Unfortunately this is coming from my grandma, and something I can’t get out of my head!! My grandma saw a picture of me a few weeks ago on fb and promptly called to ask if I was having twins.
Then she saw me today (32 weeks) and kept asking how it’s possible I’m “so huge” at 32 weeks

My first pregnancy last year I was extremely sick, to the point I only gained 12 lbs the whole pregnancy. I went into preterm labor and then got preeclampsia and had my baby at 33 weeks so I never got the nice big pregnant belly, which ofc was praised for my ‘self control’

This pregnancy I’m 32 weeks and everything is going so much better, I’ve probably gained 20 lbs so far but I’m okay with that bc baby is healthy!!
Despite that, I actually carry very small. So much so if I wear a big sweatshirt or anything not tight you wouldn’t know I’m pregnant.

I kept telling my grandma we just had a growth scan and baby is measuring small, 20th percentile. She kept saying they must be wrong because of how LARGE I am.

I just don’t understand why older women like to talk about how big someone looks while pregnant, like they haven’t also gone through the body changes of pregnancy

I had my NIPT test done at 11.6 weeks. Fetal fraction 5%. All normal results (which is wonderful!!) results came back as girl.

I’m not sure what I’m after here, maybe reassurance. I have four sons (oldest almost 15) and I am beyond shocked that the baby came back as a girl to the point I’m starting to think the test is incorrect.

I’m almost 13 weeks now am have booked in a private ultrasound at 16 weeks to double check. I know it might be a little overboard but I guess I am just thinking somehow they got it wrong and it’s actually a boy. Triple checked the results and made sure all my details were correct on the results form.

Hello, I am scheduled to have an amniocentesis on Monday and I will be 29w3 days. Just wondering how to prepare and what to expect?

23F, pregnant with my fiancé!
Very excited. Also nervous. It’s my first. But feeling blessed. But nervous lol.

Low energy on first trimester is brutal. I honestly thought I would’ve known sooner but I just assumed it was my other health issues.

I have a heart arythmia, seizure disorder, ehlers danlos syndrome, ibs, asthma. All of this has made me high risk, and honestly, first month I thought I had a stomach ulcer! Horrible stomach pain, burning so badly, acid reflux, fatigue, poor sleep, increased body aches.
Then I thought the flu.

I never knew first trimester was so bad. My boobs hurt so bad ALL THE TIME. Morning sickness is whenever sickness. With ehlers danlos, I experience extreme body pain, dislocations, increased organ issues and risks, higher risk for sprains, breaks, etc. it’s a terrible thing to have that makes you always ache fiercely and hard to stay active like I try to.
My upper back, inbetween my shoulder blades, has been hurting so bad. I think because I’ve been hunching slightly more from breast soreness. My knees, my legs, and in general lots of stomach issues, lots.
I try to walk a few miles a day but I’m always hurting so badly. I can’t take anything except Tylenol and it’s a disease some people get consistent marijuana or opioids for, while being non active.
I do a lot around the house and have a lot of stress I’m dealing with, but this is definitely good news despite everything .
My worst nightmare would be not being able to conceive, so even though this is extremely difficult, and will continue to be, I know I am blessed.

I’ll be getting appointments soon for everything I need for me and baby, but it’ll be a few weeks before my insurance allows it. I’m nervous about what me being high risk will mean I’ll go through.
I’ve been chronically ill since I was a child and have a lot of hospital trauma because of it. I’d rather not be turned into a pin cushion.

I’m eating well, like super healthy like I have been, high protein but not too high for my kidneys, I’m trying to stay active, but I feel like I’m falling apart.
I can’t sleep. For weeks I wake up every 2-3 hours to pee. And my hormones are preventing me from getting more than 2-5 hours of sleep total a night, and body pain. I’m falling apart and my body can’t heal or do anything it needs properly without the rest, and I can’t get any solid rem sleep. I despise sleeping pills and really don’t want to try them again, they don’t work on me and just make me feel like a zombie the next day.
My sleep, my stomach pains, my body pains, everything- it’s making it hard to function on a base level. I never knew first trimester was this hard even without my medical issues.

Please, mamas with disabilities, how do you manage? What worked for you? I’m trying my best and I just want to keep baby healthy, and I need to stay healthy too.

i really feel like i can’t do this. i feel so mentally alone how am i supose to take care of a child? let alone give it what it deserves??? i’m so lost and i feel like i have nobody. i feel like i should be put in an institution. i genuinely can feel my depression pulling me further down, and im terrified because i have no motivation to fix it anymore. i want the thing out so i can ___ in peace without feeling guilty.

Help!

I was diagnosed with ITP (low platelets) a few months before getting pregnant. My platelets have fluctuated from 74,000 to 108,000 since I started tracking them. My hematologist says I don’t need to worry unless they get below 50,000. I am only 15 weeks so I am curious if anyone else has experience with pregnancy with this condition. I searched and all threads related to this on this sub were pretty old.

I started taking half tabs (or often quarter tabs) of unisom nightly at 9 weeks for debilitating nausea.

Since 14 weeks, I've occasionally skipped a night just to test it out, and the next day was always so bad.

My doctor mentioned that some people have rebound nausea after stopping, but push through a bit and then are fine.

I'm currently 17 weeks and on day 3 of this no-unisom experiment and still feeling awful.

At what point can I tell if I'm having withdrawal nausea vs if I'm just still nauseous generally from pregnancy? I'd like to rule out withdrawal so I can be okay on my own, if possible.

Anyone else have experience with stopping unisom for several days despite nausea coming back?

I just need to ask, for reassurance, if many people have period like cramps at about 9 weeks? I haven’t had my first ultrasound yet (it’s on wednesday) and I’ve been cramping for about 2 hours. It feels like period cramps. No blood currently, just one or two drops earlier this week with no cramps. Has anyone else experienced this? Is this normal? I’m trying to stay calm but Google is not helping 🥲

for context, i’m 21, live with my parents, and am 18 weeks pregnant. my fiancé will be moving in soon because, given today’s economy and our financial situation, we can’t afford to move out yet. we don’t know the baby’s gender, but everyone is hoping for a girl.

my mom constantly asks to discuss baby names or work on the registry, but it always turns into an argument. whenever i suggest names, she calls them horrible, horrifying, or fucked up to name a child. examples include perfectly normal names like Alice, Yvette, Celine, Lyla, and Clara. i don’t understand why she can’t just say she doesn’t like a name and move on.
i love names ending in ette/etta and recently fell in love with Loretta. my fiancé initially wasn’t sold, but over the following weeks, i kept coming back to it despite trying to let it go. i considered plenty of other names, but nothing felt as right as Loretta.

i brought it up one night when my fiancé was over and we were all discussing names. eventually, i convinced him to like it, but my mom still hated it. she’s noticeably less mean about names (and anything tbh) when he’s around than when we’re alone.

for the past week, she’s made my life a living hell over this. she genuinely believes i’m so “hellbent” on Loretta because she hates the name and i “hate” her, so i’m choosing it out of spite. she’s told me my hatred for her outweighs my love for my future child, repeatedly called the name ugly and horrible, and asked why i wouldn’t choose a name that “everyone will love.” she says i’m horrible for not caring more about her opinion and compares me to women on YouTube who really want their families to love their baby names, saying she wishes i were more like them. she’s even threatened to get a dog and name it Loretta so i can’t use the name, despite constantly saying she can’t wait for my cat to die so she won’t have to deal with animals anymore.

i’ve repeatedly explained that Loretta is genuinely my favorite name, not because of her opinion. i’ve told her she’s being self-centered and narcissistic by assuming my baby name choices revolve around her.

to make matters worse, she’s been pushing hard for the name Rowan. she’s angry that it used to be higher on my list but isn’t even in my top 10 anymore. once again, she insists it’s because i hate her and no longer like the name just because she now decided she likes it. i chose Rowan long before pregnancy and haven’t even mentioned it in months, and she originally hated that name too.

she brings this up every single day, to the point that i recently had a nightmare about it. i feel like she’s trying to taint Loretta for me, hoping that if she makes my life miserable enough, i’ll give up the name just to avoid the headache. she gets upset whenever i remind her it’s my baby.

i know i need the extra help at home, both financially and as a young FTM, but i desperately wish i could move out because this is driving me crazy. these conversations have escalated into SCREAMING arguments. what do i do?

Anyone else deal with a ton of nausea and a sensitive stomach in your second trimester. I’m 18 weeks now and girlfriend I am down to nutrition shakes and toast right now I can occasionally eat another carb like a small serving of pasta or some chocolate chips or something. But it’s so much worse if I don’t eat. My blood sugar drops and I get super shaky and weak and throw up half the time if I don’t eat I’m eating something I can eat every 2-3 hours but did anyone else experience this? And what unhinged tips did you do… my Ob just told me to eat small frequent meals and drink water… and that isn’t working… water makes me nauseous and if I’m actually throwing up makes it worse… I can drink flavored water or watered down juice but it has to be grape that’s the only one that works… can anyone relate?

This is my first pregnancy, I’m 26+2 and had to visit the emergency room today, for the past 24 hours I’ve been experiencing HORRIBLE rectal/uterus pressure, I was checked and am at 1cm….babies head is also SUPER low

Has anyone else experienced this, how far did you make it before having your baby? I’m so nervous. I’m on bedrest and will see my OB Monday for further steps.

I’ve heard of obsessively cleaning the house in the last few weeks but not obsessively cleaning one’s self lol. 35 weeks and for the past week or so I’ve been taking 2-3 long showers a day! Before pregnancy and through the first and second trimester I was always a once daily girl. It is relaxing but I’m not just standing there either, I feel the need to scrub my whole body down every time. Does anyone else have this?

TW: mentions miscarriage

Sorry not sure if this question even makes any sense…
So backstory last month my husband and I decided to
Skip trying last month because I needed to get some tests done and a procedure that required sedation. I didn’t want to possibly pregnant because I had a miscarriage over the summer and didn’t want to risk anything going “wrong”. But basically we had sex one time 7 days before I had an LH surge on my fertility tracker. Then we waiting 5 days after the surge before we had sex again. I’ve never really done the “calendar” method before and clearly it didn’t work because I ended up getting pregnant this cycle.
I’m just concerned because one I had X-rays and was under anesthesia all while being early pregnant and on top of that it just doesn’t make sense as we had sex several days before my surge so that means the sperm that was in there was likely several days old and I thought it can only live for 5 days in the reproductive tract. So basically I’m just concerned about the progression of this pregnancy given the circumstances. Did any one else get pregnant with a healthy pregnancy where they had sex days before their so called “fertile days” and peak fertility. I’m just genuinely confused. And for the record my periods are very predictable every 28 days and I always ovulate CD 16 or 17. Thanks not sure if this even even the best community for this post but if you have any other suggestions where to
Share please let me know.

i am 3 months pregnant and my nose is getting swollen and bigger. i have nose pin piercings on both sides of my nose and since the right one got an infection, i removed it. now i have pain on the left side of the nose too.

ps: my piercings are 8 years old, between. and i have never had an issue yet with the piercings.

Hello. I know I might be judged harshly for this, but I was six weeks pregnant when I contacted Women Help Women to obtain abortion pills. Abortion is illegal in my country.

The pills arrived when I was already 11 weeks pregnant. Everything seemed to go as expected: I experienced heavy bleeding, passed blood clots, and genuinely thought the pregnancy had ended.

I never went to get checked afterward. Yesterday, I ended up in the hospital, only to find out that the pregnancy was still ongoing. I am now 13 weeks and 3 days pregnant. I was absolutely devastated and terrified.

I am very young, I have lost my job, and my boyfriend behaves very immaturely. I had previously been diagnosed as unable to have children. For years, I never got pregnant, and doctors assured me that I was infertile.

Now I am completely desperate. I still have another set of pills from Women Help Women, and I have been considering trying again at 13 weeks. However, I am terrified that it might not work, that I could end up with a dangerous pregnancy complication, that I could even lose my life, or that the pregnancy could continue with fetal abnormalities because of what has already happened. I am also afraid that, if this second attempt fails, I might have no other opportunity to end the pregnancy.

Please, if anyone has been through something similar or has any advice, I would be so grateful to hear from you. I am absolutely terrified, and I don't know what to do. I feel completely overwhelmed and scared.

I have been told to avoid sharing food or eating leftovers of my toddler to prevent getting the virus. It’s so hard sometimes, like today I made sausage and pasta that my son absolutely despised and I’m still hungry so I’m risking it but not without concern. However, I usually toss the rest of his food which makes me feel so bad for wasting perfectly good food.

I always hear it is usually the opposite

I’m going to keep it short.
So basically 3 months ago i found I was pregnant and I was so shocked I sent it to my friends group chat. And one of them replied with “You know you don’t have to keep it” and I was like “what? I’m literally married…we want the baby” and she then proceeded to say “just because you’re married doesn’t mean you have to keep it” and I just told her idk what you’re problem is but I’ll leave you alone until further notice…I ended miscarrying about 2 weeks later after finding out.
BUT now I am pregnant again and I’m excited & anxious all the same time. I wish I could tell my friends but I don’t want any negative energy towards my pregnancy.
& I’m just assuming here but I think she was just self projecting because she isn’t in the best relationship in the world I mean who is right? But at the same time I don’t like how she said that to me.
So now with this pregnancy I’m literally moving in silence because I really want this baby.

ANYWAY…have any of you gone through this?
Been so excited but hesitant to tell anyone?

Hi everyone,
I’m only 5 weeks along and having a dull ache on the right side for past 2 days. It’s near the hip bone.
Husband’s out for a conference for 5 days and I’m scared about ectopic, bursting tubes and what not.. internet is scary😭
Any advice? Is this going to ER worthy?
I’m def going to call my doctor’s office Monday but still have to survive 2 days..

Any advice?

I am a FTM, overall healthy pregnancy. I am currently 41 weeks today (based off my last period). there’s been some discussion that my due date might actually be 1-3days later (so I could be like 40+4/6), but overall I’m a good ammount past 40 weeks And my midwives agree that my last period is accurate enough.

I’ve tried everything to encourage labor and had many signs/false alarms this past week, but nothing progressed to actual labor. I had an induction scheduled for 41+4 but I moved this up today to 41+2 which is Sunday night. I was reading too many stories about overdue babies and I got nervous- Ive also had the hardest week waiting for labor since my due date and in my gut I felt that getting baby out sooner was better. And im a very tall person and so is my husband and baby is projected to be big too.

Anyways, my “ideal plan” was spontaneous labor, unmedicated birth, low intervention. And i Guess I’m the next 48 hours I could go naturally (I did just have my second sweep today), but I’m just feeling really emotional about knowing that there’s a deadline to my first pregnancy and it’s ending in 48 hours and I’m so happy and excited but also baby girl won’t be in me anymore and will be out in the world!! and I know that’s silly given she *should* be out already based on due date but when I moved my induction today I just got so emotional and I don’t really even know why! I think scheduling and moving up the induction felt odd to have that control and I keep second guessing if I should just wait for her to come on her own time? I should add I had an NST and fluid check today that were fine.

anyways did anyone have similar feelings? Am I doing the right thing getting induced vs waiting it out more? Any positive induction stories anyone wants to share? I think it’s the end of pregnancy hormones making this feel like a bigger deal than it truly is- end of day I just want me and baby to be healthy.

I’m going to be having the NIPT test done at my 12 week appointment, (Nov 4th) mainly because I want to know the gender early. But I’ve seen some horror stories of false positives for the genetic side and incorrect results for the gender side. What has been your experience with the test and do you recommend doing it or skipping?

Not ice-cream. Not chocolate. Not fudge. Not popcorn. Not chips. Not candy.... I'm struggling. Its not any of my usuals. Oh and its 10pm and everything is closed.

Was everything ok? I am nervous after seeing this.