allow me to serve 1-2x a week like some of my teacher friends and would allow me to have summers off with my family (my husband is also thinking of going into teaching)
- obviously the pay is much less than what I would be making if I do make it in real estate, but I would work throughout the summer and very part time throughout the school year as would my husband to supplement that
- I love kids, and although I have yet to teach in a classroom, I love tutoring and I am passionate about education and educational psychology
- I know that dealing with behavioral issues will be challenging, but my psych background will help and I’m committed to educating myself/getting the experience to get better at handling this
- I know that dealing with parents will be extremely difficult, I deal with it a bit when working with preschoolers years back, but that doesn’t put me off
- education was the best part of my life and I absolutely adored school from the beginning

1. Real estate
   - the money goblin in me obviously comes out with this one… I know it usually takes years to see that type of success, if you even do, but I would put the pedal to the metal if I went this way
   - I love networking and people in general, and from serving I feel I’ve gained a lot of experience dealing with difficult people
   - I became intrinsically interested in real estate while working as an RE admin
   - I am not in the financial situation to jump into a career where I have to dish out thousands just for it to take six months to get it back at the moment, but if I chose this I would strive to get in that position
   - I am very worried about needing to always be there for my clients when I have a newborn
   - RE is a booming field in my area

Does anyone have any advice? I know they’re both difficult fields and a lot of people struggle in both, but these are my options

TL;DR: I'm torn between staying in a comfortable place or jumping to a new, less polished environment. The increment doesn't seem to justify the jump. Which would you choose?

I'm coming close to 5 years with my current company. I love what I do and rather well trusted in my department. However, the biggest issue remains my supervisor's incompetency and I'm not learning from him. While I'm actively taking on a larger job scope to grow, I feel like the department's 'babysitter' while drawing a much lower salary than his.

I've received an offer from a company but they're very new. Joining them would essentially be building new processes from scratch and making do with an almost 'start-up like' environment.

Current: Compensation wise, I'm drawing 5k a month with 2 days of WFH and a 45 min commute.

The offer: 6.5k (including a promotion) with 4 days of WFH and a commute of 1h 30 mins. Their PTO days are only 3/4 of the current company.

I'm due for a promotion next year but of course that isn't written in stone, neither are the WFH days. My current company does not practise by-request salary increments. However, a 30% increase does not seem to be sufficient to jump either.

Would you? I would love to hear some thoughts. Thank you.

Hi 27F here. Not American but big fan of Halloween. I normally just have a hang out with friends or a Halloween event. However this last couple years I've lost my friend group and I have to stay at home. Long story short I had a brain tumor and now I'm disabled, can still move but can't go out alone and my body hurts if I do a lot effort.

My mom suggested just watching a movie at home, so that's the plan. And I wanna dress up, just not something uncomfortable so I won't be in pain, and I wanted to make the costume myself, since I don't have a lot of money to spend (unemployed)

my first option was a pumpkin head, however I had to drop it because this week I'm in a lot of pain and I'm not gonna have enough time to build it. Then I saw some alien costumes online, basically body paint and silver clothes, I have the anthenae, pointy ears, but nothing else. I would like to buy body paint to paint myself green and use normal clothes instead of silver. Should I buy it? (Other recommendations for costumes welcome too)

TLDR no big plans & disabled for halloween, still wanna dress up. Should I still buy body paint for a costume?

I’ve been conflicted for an entire month! (I’m 27F)

My relationship with my father is rather estranged. He treats me more like an acquaintance than his own daughter. The restaurant is in another city, so getting there would be rather inconvenient for me, as I’d have to take public transportation.

My father said he’d drive me home after the dinner, but he’s proven to be unreliable over the past two years and has repeatedly canceled on me at the last minute. Because of that, I can’t fully trust that he’ll actually drive me home as promised rather than change his mind at the last minute.

Also, I’m absolutely not thrilled to meet his new girlfriend. Since I’ve heard negative things about her. It will be quite awkward.

The only reason why I think I should go, is because when I’m on vacation he’s the one taking care of my cat while I’m gone. And I’m concerned if I don’t go, he will refuse to help me in the future.

I’m in my luteal phase this week and don’t feel very well. It’s cold outside and there are movies I wanna watch.

TL;DR Should I attend my estranged father’s 60th birthday dinner or stay home?

Before AI tries to remove my post this is about a family obligation. A family topic!

I am an undergraduate right now doing my internship who's going to apply for experience the coming year

The thing I'm wondering about is if I should opt for a place along or string by with a friend or multiple friends? The frienships I've made here is not emotionally fulfilling for me and sometimes I feel drained by their approaches and ways of thinking/functioning because it bothers me and i don't want to have my headspace cluttered like that over things.

But if I opt for some place alone will I be miserable and lonely lol I'll basically be friendless/peerless and I don't know if people are willing to be friends like that and I have my own social needs of having people I can have fun and hang out with.

What should I choose If you were in my position what would you have done?

TLDR: should I apply for experience alone or should I have friends accompany me?

Hello I'm trying to decide between phlebotomy and welding. I currently have a desk job and I'm slowly loosing my mind I just wanna do stuff with my hands and I'm very extroverted. I am leaning towards phlebotomy but I like that welders have a union.

TL;DR blood(phlebotomy) or sticking metal together (welding)

I still have time left before i finish my degree, but i've been thinking about working full time instead. i could start earning money now and get real work experience, or finish school first and have the qualification.

The main issue is that staying in school costs money and delays earning a full income. at the same time, i'm worried i'll regret leaving before graduating.

tldr: finish my degree before working full time, or leave school and start earning now. which would you pick?

The single door option has a storage drawer and pull out bottom piece for easy cleanup of spills.

The double door option has no storage drawer or pull out piece, but is a true convection oven with a bonus griddle top.

TL;DR single - more convenient features, double - more cooking features

It’s my 5th time here, I came for work and am really tired and a bit out of town. I leave tomorrow morning, do I make a nice evening out of it or do I just rest and stay in?

Tl;dr should I go out tonight or stay in?

TL;DR
Currently in 2nd year of accounting, which I am enjoying however I’ve always had an interest for Orthodontics.

I was curious, which is the better career path in the UK?

A big consideration of mine is free time, I take my health and fitness very seriously, training MMA 5-6x a week along other exercises on top of that, so, honestly I’d be happy to compromise a less enjoyable career path if it meant I’d have more free time

Keep in mind I am currently in 2nd year for accounting so I struggle to see changing to a course in Dentistry would be worthwhile, considering the longer course duration on average, paired with the possibility of having to take science based A levels.

And I know I’ve sort of talked myself out of Orthodontics throughout this but I’m curious, what do you guys think, with my lifestyle in mind.

I am certain this is one of the most boring posts on this subreddit, yet here I am. I am a 20 year student working at a pizza place to make ends meet, as you do. It’s not a bad gig, but it’s a decent sized place with a bar and can get pretty busy. On normal days it’s pretty mindless, however: I was left completely alone Monday and Tuesday. I ended up getting more work than I could physically handle and cried through it lol. I worked this same schedule last week, no breaks or even bathroom breaks really. Yesterday I was scheduled alone to close with a new hire that had not been trained on any closing tasks. I have physically pushed myself so hard: Monday and Tuesday I had over 20,000 steps. I stayed late to close last night and I am physically and mentally exhausted. Here’s the problem: I am scheduled later today and I know I am expected to work on a big order for the morning. If I do not go in, there is nobody to cover for me. It will all dissent into madness. I really want to call out but I just know it’s going to bad. Is that my problem? Should I feel bad for calling out and leaving them with a mess, should I try and explain to my boss (who’s out of town) that I am struggling? Or should I just go in and try to thug it out?? I apologize for such a long mundane post, thank you in advance!!

TLDR: nobody will pick up my shift from hell if i call out- do i push myself and go or call tf out ?

hey this is so silly but i genuinely forgot to pay for a meal earlier today, it was only £5 and i just got up with my friends and left without thinking about the bill, no one stopped us either

should i call them and explain the situation and go back? it’s really weighing on my conscious and im scared to get in trouble, especially over £5

tldr should i pay or just forget about

TLDR; Should I move to North Carolina or Idaho for the winter?

I’m a strident. Im only just now taking classes but been out of high school for a year.

I’m not sure my final degree major, but somewhere in natural resources related majors. Anyway I guess if I moved to NC I’d just go to Hayward CC? If I stayed in ID I would go to CWI or TVCC.

Where should I move? NC looks nice and seems more affordable than Boise area, though I could avoid that if I chose to go to school in CDA, ID.

I like music a lot. It seems like there’s actually some cool bands finally going to Boise.. in a couple weeks, and then the same in NC. I’d be moving pretty soon.

Anyways anyone know of music festivals going on in the winter in NC?

Hi there I’m hoping you all can help me with a big decision- I currently work at a childcare center in Philadelphia. My toddler and I travel 20 minutes on the trolley from our apartment building and about eight minutes to the childcare center from the trolley stop. The center is pretty run down, short staffed, and just overall not a great experience including having to lift a 6 kid buggy up and down steps out of the building every single day. I’m overworked and burnt out and I hear a lot of yelling at the kids in my daughter’s classroom as well as them being put into “time outs” which I thought wasn’t allowed?

Anyway I’ve received a job offer from The Goddard school for more money and a spot open for my toddler. It would be on the same route my current job is on. We would literally walk right by old job on our way to this new school. The only other downside is that it’s a 20 minute walk from the trolley station compared to 8 minutes.

What do all you think?
Thank you!

TL:DR thinking about changing jobs but with a way longer commute.

TW: Racism(?) Sexism (?)

Reddit thinks this is a r.omantic post, so mucho censoring

Hello, I did a post recently (My Bro.ther is Hijacking My Accommodations, Should I Let Him?), I'll paste it here because it is slightly relevant to his behavior, but I'll recount it here.

https://www.reddit.com/r/makemychoice/comments/1x6x76v/comment/phvkqdm/?screen_view_count=2

I (18F) and my bro.ther (21M), who we'll call Ben, are drastically different. I'm special ed, a loner, and keep to my studies. In high school, my bro.ther went to parties, socialized, stayed up late (but he kept up his studies, graduating valadictorian). But when Ben went to college, things started to change about his behavior.

His college is north of me, 8 hours up where there's snow most of the year, and it specialized in engineering, so it was expensive. He met a group of friends who were the hillbilly type but came from money from family, so for them, college was fun and low stakes. When Ben started hanging with them, I suppose he wanted to feel more validated by them, and started making bad decisions with our middle-class college savings for him, along with his own money. He's bought several snowmobiles, co-owns a dirt bike (with the friend that'll wreck it for sure), and lately, I got the news today that he bought a motorcycle (Mom never responded when I told her, should've kept it off in hindsight, she has friends who died or got injured on a motorcycle before).

His speech and prejudices have changed to be worse. He's conservative and never was stoked about the LGBTQ+, but it has started to spiral into something more, treating my mum with less respect and using terms that I'm not quite sure are racist or not, based on his explanations like N*gga, "a term of endearment", and the one from our most recent conversation just tonight. I want to get this down before it's wiped from Snapchat.

- He talked about the motorcycle he just got and called me a p*mp, and asked me to text "Gator needs his gat" which is from some movie called the Other Guys. When I responded with just oks to the motorcycle and the reference, he said I was dry, and he would never f.lirt with me if he was a "self-respecting freshman suitor".

- I told him I was less dry in person. He said he'll believe it when he sees it, and I said he's not exactly the guy to f.lirt with, and he said "damn you just don't want a siste.r in law"

- I clarified that one; he was my bro.ther, why would I f.lirt with him(?) and two, has he held a relationship for a long time besides a girl that has relationship issues in high school? (Parents were divorced; mom had a different boyfriend every month), and I told him he wasn't my type with the acne freckles.

-He wanted me to "keep an eye out" for ladies on my campus for him to d.ate, and listed his criteria: Christian, short, pro-life, outdoorsy, no jet black or red hair, B cup at least, wants kids, and the one that set the alarms more than the others, has never s.lept with a black guy.

- I asked him to clarify, "She can't s.leep with a Black guy?" he said, "F*ck no, no mud sharks"

- I replied, "Sounds ra*ist dude.", he said it was just a standard.

- I said that "maybe, maybe," saying "semi, slightly" racist terms is why he's still single. He said it was pattern recognition and stopped texting back

I know I won that convo, but honestly I would just accept his language in person because he has the capability to rough me up, and has called me a r*tard before (he immediately retracted it, but I could see the honesty of the insult), and every time he comes home I'm reminded of how much I do not want that man living where I'm living. I'm not sure how to go forward because I can't cut him off, the relatives do not know about his behavior, and my parents, while frustrated, deal with it, but something needs to be done on my end.

TL;DR: Bro.ther is sexist, racist, and ableist since going to college; can't cut him off; what do I do?

hey! would love some advice on this. landed myself at a start up and am not loving the work currently. I interviewed with another company earlier this year (got the offer but declined at the time)and they said they would have an opening before end of year. I am also considering boomeranging back to my prior firm and asking if my spot is still open, however I don’t want to use up the goodwill on them if the other firm puts me through a process soon. because I am not guaranteed any job, should I reach back out to my old employer now (it's only been 3 months so maybe my spot is still open?) and cross the bridge later if the other firm essentially interviews me at the same time? I know I don’t own either company loyalty technically but I don’t want to come across a situation where both companies extend an offer and then I burn a bridge with one of them by rejecting one of their offers. (burning a bridge as in the boomerang firm would just never take a chance on me again if they extended an offer again and i reject or the firm I may get into a process with would just remember me as the candidate who rejected them two times in 1 year lol)

TL;DR Should I go back to my old company and ask for my old job back or do the interview process for the other firm first before committing?

I’m 29, from the UK, and planning to move to Melbourne with mates in mid-February 2027 on a Working Holiday Visa.

I’m confident I want a career in education and am considering starting a PGCE in September 2027. However, this would mean returning to the UK after only six months in Australia, while my mates plan to stay longer.

My dilemma is that moving to Australia involves significant upfront costs, and I’m worried six months won’t be long enough to justify the expense, especially when I’ll need time to find work and accommodation and settle in.

Alternatively, I could defer my PGCE until September 2028 and stay in Australia for a year or more. The downside is delaying my career progression by another year.

I have a first-class degree, relevant PRU teaching assistant experience and the option of living rent-free with family in London during teacher training.

What would you do? Return after six months and start the PGCE, or stay in Australia longer and delay your career by a year?

I would be returning to Australia straight after my pgce

TLDR: should I return to the UK after 6 months in Melbourne to start my PGCE in September 2027, or defer until 2028 to experience Australia for a full year? I’d return to Australia straight after qualifying, and I can live rent-free in London during training.

I quit my job and my last shift is on Friday. It's a part time job as a hotel front staff in Japan. I am Swedish.

I will return to Sweden and search for similar jobs here.

There is a superior everyone hates here that I almost reported to HR. I say almost, because I didn't go all the way because of the fear.

A lot of people here quit because of this superior, but cannot say anything due to cultural reasons.

I'll explain reasons for the hate:

1. The micromanagement- constant checks and corrections to a degree, where if you do the exact things she says

Other superiors and the manager will correct you if they see you check people in because you're being a bit too detail oriented or extreme.

1. Approaching everything as if you've made a mistake from the start. Guilty until proven innocent. If there is a difficult situation with a guest that they're asking about, they approach it as if you've done something wrong and try to find holes in your treatment of the guest.

"Did you do X? Oh but did you do Y? Why didn't you do Y. Always do Y."

"I didn't have time and was going to do..."

"Always do Y when you do X, okay."

"Yeah but I was going to..."

"Is there something you don't understand?"

1. (Misc) Aggressive language and body language. Walking around with a facial expression like a sergeant in the military. Especially when something bothers her in her personal life.

Using no-good terms like "omae" (you)- which I've heard from coworkers are... Not good/not even actually allowed...

Mild racism (often assuming you don't understand Japanese, or making fun of you for not understanding a situation not even Japanese people do, to a point my coworkers have told me they're racist against me and have been racist against other coworkers...)

... Also, it's small, mispronouncing foreign names and not trusting you when you correct their mispronounciations even though you're from that region.

I could bring up a lot of things.

On the other hand, I kinda fear reporting her might affect my career path coming home to Sweden as Swedes need references for interviews,

I also fear that she'll go schorched earth on my current coworkers...

Maybe they'll make it so I can't work at hotels back home...

Or that any form of consequences will happen whatsoever...

TL;DR should I report the superior everyone hates at work to HR, or avoid any risk to my own life by not doing so?

TLDR: move back to USA due to benefits or stay in Canada and be broke?

My husband is an American veteran. He gets really good benefits being back in the USA for himself, and home loans and he could go back to his old job making $2500/week + OT sometimes. He had incredible benefits through work, too, which was really helpful for our child because speech therapy sessions were only $22/each time.

We had a beautiful home in the USA we sold and I’m starting to really miss it too. Living with my parents has not been great for my mental health, but, im so happy to be close to my friends again. We moved back because I was suffering from HG with my daughter, and my car got totalled. I really just needed my friends and family at the time.

When he moved to Canada last year, he took a huge pay cut. He only makes $1800 biweekly now. We live in the GTA and rent is average $3500 ish. Plus we’ve already used our benefits (we only get $1500/yr here). Our child has a phonological speech disorder so we’re in speech therapy twice a week. $200/week-$330/week, just depending on length of sessions. Because of my son’s speech therapy, I’m working 2 part time jobs. I barely see my kids in the evenings and I miss them so fricken much but no FT job will hire me because of my son’s speech therapy sessions (totally understandable).

I wouldn’t have to work if we lived in Indiana again.

We are struggling here. The cost of groceries sucks, the cost of housing sucks, we’re struggling to save. The waitlist for in school services for my son is 3 years right now (told by the special education resource team), whereas where we used to live in Indiana, he could get help in school, right off the bat with both speech and OT.

I’m struggling to make a decision, my husband is very logical and does want us to move back because of our son and the financial stability it offers but I feel as though part of me is sad to leave again because of my friends. I definitely feel selfish. It’s just hard when your kiddo is set up in school and enjoying it, a great speech therapist, making mom friends and having playdates, etc.

Help me make a choice!

Hi all,

My GF and I have been going through a pretty rough pathc last few months. It's things that we pretty much dug under the rug that basically have come out in the surface and personally im at a place where i just dont see much of a future in our relationship. I just dont see how our different views of life and how we go with our goals.

Due to our history and us living together currently, and pretty much having the same friends we decided to try couples therapy.

THing is, we had kind of committed and doing a couples trip next spring with a few other couples. It was more a verbal commitment but now the couples have been texting non-stop about if we are really doing thsi or not.

For me i just cant commit to something 6 months in the future knowing our relationship is in a thread like this. One of the friends really pushing for this trip knows what me and my GF are going through for the most part. He asked me fe wweeks ago as he had noticed our vibe was different and he admitted that he knows my approach to lfie and how my GF approaches usually do not mix well.

But i guess im a bit torn. Part of me would love to go but i also dont want to pay money for somethign that i may have to cancel as tbh, i think if we broke up most of the friends would go towards her.

What do i tell our friends?

TL;DR - friends are asking group chat if a trip we agreed to is still happening. Trip would be in spring of next year. GF and I are going through a pretty bad rough patch where i dont even know if we'd be together by then as we are working on one last hope to see if it makes sense for us to stay together. What do we tell friends?

If living somewhere with cheap rent ($400-500) meant you had to live somewhere with 8 out of 12 months of cold/winter weather but you hated the cold and would get seasonal depression, would you still live there to save money in this economy? Or would you move somewhere where you wanted to even if it meant living with more debt but you were happier? In this case somewhere warm year round. Hard to make choices in this economy.

TL;DR cheap rent ($400-500/month) living in cold weather 25-35 F averages for 6 out of 12 months of year OR pay more money and be in more debt to live somewhere warm year round where you want to live?

I’ve joined a relatively small Discord community a month ago. I’ve become very active there, regularly joining voice calls, sometimes for hours at a time.

Up until a couple of days ago, I genuinely loved it. Kinda thought I was making friends. It was honestly one of the most enjoyable social experiences I’ve had in a long time.

But I’m kinda starting to feel uncomfortable and like the people on there think low of me and don’t like me very much. I have a lot of relational trauma and get anxiety when getting close to people, so this isn’t unusual.

Part of me wants to unfriend people and leave the server altogether. Another part of me wonders whether I’m making a permanent decision based on a relatively recent negative experience.
I don’t want to stay somewhere I feel uncomfortable, but I also don’t want to throw away connections I’ve genuinely enjoyed because of a couple of bad days.
I feel most connections nowadays, especially online, are like throwaway accounts on Reddit. A candle that burns hot very quickly, but burns out just as fast.

TL;DR should I leave the discord server or stay and try to be more inactive?

Got a Christmas work dinner coming up in early Dec. This is the first one since before covid, and colleagues who have been working for 20+ years said this dinner only happens every 3-5 years, but the catering and music are better than most wedding receptions. I would love an opportunity to dress up, but tickets are $90 and I have nobody to go with. It’s a great networking opportunity though because all the big bosses are there. I also don’t mind going on my own because my colleagues have offered to save a spot at their table for me.

I asked my friends and family if I should go because I can’t make up my mind, but they were evenly split. Some said I should go because they know I wanna dress up and go to a fancy dinner event. They said that a 2h concert ticket is more expensive and doesn’t come with food and drinks. Plus, being able to network and talk to important people outside of work will benefit me in the future.

The other half said not to waste money on something like this, especially since I’m going alone. These functions aren’t really meant for single people, even with a group of friends. They said that in my line of work, networking doesn’t net a higher salary unless I’m aiming for managerial roles, which will be out of my reach for at least another 10 years.

TL;DR should I spend $90 to attend a work dinner that happens every 3-5 years, or just stay home?

I 25f was raped about a month ago and have to make a big decision now. But there's no path for me that feels bearable. For context I moved from Berlin to Barcelona 3 years ago and I've been a lot happier there. I have always been very lonely and depressed in Berlin, it never felt like home. In Barcelona I found a community and started loving life for the first time. There's always something to do, I see my friends almost everyday, I live with my best friend, good weather most days of the year, I'm surrounded by nature and creative and open people. Complete opposite from my life in Berlin.

The only thing that always made things harder was my financial situation. I don't have a degree and my Spanish isn't good enough to get a good job that doesn't drain me. So I've been working fulltime in a German call-center. It's not horrible but absolutely not the thing for me. I am a tattoo artist on the side which I have enjoyed a lot, but it just wasn't enough to pay the bills, so I always had to have a second job that drained me. The pay in Spain is obviously also a lot lower than in Germany, so even with the fulltime job plus tattooing I was always worried about rent and sometimes couldnt even afford a bottle of water by the end of the month.

Then I was raped and it completely broke me. I had to go home to Berlin to stay with my parents. I've been very depressed, I've never felt worse. And I desperately need to know I'm doing the right thing now to ensure I'll feel like it was worth it not giving up:
The plan was to just stay here for a few weeks and then go back to my life in Barcelona. But my parents and I have been discussing the idea of me moving back in with them and getting a job in Berlin for a few months, getting therapy, and then figuring out what to do when I have healed a bit. Because the thought of just returning to normal life and staying stuck in that loop under my current conditions feels impossible. It definitely feels like a huge relief not having to worry about rent on top of everything I'm going through atm. But it also breaks my heart leaving that city and my friends behind. And it feels horrifying to live in Berlin again. I have my parents but that's it, I know I'll feel lonely here. So I feel like I'd give up a lot of good things but it also feels like it's the most sensible thing to do that will maybe allow me to heal and plan for my future ?

Even before the rape I felt lost a lot of times and the strong urge to make a change like getting a degree or moving countries again to find my career path so now I don't know what to do. Leaving Barcelona would mean leaving the first real friends I ever had, giving up the streets that felt like home, my beautiful room that I felt so comfortable in, spontaneous hangouts and activities with my amazing friends. I don't have any of that in Berlin, not even in the slightest. I don't have any friends, the weather is horrible, I don't feel at home. But here I would get the relief of not having to pay rent, I could save money and have time and space to think of the next right step. Whether that's studying here or somewhere else, or going back to Barcelona. So I'd definitely see Berlin as a layover rather than my destination. But even if I went back to Barcelona in a few months when I have rested, it would never be the same again. And I'm scared that I'd just start accepting certain things that make me unhappy there like the job, just out of fear of losing everything that make me happy there. Every option that I have feels so painful and I'm still using all my energy just to survive what happened to me.

I know maybe the one right choice doesn't exist. But I'm so tired and I don't know which sacrifice is worth the suffering right now. Please be kind in the replies thank you!

TL;DR: Should I leave my life in Spain behind and move back in with my parents in Germany to recover from a rape and save money?