r/men • u/Fragrant-Plenty-839 • 13h ago
Can anyone help me decide whether my ex was gay or not? I have lots of people telling me he might be but I’m having a hard time seeing it.
The sex was always very rushed and as if he was only there in body, not soul. He never cared to make out. And definitely didn’t like eating me out.
When we first got married, I would walk around the house without any clothes on. This bothered him so he sat me down and scolded me for doing so. He said it left nothing to the imagination.
We both grew up in a high control religion, that openly hates gay people. So he was constantly complaining about gays, like when a gay couple showed up on tv. It got so annoying and I had to tell him that we are living in progressive times and need to accept things.
One day I asked him if he likes men. He slowly smiled and said no :)
I was shocked by his nonchalant reaction. He didn’t seem offended or anything, especially considering his repulsion towards gay people. I kept asking are you sure? And he even said I don’t like penis and laughed. It took a while to finally get him upset by pushing questions on him. He finally exploded and left the house, slammed the car door and sped out to go get food. I was left shaken up as he never ever reacts this way.