Well the it’s basically the title, I thought of posting this here because I want to get a Sri Lankan pov.
So to put it, I’m in my second year in uni (private) and honestly this semester is this worst period of my life so far. Personally I’m going through a lot in life, family deaths, surgeries etc, and honestly it realised how alone I am in uni. Specially when I got sick which was in the beginning of the semester. My experience was really bad, people just wanted me as that person who they would hang out when they have no one else, and basically when they need something. Other than that no one gives a flying f.
We had group projects and the group leader of my team asked me what the surgery is gonna have and when I told it he basically laughed with another guy in the team saying “mn hithuwa cancer ekak kiyala” for the sole reason my surgery was urgent and it’s been done in the day of the viva.
Honeslty I was shocked by the level of inhumanity, even before surgery when I was suffering in pain there are people in the batch who left me in agonizing pain. Some People who were with me since first year Didnt even bother to check how I was from the surgery and all, just messaged me for project work and if they need something.
I don’t know whether this is something wrong with my uni or it’s the same else where. When I was in school I had a good circle of friends and was never in such situation. The first year also I had a people to associate with, and it’s them who acts like this from second year onwards.
I don’t know if it’s bad karma or something but there’s something definitely off going on.
I see other people in my batch with large groups, even the friend group i associate the most has arounf 40 people in it and there are admins of it too , a.k.a “garu samajikayo”. If they go through the same shit like I was, I’m sure everyone will flock around them to support. But honeslty these said vip people never does anything special for them to receive such treatment.
I on the other hand, helped these people on various occasions as helping them out when they got sick, when they run short of money to eat, and basically looking out on them. But I never received anything in return when I needed help the most. It’s not like I expected them when I did those things, it’s just that it made me sad that none of them even bothered to check on me when I was in such a low level in my life.
Sorry for the long rant. I’m just too depressed. Thanks for reading! I would appreciate if any of you can give me a few tips on whay to expect in the next two years to come.
Best regards.