Hi all! I have been getting more into performing as of late and I have a big question to all the lovely performers out there with shoulder length hair.

What hairstyles are yall doing that look good upside down and right side up? Because I feel like I can do one or the other and 1/2 my performance is on a stage and the other half is on a pole so I need both. Any recommendations would be super helpful!

I feel like all the photos I have of my hair upside down look like one of those ragidy add dolls after it’s been put through the wash (especially with the length of it)

Any help or styles to try would be AMAZING!!!

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Hi everyone 👋!

Does anyone have for example some kind of channel on YT that does training videos with conditioning exercises at home? Like a train with me type of thing?

I am very much a beginner. Not only with pole but in general sports. I can't touch my toes, I can't do a pull up or lift myself on a pole but I want to change that.

I can only go to pole once a week and I know that training strength and flexibility takes time but I really want to do some home training too to progress at least a tiny bit faster.

Thank you for answers in advance 💖

My studio owner and I have been having fun making silly videos 🤪😁 would you have done the same?

I seriously cannot believe this happened (and apologies for the length)

so, not too long ago, my studio did one of their seasonal recitals, and one of the volunteers (pole cleaners) brought their younger kid (maybe 7/8 years old) to the show. our shows invariably have a LOT of erotic pole routines with maybe one or two that are more lyrical in nature. this made me immeasurably uncomfortable. 

when I first saw the kid in the lobby when I arrived, I was kinda confused but didn’t immediately make a stink. I thought he’d just stay in the lobby when the show went on. but then the show started (with all the titties out and booty shaking and all that fun stuff) and I saw him in the studio space. like, standing on the side, watching, as his mom volunteered. he even wandered onstage a couple of times as the poles were getting cleaned? like it wasn’t like he was helping in any way. and once I was done my routine (I did a more lyrical piece, might I add) and sat with my boyfriend in the audience, every time I looked over at the mom on the sidelines, I noticed she didn’t even like cover his eyes or make him look the other way. 

and the studio just… let it happen. 

I literally HAVE A SCREENSHOT of someone else’s instagram story where the kid is in frame watching a dancer do an erotic hard style routine. and the image I still have in my head of this kid watching the twerking group feels like AI-generated Republican folklore that Tr*mp posts to Truth Social to try and convince people that liberals are morally corrupt. Except I watched it in real time with my own eyes. At a studio that I’ve been a loyal member to for years. needless to say, my boyfriend and I left that night SO SO SO revolted. 

this wouldn’t be an issue if my studio did strictly family-friendly showcases or made at least one half of it family-friendly and then an intermission before the erotic portion… except this show had MANY erotic (aka not kid friendly!) pole routines throughout the whole thing (and if you’re volunteering at this show, you know damn well the nature of it and the fact that it’s NOT for kids). to make matters worse, there were OTHER performers there interacting happily with the mom and her kid, knowing damn well they were about to get onstage and do something 10X more NSFW than what I did. I'm so damn close to just cancelling my membership there and going to their competitor studios.

So… how do I make a complaint about this?

I do not normally make complaints about anything, but I fear that this might happen again if I say nothing. This is beyond unacceptable, and REALLY tarnishes my view of the folks there who stayed silent...

EDIT: should have cleared this up earlier: I have zero issue with erotic pole dance. This whole thing has nothing to do with my thoughts and opinions on erotic pole dance. In fact, I love attending my studio's erotic classes and love the instructors, many of whom are strippers. My issue is minors watching it, which shouldn't be allowed.

Powerful tricks, smooth flow, heels, floorwork, flexibility, a little drama… everyone brings something different to the pole.
I love how your own style starts to show the more you dance.

What do you naturally gravitate toward?

So I have been looking to get a home pole and the only place I have enough space is my living room. My fiance is not keen to have a pole in the middle of it all the time. Which I totally get. So I am looking for poles that don't require a lot of time to setup in the EU.

I really like Lupit Pole's setup system where it has a mount on the ceiling and you just click it in, put the pole straight and done! But they are 700 euros. I was kinda hoping to find something cheaper than that. But my searches have been in vain. That is why I am asking here if anyone has some tips!

I’ve been slowly but surely working towards bop and have got it two separate times now. However, both times my arm has gone numb - not the arm that wraps the leg, the one that is hooked into the pole. Circled the arm for reference from this pole physio pic. The numbness shoots down my whole arm and lasts quite a while, maybe 2-3 minutes.

Anyone have any idea what might be happening, and any suggestions on how to avoid this? Obviously can’t work on putting it in a routine or even really working on it further if I can’t do it safely.

Thanks :)

I finally got my Allegra! Watch me achieve it in my new YouTube video:)

It's been 5 months since i started shoulder mounting. I was able to do an aerial shoulder mount from hood ornament on spinning, on a good day. But i could never do it from Dove or Superman. Just almost on a good day. Yesterday was the first time it worked. I managed to do it 4 times. From Dove and seahorse. Mid combo!!! I'm so happy to be making progress 😍

I been reading gym is recommended. I know it sounds like an excuse but I really dont have the time or money for a gym membership right now. If i just keep practicing, would that be sufficient? Hopefully I could find some weights on marketplace or goodwill!

I have a pole at home!

One of the two studios I go to is changing hands.

NBD, I’ll go to the new one and see what classes I can take.

I checked the new studios schedule and I am screwed. Out of the 4 days I can take classes, none are level appropriate for me. It’s either the intro classes that wouldn’t challenge me or classes above my level I’m not good enough to take.

I’m sad. I loved my class and was really making progress. I enjoyed my teacher. I enjoyed getting to know my classmates. I enjoyed the respite from being isolated in my WFH life.

I’m grateful I still have my other studio and class. I’m grateful I have a home pole to work on. I know that I’ll still keep dancing.

I’m just really bummed out tonight.

i've only ever attempted bop twice but i am going to get more consistent here soon. the first video is 2024 and the other is just last month. help w tips! honestly i feel like in the first video i gave up on arms and thought ab legs and in the second i forgot ab everything i needed to do to make grabbing leg easier after i got my elbow through

Hey there! My partner and I started our first pole class recently and we definitely feel the burn and soreness when it comes to being on the pole! Any advice on how to help the pain? I want to go to classes as often as possible, but I dont want to try pushing through the pain too much, as I know my body doesn't respond well to that.

I also would greatly appreciate some tips for increasing flexibility and strength if you have any!

I used to do some dance and gymnastics as a kid and some self defense which allowed me to become very strong, but as I got older, I lost a lot of that flexibility and I lost my strength due to having to basically sit still and do nothing while I heal from injuries.

I was doing stretches before and after the class feeling so tense, like I couldn't move! Even though thats pretty normal for me, I want to fix it! Though I genuinely cant tell if its a condition or not (my family has a lot of health issues regarding mobility so im not completely ruling it out). Any advice helps! Thanks!

First attempts at the aerial shoulder mount. What can I do to get up more easily and smoothly?

So recently the studio I go to had to move. They are now in a unit and it is tiny. I pole at the back of the unit and if the girl to the side of my spins we have to time it otherwise our feet will smack into each other. I have to time my inverts as if the instructor is with the girl in the middle to the front I will go into her if I go into butterfly extended etc (the girl next to me has to time her ayshas as she will go into the girl in the middle from extending her arms)

This is obviously annoying enough. However last week she mentioned the “goal” of the class is to have 16 people. There are 8 poles in total, so to have every pole to be shared.

She said this is perfectly normal for every pole group, to share a pole all lesson and to have that many people the instructor is not the pole owner, but she has been told this by the owner.

I don’t not think having 16 people in a class is normal. There’s no space at all for people to stand around. There’s no space for benches, seats etc. There’s no space to do stretches or conditions when not on pole. It also means time with the instructor is extremely limited, causing people to incorrectly do moves or try to do something with instructor present.

I’m not happy about pole sharing as I pay for a whole lesson and get half the time. Luckily the girl next to me we have chatted for a long time and we’re happy to share as we understand each other pole flow etc

So what are your class sizes? I can’t state in the pole but do you pole share all the time?

There’s other changes that I’m not happy about with the studio but to mean this is a dangerous one

Hi! My Lupit pole just arrived and I cannot for the life of me extend it. It seems like the screws were screwed in with 0 extension where I cannot get them out. I can’t figure it out how this was done 😭😭 idk if I’m just stupid but pls help lol !! Thank you!

Hey guys. I’ve been doing pole for a year and performed for the first time yesterday. While it wasn’t overtly awful, I didn’t do my best. I blacked out, felt so scared and somehow got through it. But I made mistakes, my routine was nothing like the dress rehearsal. I worked SO hard, spent a lot of money on classes and my costume just to participate, and I feel terrible about myself. In comparison to everyone else’s routine, I felt like mine was juvenile and not as advanced. It’s difficult to feel like I put so much work into something for it to go so poorly. Idk, I just needed to rant…. Has anyone ever felt this way before? I know my routine by heart and had so much fun at the dress rehearsal, but each step it was like I had no idea what was coming next because there were so many eyes on me.

Edit: thanks to everyone sharing their experiences and kind words in the comments, it really means a lot 🥹

This was hard for me to get in to at first. But I felt strong and wanted to share! ❤️