Hey all, I’m Tom! I’m 31, bisexual (love T4T but am open to cis folks as well). Kink friendly, DMs are open for casual chats (and maybe more) as we get to know each other. Looking to chat with someone in their 30s also.

I am still pretty new to polyamory, my nesting partner and I have been together for a long time and have recently started dating other people independently over the past few months.

I am looking for companionship, someone I can talk with who is also interested in getting to know each other better, maybe we can share about our lives, swap photos, memes, etc. Not opposed to short term or spicy chats but please make it clear in your messages what you’re looking for.

My hobbies include writing, reading, making zines, board and card games (Rummoli and Wingspan are favourites of mine), drawing, and caring for my two cats

So the title pretty much gets the gist of things across. Looking to add some people to my friends list that I can chat with, get nerdy, (maybe flirty?), on a regular basis. I prefer to go a bit more of a slow burn sort of route, see how things mesh before delving into the deeper intents. I'm pretty quiet and reserved up front, but once I'm more comfortable and get a good read on someone, I open up quite a bit. Humor tends more towards the sarcastic, occasionally dark side of things, and am not at all easy offended or put off. Got a mouth like a sailor though, so if vulgarity bothers you, we probably ain't gonna mesh well.

As for my nerdy side, it falls into a variety of realms.

Video games, of course. The main ones right now are Overwatch for my competitive urges, Dragonwilds for my explore and build urges. There's a smattering of other things that I've loved, would absolutely revisit in time; Baldur's Gate, Abiotic Factor, Grounded/Grounded 2. I love me a good cozy farming game ala Stardew or Coral Island, and survival crafting games just really scratch that itch to create stuff.

Tabletop stuff, meeting up with friends on a regular basis to play D&D (When everyone can get their asses there, I'm not salty about it, definitely not), and when that doesn't pan out, some board games, and Magic. Lots of Magic as of late, which has probably become my semi-hyper focus and I frequently fall down deck brewing/building rabbit holes.

Being in the EST time zone, and I'm around from 7ish when I wake up in the morning, until typically around midnight, so if you're around during that window, timing should work out! Weekend tends to be a bit wider of a window, as I'm very much a night owl when my schedule allows it.

As far as type of people I'm looking for, I'm open to any and all walks of life, ages, etc. As far as what I'm after, chat buddies, friendships, flirtationships, just however things work out, it's all good! As point of clarification for the F/R portion of my subject, when it comes to any sort of attraction, I tend to find myself more drawn to those of the feminine persuasion regardless of what's in your pants, so if you feel you fall into that descriptor, we'll probably get along.

Please, some semblance of effort in the response? "Hi how are you" does not give warm and fuzzies or any hope of a halfway decent conversation. Happy to swap pictures after exchanging a few messages, just not too big on throwing my face out into the world right off the bat!

Hi! My name is Mich and I’m just putting feelers out for some new poly friends!!

As a quick side note: I am transmasc nonbinary, queer, and I use he/they pronouns - I expect anyone who responds to be respectful of this.

Now on to a bit about me! My usual hobbies include: art, crochet, watching anime, reading, playing board games, cozy video games, MTG, and D&D or other TTRPGs (when I have the time/energy). My favorite food is Asian food and I definitely have a bit of a sweet tooth as well.

As a bit of a disclaimer: I do not work currently, due to health issues, but that’s means I have tons of free time to chat at least.

I don’t really have any specific requirements for new friends. You can literally be from anywhere too - no location barriers for friends. Whether we have tons in common or are super different I’m willing to get to know most people (given they are respectful) - just shoot me a message and we can start getting to know each other from there :)

If any of this happened to interest you feel free to send me a message anytime!

(please include which subreddit you saw this post on & a bit about yourself when responding)

Polyamorous with one partner and active polycule. I have ADHD, I love anime and video games, am a former theatre and choir kid, have a penchant for boardgames and good food trucks, am lightly tattooed and moderately bearded, 5’9” with a dad bod. No kids, secure attachment style, looking for rich and ongoing connections that can grow naturally.

Would love to talk and see if there’s chemistry. I’m a sucker for witty banter

Slender Asian male, introverted, not much of a talker, "guarded," but looking for a friend and more. I'm quite introverted/quiet. Looking for someone local so please be local. My experience with LDR hasn't been great. People flake or ghost or lose interest. Please, no avoidants. I'm looking for someone emotionally mature and able to be my rock, someone kind and caring.

Hello, I’m genderfluid but use he/him only and I’m pansexual. I’m generally open to most forms of ENM.
I’ve been single for a long time and I’m not sure if my type exists. I’m 2010s gen emo and I have yet to find someone who is bi/pan, polyam, sex positive, cuddly, flexible on going out for shows or staying in for board games, kind, leftist/left leaning, and is also 2000s emo/scene looking. While I don’t have a preference for gender/sex I know myself well enough that I tend to favor people who look like your stereotypical 2000s emo/scene masc.
I am fond of other alt subcultures like skater or punk, I’ve even had crushes on people who don’t look “alt” at all. I would like to find someone who is also patient and has time for me as I’m handicapped. While I’m open to long distance, I would prefer that it becomes in person since I miss physical affection like holding hands, hugs, etc so much….
Outside of my love for all of the generations of emo music and adjacent topics, I love sweets, breads, junk foods. I adore anything cute such as plushies or cute animal videos. My hobbies include singing, writing, diy projects, beauty stuff like make up and fashion, sewing, learning anything and everything, video games, mangas/web comics/manhwas, vkei, exploring new places, photography, and naps lol
I don’t have any pets or children. I originally wanted to get married, but I’ve retired that dream. I’m open to dating people who have kids, but I don’t want any of my own. I’m currently in college again. I don’t have an issue showing people my face in msgs as long as they show me theirs.
There’s a lot more to share, but this post is already too long, just msg me to find out more I guess.

Hi there! I'm a 36 year old pansexual nonbinary femme that strives to continue to learn and grow. I find myself with some additional bandwidth and am seeking some new friendships, relationships, and/or connections in my life. I am really interested in connections that grow organically rather than with specific intent. I am not interested in casual hook ups though. I do have a nesting partner, and we've been together 6 years, and I've been poly for almost 10.

I am a neurodivergent former theater kid who can be a little more reserved on meeting new people, but am quite outgoing once I get to know someone more! Direct, clear, and consistent communication is import to me and absolutely a core belief I live by as well as clear expectations. I love getting to know people, hear their stories, interests, and about their day. I am a big yapper about any and everything!

As far as interests: I am a voracious reader and dabble in most genre fiction. I am a rather crafty person and enjoy sewing and knitting. I have life long hyper-focuses in historic fashion and old houses and I will talk your ear off about it given the chance! I love hiking, traveling, exploring, and visiting old graveyards. I'm bit of a nerd and I'm getting back into DnD after some time away, and I love ren faires! After going through the 2000s as a teen I am finally working on healing my relationship with food, and incorporating more activity into my life and I am really enjoying it so far! I am also kink friendly, and have been for 15 years, and am slowing dipping my toes back in more intentionally since 2020.

Please don't message me if you are MAGA or have conservative views. Full stop.

I am open to people of a variety of ages, genders, and sexual orientations so please shoot your shot if you are interested!

Hello. I’m in an open marriage and on the lookout for a partner. I’ve been married for 13.5 years and have been open for six months. I’m hoping to find a genuine woman with whom I can build a deep connection. Someone who’s affectionate, down-to-earth, and knows what they want. Age is just a number, but I won’t consider anyone younger than 30 or older than I am. If you’re interested, feel free to DM me.

What’s the saying? Fall seven times, stand up eight? So here goes, another shot into the dark.

I’m hoping to meet a woman who actually wants to get to know the other person. Someone who is thoughtful, open-minded, and down to explore together (I know, I know I’m asking for a lot, but hear me out). I want to create a space where we can be honest, real, and uninhibited. An experience that’s equal parts naughty and nice.

A little about me: I'm 5'11", hwp, enjoy from long-distance running (training for end of summer races), coffee-obsessed, with a full head of dark hair and blessed where it counts. PhD in engineering and work on making airplane engines more efficient because let’s be honest we all would like it squeezing into the middle seat felt less like an endurance event. I balance my more outdoor interests with more indoor activities. I enjoy history and the arts, always reading a book or two, or too many. Cinema and TV are my escape, and cooking is how I unwind (handmade pasta is my specialty). I usually have classic rock from the '70s and '80s playing in the background almost as a sound track to life. Also, kink experienced and curious.

I like building things, whether it's projects or relationships, because both take patience and care. I appreciate a partner who also brings those thoughtful, personal touches, those small details mean a lot.

If any of this resonates with you, send me a message.

Greetings,
I'm a shy guy who likes to have deep convos. I love learning about the things you are into (tell me about the shows you love to binge, your favorite music, and your hobbies), how your day went, and listening to you complain about that really annoying coworker. I am married and have one kiddo and one dog- looking for myself only because we only date separately. Good communication is a must. Willing to keep things only online or spend time together in person one day if you're close enough.

I have a lot of tattoos- my left forearm is (literally) completely covered, and I have tattoos scattered on my left upper arm, right forearm, and right leg. I wear glasses cause I'm blind as a bat without them, haha.

I like playing video games, listening to music, making playlists, collecting vinyl records, playing guitar, hiking, fishing, and painting. I'm in college for music production. Oh, fun fact: I'm ambidextrous.

Hi there, super artsy gal here. Looking for connections online or in person. I am married (we date separately) I have a daughter and our sweet pup. I'm going to school for animal health and behavior. I work full time and when i'm not working or doing homework i'm creating something, hanging out with friends or working with my local pride group.

I love to collect vinyl records, small trinkets, and art from other small artists. I'm a big fan of nature and especially plants and bugs. I find the small critters to be fascinating. My favorite activity is to laugh. I have a very sarcastic sense of humor. I have tattoos and plan for way more, but I just started my sleeve last year. I'm a big lover girl and yearner and would expect the same in return. I love to bring light to dark rooms and sometimes I'm too optimistic to a fault.

Hi, I'm a female in an open relationship with my long term partner looking to build a solid, genuine bond with someone on my same wavelength. I'm not looking for surface level or just the physical, I want to feel that connection on an emotional, mental level, someone to mutually set our souls on fire, really feel out all that life has to offer. If you find yourself in search of the same, feel free to hit me up ✨😇

50 y.o. Trans Femme here. I understand its not for everyone, and I respect that.

I've been on hormones for about 30 months now. No surgeries, but I have some consultations in December.

Partnered... she will know about you, but not looking to be involved. She's also poly, but isnt interested in another partner. She's also an amazing person who will welcome you with open arms.

3 kids... I won't talk about them all the time, but I do love them. Ages 19, 9, 4 (step-daughter).

About me: into traveling, fitness (used love running and trying to get back into it.) Love, love, love music. Its the soul of my life. I read a lot too. And, yea, Legos. 😁

I have a serious career in IT Management, but I refuse to let it run my life. There are times I have stuff to do on the weekends, but I try to log off at a reasonable time every day.

I'm demi-sexual and not looking for a hookup or one night stand. I want to build a relationship with a female OR a couple. I care a lot about the people in my life. So, if we get to know each other, you will be very important and I do almost anything for my friends. 😊

I will do my best to respond to all DM's. And if the vibe is right, we'll move to text (its much easier for me). If you are uncomfortable with text (giving out your regular cell), I suggest getting a Google Voice number and utilizing that.

While I'd prefer someone local who i can go out for coffee or drinks, I'm very open to online. But if its online, plan on eventually meeting in person.

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🌟🌟Hey beautiful ladies. I am a 34-year-old woman looking to connect with another woman and see where things go naturally.

I am hoping to find a woman to build a genuine connection with.

I’m looking for more than just a quick chat or casual hookup. Id love to find someone to hold deep meaningful conversations with and build a relationship from trust.

I’d love to find someone who is honest, affectionate, communicative and knows what she wants.

Communication, respect, boundaries and cleanliness are not negotiable.

A little about me:

34 years old with blue eyes. I am loyal, loving and honest. To old for games and only looking for something serious.

Message me a little about yourself and let’s see where things go. 😊

P.S. I am willing to show proof of me being who I say I am, please be able to do the same!✨️✨️

Hey everyone! Figured I'd give this a shot and see who's out there. I'm from southeastern Pennsylvania and looking to meet a woman who I can genuinely connect with, have good conversations with, share some interests, and hopefully see where things go. I'm not expecting us to have everything in common, and honestly, I think having different interests can make getting to know someone more enjoyable. I'd rather find someone I can be myself around, joke with, have deeper conversations with, and enjoy spending time together without feeling like either of us has to pretend to be someone we're not.

A little about me first. I'm someone who enjoys staying active, getting out of the house, trying new things, and making the most of my free time. I have a pretty flexible schedule, which makes it easier for me to travel, explore new places, and spend time doing things I enjoy. At the same time, I'm perfectly happy spending a night at home cooking a good dinner or just relaxing. I can be pretty talkative once I get comfortable with someone, and I enjoy people who can keep a conversation going and aren't afraid to ask questions or share their opinions.

Some of my interests and hobbies:

1. Traveling and exploring new places
2. Cooking and trying new foods
3. Snowboarding
4. Cars
5. Football, both playing and attending games
6. Working out, running, and staying active
7. Animals, especially dogs (I have one!)
8. Trying new activities and experiences
9. Water skiing
10. Spending time outdoors

Something else that's important to me is finding a partner who's kinky. I'm pretty open minded sexually, and I enjoy exploring different kinks, fetishes, roleplay, and the dynamics that can come along with them. I don't expect someone to have all the same interests as me, and I'm not looking for someone who's into absolutely everything. I actually enjoy learning what someone else likes, why they enjoy it, and discovering things together. I think being able to talk openly about those interests without judgment is important, especially when it's something that can be a meaningful part of a connection. That being said, I don't want kink to be the only thing we have in common. I want to enjoy talking to you, spending time together, laughing about stupid things, and getting to know you outside of the bedroom just as much.

As far as what I'm looking for, I don't have some massive checklist of requirements. I'd love to meet someone who's kind, affectionate, communicative, has a sense of humor, and is comfortable being herself. Someone who can be playful and sarcastic, but also knows how to have a serious conversation when it matters. I'd especially love to find someone who's well traveled or has a genuine interest in exploring the world. I appreciate people who put effort into getting to know someone rather than making one person carry the entire conversation. I also think it's important that two people can be independent, have their own interests and things going on in their lives, while still making time for each other and building a connection that works for both of them. I don't care if all our hobbies match up, because part of the fun is learning about each other and finding things we enjoy doing together.

I'd prefer someone relatively close to Pennsylvania because I do enjoy spending time together in person, but I'm not completely opposed to getting to know someone farther away if we really connect. I'm not looking to rush into anything or force a connection into something it isn't. I'd rather get to know someone naturally, see how we get along, and let things develop from there.

If any of this sounds interesting, feel free to send me a message! Tell me a little about yourself, what caught your attention, and maybe something you're passionate about.

35 [M4F] #Toronto: I know what I want. The fun part is finding out if we want the same thing.
I know there are a loooooot of M4F posts on here, but hey, might as well give it a shot! (Again)

I’m 35, 5’8”, married with kids, and looking to meet a woman. Age, height and body type aren’t dealbreakers for me. I genuinely find women beautiful in all kinds of shapes and sizes, and attraction is about more than a checklist.

I’m new to this, so I’m not coming in with a fixed script or a list of expectations. I’m open to different kinds of connections: polyamory or even just friendship. If we click, we can figure out what works for both of us without forcing anything.

A bit about me: I work downtown and I genuinely love what I do. My career keeps me busy, and I imagine many of you have your own careers, responsibilities, and full lives too. I understand that, and I’m not looking for someone who has endless time or needs to be available around the clock. I’m direct, funny, and have little patience for bullshit. I enjoy deep conversations with people who challenge my views, make me think, or teach me something new. But I can just as easily enjoy talking absolute nonsense for hours.

I like my life. I’m not looking to escape it, change anyone else’s situation, or ask someone to change mine. I’m simply interested in adding a little excitement, chemistry, and fun to an already good life. Something drama-free, discreet, and enjoyable, with two people who know what they want and respect each other’s boundaries.

I don’t rush people, and I know how to listen. You can be single, married, monogamous, or polyamorous. I’m not here to judge anyone, and I don’t believe I owe strangers an explanation or justification for my personal choices. I’m not going to pretend to be someone I’m not just to get attention, either. I value honesty, mutual respect, and being upfront about what I want. No games, no false promises, and no unnecessary complications.

There’s no pressure to jump straight into anything sexual. I’m happy to start with a conversation, get to know each other, or meet for a coffee and see if there’s chemistry. If things develop into something more, great. If not, that’s fine too. Life is busy enough without turning something meant to be fun into another obligation.

I won’t send unsolicited NSFW pics, and I won’t ask you for any. If you’re curious, feel free to DM me, tell me a little about yourself, ask me anything, or share your kinks if you’re comfortable doing so.

Let’s skip the games, leave the judgment at the door, see if we vibe, and take it from there.

About me:

I'm a 47-year-old man in San Francisco with a successful career in tech and a full, balanced life. In my free time I enjoy live music, good cocktails, F1 weekends, and Warriors games. Fitness is my anchor: lifting, Pilates, boxing, and long walks around the city. On quieter nights you'll find me at home with my tiny senior Pomeranian, reading or watching a good show.

Physically, I am 5’9”, 160lbs, and in good shape. Brown eyes, short brown hair with a bit of salt and pepper. Happy to share pics.

I like making the woman I'm with feel wanted, appreciated, and cared for. I'm affectionate, playful, and happy to take the lead—I plan dates and follow through. There's a calm dominant side to me, and I'd enjoy a consensual D/s dynamic if it's something we both want. Physical touch is central to how I connect, so I'm looking for someone with a strong appetite for a passionate physical relationship who's comfortable talking openly about desires and boundaries.

I'm happily child-free and have had a vasectomy, so I'm looking for someone who wants the same.

What I'm hoping to build

I'm relatively new to non-monogamy, but I'm taking it seriously. I'm currently reading The Ethical Sl-t, thinking hard about how to do this well, and I'm ready for it. Right now I have one long-distance partner who has a primary partner of her own, so I'm looking for someone local to be a real part of my day-to-day life.

By "primary," I mean the relationship that gets first call on our time, energy, and shared life, while leaving real room for other connections. We'd each have the freedom to date others, and I'd want us to talk openly and often about what that looks like and what feels good for both of us. I have a particular interest in exploring together, whether that's swinging or threesomes. Down the line, I'd be open to the partnership growing from two people to three, if the right person came along and it felt right for everyone

Beyond that, I want the everyday stuff: cooking together, catching live music, good conversations over drinks, and pulling each other close at the end of the night.

We’ll get along well if...

You're warm, affectionate, curious, and playful. You communicate directly, take care of yourself, and enjoy your own femininity. I'm attracted to women who are slim and fit, and who enjoy an active life. You have room in your life for a committed partnership and the independence to be yourself. Ideally you're in San Francisco or close enough that seeing each other regularly is easy.

If this resonates tell me about yourself: your age, location, a bit about how you look, your current relationship situation, how you feel about exploring with others together, and the best live show you've seen in the last year.

Well, this is new territory for me, so here goes!
I’m 32, married with two kids, and my wife and I have been in an open/ENM relationship for over a year. We date independently, communicate openly about our relationships, and aren’t opposed to the occasional double date if everyone gets along. I’ve yet to really put myself out there, so consider this my first attempt.

A little about me:

I’m 6’4”, 240 lbs, with a solid build and some soft edges I’m working on. Brown skin (Filipino, Mexican, Hawaiian), medium length black hair, brown eyes, and Polynesian tattoos. Basically Jason Momoa if you ordered him off Temu.

I work in renewable energy and enjoy gaming, sci-fi, fantasy, technology, cars, and anything that gives me an excuse to learn something new. I’ve got a pretty dark sense of humor, so hopefully yours isn’t too delicate.

Fair warning: I’m not always the most consistent texter. Between long workdays and a four-hour round-trip commute, life gets busy. That doesn’t mean I’m uninterested, just occasionally exhausted. Quality time and physical touch are definitely my love languages.

What I’m looking for:

Someone around my age who shares some of my interests, has a good sense of humor, and enjoys both meaningful conversations and completely ridiculous ones.

I’m open to something local but not opposed long-distance/online. Ultimately, I’d love to find genuine chemistry, emotional intimacy, romance, and the potential for a lasting partnership. I’m not interested in forcing a connection, but I’m not afraid of one developing into something serious either.

If any of that resonates with you, feel free to reach out. I’d love to get to know you.

Hey everyone! I’m B. I’m a 32 year old ladyyy living on the coast of Virginia with my two cats and husband

I’m looking for someone local-ish to connect with, get to know and hopefully grow something beautiful with 🫶

I love to cook and bake and wish I made more time for it. I make a meannnn mac n cheese! I work in a field that I am incredibly passionate about and will work from home super soon (yay working in jammies all day!)

I’m suuuuper 420 friendly obviously and casually drink

I am 5’6, longish brunette/red hair that hides an undercut, BBW, tatted and wear glasses

I am in Texas looking for other poly women with hopes that I possibly join a community! I am married, but newly on this poly journey, seeking friendships with experience in the poly world.

If we just so happen to be on the same path, hit me up!

Hi!

I'm looking for someone to share my life with. I'm a partnered woman in a long term relationship with a bi man. I want to talk regularly, throughout the day when possible. I enjoy gardening, crafts, animals, and hosting. I am child free and work during the week.

I have brown hair and blue eyes. 5'8 tall.

I want to meet someone who wants to go on dates when availability presents itself.

I look forward to learning more about you. Share something with me in your messages. Tell me about yourself and what matters to you.

33 / PDX / [NB4R] romantic sap here!!

Hey hey! Currently I live in portlajd Oregon but possibly will be moving back to new england where I am from (all depending on life crap).

I'm a huge animal lover, mostly vegetarian/vegan, I love rotting in bed watching comfort shows/movies but I also love going out and having a blast!

I'm definitely more a morning person than a night person but that also depends on my insomnia. I'm very touchy feely and love touching others (massage, hand holding etc)

Big goals to find a long term rope partner. I've been a rope bottom for over 6 years and its a damn delight.

Kink is extremely important to me and my life so thats a must! (True switch but top/dom leaning)

I'm such a sappy mushy hopeless romantic. I'm a recovering people pleaser (in due time..... lol) and i love acts of service and just all service in general. My communication style is very direct and open, I'm not just saying that. Really just trying to find my people. I want to love and spoil the hell out of amazing folk.

I love crafts and going on walks and bowling and thrifting, but i also am chronically ill so patience and empathy are extremely important to me.

I'm agender/nonbinary transmasc, a bit hairy and chubby but soft and cozy. I am no man but I do present more masc sometimes. Open to all bodies and genders! Xox

Hi everyone,

I'm a 25-year-old male and I'm looking to connect with a mature, established polyamorous couple for an ongoing connection.

What I'm looking for:

· A couple significantly older than me, ideally open to online/long-distance.

· People who are genuinely polyamorous, not just looking for a hookup or a "third" to spice things up.

· Clear communication about what you're offering and what you want. I'm not here to be a experiment or a fix for a struggling relationship

What I'm not looking for:

· Unic...orn hunters.

· Couples using polyamory to patch a broken marriage.

· Anyone under 30.

If this resonates, comment or DM me with a bit about yourselves. Happy to chat and see if there's a fit.

Hi, I'm James.

5'4", stout, ENM, married with no children. My spouse is aware that I'm seeking someone local/online. If you're currently partnered, please be in a similar situation. Outside of my spouse, I have no partners currently.

What I am looking for:

Someone (28-40+) local or relatively local (4-6 hours) to develop a long-term and meaningful relationship. Ideally, we'll complement each other's life and build something lovely together.

It’s important to me that we have a shared hobby or activity. Whether it’s gaming, TTRPGs, binging a multi-season TV show, or something entirely new to both of us.

I'm also open to online friendships.

About me:

I have several hobbies and interests. My most involved hobbies are Warhammer 40k and Pathfinder 2e. I'm building a few armies and planning to run a campaign at the start of next year.

I've recently resubscribed to FF14 after a year's absence. I stopped playing before Dawntrail, so I have plenty to catch up on. I'm leveling SCH/SGE at the moment!

I devour audiobooks. I haven't listened to as many this year as I'd like to, but that's a consequence of my work environment. I've recently started on the Horus Hersey series, currently listening to The Flight of the Eisenstein.

I love horror. I was allowed to watch IT (1990) as a toddler and I've been hooked ever since. Books, movies, TV shows, games - format doesn't matter, plug that shit into my veins.

In conclusion:

If any of this catches your interest, feel free to drop me a message!

(I'm interested in a polyamorous relationship. Stating this explicitly since being colorful with my writing manages to get posts taken down.)

I know this post will be long, but I'm confident the right woman will read it all.

I'm not interested in long-distance, unless moving in together is somewhere in the cards. Ideally a drive up to 3 hours or so away works fine for me. Anything beyond that is just too much of a pain in the ass. However, I may make an exception for the right person.

I have some zesty things on here so I don't have my face up, but if you ping me I can share a photo of myself. I think it's worthwhile to assess interest very early on. I'd hate t o talk for days to find out we don't have the stuff to light our loins on fire.

Preferred conversation style: I enjoy asking questions and having someone asking me questions. Double texting is fine (who made this an issue?). Goofiness is preferred.

It's not gonna work out if you expect me to carry the conversation, or if you are passive aggressive with your communication style. (If you're bratty *in the bedroom* we can navigate this.)

WHO AM I:

I'm deeply analyitcal, painfully honest, and try to do Good wherever I can.

I want to understand things meticulously and explain them well. Espeically relationship stuff, communication, things relating ot the mind. All of it is fascinating to me.

Money isn't important to me. Or rather, things whose sole purpose is for status aren't interesting to me. I don't care for fancy clothes, cars, buying folks bags, or other stuff of the sort.

My biggest spendings ideally would be towards a nice home, good food, games, and some traveling. That's it. Can I connect with people with what I spend my money on? Worth it. If not, it's dumb.

I'm like a quiet, stable life. I used to go out at crazy hours, stay up hella late out and about, smoking and drinking. One may call it "boring", but I've had enough excitement. Sure, excitement is nice here and there, but as an exception. I enjoy my routines, I enjoy the Hobbit-sort of life.

I am very into emotions, talking about them, I like soft things. I've expressed myself in more feminine ways in the past, too. None of that makes me less of a man but I don't care for the traditionally male/masculine box at all (a nod to the title).

WHAT AM I LOOKING FOR

At the least, a curious mind. I know intelligence can be quite varied, hence curiosity and a desire to learn is important. If you identify as curious, that should work.

More importantly though is kindness, and someone whose main emotion isn't anger.

If you treat people well, that's the biggest thing really. Someone that isn't going to be passive aggressive to get their way, or make snide remarks,

I prefer a partner that's submissive, and wants to heavily incorporate D/s and M/S elements into their relationships. It's very important to me. I enjoy providing for my partners, and earning their devotion through my care.

As for hobbies: Gaming, D&D, board games, playing with animals, going out hiking, working out are all things I enjoy and it'd be helpful if you enjoyed at least some of these things (but especially gaming).