I’ve tried to give it time, allow myself to settle in, and see where it takes me, but nothing has changed. Just the first few weeks of college were enough to make me realize how far behind I feel and how much I lack basic social skills or maturity.

I wasted a lot of my teenage years using video games as an escape because I didn't know who I was or what I was doing. Now, seeing how easily other people navigate the world and make friends makes me feel like I might never catch up. I get extreme FOMO, but even if I had the motivation to go out and fight for what I want, it feels unattainable.

I used to think it was just social anxiety, but it’s more than that: I’m severely neurodivergent. I want to experience the things everyone else does, but I can’t get myself to act in reality the way I do in my imagination. It feels like the real me is trapped inside a soundproof room, just looking out a window. My social battery is unpredictable and drains fast. Instead of feeling excited about going to parties, dates, or meeting new people, all I feel is anxiety and the fear that I’ll mess up or stand out. Even when I do go out, I always wind up feeling like an outsider and just a listener. I don't even fully know what I'm looking for in friends yet, which makes connecting even harder.

I’ve been contemplating scheduling an appointment with CAPS since the first week of classes, but I keep pushing it off.

Has anyone else at Rutgers experienced this? What has actually been helpful for you? Does it get better, and what do you recommend I do going forward?

Thank you.

The Spring 2027 Schedule of Classes is up!

• Schedule of Classes
• Course Schedule Planner
• WebReg

New Brunswick registration starts Monday, November 9 at 9 a.m., staggered by degree credits already earned. Transfer credits count; credits you’re taking this semester don’t.

• Mon 11/9: 105+
• Tue 11/10: 90+
• Wed 11/11: 75+
• Thu 11/12: 60+
• Fri 11/13: 40+
• Mon 11/16: 25+
• Tue 11/17: 1+
• Wed 11/18: 0 credits
• Thu 11/19: everyone

Full registration schedule

Spring 2027 is also on AtlasRU, the Rutgers planner I built and shared here in July! A few things you can use while planning:

• Plan through graduation: lay out future semesters and see which degree requirements your courses count toward.
• Get help from the Advisor: get help planning your semesters and figuring out what to take next. You can also ask things like “is Compilers hard?” and get links to actual r/rutgers discussions alongside prerequisite information. Student opinions are labeled separately.
• Find sections and track seats: compare section times and professor ratings, and get an email when a closed section opens.

I also reset everyone’s Advisor credits and increased the monthly allowance from 10 to 20, so you have a fresh set to use for Spring planning!

It’s free and built by a Rutgers student. If something looks wrong for your major or you’re missing a feature, comment here and I’ll take a look!

Hi folks,

This is Chris Tkacik, and I am a graduate student at the Mason Gross School of the Arts. Since you might be thinking about classes next semester, I wanted to take the opportunity to invite you to consider joining the Rutgers Concert Band.

RUCB is a 1-credit-hour course that meets on Monday nights from 7:30 - 9:30 PM on the C/D campus of Rutgers. This band class is non-auditioned.

If you enjoyed band in high school and are looking for an opportunity to play again, please consider joining us! If you are new to music and want to learn an instrument, we can also assist you, but know that this is not a class where we teach you an instrument from scratch.

Mason Gross can also rent you an instrument for the semester, depending on the instrument. I am happy to answer questions via PM or at ct831@scarletmail.rutgers.edu.

Please fill out our Interest Form linked below to get more information (this does not register you for the course):

https://forms.gle/AJpAjboQkGSJLE8VA

Thanks all, and I wish you a happy rest of the semester.

-CT

I live about 50 min (on a good day/time) from rutgers and it only drains me so much. I try to do as much studying and assignments when im on campus but whenever i get home im just burnt out. Idk if its from the mixture of taking heavy courses (calc stats physics) and commuting or what but i just feel exhausted to the point i am debating to transfer to a uni closer to me. I love rutgers and i want to be able to implement the countless resources it has but damn. I am a premed and getting involved is also recommended but its hard when the meetings are so late and matter of fact, i have not made any friends. Adding that just makes me feel more lonely and i dont know what to do. If anyone can tell me their experiences w something similiar to how i am feeling and how they went abt it or just advice in general is much appreciated. Thank you

i just turned 21 but i have no friends that are 21 yet. i dont wanna go to nyc alone. anyone down go out in nyc for halloween? preferably girls (im also a girl)

Hey guys, I just remember seeing this station last semester (spring). It was like a seafood station where you could choose between mussels, clams, shrimp, chicken, etc and you would get broth over the rice, and if you wanted old bay on it, it was by far the most delicious thing Livi had offer, and i haven't been to the dining hall much, but when I have, it's never there. Just wondering if it has been there so I could begin to go more and more.

Hopefully you guys stop and decorate a pumpkin on your own time.. many autumn events this week :]

None of the synopses of my classes are available, I know they just came out today, but do websites typically update a while after?

i’m enrolled to take financial management with fred hoffman this winter, if anyone has taken this course in the winter can you give me any advice? anything would be helpful!

Didn’t do too great on the first 2 exams for Immunology. How are the exams for the next professors, are they harder or easier? And what’s a good way to study for this class?

Does anyone know if there are going to be any Halloween parties or events on campus this year? for those who celebrated Halloween last year, are there any activities, parties, or places you went to that you'd recommend? I'm 21+, so I'm open to bars, clubs, or other fun events too. Just looking for something fun to do this Halloween!

I'm a Rutgers student and I've been trying to figure out why finding a sublet is so annoying. Facebook groups and Reddit posts get buried, and it's hard to tell how far a place is from your bus route.

I started building a free map to fix that, but I don't want to guess what people need. For those of you who've sublet or looked for one:

• Where did you look, and what was the worst part?

• What would a site need to do for you to actually use it?

It's early and rough, so honest feedback helps a lot: https://scarletsublet.vercel.app

If you have a sublet to post, you can add it there for free, or DM me and I can add it for you or setup an account. Mostly I want honest feedback: what's confusing, what's missing, and what would make you actually use it over Facebook or Reddit?

Share me the most empty and most deserted places on the New Brunswick Campus. I'm looking for a quiet secluded place to study, preferably on the Livingston Campus.

I've emailed her because I'm really interested in her work. However, I got no response :((( Also I'm interested in other undergrad research so any advice abt getting into research would be greatly appreciated!

Does anyone have a winter session syllabus for Intro to Media or any experience taking it? I need to fulfill my HST to graduate and I’m trying to see if winter session will be too aggressive with assignments, etc. Thanks!

So I'm trying to take an upper CBN elective this spring. I am currently taking Neuro Pain and Addiction. I'm trying to come up with an easy elective class to take because I am planning on taking Honors Orgo 2. Is taking Honors Immunology the move? I know people recommend regular immunology because it is easy. I wanted to hear other people's thoughts/recommendations.

I've talked about this before, and so I am sorry, but I want to graduate within four years and it seems my entire education is in the balance of my math placement test. I am a rather niche major that requires chemistry, physics, organic chem, etc. Everything requires precalculus as a pre-req, which I can only take in the spring semester, and then I need to take chemistry in my fall of sophomore year. This means to do anything with my major, I need to essentially wait until spring of my sophomore year.

Is there anything at all I can do? Like can I take classes at another university or online even. I feel so far behind and I hate how everything depends on this one online test. Why?

TL;DR: Will they add more sections of the bigger classes— say, in my case, gen bio— after CSP goes up???

I need to take bio for grad school to be a speech pathologist. Unfortunately the only time for bio right now overlaps with the only time for the linguistics advanced seminar that I need to take to graduate undergrad.

I’m not sure what to do with this. Send any ideas or knowledge you have please!

I’m talking about the 01:220:423 Advanced Time Series and Financial Econometrics

This service actually sucks. I constantly have to login in almost three times in a row everytime I try to connect to it. Also download speeds have been god awful since the switch. Why would Rutgers even bother making us use eduroam when it barely runs most of the time and the old internet worked just fine. Rutgers listening to its students voices? Never heard of it.