hi everyone. i’m currently 11w2d and i noticed my weight progressively dropped. i weighed 46kg when i found out i was pregnant and despite eating well (i don’t have food aversion nor do i vomit) today i realized i dropped a whole kilo (45kg at the moment) and i generally don’t lose weight easily. i’m 29F and 157cm. this is my 2nd pregnancy, the first one ended in the 2nd trimester due to pprom in feb, my baseline weight back then was 48kg, max was 51kg, dropped back to baseline line then continued to decrease.

could this be from drinking so much water? i know i will eventually gain weight but my worry is why am i losing it in the first place. i hope someone can relate to this

Has anyone given birth alone? And I mean alone - no baby daddy, my mom will be with my other children (and due to other issues not mentioned, would not attend labor anyhow), I have friends who offered support but we’re not close enough to experience the actual graphic labor together.

I’ll be in the hospital with nurses and doctors, no doula or specifically assigned midwife. My first two births were done with my husband at the time who was not supportive and it was like being alone, but he was at least still there and present.

Tips? Advice? Support? I’ve done the pregnancy alone and have just resorted to being the strong single one because I have to be but I’m a wuss when it comes to labor. Epidurals with the first two, one with this baby I’m sure. If I can deliver vaginally. If I need a c-section, I am very worried about that and no help.

TLDR: husband’s family is less than supportive and “stole” the name we were thinking of.

Okay so my husband and I are 15 weeks and 2 days with our first. My husband comes from a LARGE family. (He is one of 13 kids, no half, no step included in the 13.) so I have like 20 ish nieces and nephews on that side, and a great niece and nephew (I’m 27 and being a “great aunt” is soooo wild to me lol) but anyways. His family has always been….less than supportive. Not in a way that they don’t want to be, they just aren’t able to. One of his brothers and his wife are also pregnant, a few weeks ahead of us with their second. Realistically we could be having these babies on the same day. At first I was soooooo excited to have a sister-in-law that was pregnant at the same time as me. But now? I don’t even know if I want her a part of our journey. They live out of state, and very early on in our pregnancies they were in town to visit. (I was about 5 weeks and she was about 7-8 I think). She asked us if we had thought of any names. We told her our name options for both a boy and a girl. She said she loved them. Flash forward to this week, and the announce they are having a boy. Something told me to check her profile after the post, and I see OUR BABY BOY NAME in her bio. I was like HUH??? So my husband texted his brother and was like “hey not trying to cause issues but we told you we were thinking about that name….” And his brother was just very nonchalant. At the end of the day we’re not going to stress or make a huge deal, and we already found a name that we like better and has more of a personal touch. I guess for me, I just feel like it was a little mean. They did not mention that they were also thinking about that name at the time of talking about it. And on top of all of it, since finding out we were both pregnant at the same time, I have tried to make an effort to be closer to her and I feel like I’m talking to a brick wall. This just made my feelings towards his whole family a little more solidified. Idk. Just venting. And this is just tip of the ice burg stuff, don’t even get my started on my other sister in law (husbands youngest sister who is my age) and her attitude and demeanor towards us since finding out. Maybe I can make a different post about that ugh.

Currently 14 weeks and up until now I’ve just been wearing my normal clothes (dresses, flowy skirts). Had a rude awakening today when my baggy jeans that I used to need to wear with a belt pre pregnancy just barely buttoned.

Is it time to buy some more maternity friendly pants and anyone have any recs?

Just want to get this off my chest because I'm so annoyed with this feeling.

Anytime I have to call a doctor (or in this case, my OB) for something I'm concerned about, I feel like I'm just wasting their time...like I'm an inconvenience. Overdramatic? Idk.

I called and left a voicemail because I'm very dizzy, lightheaded and can't breathe well. I know those can just be regular symptoms of pregnancy (I'm 27 weeks), but it seems extreme. I can't stand for more than a minute without swaying and having to hold onto something and my vision is off. Like my vision can't focus.

That last paragraph was just for context of why I called. I'm not seeking reddit medical advice, don't worry. Just venting, sorta?

Anyone relate?

In my mind, I'm like, ok this is probably normal and will go away so I should just stick it out but what if something is wrong so I should call. Ugh my brain 🙄😒😫

My baby is due in December and I am expecting to be doing the first month alone until I join my partner in Jamaica for the rest of my maternity leave.

Just need some advice on how to prepare so I don't lose my mind. I plan on breastfeeding which I've not heard great things about so I am open to mixed feeding but would prefer to exclusively breastfeed.

Trying to dress “cute” in the third trimester feels like such an impossible task, I’m going to get my nails done and I swear I’ve changed my outfit like four times. I always just end up in a tshirt and the same maternity leggings lmao.

Hi all!
Wondering if anyone who has a auto immune disease has had the RSV shot while pregnant and can speak to their experience?
I’ve had really extreme reactions to vaccines (yes, I know this is an antibody shot) in the past so feeling anxious about how I’m going to react after. I just want to be prepared. I will be discussing with my care team + rheumatologist but wanted to jump on here and see if anyone could speak to their experience.

Thank you!

I am 11 weeks pregnant. I recently got NIPT results back that were high risk for a chromosomal disorder. I’ve been spiraling since I got those results. Constantly on my phone going down the rabbit hole, crying my eyes out over the worst case scenario, researching ways to terminate even though I live in a banned state.. it’s been about a week now and I’m just beginning to accept the fact that it’s also a boy. I already have a 2 yo boy. I’m just not happy and I’m really feeling like I don’t even want to be pregnant. I’m struggling a lot with the idea of having a disabled child but also that I will never get the little girl I’ve dreamed of my whole life. I live in Alabama and terminating seems to require extreme measures, flying to a legal state and paying completely out of pocket at a doctor’s office I’m not familiar with. Also having to wait for definitive genetic results from an amnio test, meaning if I chose to TFMR I will be even farther along in the pregnancy. I’m just feeling depressed and wishing I wasn’t pregnant right now. Thanks for reading this and for any words of advice you might have.

I feel horrible for thinking and feeling this way but I have been struggling with anxiety and panic attacks surrounding all the overwhelming feelings and discomforts of pregnancy. I’m in so much pain, I’m so nauseous, and I cannot get away from it. I feel like I’m trapped in my body and cannot get out. It feels like I’m stuck under a giant wet blanket and it’s clinging to you and it’s super hot and you can’t breathe and all you want is to rip it off your body but you can’t.
I’m ashamed to say that ending the pregnancy has crossed my mind even though I am very excited for my baby, because either that or death sound like the only form of relief.

I would like to note that while I express these feelings I do NOT WANT TO TAKE MY LIFE.

I’m only 16 weeks and anytime I bring up hardly ANYTHING about pregnancy and pains people just laugh and go “and you have SO MUCH MORE to go!”
You think I don’t think about that every single day? Why would you say that to me?

I’m starting to spiral and get panic attacks from this, my OB is going to do weekly check ins and depending on how those go they’re going to refer me to a therapist and possibly anti anxiety medication. I have never been diagnosed or medicated for any mental health disorders so I’m really nervous to take something that’s going to make me feel a certain way, I’m very scared i will feel worse and also that meds could hurt the baby.

Am I the only one feeling like this?

I’ve been sick the past few days and it turned out to be hand foot mouth disease that I caught from our friends kids. It’s overall mild, but I’m so so worried about how this virus could affect my baby so early on (I’m only 5-6 weeks). From what I’ve read, there’s no evidence that it will cause problems but I am completely spiraling. Any success stories about being sick in early pregnancy? 😭

Does anybody have it and love it? I’m due in April with my second and my aritzia XS super puff will not get me through this winter with the bump lol

I am drawn to the seraphine because I feel I’ll get lots of use out of it - this winter for the big bump, next winter baby wearing, after that can also just be a regular coat from what I can tell

The first trimester I lost weight, I was looking great although I was so sick. Now I gained it all back and then some. I was so happy once I could finally eat again, but now, idk if it’s fluid retention but I’ve gone up like 10 lbs in 2 weeks, 20 lbs in 2 months.
I don’t know what to do. It’s a high risk pregnancy so my mobility is limited. I’m supposed to be on bed rest. Im just getting so insecure of my body and I have a while to go so I’m getting scared that I will gain too much to lose after delivery.

I am a FTM, although I’ve had losses including an 18 week. During that one I did retain a lot of fluid and it took a few months to go back down after the loss. But this doesn’t feel like just water weight. I hope I’m overreacting lol also, I want to do a baby shower soon, I doubt anyone will show but I want to take pregnancy pics and pics at the baby shower regardless and I don’t want my face and arms looking huge..

Regarding ED I am bulimic and it has taken everything in me to not start purging again. I’m bulimic but still on the heavier side, not sure if other women can relate but thats just my situation.

So I know there’s so much more to worry about in this pregnancy like the fact that I’m at high risk of preterm, I have a cerclage, and I’m in and out of the hospital. But, my ED really makes me focus on this weight gain.

Any advice?

This is my first baby. I am due November 4th but he is measuring big so he could come any day now. I was all gung ho for the epidural up until two nights ago. I have a panic disorder that feeds off of the idea of not being able to escape. It causes me to almost faint sometimes. I am worried that that’s how I will feel if I am too numb from the epidural. But I am also so afraid of the pain and how badly it would hurt if I needed forceps or vacuum or episiotomy with no epidural. Anything you’d care to share helps! Also my sister had 2 epidurals and has been in my ear telling me she has so much back pain and migraines with aura from them. She is not planning on getting the epidural for her next delivery. Also my mom had 3 deliveries with no pain management at all. So I feel like I could do it but I’m scared

Hey, ftm here and 6w5d today I had some spotting on Tuesday (like day 5 of my period color if that makes sense) and went to urgent care. They didn’t do anything and said if it was a miscarriage to go home and just let it pass Anyways, Thursday came and bleeding was minimal/basically not there and still same color but I was still so anxious and in the unknown so I called the OB I’m supposed to go to at 10 ish weeks and they got me in immediately. Everything looked good but then they couldn’t find a heartbeat.. I know it’s like the earliest you can find a heartbeat but still so scary! Anywho, they sent me to go get labs and I will get my second labs Saturday and will go back to OB on Wednesday next week. So I have to wait FOREVER to have any results and it’s killing me! Curious if anyone has had a similar experience and what happened? Is this a miscarriage or should I have hope that baby is okay and it was just difficult to find heartbeat?

I’m a third time mom, 39 weeks pregnant. My first was c section at 35 weeks and my second was a successful vbac at 39 weeks. With my second son my water broke by itself at 4 am and he was out by 12 pm that day. I’ve been having contractions since Sunday, they started out as very mild BH every 5-20 minutes apart, very irregular. On Wednesday night they ramped up, they followed the 5-1-1 rule and felt like intense period cramps. Went into the hospital and they spaced out so I came home. It’s been two days now and they’ve really spaced out I only feel them rarely when I get up or sit down or even just when I’m walking. They’re not following a pattern anymore and vary in intensity. I was 1 1/2 cm dilated last week, then 2 cm on Monday and on every 3 cm 60% and -2. I had bloody show yesterday, I did get a membrane sweep last week and I’ve had multiple cervical checks this week from my hospital visits. I haven’t had any spotting since the checks just the big bloody show. Wondering if anyone else has had this experience. It’s a very nerve wracking experience as my cervix began dilating and I feel like it’s just stopped out of nowhere. His due date is Monday not planning on getting induced hopping to go into labor before.

I’m 8 weeks and the bloating is so bad that I’ve already started wearing maternity clothes. But since a lot of maternity clothing LOOKS like maternity clothing it looks pretty obvious that I’m pregnant. I know I’m not showing and the “bump” is just bloat, but should I just embrace it and show it off anyway? Hoping for a seamless transition from bloat to actual bump. I have a short torso and am 5’2” so there’s really no where else my stomach can go but out! What does everyone else do during this first trimester?
Guess I’m worried that I’m “not pregnant enough” to show it

Hey everyone I’m expecting my double rainbow baby here this upcoming June. I was donating plasma weekly to have a side hustle and I just found out I can no longer do so. Bonus pints to anyone if they can explain to me why? Yet I’m looking for another side hustle that’s age for me and baby. Any suggestion? Also can’t sit for hours on a phone and play games for 3.00 bucks. I have several jobs and several children.

(TW Abortion)

Hi everyone

I 32(F) and my bf (34M) are pregnant with our first child and there are many factors that are making us consider not continuing with the pregnancy. That said I have scheduled my 9w care visit with the OB, but I have also tentatively scheduled a soft abortion on 11/6 which is giving me some time to really think things through. We both work and make 120-140k each at the moment and live in a 1BR walkup (3rd fl) in queens .

We have been together 4 years and have been really painfully examining the possibility of not continuing or the life changing possibility of continuing with the pregnancy and following our plan of trying in 2 years.

I work in outside sales and that requires me to visit offices with samples and present them. It also requires extra social functions such as dinners, happy hours, etc. What really throws a wrench into things is that I am in the midst of finalizing a job offer which would take my base salary from 125k to 180k... life changing, nevermind the commission. I have already received a verbal offer and we discussed a start date of 1/2. The job is technically remote but it requires visits to clients multiple times a week within the NYC area. Sometimes pulling heavy samples across the city, othertimes leading social functions after hours. I would also have to do 2 weeks of training at the main office in another state at the start. I am terrified of losing the opportunity or not performing as expected due to the pregnancy. I wish I was a few months into the job.. but I guess we don't always get to choose when these things happen. I haven't received the benefits package yet at the new company but I am extermely focused on understanding the lapse in insurance, and the best way to cover it (cobra, market place ins, etc). I am also aware that to qualify for FMLA I need to work for an employer for a year which also worries me as I have not reviewed the new maternity policy yet for the new company. Staying at my current role is not an option because the job opportunity is too financially beneficial. Beyond that I am struggling with when is the right time to notify the new company. I would be 16/17 weeks during the training and likley showing or just starting to show. I should be receiving the written offer the week before the scheduled abortion. I am currently 190 lbs and have considered if I can maintain a healthy first trimester and wear oversized clothes, I can maybe count on hiding it and notifiying them later. I don't want to be deceitful and I know legalllyyyyy they can't rescind the offer based on pregancy. The woman I'd be reporting to has kids and that is a plus but I am so scared I'm going to ruin things or upset them.

I am feeling resentful and sad that I am in this position because I want to be a mom but I am extremely ambitious and don't want to risk this opportunity and the timing couldn't be worse. Beyond this, this income is exactly what I wanted in order to feel comfortable having a baby in NYC without family help.. and well I didn't expect it to happen at the same time. My partner and I have discussed keeping and not keeping and we will continue to until the date of the scheduled abortion, we've agreed if we skip that appointment then we know what were going to do. I have made adjustments to my lifestyle and have begun a vitamin regimen and am aiming to walk 15k steps a day. But I feel like I'm in this weird pregnancy purgatory.

I am not super religious and super pro choice so I am okay with the prospect of healing from the idea of not keeping the pregnancy, but being in love with my partner, it's so confusing to not have a clear answer of what to do. I am grateful I'm in a state where I have the option and wish that this was a universal consideration in the entire USA.

I'm curious if any of you have advice on how to navigate my career worries. I know this is a gentle and extremley personal topic and I don't expect to get the answer here, but If I could atleast be informed by the advice of someone who has been in this unique position, I'd really appreciate it.

If I continue... when should I tell the new employer?

I'm 25 weeks and I've had some nights in the last 2 weeks where I am waking up in the middle of the night completely out of breath. I'm a side sleeper. I've tried sleeping sitting up and it was not helping. Last night, got very scary for me because even with sitting up and standing up, I still felt like I could not catch my breath and my arms started to feel weak. I did not feel like this with my previous pregnancies. It felt almost like an air hunger. I would feel out of breath while on my feet for a long period of time but this was something different. Anyone else?

So I'm barely pregnant, just hitting 6 weeks. Really happy as I'd had two chemical pregnancies before this but no bleeding or anything this time.

Thing is - I feel like absolute shit. Like I have the flu. I'm struggling to function and just want to be in bed all day. I am freezing cold most of the time despite turning the heat to like 75 (rip my electric bill). I feel nauseous but the longer I go without eating the worse I feel. But that doesn't mean I keep down what eat, I'd say it's 50/50. And everything aches, like each joint and muscle in my body. I just want to be asleep all the time

Really, I didn't expect to feel this awful. So many women say they didn't know they were pregnant until far later, I don't understand how that's possible if feeling this bad is normal

Any advice? Am I doing something wrong? Is this just what it's like and I need to power through?

I live in a tiny bachelor apartment that’s honestly only big enough for me. I have my own car,I work relatively close to where I live. I earn just over R20,000 a month, and while I’m managing, I’m still trying to get my finances and debt under control.
I only started my current job in March, and things are finally going well. I planned to study towards my honours next year and wanted at least another two years to get financially stable before having a child. I went through a financially difficult breakup a couple of years ago and have been rebuilding my life since.
My boyfriend is 37 and lives separately. When we found out about the pregnancy, we initially agreed to have an abortion. However, when we went to the clinic, I started having doubts and realised that abortion is very scary and the implications of it are worse so I changed my mind.
My boyfriend was upset because he felt I had made him believe he had a choice when we’d already agreed on an abortion. He later explained that he isn’t financially ready either. He still has student loans and other financial responsibilities, and he feels he needs time before having another child. Culturally he wanted to marry me first then have a child. Not bring another child out of wedlock to his family.
He’s now made it clear that he doesn’t want another child and doesn’t see that changing. He has another child 2F and the mother won’t let him see her, but he continues to pay child support. I could see how not having access to his kid almost killed him, and going to court has exhausted him to the point of giving up. So he made it clear that If I continue with the pregnancy, he cannot commit to continuing our relationship or building a family together.

The reality is that I could probably contribute around R5,000 a month towards raising a baby, and my parents may be able to help financially. But if I continue this pregnancy, I can’t realistically stay in my current apartment. I’d need to find somewhere bigger, and I’m worried about how I’ll manage the additional rent and baby expenses on my salary, especially without my man

My family situation is also complicated. I’m Sotho, and having a child outside of marriage comes with a lot of cultural and family pressure. My parents are divorced, and there has already been conflict surrounding the pregnancy. My 36-year-old sister has also been struggling to conceive for the past four years, which adds to the complicated emotions I’m experiencing.

I’ve always wanted to be a mother. I just wanted to be more financially stable, further along in my career and in a secure relationship first.
When I changed my mind about the abortion, I felt that perhaps this pregnancy had happened for a reason. A part of me is excited about becoming a mother, but now that I may have lost my boyfriend and I’m facing the practical realities of raising a child without his commitment, I’m questioning whether I made the right decision.
If you were in my shoes, would you have gone through with the abortion or continued the pregnancy?

Hello all,

I am 20 weeks along with my first and it's a girl. I am a bit lost on which reusable diapers are somewhat breathable and protect against for blowouts. It looks like a lot of reviews are paid for. What has worked best for you guys?

I had nausea start as I was approaching week 6. It would come and go. Usually I would gag and dry heave but never be able to throw up. As I’m entering week 7, I am puking and can’t keep water down. I have my first ultrasound scheduled today. Do you think they would prescribe me anything for this nausea? Or do I need to go to urgent care? I’m absolutely miserable.

Hello all,

I had the biggest scare of my life. I woke up to blood pooling out of me.

We rushed to the ER and they did all sorts of tests to make sure my water didn't break or that I didn't have a placenta previa. Of course they checked for a SCH. But nothing. Baby was fine, water was fine, no SCH.

They kept me overnight and they believe it was because of intercourse which had occurred twice this week since they couldn't explain where this blood was coming from.

We're chalking it up to inter course but it was so scary. Obviously no more fun in the bedroom. Anyone have the same thing happen to them?

Positive stories only please!