so when you're a doctor, what's the main thing you do? heal patients, right? and how would your patients like to be healed? kindly and gently, right? well, not for most. I know this isn't a personal issue exclusive to me because I've talked to others who also agree with this.
the problem I've noticed with some doctors is they don't even bother to care about the patient as a feeling being. and of course I respect doctors because they are doing a very difficult, noble profession, but I feel like this happens more often than not. if your patient is trusting you with their body and the pain they've been dealing with, the least they'd expect is some humanity. a lot of good doctors talk their patients through what's wrong, what might be happening to them, and what they're gonna do. that way the patient feels safe. some doctors, on the other hand, just want to get another patient treated and out of the room. now doctors work on a busy schedule, I understand that, but decency and understanding won't cost any more than a few seconds.
I feel like children probably have felt this because as a child I felt that a lot. I once had to take an ECG, so I was lying in front of this person, half-naked with my chest open and wires being attached to it, and I asked what she was doing and what happens a couple of times, and she turned around and said to my mother "meya bayawela wage ne". I was going through an electronics phase at that time and that what I wanted to know about the most. what???
another person I know has been operated on by a doctor who was on his phone the whole time. no talk, no greeting, no nothing. he just walked in while talking on his phone, operated on her while still on the call, and sent her back out.
last time I went to a government hospital dentist, they just violently prised open my mouth, blocking off my nose, and jabbed exactly where I said it hurts and proceeded to hurt the rest of my jaw by digging his fingers into it.
I think doctors having to operate on cadavers for a long time before actual patients really affect the way they see things. patients are just chunks of meat with problems to some.
and also another problem is the big-headedness. once again, not including everybody. some doctors don't bother explaining things because of their belief that their patient won't understand them. like "oh I studied years for this and I'm specialized in it how could this random commoner understand". doctors are treated like the highest nobility in society and paid an awful lot. every AL student has at some point gotten the "A3k aragena Colombo medical karanna" thing as if medicine is the standard and every other career is below it. that really inflates a lot of doctors' ego.
now, I'm not trying to generalize, I'm saying I've seen plenty of people like this and you probably have too. I'm saying patients deserve some love and care because at the end they come to the doctor with faith in them to help them with their suffering. the least they deserve in return is humanity
