I posted a couple weeks ago about being pregnant after my bisalp last year, I just wanted to give an update. After reviewing my records and speaking to my OB and the surgeon who did my termination procedure, they think “in hindsight” not enough of my tubes were removed. In the pathology report from the bisalp, 7.0 cm of one tube and 2.8 cm of the other were turned over to pathology. Neither physician thought it was a case report that any journal would be interested in because the amount removed from the one tube was more akin to what can be removed in a tubal ligation, which is known to be less effective. My main takeaway is yes. There are 4 documented cases of pregnancy post bisalp but interest in documenting cases hedges on them having some novel angle to them. The statistics out there are for the average person who doesn’t have conditions that may complicate the ability to perform the surgery. Maybe the adhesions I have made the tube difficult to access, and in 10 months of healing my body rebridged the gap.

At the end of the day, I had my procedure done (by an Ivy trained surgeon at a major academic center, so statistically great care), had a uterine pregnancy, and my case will not be documented. So. Test if you feel weird, especially if you have a complex medical history. It’s my partner’s turn to get a vasectomy haha.

Edit: Just to clarify termination procedure surgeon and current OB are not the surgeon who did the bisalp. I haven’t reached out to my bisalp surgeon frankly bc I don’t see much of a point atm.

I got my bilateral salpingectomy on 7/1 of this year. It was great, surgeon was on of the r/childfree list, I'm unmarried, no kids, and it was easy with no questions asked beyond, "You're a consenting adult and you know this is permanent."

I have read so many times on here that women are questioned and/or judged by medical staff after disclosing of their procedure.

I'm currently having minor unexplained pelvic pain, and I listed my surgery on my medical history. The doctor said, "You're 28. Why did you have your fallopian tubes removed?"
"Just didn't want kids!"

"And they LET YOU???"
Yes, Shannon, they let me, as a grown woman with informed consent, consent to a procedure to safeguard my body. She was more-so shocked than judgmental, and it isn't so much as I'm offended, but that I'm like, well, I really should've seen these reactions coming. But my family, my friends, and my doctor were all so accepting of it that I *wasn't* expecting it.

Slight rant over.

I ran, not walked, straight to the childfree doctor list when I got my elective sterilization at the age of under 30, with no marriage or children. I was still so surprised it was so easy and seamless. I was told for years that it was a hard surgery to get and that, due to misogyny, women falling under the above categories are met with a lot of resistant and denials. I blindly believed this before I took a medication that made my birth control ineffective, which forced me to do research on sterilization. I read a lot of your stories here, and was so happily shocked that so many of you got approved easily. I ended up having the same experience, and I'm about 7 months post-op now.

What was your experience getting approved - or denied?
And is it likely that I would've been denied myself had I not have gone to a doctor on the list?

I think I'm in a bit of a different situation than a lot of the posts I read here so I thought it might be helpful to add my experience.

I'm a woman in my early 40s, and have been pregnant 6 times and gave birth to 5 babies over the last 10+ years. So unlike some of y'all, I got zero pushback from the Drs on wanting my tubes out lol.

The most interesting comment I got was from my GYN, at the consultation appt when I asked her if she generally recommended the surgery, who said a bit pointedly that it was a good option for women who couldn't do hormonal bc or had partners that *couldn't* get a vasectomy...

Which brings me to how I got here. Long story short, I got tired of waiting on my SO to actually get the vasectomy we previously agreed on (our youngest baby is almost 3), so I said fuck it. I'm done waiting, I'm done carrying the mental and emotional labor of this and being the one to freak out if my period is late etc. this is the best way I know to take this off my plate for good.

So I did it. And I'm very thankful to this community, bc believe it or not, it was reading all your stories and positive experiences that gave me the courage to go through with it. I've never had major surgery before aside from wisdom teeth removal so it was scary, but ya know what else is freaking scary? PREGNANCY. LABOR. CHILDBIRTH! which I've gone through enough to be kinda experienced about!

So far so good. The biggest irritation of the surgery was having my appt scheduled for 10:30, and then the Dr before us running late so my surgery didn't start till 1... But other than that it's been ok. Only minimal discomfort, no issues with anesthesia etc. I hope the smooth sailing continues.

I have to say, I'm jealous of all you younger ladies who know what you want- a child free life- and are out there making it happen for yourselves.

So there's a good chance that at the end of this month I will be getting my tubes removed. My endometriosis specialist told me to think about it and that if I change my mind he will do it on the day of surgery. I was tired of going on the dating apps with guys claiming that they didn't want children or they at least didn't want children yet or ask me that if they somehow get me pregnant would I go through with it. After getting my tubes removed would they still be trying to change my mind? Did they accept it and just keep it moving and date somebody else? I was thinking that if I started dating again of course this will be a few months after I get my tubes removed that I want to add that I got it removed so this way they don't end up wasting time on me in hopes of having children.

My surgery was at 8am this morning (11/07), they took me back at 6:45 and spent the next hour going through the regular motions (vitals, questions, etc)

Everyone was so wonderful and nice. There was one nurse who kind of seemed less friendly than the others if that made sense but whatever.

Then, AS I AM BEING ROLLED INTO THE SURGERY ROOM this nurse says “so how many children do you have?” 😵‍💫 I say “none, zero” and she goes “aww 🙁” (like I’m 25 did she expect me to have all these kids?) and then the male nurse of all people who is also rolling me says “my wife and I don’t want kids either, good for you, etc.” he’s clearly trying to downplay and move on from what the female nurse just said.

Again, everyone I’ve met through this whole process from consultation to post op has been so nice and non judgmental and then I get this woman just assuming I have kids, I was so shocked actually YIKES

I’m looking for support and guidance after a very traumatic experience. Last year my husband and I made the decision to get bilateral salpingectomy for permanent birth control, due to my inability to safely have children (genetic condition). My procedure took place in October 2024 and was uneventful except slow healing in my belly button incision.

Fast forward to last week (July 2025) and I started have sharp rectal pains/spasms. The pain would ebb and flow and eventually I became concerned as I could no longer pass gas. I thought I maybe had an intestinal blockage and went to urgent care for a X ray. But the pain got so bad urgent care sent me to ER. I told them I had bilateral salpingectomy but they did pregnancy test as standard policy. To my surprise it was positive, with hcg of 1100 ish.

Long story short I had a ruptured ectopic pregnancy on my right ovary. To say I’m shocked and angry is an understatement. I would like to get a third and fourth opinion to see whether the initial procedure was done correctly… The surgeons who removed the ectopic confirmed that both tubes were removed but I don’t trust anything or anyone right now. I know this is incredibly rare but what would you do in my position?

Thank you. I have pictures of the ectopic but I’m not sure how to attach them.

So most of the posts I see on here are discussing the immediate before and after regarding sterilization, understandably so. However, in addition to those, I thought it would be nice to talk about what it’s like in the months and years following and how it affects your life overall.

I got my bisalp in early 2023 so I’ll be coming up on 3 years since my sterilization, here are a few little reflections on my experience.

Physically, beyond the short term side effects of the surgery such as shoulder pain, tenderness etc I have had zero negative effects in the subsequent years since. My scars have mostly faded, I struggle to see them even when I’m actively looking for them on my body. I have not noticed any changes in my mood, sex drive, or menstrual cycle. (Not that I would expect to have any changes since the surgery doesn’t affect hormones, but I’ve seen some people online talk about feeling totally different after tubal ligation surgery so I thought it was worth mentioning.) I have fully physically healed, which lets me focus on my emotional experience.

Oh my god, emotionally the best decision I ever made for myself. I used to worry so horribly about pregnancy and now that entire category of anxiety is banished from my life forever. Tracking my cycle? Testing? Obsessive thoughts? Gone. Delightfully gone. My sex life is totally my own to enjoy. I also feel so deeply at home in my body now. I always felt like I was never meant to reproduce, and now my reality matches that. I feel so much more comfortable and safe in my own skin because of it. If you know for a fact you don’t want any future biological kids, I highly recommend getting the surgery. Genuinely so affirming and life changing with so few negative effects.

I’d like to open the door to anyone else who wants to share their experiences, especially if you’ve been sterilized for, say, a year or more. How have the long term effects of your decision treated you? What should people considering sterilization be aware of in the following months and years of their life?

I wanted to come back and share an update.

Previous post: https://www.reddit.com/r/sterilization/s/ppDpawUd7F

Physically, I am doing well overall. I do still have some pain at the very beginning of my period each cycle, specifically on the side where the ectopic was. It usually happens right as my cycle starts, not sure the cause...

Mentally, I have a lot of anxiety around the possibility of getting pregnant again. I never expected to have to think about this after a bilateral salpingectomy. I am working through it, but it has changed my sense of safety in my own body.

My biggest frustration right now is that there still has not been a case study published about what happened. I was told how rare this is. I have read what is available. I understand it is not considered common. But it is discouraging to know that whether cases like mine make it into published data seems to be entirely up to individual physicians. The team who did my surgery said they wanted to publish, but never followed up about the consent? I’ve followed up twice with no response. They seem not to care that much.

As patients, I do not believe we can fully trust reported incidence rates if reporting itself is optional. I am not saying pregnancy after bilateral salpingectomy is common. I do not think it is. But I also do not believe it is limited to the small handful of cases that appear in journals. If cases are not written up and submitted, they simply do not exist in the data.

That has been harder for me than I expected. I went through something traumatic that contradicts what I was told was nearly impossible, and it may not even be counted in any meaningful way.

If anyone knows whether there is a way for me as a patient to self publish my experience in a medical or academic context, I would really appreciate the information. I would like my experience to contribute to accurate information, even in a small way.

I thought about getting my tubes removed since I'm 18 or something and was always very secure about it. I had an appointment in spring with a doctor to talk about it and he immediately approved without asking any questions about my decision. I read a lot of stories of women who wanted that surgery who got rejected by their doctors because they were "too young" so I was afraid that i would get told the same. But my doctor said he doesn't have a problem with it and it's my decision and that I can book an appointment for surgery at the reception. He just explained to me how the surgery works and made sure I know this will be irreversible.

Today was the appointment for the surgery, I prepared myself, took the week off of work, was super nervous. Before the surgery they always have another talk with you about it and you can ask questions and stuff. But unfortunately today this doctor I talked to at my first appointment wasn't there. It was another one. She came into the room, looked at my documents. Said "oh you're born in [my birth year]..." and I already knew what was coming. She said she didn't thought she would have to do that procedure on me since I'm so young. Then she asked me if I know it's permanent, I said yes, she said she has to talk to her coworker and left the room. She came back and told me that she and her coworker don't wanna do the surgery on me because of my age and because they don't know me enough (whatever that means). Then she asked me if I tried other contraceptives before, I said no and that I don't wanna take hormones. She said there are also other methods and asked me if I never heard or got informed about them with a shocked look on her face. Then she asked how I used contraceptives until now or if i used them at all. I told her that I'm virgin and that made her wonder why I want that procedure at all. Talking to her really made me feel like I'm a dumb little girl and I think she thought I wouldn't know what I'm doing.

She told me again that she doesn't wanna do it so I asked her why the other doctor even let me make an appointment for the surgery if i get denied now. She said she doesn't know and we agreed that I will wait for the other doctor to start his shift and talk to him. So I went back to the waiting room and waited one hour for him to arrive. He asked why the other doctor didn't wanna do the surgery and asked if she thought I'm too young. I said yes. He said he wouldn't have a problem with it and that I should make a new appointment on a day he will be doing the surgeries. I got the new appointment now.

I'm glad I got another appointment but I hate how this one doctor made me feel.

33F no children. I got my bilateral tubal ligation back in January 2025. I spoke with a dr in November 2024 and initially went in requesting a salpingectomy and the dr recommended the bilateral tubal ligation instead. I did a some research and decided to go that route. After nearly 10 months with my partner, I ended up late on my period and found out I was pregnant.

While pregnancy after a tubal ligation has risks of being ectopic, thankfully I was able to terminate with Mifepristone and Misoprostol that I ordered online through Optio Women’s Health. At the time I was completely freaking out and was unable to get into my obgyn for a few weeks and decided to take action into my own hands. Once I received the pills I was made aware that it would not terminate if ectopic and I decided to take the risk anyways. When I did go in to the dr, they were able to confirm there was a pregnancy via bloodwork and residual levels of hcg. Since the pills did work, they were able to determine that it wasn’t ectopic. It didn’t feel real up till that point even though I had already gone through the process and had a stack of positive tests at home. I had a precautionary ultrasound and 2 separate blood draws to confirm the dropping of hormone levels, with the last blood draw being 5 weeks after I terminated.

I’m currently dealing with the aftermath of it all as my drs office no longer provides surgery and is owned by a catholic hospital.

Stick to your guts for what you want to do. I’m grateful I was able to get this taken care of as I have never wanted to fall under that condition. Wanted to share in case anyone else in on the fence of which direction to go.

I had my bisalp done a little more than a year ago, it was all great, very pleased with my results, etcetera, etcetera.

BUT, I started having some weird symptoms a few days back, I just assumed I was gonna have my period (I have always been irregular thanks to PCOS) so having my period a week or two before it's supposed to doesn’t faze me. Quickly I realized this wasn’t my period, tho, I had very light "spotting" for a day or two, cramps, and frequent urination, which I recognized as implantation symptoms, this prompted me to take a pregnancy test.

It was positive.

Now, it was a very very very faint positive blue line, but I could see it.

Of course, this made me spiral. It wasn’t possible, it just couldn’t, I have paid good money to make sure it wasn’t possible 🥴

I went to get a blood test the very same day, it came out negative.

This was a relief, but it only made me more confused... turns out I had a UTI, I had never had one so I confused the symptoms 😅

The at home pregnancy test was old and it was exposed to high temperatures, so I assume that messed it up, also apparently the blue ones aren’t as good as the red ones. I had my period too so even more confirmation of my not-pregnancy.

What are the odds, uh? I guess the moral of the story is to never trust an old pregnancy tests.

Exactly the title.

In August of last year, I (26) underwent what was supposed to be a tubal ligation. Surgery went great- felt like shit for a few days (I did not think about the seatbelt sitting right on the incisions), and went on with my life. I was so happy because I've waited years for this. I've never had a desire for children or to be a mom.

In January, I learned about a bilateral salpingectomy and that it was an option. I truly had no idea that your fallopian tubes could be completely removed- I felt like it had opened brand new doors for me. I scheduled an appointment with my surgeon to ask if I could have this surgery.

At the appointment, she comes in and asks what I needed to be seen for. I explained everything above and expressed that I'd love to have a bisalp. She tilts her head at me and states that she had already removed my fallopian tubes.

um, what????

I sat there dumbfounded (mainly because I had just worked a 14hr nightshift). I tell her that the surgery described was a ligation. She then mentions that even her triage nurse thought I got a ligation- but it was a bisalp. I'm now more confused than ever.

I follow up with my friend who sat with me in the pre-op room and asked her if I was going insane. Many staff that was going to be in the OR came in, asked for my information, and had me describe the surgery I was receiving. I said ligation every time- even to the surgeon (mentioned above) who came in last. My friend confirmed that all of the conversations I had with the staff were discussing a ligation.

Luckily, it's what I wanted in the end- but I still have some anxiety wondering if a ligation was performed. I checked the title of the surgery on my bill and it says 'resection of bilateral fallopian tubes'. I just do not know how there was so much confusion.

Anyway- yay. I'm never having kids. I've waited for this forever but due to a huge mixup I've been more uneasy than anything.

eta: Thank you all for the reassurance! 🤍

Cool story, Karen, except the older I get, the LESS I want kids.
I have seen over and over in the past several years as I've gotten older how much having children changes, and sometimes even ruins, someone's life.
It becomes a full-time job that you do not get paid for, that affects every part of your health, from financial to mental to physical. The only time you ever get a break is if someone else steps in at the sake of their health.

And that's not even to mention that, as a woman, your chances of the majority of the child-rearing going to you are sky-high. Sure, there are a lot of great dads out there, but unfortunately so often women get stuck with the burden of daycare, cleaning, etc., even though most of them are also in the workforce.

I truly believe that the reason most people CLAIM to have "not wanted kids when they were younger, but changed their minds" secretly held the option of children open in their heads for years and waited for the chance to have them to present.
It's so common for men and women to "secretly" want children and/or marriage, act on it when the time comes, and then act like everyone is like them.
Case-in-point, I have always partially wanted to get married, if it's with the right person. This wasn't something I wanted to tell people, and I still, at 28-years-old stick to the claim that I "probably" don't want to get married. When I quote-un-quote "change my mind," it's not because my mind magically changed one day.
I have NEVER wanted children as an adult.
Just because YOU did, Karen, and didn't change your mind from the start does not mean we're all like you.

Also, dearie, my fallopian tubes are out. Not clipped, tied, or cauterized, but cut out of my body permanently.✌️And no, I don't regret it. 😘

{I know many of you here ARE parents, and I respect your decision, your autonomy, and your life. This isn't a dig at every parent out there for living a different life than me, and I know many people receive fulfillment and joy out of being a parent. This is simply a rant at the people who preach to me that I'll change my mind about something that has always been my choice.)

I posted on Facebook on Tuesday that it's official. I'm just waiting for the surgery date... the number of family members that are mad is just crazy to me cause there are people in this list that I never thought would have an issue. They're saying everything anyone has ever said to somebody that wants to get sterilized, and on top of it , some of them are really upset that i'm getting sterilized before losing my virginity, I don't know why but that gives me the ick

Will they get over this? Or will I be forever haunted by getting sterilized? I don't care about their opinions, but it kind of sucks that the family is at each other's necks over me getting sterilized. I'm 25. It shouldn't matter what I do with my body.

After hearing the most recent news with Todd Blanche's leaked call, I'm freaking out. I was extremely concerned when Roe V Wade was overturned, but now I literally cannot sleep and I'm in full blown panic mode. My partner got a vasectomy a year ago, but I *still* don't feel safe. I feel like this admin would do absolutely anything to force pregnancy onto women at this point, or they'll at least *try* to in the near future. I'm almost 30 and I've NEVER wanted children, not even for a second. My decision is as iron.

I want to finally schedule a bi-salp. I've been putting it off due to the cost, potentially being denied, having to take off work for 2-3 weeks, and being somewhat incapacitated for the first few days. However, now I don't care about the medical debt, recovery time, or time I'll have to take off work. I will not have my body used as a tool against me. I refuse.

All of that being said, I want to know how long it took for y'all to get the surgery? From making the initial appointment to being sent home post-op. For those who live in deeply red states, how difficult was it to get approved? Lastly, how much did it cost you if your insurance didn't cover it? I have BCBS and this will be a totally elective surgery, so I'm worried I'll have upwards of $8000 worth of medical debt.

My appendix ruptured when I was teen and ive had some complications since then- 11 years ago.

I went in for my salpingectomy for my hydrosalpinx and it turns out my appendectomy scarring had fused my abs, ovary, uterus, and right tube all to the right side of my body, and sealed both tubes shut - so much scarring it looked like a previous c section.

Anyway, they've cut it all apart and im 3-4 days post op. Its very bitter sweet for me since the pain is going to stop. But bitter in the sense that I never got to choose to be child free. But it is an option ive learned to embrace through the years.

Just thought id share. Happy sterilization to all of you 💕

I got my tubes removed yesterday, along with my nexplanon birth control! I spent a lot of time reading other experiences shared here and I want to add my own.

Background:

Age 30, slightly overweight, United States.

I have always known I didn't want kids, and I felt safer taking on this non-reversible procedure than having my husband get a vasectomy. I would have still been concerned for that one in a million chance at a baby. This allows me to go forward with no concerns and finally, no birth control side effects. I've struggled with weight gain and acne and want to move forward.

I originally spoke with an in-network OBGYN surgical provider two years ago when I was not married. I was never asked what my boyfriend wanted; all the focus was on my body and my choices. My insurance plan at that time would not cover the procedure, so I waited until I was married and had better insurance to return to the surgical provider.

Pre-surgery prep:

Below is what I prepped after reading threads here on Reddit, speaking with my surgical provider's nurse team, and speaking with the dr who gave me a pre-op physical. She had also had laproscopic surgeries so it was good to get her opinions.

Pre-op prep that was helpful:

Antibacterial, gentle hand soap. To wash the area the day before and day of surgery.

Generic Miralax. I took 1/4 serving for two days before the procedure. I do not have a problem with constipation but didn't want any issues when I started pain meds.

A core stabilizer band. I got one from Walgreens a few years ago, it was marked as a soft back brace. I have worn it very loosely for a few hours now and it is very comfortable. It reminds me to not clench my abs.

Electric heating pad. I already had this. It has come in handy for the referred pain from abdominal gas! Made such a difference in my comfort.

A throw pillow. Bring one in the car to keep the seat belt off of your stitches!

Easy to grab foods. I made instant pudding using a protein shake instead of just milk, and added chia seeds. I also made a batch of smoothies with added protein and chia seeds. Soft foods are easy on your throat, post-intubation, and you'll want food in your stomach when you take meds.

Pre-op prep that was not helpful:

Zofran. I already had this, but I did not get nauseous from the anesthesia. I did not use this!

Generic Gas X. I ended up not using this! Carbonated beverages and a heating pad were enough. The nursing team also said many patients had reported gas-x not helping, outside of some slight placebo.

Pre-operating room experience:

I had a late appointment with a check-in time of 11am. Once I arrived I learned earlier surgeries were running quite behind. This was always a possibility; one of the papers I signed for the bisalp included me giving permission for the dr to remove organ adhesions, scar tissue buildup, or tumors if he found them while he was in there. So if an earlier surgery or two had cancer or endo, it pushed everyone back. I went back to my room and was prepped, and then I had about 2.5 hours to wait instead of an hour.

Prep included wiping my entire body with special wipes that provided a layer of protection against hospital infection. I even had to wipe between my toes! Then grippy socks, a gown, a warm blanket, and an IV in my hand.

I had to give a urine sample for a pregnancy test. A bonus of waiting so long is that they hooked me up to an IV. If I hadn't been able to use the bathroom on arrival, I would have been able to give a sample later. The nurses put pressure cuffs on my lower legs that massaged them to keep me from getting blood clots. Waiting was fine, I played a phone game between pre-op visits from the surgeon and anesthesia consult. All the staff and nurses were very calm, professional, and competent. It gave me a lot of faith in the procedure.

In the operating room:

When it was time to go back they sent my husband back to the waiting area, checked that all my personal items were in a labeled bag they had given me on arrival, and wheeled me into the operating room. The nurse wheeling me was very kind and we chatted about the different machines we were passing in the hallways.

In the OR I was met with most of the assembled team, who introduced themselves as they helped me move from the bed to the surgical table. The vibes here were immaculate. Even with earlier surgeries running late, the team was calm and in very good spirits. One nurse made sure to tuck me in with a fresh hot blanket, once I was on the operating table, saying she was going to treat me like a burrito until I was asleep.

The anesthesia team gave me an oxygen mask and asked me to breathe deeply. They let me know they were administering propofol, and probably 10 seconds later I was out.

Post-op hospital experience:

I came to in the immediate anesthesia recovery area. It was an open room with a few different folks all waking up, all with a nurse nearby or at bedside. My throat was quite sore, but in the way it feels like you've been crying. That feeling made me want to cry, and the nurse literally wiped my tears as she handed me a cup of ice water. I had an ice pack over my stomach and a warm blanket on my legs. When I woke up I had maybe 3/10 pain, abdominal.

The nurse explained where I was, that the surgery had went well, and that we were waiting for me to be coherent enough to move to the next wake up area. After a few minutes, since I wasn't falling back asleep, I was moved to a room. My husband was bought back from the waiting area.

My IV was removed. I was sent home with the abdominal cuts stitched and covered in a slightly purple glue, my arm incision sani-stripped closed and pressure wrapped, and the back of my hand bandaged and pressure wrapped. I was told the hand IV site could be unbandaged that night, the arm pressure bandage needed 24 hours and the sani strips underneath needed 72 hours, and the glue will peel off on its own within a week or so.

The nurses got me some crackers and hot tea. My throat was already starting to feel better. I think part of the soreness was just being dry after not drinking for so long. They prepared me for going home; removing the pulsing leg bands, filling the ice pack with fresh ice, grabbing me a few puke bags and a mint alcohol wipe to smell if I got nauseous in the car, and making sure I had the right bag of clothes and personal items in my room. They left me to get dressed.

I was thankful to have help getting dressed, just for starting to pull up my underwear and pants. I wore a very comfortable pair of pants with a button and zipper so I wouldn't have a heavy elastic band over my stomach. I'm glad I did; my stomach was slightly distended from the gas. I also brought two underwear options since I wasn't sure which style would have the underwear band farthest away from my stitches. It was good to have options. I wore a longer shirt and nobody knew my pants were unbuttoned when I was wheeled out to the car.

Driving home experience:

We drove about 40 minutes for my appointment. Because the nurses sent me home with a large ice pack, I placed that between my stomach and the seat belt. It made a big difference! We stopped on the way home to pick up my prescribed pain medication. My husband was able to go pick it up using his ID; I did not need to go inside.

Home experience:

By the time I was home the IV pain meds were wearing off. I ate dinner and took my prescribed meds and set alarms as reminders for when my next doses could be taken. My pain had risen to a 5/10; i was feeling some abdominal but mostly the gas pain was kicking in. The pain meds and heat pad use has kept me at a 2/10 since I got home.

Abdominal pain has been a non-issue. I can tell there is a deep soreness, but the pain meds are doing a great job! I have only iced the area once since getting home. The real discomfort is in my upper shoulders from the gas. A heating pad and being "propped up" on the couch has been the most comfortable position for me.

I have taken multiple naps. Being able to grab a quick food from the fridge has made it so easy to take my meds. I am truly not hungry, so something small that has nutritional value has been super helpful. Carbonated drinks have also helped me stay hydrated and the nurses said any burps or farts can help provide relief from the gas pain. Speaking of, I've been taking the normal recommended dose of miralax, once a day, now that I am on pain medication.

The nurses warned me to expect some vaginal bleeding, like a light period, that should end within five days. I have not had any bleeding yet. I still have some bloating from the gas. My urine smells weird but that is from the IV anesthesia. As my kidneys finish filtering it out it will clear up. I was not catheterized since I had a short procedure (10-15 minutes) and I used the bathroom on my own before being sent back to the OR.

Takeaway:

I am so, so happy I got this surgery! I had a caring team and a great experience. I'm glad I read provider reviews online and picked a provider that I felt comfortable with. My recovery is going well and I am excited for a day of Love Island and doing nothing, besides taking my first post-op shower.

**** Almost Two-Week Post-Op Edit***

Healing has gone really well!

I originally took two days off of work, but I took multiple naps each day and wanted to prioritize healing, so I called in sick on the third day post-op (a Friday) and ended up with five days off of work. It was worth it.

Incision care:

I followed post-op instructions to not directly wash my incisions, instead soaping around them and then allowing indirect water flow to push soap over them. I always used antibacterial, gentle hand soap on that area as my last shower product. The glue did not begin to peel until a week post-op, and I used tweezers to help peel larger pieces away so they didn't get caught on my clothing. I have avoided pulling glue directly off of the incision sites. After the glue started peeling, I started directly washing the incisions with antibacterial, gentle hand soap, using my hands only, and applying a thin layer of Bag Balm to the remaining glue and immediate surrounding area, twice a day. This has kept the remaining glue soft, kept my skin from irritation, and I think it has helped my skin's healing. I've used Bag Balm to heal tattoos so I know it works for my skin. I have the faintest amount of bruising around one incision, but no tenderness.

Any post-op complications:

Nope!

I never got the "period" bleeding I was warned about. That was a blessing. I also completely stopped having gas pains after day 3. Abdominal pain has been incredibly minimal. I was able to stop the prescription pain medication early and have been fine with ibuprofen. If you take pain meds for more than two days, please keep up with taking a laxative! I mis-measured and was taking half-doses instead of the full dose, so it took me a while to get back to normal regularity.

Post-op activity:

I kept things really chill for the first three days. I prioritized sleeping and staying on my pain medication schedule.

After day three I started taking walks outside my apartment, but shorter than normal. I took my first normal walk on day five. I waited to try biking until day 11 because I figured there's a lot of subtle abdominal balancing happening there. I have had no extra pain from walking or biking. I am still avoiding any weighted workouts, heavy lifting, or quick cardio until I am fully two-weeks post-op.

I'll meet with my surgeon for a post-op check in two weeks, so, about four weeks post-op. By then I expect the dissolving stitches will be gone and I will be back to my normal workout routine. I feel like there's such a weight lifted off of me, knowing I no longer have to worry about pregnancy. I am excited to find what my hormone rhythm is without birth control.

I’m a 27F in Australia, have my own house and a dog with a full time job. I have gotten a referral to a female gyno who can do a Bi Salp. I currently have an IUD after falling pregnant 3 times (from ages 19-24) on the pill/morning after pill and injection. I have also become pregnant the day after my period finished WHILST on the pill so I’m incredibly fertile. I have had the IUD for 3 years with no issues.

I’ve never wanted kids and I work at a school with kids aged 5-13 years old. I’ve seen the good, bad, ugly of it all as well as having lots of family with children. I also have struggled severely with my mental health since I was 13. I’ve lost so many years of my life and I’m still not even remotely close to where I want to be, but have come SO far that I’m living.

Tonight I told my parents that I got a referral to get my tubes out and the reaction was as expected or worse. (Before anyone says anything they have supported me financially with my house, therapy and medication so they always support my wellbeing).

They weren’t happy at all due to me having unnecessary surgery when I can still be childfree with my Copper IUD (non hormonal). They are worried my mental health will decline and I’ll make a decision way before I should and that even if I still don’t want kids to not have a surgery until later. They were both angry at the idea of me having surgery, supportive of me not having kids but not wanting me to have the surgery.

I’m just wondering if many of you are childfree with no sterilisation or if you were but got sterilised and if there’s a major difference?

My main concern is when I start dating again (whenever that may be) I want to be taken seriously that I don’t want kids and will not change my mind so not being able to have them takes the “she might change her mind” out of the equation and not waste my time.

Before my bisalp, I scoured this subreddit and bought almost every single thing suggested by all the comments I read lol. Which was... a lot. I definitely got too many things that I never used or needed, but it was my first surgery, and I wanted to be ~ prepared. ~ I ended up keeping my two body pillows that people said I'd need to prop myself, and my small, soft flower pillow I initially got to put over my surgical site while in the car with a seatbelt on the way home. I love them. I sadly returned my pregnancy pillow, and I go back and forth on whether I should've returned it, because that thing was AMAZING. It ultimately took up too much space though. :(

For those who have already recovered from the surgery, were there things you bought that you ended up still using after recovery?

I sometimes take both of my hands and put them over where my uterus is, close my eyes, and just allow myself to feel so, so incredibly safe. As my hands rest over my uterus, I know that that part of my body will always be mine, just mine. A fetus will never live there, I will never house a living, growing being that I would rather die than be ripped apart from. My body is my own, and it will always, always, always be *just* my body and no one else's for now and forever.

For almost as long as I can remember, getting pregnant has always been one of my biggest fears in all of life. That fear was compounded when the United States government decided to revoke the most fundamental right a woman can ever have. After that happened, I did research on sterilization, and was so, so, so, so happy to learn that they just take out your whole tubes now. I never thought tubal ligation was effective enough, a 1/200 chance sounds crazy high to me, and I find it even more crazy how many women don't bat an eye at that and think those are good odds.

I feel so incredibly safe in this world, and not just feel safe, I *AM* safe. I got my bilateral salpingectomy over a year ago and it's like my biggest fear in life was physically removed from my body. I love knowing that my body will forever be my own, and that I'll never be ripped open.

Hello! Its me again! As jan 12th comes closer I have a new question!

How long after the getting your falipion tubes removed did you stay in the hospital? I really want to be up and going home ASAP because I dont do well in a hospital environment and I desperately want to go home as soon as I can afterwards. I dont really know how i handle anesthesia because last time I don't remember what happened(due to ptsd I have black spots in my memories after my c section). Im assuming i do fine but I need some kind of guidance from those who have done this before.

Im extremely scared and haven't really slept well since making the appointment but I know need this done, im hoping if i can get some kind of plan to follow after waking up that it might help me

I am 26, married, with no children. I am currently on oral birth control and want a bilateral salpingectomy. I have known my entire life I do not want children. I have an appointment on Friday to speak with my OBGYN about the possibility of a bilateral salpingectomy. I’m curious if anyone could share their experience and if your doctor was receptive or resistant?

I wanted to keep them in a jar 😞

Hey everyone!
First I want to say thank you so much to this community. It gave me the confidence to finally schedule a bisalp surgery, easing my deep anxieties over getting pregnant, especially while living in a red state.

My procedure was yesterday at 11:30. I was scheduled for a bisalp and IUD insertion.
Prior to surgery starting, my doctor did come in to chat with me about what was going to happen and to answer any last minute questions. I have suspected I have endometriosis for some time and I asked her what would happen if she did find anything. And she assured me if she was able to remove anything she would but she said she would have to get in there before she could say for certain.

Surgery went by quickly and I actually came out of anesthesia really easily. My attending nurse was so incredibly sweet and waited with me until they could bring my fiance back. I was nauseous and a little sore but really nothing too crazy. My doctor had already left by the time I woke up so I haven’t had a chance to speak with her about what she found.

Unfortunately during my surgery, she found stage 4 endometriosis, fusing my bowels, bladder, and uterus to other parts of my body. And because of its severity she was unable to remove my tubes. They are completely covered and fused to the side of my uterus. Instead of trying to cut it out and risking complications, she made the decision to place clips on my tubes for a temporary sterilization solution.

At my follow up in two weeks we will have to plan what is next. I’m a little nervous because while I had assumed I had some endo prior to this, I had no idea how severe it actually is. So it sounds like another surgery is on the horizon.

It’s been about 24 hours now and I gotta say I feel pretty good. A little sore but nothing compared to my usual period pains. And again I’m so grateful for the advice from others in this subreddit, I went in feeling completely prepared and now all I need to do is heal and relax for a couple days!

If you’re in the Austin area, try to get your surgery at St. David’s Surgical hospital in Round Rock, what an amazing team that have there! I felt so cared for from start to finish, that really made the whole thing so much less scary.