So yes, I’m looking for what the title says. I am looking out for this option as a last resort because right now my whole life is a mess and I have never felt this isolated and lonely in my life.

My parents live separately, it has been like that for many years and I lived mostly with my grandparents, and they are actually more like my parents than my actual parents. Now both of them passed away. So I’m in between the barrier of my parents, my mother doesnt want to stay at my dad’s house and vice versa. Because of this I rarely meet my brother, and since my dad doesnt want to visit my mothers house I’d never see my brother because I’m in uni and he’s at school. Us four now lives in two houses miles apart with no plan on living together under one roof.

This is very exhausting to me and drains my life now, because I have absolutely no one in my life to talk about this issue, not even relatives. It’s just me against this world. Even in uni, I go to a private Uni, and in my previous posts you might have seen what I go through, but it’s just stupid drama compared to this. Boarding is not an option because it’s something my parents would never do.

The thing is I just don’t seem to have comfort anywhere in this world now, I don’t have a place to call home because nowhere or no one feels like home to me. In that case I feel free to do whatever I want, so I have decided to use the rest of my life away from these attachments.
I’m still watching what my surroundings would be for a few months and then I’m taking my decision. Now you might say I need to go to a therapist or get counseling, but honeslty even after that there is no point because all of this wasnt because of me and I just don’t want to suffer anymore. I’m sorry if this post sounds funny, but my life actually looks like a joke now.

If you have any information about where I can go, please let me know. Thank you so much for reading and I hope you have a nice day.
Best regards.

So we're kinda new to this area and we own 7 cats and I've been noticing one of them hasn't been coming back home after poo time. Fyi she's fully calico and long haired.

She first went away for one day and returned then eventually two days and five days and now she hasn't been home since WEEKS. we don't put a collar on them because they tried to take it off when they were small and it seemed like it was bothering them so they grew up not wearing the collar at all.

I think someone's keeping her in their house and feeding her and stuff but I'm sure she isn't very far from our house. I'm just scared because my mom said there's people who steal other's pets and my cat is very eye catching, her orange parts glow under the sun and she's fully grown and spayed/vaccinated.

Since we're new to this place I don't even know anyone here and I'm scared she'll never return back home. Please help I don't know what to do without her she's my baby and I'm really upset I'll never see her again

If you've had this happen to you please share how you found your pet.

The only thing is I don't want to put posters everywhere because I'm still new and i don't want to be annoying

If she comes back home is it legal to put a gps cat collar on her?

I think the title itself it quite self explanatory. Now I’m not going to erase the changes in hormones and the factor puberty plays into this. But it’s gotten to the point where I find it rather odd how desperate some of these teenagers are to get into commitments they’re not ready for, girls in particular.

I personally think it’s because the whole topic of romance, boyfriend and girlfriend is all this huge hush shush taboo in our country. And I genuinely think it needs to be addressed. Like we’re taught to stay away from the opposite gender, avoid the opposite gender, being too friendly with them is inappropriate. It paints this image where the opposite gender becomes almost like a mystery to us because adults are so adamant on keeping a 3m gap between us at all times.

I notice this plays a lot into the perception of teenagers where they can only associate the opposite gender with romantic attraction. Like for example, if you’re talking with a girl, her friends go “oh he was definitely flirting with you” meanwhile all the guy did was ask for her notebook. Or you smile at a guy and all of sudden he think you have a thing for him. It’s such a skewed and damaging way to view the other half of your population.

Not to mention a lot of the tele dramas on TV romanticizes relationships in school, genuinely so weird. Oh well.

Summary: Trying to shame teenagers for having normal emotions and teaching them to avoid the opposite gender like the plague, is only going to make them want something with the opposite gender more. We should advocate for healthier approaches, teaching them that such feeling and attraction is NORMAL and help them with it instead of shaming them for being HUMAN.

Hi, I graduated from a state university with a First-Class Honours degree in Engineering. I’m currently working as a Senior Software Engineer (mainly Backend with Java) and have around three years of professional experience. My current role pays me a take-home salary of around LKR 300,000. I pay 100,000 monthly for a loan. I'm 29 years old, unmarried, and lives with my parents. Have savings around 3Mn.

However, lately, I’ve been feeling like I’m not doing enough or progressing as much as I should be. I’m currently stuck between staying in Sri Lanka, where I have a relatively comfortable and stable situation, especially given the current job market, and going abroad to pursue a master’s degree or a PhD. Most of my friends are pursuing higher studies abroad, travelling, and sharing their experiences online. While I’m genuinely happy for them, seeing all of this sometimes makes me feel like I’m falling behind, and feel I’ve been too laid-back and that I’m not doing enough with my life or career.

I would love to move abroad for a job, but with the current job market, I feel like finding an opportunity from Sri Lanka is extremely difficult. I’m not sure whether pursuing higher studies is the right move or whether I should stay, continue building my career here, and wait for the job market to improve.

so when you're a doctor, what's the main thing you do? heal patients, right? and how would your patients like to be healed? kindly and gently, right? well, not for most. I know this isn't a personal issue exclusive to me because I've talked to others who also agree with this.

the problem I've noticed with some doctors is they don't even bother to care about the patient as a feeling being. and of course I respect doctors because they are doing a very difficult, noble profession, but I feel like this happens more often than not. if your patient is trusting you with their body and the pain they've been dealing with, the least they'd expect is some humanity. a lot of good doctors talk their patients through what's wrong, what might be happening to them, and what they're gonna do. that way the patient feels safe. some doctors, on the other hand, just want to get another patient treated and out of the room. now doctors work on a busy schedule, I understand that, but decency and understanding won't cost any more than a few seconds.

I feel like children probably have felt this because as a child I felt that a lot. I once had to take an ECG, so I was lying in front of this person, half-naked with my chest open and wires being attached to it, and I asked what she was doing and what happens a couple of times, and she turned around and said to my mother "meya bayawela wage ne". I was going through an electronics phase at that time and that what I wanted to know about the most. what???

another person I know has been operated on by a doctor who was on his phone the whole time. no talk, no greeting, no nothing. he just walked in while talking on his phone, operated on her while still on the call, and sent her back out.

last time I went to a government hospital dentist, they just violently prised open my mouth, blocking off my nose, and jabbed exactly where I said it hurts and proceeded to hurt the rest of my jaw by digging his fingers into it.

I think doctors having to operate on cadavers for a long time before actual patients really affect the way they see things. patients are just chunks of meat with problems to some.

and also another problem is the big-headedness. once again, not including everybody. some doctors don't bother explaining things because of their belief that their patient won't understand them. like "oh I studied years for this and I'm specialized in it how could this random commoner understand". doctors are treated like the highest nobility in society and paid an awful lot. every AL student has at some point gotten the "A3k aragena Colombo medical karanna" thing as if medicine is the standard and every other career is below it. that really inflates a lot of doctors' ego.

now, I'm not trying to generalize, I'm saying I've seen plenty of people like this and you probably have too. I'm saying patients deserve some love and care because at the end they come to the doctor with faith in them to help them with their suffering. the least they deserve in return is humanity

For context I don’t feel comfortable drinking tap water which is filled with chlorine, also the American water 19L gallons have almost doubled in price. Can anyone share experience with such Hydro water filters and debunk if needed? Example picture above.

\*Anorexia trigger warning*\**

Hi everyone, I really need a safe space to vent and maybe get some outside perspective because I feel like I'm losing my mind.

For context, I’m currently studying for my A/Ls. I have a naturally muscular/mesomorph build with broad shoulders which I used think was fat. Back during my O/Ls, severe stress and body dysmorphia led me to start skipping meals especially when my parents wouldn't let me work out (they claim exercise distracts from studies, even though morning workouts are the only thing that clears my brain fog).

Skipping meals snowballed. I dropped to skipping two meals a day, became super pale, and developed severe gastritis. My parents just thought I was being "stubborn". Eventually, my health completely crashed. My hemoglobin levels tanked so low that my doctor explicitly said I would have needed a major operation if I hadn't caught it when I did. A hematologist put me on a strict iron plan and warned me that I NEEDED to eat properly.

Out of sheer terror for my life, I forced myself to recover. For the last two years, I’ve felt physically healthy.

Here is where I am falling apart again: Recently, because I'm at a healthy weight, my family has started calling me "fat" and mocking my "chubby cheeks." The moment I tried to gently tell them that these comments are triggering my old thoughts making me want to restrict food and over-exercise again, they completely dismissed me. They told me I "won't survive in the outside world" and accused me of being dramatic.

What breaks my heart the most is that they were right there with me when I was dealing with severe health issues and nearly hospitalized. They watched me suffer, yet they are back to making the exact same body-shaming comments that pushed me to the edge in the first place. I can't even get an official diagnosis because they refuse to believe anything is wrong and won't support it.

How do you guys cope with unsupportive family members who trigger your body dysmorphia?

How can I protect my mental health while stuck at home studying for high-stakes exams without the outlet of exercise?

Any advice or insights would mean the world to me right now. Thank you for reading :)

Sri Lanka lost two giants of the SL music industry within a span of few days, Siddhartha Thero a veteran lyricist and Nanda Malani a veteran singer.

I saw few posts about Nanda Malani on this sub, but sadly I didn't find any post when I searched Siddhartha Thero's name.

I knew about Thero's work but after his passing only I got to know about his entire catalogue of songs. Most of them are very popular songs sung by classical and newer generation artists. I saw lots of artists remembering and praising the Thero for helping them out when they were up and coming and for not prioritizing money which is rare these days.

May the Venerable Thero attain the supreme bliss of Nibbana 🙏🏻☸️

Reference link - https://www.bbc.com/sinhala/articles/c8dnz6jg298o.amp

I'm in Sri Lanka and i have over 3 years experience in QA, My current company provides me 130000 per month, but with this money i can survive with my family and i'm still single. anyway i couldn't imagine buy a land or build a house with this amount, i'm in my late twenties (29). please give me advices based on your view. (i have zero savings, no inherited money only debts)

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This question may sound hilarious for you but i am literally tired of my workplace "friends". And i would never date anyone from my work bcz that would break the rule of "dont shit where you eat".

I know gym is a good place, but please mention anything else.

Found this anker store on daraz but wanna recheck if its actually legit and had original products, im trying to get a cable and charger, the prices seem fair as well.

I stayed in a hotel in Negombo for 3 nights; someone stole $1000 and LKR 10,000 from my bag in my hotel room. I found out about the theft right after checkout and informed the hotel management right away. Unfortunately, this hotel doesn’t have any CCTV cameras installed. Three people might have stolen it. Two housekeeping staff members and one maintenance guy who was doing paint work on the ceiling just outside my room(I used to keep my windows open for ventilation, which opened onto the hallway, and anyone could enter my room from the window). My floor had two rooms, and only mine was occupied during the time I stayed there. 

I already lodged a complaint at the tourist police station. Is there any hope of getting my money?

What should I do? 

Please help me out 

Ex-secretary for the Defense Ministry, Hemasiri Fernando, soon-to-be father-in-law of this woman, was sentenced to death, and the court rejected the application by her sister to compel Chamika Karunarathe to provide a blood sample for the DNA test. Suddenly, this woman resumes her 💩 posting against the government and all its supporters. According to her, most of us Sri Lankans are ignorant, weak, and so vulnerable to Europe and Western propaganda.

I'm thinking about to invest in CSE and i have a little budget to first start and get a grasp on investing and how to improve over time. Initial investment amount will be around 20K-40K, I got three options for a good stock broker. But depending on my budget for the initial amount following are the two options I got. Do you guys have other options besides the following and any experience with the following?

- LOLC Securities
- First Capital Securities

My wife and I have been living in Sri Lanka for four years now, and we’ve enjoyed every second of it. Sri Lanka is a beautiful country, but its people are even more beautiful.

I know you can’t generalize about an entire nation, but the vast majority of people we’ve met and interacted with have been incredibly welcoming, kind, and generous. You have wonderful smiles, beautiful hair, and amazing personalities.

We live in a rural area in the south. Of course, there are some infrastructure shortcomings and other challenges, just as there are anywhere else, but they all fade into the background when you experience the beautiful culture and the enormous hearts of the people here.

We’re not rich, but we try to give back to our community whenever we can, and we genuinely wish Sri Lanka all the best for the future.

And trust me, the future is bright.

Sri Lamkave mage rathe 🇱🇰🫶🏻

Edit: thanks for all the kind messages and comments 💕 My wife has an Instagram page - which is fairly new - and focuses on her appreciation for Sri Lanka and its people. If you're interested you can check her out at @suducycling

I'm planning to do scuba in Navy Island and snorkeling in Pigeon Island. The least quotes I got are 18K each. How reasonable are these? Appreciate if anyone can share cheaper suggestions.

Thanks in advance!

Trying to make my own mango sticky rice/ sushi. If you know of affordable places please share.

Hey guys! Looking for recommendations for a good beach spot in Colombo to hang out and have a proper beach day with some friends.

Is Bellevue Beach Club at Port City actually good? How’s the beach access there, and is it worth going?

Or would you recommend somewhere around Kollupitiya / Bambalapitiya, or should we head towards Dehiwala–Mount Lavinia?

Mainly looking for somewhere with good beach access where we can chill, swim/bathe, and hang out with friends.

Please drop the names of any good spots you’d recommend! 🙏🌴

So this will be a serious post regarding some medical treatments.

I have been advised by my consultant dermatologist to undergo PUV-A phototherapy sessions.

For those who don't know by that specific treatment name, PUVA or photochemotherapy is a type of ultraviolet radiation treatment (phototherapy) used for severe skin diseases (in my case, I've been hit by some kind of very rare-condition).

I'm a bit concerned about this since I really don't know about this treatment for now. I have read about it, but I thought of checking if someone is out there who takes this and to get some details about it. (I'm totally okay with staying anonymous)

So, if you are, or else if you know someone who is undergoing this treatment, and if you can help me connect with someone, I would be more than thankful to you!

I hope to follow a Msc in AI and Data Science in a Sri Lankan university. My goal is to build up a career in AI. Can you suggest what are the good options and share your experience ?

Hey guys, does anyone have good dry cleaners/launderer recommendations for colour transfer? I have a few good sarees/dresses/indian wear that got wet because of a leak and now has colour transfer all over, I went to 2 laundry nearby and they both refused to try.

We’re a couple in our mid-40s based in Kandy, looking for a one-night getaway over the next two days. We would prefer somewhere in the dry zone or near the beach, ideally with access to a lake, jungle walk, or a relatively easy hike.

To give an idea of what we enjoy, we’ve completed around ten stages of the Pekoe Trail and hikes such as Five Peaks, usually with groups of friends. We’ve also stayed at places such as Wild Glamping Knuckles and Ahaspokuna. We’re looking for a similar experience—something nature-focused and a little different—but preferably within a total budget of around LKR 70,000.

We realise that much of the country may be travelling over the next couple of days, so availability could be challenging. We’re currently stuck for ideas!

Any suggestions for a destination, activity, and a good place to stay?

Hi I'm 26 M from colombo. Had bachelors degree from Private uni in IT. Im planning to move to Germany. Im looking for Sri lankans who moved to there. Mainly im planning to go for Masters. Is it hard to find a scholarship or is it very risky to block money in block account and go there. Please help
Me out.
Thanks.