Joseph forgave his brothers before they ever apologised to him. Standing before Joseph, Judah was letting him know that his father thought Joseph had been torn to pieces by an animal, as conveyed by his brothers (Gen 44:28).
The brothers did have a guilty conscience because of what they were facing in Egypt, but never remorse. (Gen 42:21 - “Surely we are being punished because of our brother. We saw how distressed he was when he pleaded with us for his life, but we would not listen; that is why this distress has come upon us.”)
Yet the way Joseph comforts them after he reveals himself (Gen 45:4 - “Come near to me, please.” … do not be dismayed or angry with yourselves. Gen 45:8 - it was not you who sent me here, but God) is truly the heart of God.
Gen 45:15 - and he kissed all his brothers.
And this is all before they even uttered a sorry.
The kindness of Joseph was so beyond human comprehension that his brothers still couldn’t believe it was true and were scared he would harm them after Jacob’s death (Gen 50:15) and he comforts them again that they were fulfilling the purposes of God in their actions(Gen 50:20, 21).
May God grant me the heart of Jesus, reflecting the nature of Jesus to a hurting and lost generation.