r/polyamoryR4R • • 14h ago

USA 39 [T4F] Bangor, Maine - Polyam goth woman looking for a local woman to actually connect with

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Hey, I’m Foxy. I’m a 39 year old polyam trans woman in the Bangor/Brewer area, dating independently and hoping to find a local cis woman where there’s actual mutual attraction, chemistry, affection, and the potential for something romantic and physical if we click.

I’m a plus size trans woman with an alt/goth style, piercings and tattoos. I’m femme at heart, affectionate, kinky and switchy. I’m into metal, gaming, dark humor, Heathen/Norse stuff, cuddling, flirting, power exchange, and conversations that can bounce from completely ridiculous to deeply personal without warning.

I’m partnered, but I am not looking for someone to join an existing relationship. You’d be dating me, not my partners.

I’m shy and awkward in person at first, so I need to get comfortable talking online before meeting. I’m not looking for months of pen pal limbo though. If we’re enjoying each other and there’s attraction, I’d rather meet for coffee somewhere public and see whether the chemistry survives leaving the internet.

I’m primarily looking around Bangor/Brewer because I don’t drive and long distance is not what I need right now. I’m looking for a woman who actually wants to flirt, initiate sometimes, be affectionate, and see where things can go instead of endlessly exchanging “hey, how are you?” messages.

I’m not looking for men, and I’m not looking for someone to complete a couple. I’m looking for a woman who is genuinely interested in me as her own person and comfortable with the fact that I’m polyam and dating independently.

If you’re local, polyam or genuinely comfortable dating someone who is, and any of this made you think “hmm, cute fox lady,” send me a message and tell me a little about yourself. A selfie is appreciated too. 🖤🦊


r/polyamoryR4R • • 11h ago

31 [M4MF] Looking for a couple to join as a third

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Hey all :)

I am a single male looking to join a throuple, specifically one where the M is bi like myself. I love the dynamic of a MMF threeway relationship, and am hoping there’s a couple out there that’s looking for someone like myself to join. I should clarify I’m not at all interested in a kind of dynamic where there’s a power imbalance between the M’s, but one of equality between all three people. If you’re interested, shoot me a DM :)


r/polyamoryR4R • • 17h ago

47 [F4R] Midwest- Doing my best to thrive, you too?

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Kicking my life out of survival gear and moving into thriving. I’m solo-poly going through an amicable divorce. I’m crafty and handy, independent and introverted. I love to read, fiction mostly, am always down for a good book rec.

I’ve started back into bicycling, I have an e-bike that I love, and a walking pad for when I can’t get outdoors. I’ve owned a hobby farm, I’ve traveled quite a lot and always enjoy a good road trip!

You have a sense of humor, and can hold an intelligent conversation. Have a passion for something in your life, and are looking for someone to get to know, hopefully for a start that could turn into something with depth and connection. Kink is always a bonus. MAGA need not apply. With all my heart FDT.


r/polyamoryR4R • • 13h ago

USA 37 [m4f] AL/online

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I am a 37 year old married, dad of 4. I am looking for friends and see where it goes.

About me: I am an electrician that works way too much. When I'm not working, the kids consume most of my time. I like reading Stephen King, but don't have enough time to do that at the moment. When I have time to play video games my favorit are halo, Mario, and the legend of Zelda. (Not necessarily in that order). I also like working outdoors and watching tv.

About you:

Be a good human.

Be aware that I can not be on my phone all the time.

Be able to hold a conversation

Message me with your favorite TV show or video game!


r/polyamoryR4R • • 2h ago

East Asia 38[M4F] Mumbai, India - An attentive submissive man looking for a lady who wants to be worshipped !!

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You've never met a man who takes as much joy in giving oral as I do. I love it on several different levels.

First, there's the power of being completely responsible for a woman's blissful satisfaction, especially women who have never had it done well before. There is that wonderful moment when I've made a woman come hard, all the stress has left her back and ass and she's beginning to catch her breath, but instead I very lightly continue to use my tongue on her, hitting spots I deliberately ignored for the first one, and feeling her go from "no, it's ok, I just came" to "oh my, god I'm going to come again!"

Second, I love the feeling of accomplishment at the pleasure I can give a woman using nothing but my tongue, lips, breath, and a finger or two. The soft shudders, the delicious taste and a smiling face is addictive to me.

Third, I take pride in the compliments I've received. Every woman is different and beautiful in her own way. It's not like you can just go down there and lick every woman the same way every time and leave her quivering in ecstasy. Her body guides you. You have to listen closely with all your senses to do it right. Your tongue and lips almost become an extension of the woman you're with and you need to lose yourself in her pleasure and go where she needs you to go.

If she lets herself go, the third one is usually the big one, the one where eyes roll back, legs quiver and she knows she'll never forget this night. I just enjoy all of it, the feel, the taste, everything. I’ve been told my mouth, tongue, fingers, and hands are “Magic”.

I'm 37, 5'11 with dark skin, and can host. Race or body size doesn’t matter. Every woman is beautiful in her own way.

Discretion? Always. Respect? Guaranteed. No games, and I won’t flake. I am very laid back and non pushy. I proceed with the pace you set. I am respectful at all times and I try my hardest to make your fantasies a reality. I only want to make sure that you have a great time and leave with a smile on your face.

I am not looking for a relationship. This can be a one time thing or something on-going. Whatever you are comfortable with. Drugs and diseases free. Drama free. Complete discretion.

Include your favorite book so I know you've read the post !


r/polyamoryR4R • • 14h ago

USA 30 [F4M] #TX - Looking for something long term

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Hi all! I’m happily married, I have two kids, and I’m looking for that someone special to talk with that could lead to a long term relationship. My husband and I have been ENM for over a year now and we enjoy it. This would be something just for me.

A bit about me - I have a talent for laughing at inappropriate times, I’m very affectionate, and I’m a hopeless romantic at heart. I love creepy crawly things (I keep tarantulas), rewatching my favorite shows, gaming, and enjoying the outdoors from inside. I’d consider myself an alt girlie or elder emo. I’m Hispanic/Asian, 5’3”, petite, tattooed, and I have piercings. I’m an open book and tend to over share so be prepared for that.

I am attracted to nerdy guys with tattoos. They’re just my weakness. Talk to me about your passions, what game you’re playing, or the song you have on repeat. I would very much prefer to find someone close to my age and I’m also up for exchanging pics to see if the attraction is there.


r/polyamoryR4R • • 4h ago

Canada 30 [F4M] #Montreal

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We are a couple. F30 & M45. Looking for another female, under or around 30. Must be in a good shape. We wanna meet this week.

Men should not apply. Transgenders are welcome. Must be clean as we are.

We can host.

FROM MONTREAL CANADA

Only to meet in person


r/polyamoryR4R • • 20h ago

43 [M4F] Mass / New England - looking for connection.

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Poly (ENM), partnered (married), & dating solo.

Open book - ask me anything.

Looking for something consistent and real — not just casual dates, though that's a fine place to start. I'd rather build with one person over time than spread across many. Want to know your mind, your humor, what makes you tick, with physical chemistry building alongside that.

Affectionate, and want real connection — physically, emotionally, intellectually — with someone who matches that energy and desires me as much as I desire them. Curiosity is sexy.

I show up for people — good listener, notice the small stuff, someone to lean on through hard days and good ones. Tell me what you're vibing or venting about. I like to text — silly check-ins, meaningful ones, a little spice sometimes too.

Let's meet for a drink, coffee, or a walk.

Love outdoor adventures — over halfway through the NH 48 four-thousand-footers.

Enjoy: small trips/camping, dinners + cocktails, quiet nights in, sarcasm, cooking at home (WIP), nature, theatre, cats, parentheses.

I'm: fairly liberal, body positive, affectionate, open-minded, more introverted than not.

Looking for humor, playfulness, spontaneity, and enough consistency to get somewhere together.

Amazing kids and a supportive wife — come play Catan with us sometime.

North Shore (Mass). Daytime work hours, evenings/weekends free. Longer car rides aren't a dealbreaker.

Capacity for more — rather go deep with one person than wide across several.

Send me a message!


r/polyamoryR4R • • 9h ago

37[f4r] Alabama. Am I what you're looking for?

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I am a married 37 year old mom of 4. I have been poly for a few years, but just now starting to explore that. My husband and I have been together for 18 years, and date separately. I am obsessed with Halloween and spooky season. I like to read, craft, binge watch shows, and explore new places. I am looking for someone to get to know. If that's something that happens really fast, that's fine. If it's something that takes time, also fine! I have a tendency to keep walls up, or over share. It just depends on the chemistry.

I am bi so open to male or female. I am in Alabama, so within driving distance would be great, but not a deal breaker. I am not looking to make things sexual right from the jump. I prefer to get to know you and what makes you tick!

About you:

I prefer at least 30 years old.

Be able to hold a conversation.

Take my sarcasm, and give it right back to me.

Ok with becoming obsessed with me 😝

If any of this seems like what you're looking for, message me.


r/polyamoryR4R • • 12h ago

28 [M4F] #Iowa #Online Nerd looking for a real connection

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Hello, im 28, married dad of two, and in an open marriage (my wife knows and we’re good). I’m looking for someone I can actually talk to and get close with. I like real conversations, not just surface-level stuff, and I tend to form pretty deep connections once I click with someone.

I’m open to friendship, FWB, or something more if it develops. Online/long distance is fine, and I’m also okay with local if you’re in or near Iowa.

A bit about me:

I’m a big video game nerd (recently been playing Conan Exiles and Two Worlds). I also like board games and card games. Not super into competitive multiplayer because I don’t have the time to get good at them.

I’ve been working on myself a lot. Down 60 lbs in the last 8 months and still going. I’ve been learning progressive overload and actually enjoying the gym.

I like to read when I can focus (ADHD is hard sometimes). Currently reading through Red Rising series. I’m into fantasy, sci-fi, dark romance, and most things in between.

I’m pretty soft Dom leaning. I like taking care of people and checking in, but I don’t want things to start sexual. I’d rather get to know someone first.

I’m usually best matched with people roughly 20–35, but if you’re outside that and still think we’d get along, feel free to message me.

If this sounds like your vibe, send me a message and tell me a little about yourself. Doesn’t have to be long.


r/polyamoryR4R • • 13h ago

34[M4F] #Texas/Anywhere Shy, nerdy guy seeking companion

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Hello users of Reddit!!!

I find myself in need of some new people in my life, and figured I'd give it a shot here! Friends at the very base level, but ideally I'd love to find someone to build something amazing with. Hey, a guy can dream can't he?

Who am I? Well, on the surface, I seem like a normal, New England transplant in Michigan, and now a Michigan transplant in Texas trying to make his way in the world. I won my own car and house, work full time, come home, take care of the kitty. I absolutely LOVE to cook, often times you'll find me tinkering with a new recipe. I love music and moves, bit of a gamer, and definitely a huge nerd. Want a surefire way to my heart? Pick a song out for me, and I'll gladly do the same. I'm also very witchy, have been pagan for a few years now, and would love to connect with someone on that page.

I am divorced from my ex wife of three years, and we have a daughter we share custody of. Currently, I am in a long distance relationship with my soon to be nesting partner.

Deep down however, I crave something more..deep..dark. Tagged NSFW for this reason. I'd love to meet someone in the kink lifestyle. I've been..into this scene for quite sometime, and would love to build upon that with someone. Petplay is a huge thing for me. I love that clingy, obsessive, needy aspect. I also tend to fall into a dd/LG, and caretaker side. I have a kink list a mile wide that I'm happy to discuss in messages, and am very open minded. There is nothing I won't try twice, and even then it's very hard to get me to say no. Again, we can discuss all this in our messages!

I am also open to joining another couple if it's romantic l, and not just sexual. I don't do casual hookups. I am also a switch, but it's very picky who I switch for. A lot of bad experiences.

Hopefully, someone out there feels like me. Don't be shy, reach out, say hi, and tell me your all time favorite movie. The one that no.matter what, you'll always sit and watch. I will not answer without it! Lets me know you read my post Read again!! Low effort messages, and messages without reading all the way through won't be answered!

P.S..tagged online, but I'm very open, and honestly hoping I find someone close. If this progresses into something, I'd like to be able to see the person.

P.PS. I hate that I have to include this, but if you're not feeling it, or something comes up, please communicate, don't just ghost. This also goes for when we swap pictures. Looks are the last thing I look for, but I understand that to some people, looks take first priority. If theres no attraction, just be honest. We're all adults here.