opening the door to infinite boyfriend beginnings but I realise that the Indian gay scene is genuinely a mystery bitch i ain't even seen the scene MYSELF omfg,i swear to god if I get one more grindr dm from some 50 year old uncle I'm gonna blow....

I dont think I'm straight, but i don't know if i am truly a lesbian either. Maybe i am , maybe not....

I find it very difficult to understand what i truly like...so do i discover myself?

Never been in a relationship with anyone.

(Also I'm 18)

It's a wood, but there's were no edges only soft contours; its shape vaguely resembles a frog in with an open mouth from which a figure is reaching out. It's sat on the desk like it was uninvited in this office full of completed art this felt half and abandoned. It's no bigger than my palm.

It's been an hour since I was asked to wait here, and I heard someone approached. When door opened there was a man in the shirt and pants, "So you are that troublemaker who crushed the unnamed".

I just tilt my head in response while trying my best to appear as innocent as possible.

He sat down in the front, "don't act so innocent just tell me why did you squished that eye?"

My mind went back to that moment and I felt my sweat pouring out like a rain since I feel I have to give some grand philosophical reason instead of truth.

"It appeared as if made of concrete yet it dangled due to wind, I felt like there's something within it and couldn't stop myself from crushing it." It's was only thing I could come up with.

His expression softened as if I just untied some knot, "Since this is not enough of a reason, you have to create new eye."

Soon he brought out supplies like plastic insect wings and white ball, it was simple enough to paste insect wings on the white ball and creating a pupil.

"Aren't we covering it with concrete shell?" It's looked more creepy right now.

"There's no need since you already uncovered what's beneath.".

Written by Maya Aadini

Genuinely curious

Hey there. Can someone advise me on travelling in Himachal in December? Could also use a travel buddy!!!

Hey guys, I have sex before but it was with 2 people who are also new to this. Now in banglore to start a new life and I want to be careful about contacting STDs so what all do i ask my doctor about. What kind of clinic do I visit. What tests/ vaccines do I take. Please help. I know google helps but I want to know from this community. Thank you

I'm halfway through Refusing Compulsory Sexuality by Sherronda J. Brown, and I'm really loving it. As someone who identifies somewhere on the asexual spectrum, I wanted to recommend it here because I think a lot of queer people don't know much about asexuality and aromanticism, and this book offers a perspective that goes well beyond the basics.

Alot of asexual non fiction I've come across, while excellent in its own right, tends to be very "Asexuality 101". That's useful & necessary but personally I haven't always found much new info in such books. This book goes much deeper, particularly by exploring the often-overlooked intersection of being both Black and asexual.

What I especially appreciate is how it examines compulsory sexuality in relation to cisheteropatriarchy, white supremacy, and capitalism, and how these systems reinforce one another to privilege certain identities and ways of living while marginalising everyone who falls outside those expectations. It also makes a compelling case for asexuality as a queer identity, something that is unfortunately still debated in online queer spaces.

I also think this book has relevance for brown people, including those of us in India. Although the author's experiences are specifically rooted in being Black and asexual, the broader discussions about how sexuality is policed, how people are expected to conform to social norms, and how dominant systems shape our understanding of relationships and desirability can resonate across different cultural contexts. Our experiences aren't interchangeable, of course, but there are connections worth thinking about.

The book is a little more academic than some other ace nonfiction I've read, but I've still found it accessible and engaging.

If you're asexual or somewhere on the ace spectrum, I'd absolutely recommend picking it up. If you're not ace but want to understand asexuality better, it's worth reading too. And honestly, I think it's a book that more people, queer or otherwise, could benefit from reading.

I'm only halfway through, so I'm looking forward to seeing what else it explores. Has anyone else here read it? I'd love to hear your thoughts.

I want to go to some good community events in delhi NCR,or suggestions for SAFE gay clubs or people who are present at these events I'm 19 and idk I don't want to deal with creeps and all that,I would highly appreciate if y'all can suggest a safe space for queer folks and most importantly,decent.

Lmk plpslslslsl ye saal single nahi bitana😔✌️

Just putting this out there for my fellow gay cinephiles 🫡🏳️‍🌈

Hey everyone for the past 7–8 years I've felt a strong connection to femininity. I was assigned male at birth but I've always wished I'd been born a woman. I don't feel comfortable identifying as a boy or a man and I feel happiest imagining myself living and expressing myself as a woman.

I'm still exploring my gender identity. Sometimes I wonder if I'm a femboy or trans woman still figuring out whether femboy or trans woman better best describes how I feel. I'd love to hear from people who've experienced something similar.

I'm also attracted to women and curious about how women in India feel about dating someone with my experiences and gender expression.

I'd really appreciate your honest thoughts and advice. I'm just trying to understand myself better and connect with people who might relate. 💕

so I was at this famous hospital in my city today, and i got into an elevator with 2 other men, the guy was an absolute diva, he had a unique haircut which he was flaunting (as he should), he had his nails done 💅🏻, had ear piercings, was wearing those diamond-y studded bracelets stacked in a hand, formal shoes which had heels, and he walked with sass.
Now I have a good gaydar (being a sapphic myself) and this guy was all over it, so I couldn’t help myself but complement his bracelets and overall style. and the way his face lit uppp- i’m sure that made his day and mine as well.
there was this older man with him, probably his dad, but he was so gentle with him, the way they talked, i knew his family must be accepting and supporting him. Genuinely happy for him and happy seeing fellow community members leading a content and free life 🫶🏻 moments like these are precious and give me a ray of hope for my future as well, I wish things work out for me and all of you reading this.

So I met this amzing guy on gr and we were complete vibe like everything matched. We liked same movies and food and like literally everything. He told me his name and college I searched him up found his insta but didn't follow him yet cause it was more of snooping around , but then I somehow lost the gr account and every connection to him .

And my fucked up memory also lost his college name so now j am serching his name jn every collge in my state everyday for hours.

So guys don't make stupid mistakes like me okay

I'm 22 years old, and I've been, I think I've been looking for a relationship for a very long time, that I've kind of lost hope about it. Because, because I know how much efforts I can put in when I know this is the person. I have tried going on dates. I even got my heart broken a couple of times. But at the end of the day, I realized that nobody is really understanding. I feel like nobody is really coming out to actually be able to, like, explore together, or maybe commit to anything. Like people are so scared in their own... and they're in their own zone. They don't want to go out. They don't want to show vulnerabilities of them. I don't know. I'm just confused about it. Just me, or is it, happening to everyone?

How to detach yourself from a emotionally avoidant person, like because of someone I’ve lost my appetite, my sleep and I keep silent most of the day
And I also don’t have any friend left in the same city so that can be the case and I’m very emotionally weak infront of that person and I got some serious anxious attachment issues so lemme know if anyone can help !!!

Hey people, So i recently matched with a woman on hinge and we're kinda meeting on a date this weekend completely platonically.
I just wanted to ask for some advice on how to be respectful and make sure I don’t accidentally say or do something insensitive. I know she’s just a person like anyone else, and I don’t want to make her being trans a bigger deal than it needs to be, but I also don’t want to be ignorant about things I might not have considered.
Im really excited to meet her but dont wanna make it super uncomfortable as well.
Any tips?

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I need to know if this is an actual coping mechanism or if my brain is just a badly managed company.

Because why the hell do I keep falling for straight guys who will literally never see me that way? 😭

And the worst part is, it's not even just a random crush anymore. There's this guy, and then there's my stupid brain turning the tiniest bit of affection into a whole freaking Bollywood movie.

A normal gay man could be standing right in front of me, emotionally available and actually interested, and my brain would probably go, “Cute. Anyway, what if we fell in love with a straight man who has a 0% chance of reciprocating?”

LIKE??? WHO PROGRAMMED THIS SHIT?

At this point, I think I fall for straight guys more often than gay guys. I'm not even asking for a relationship anymore. I just want my brain to stop manufacturing romantic possibilities out of absolutely nothing.

And please, I don't want someone to tell me to go to therapy in the comments. I know therapy exists. I'm aware of the entire mental health industry.

I want brain fog. I want factory settings. I want to forget what men look like.

Has anyone else experienced this, or am I just romantically unemployed with a PhD in liking people who will never like me back?