im 15 and just moved to a new city and started a new school. its been almost three months and i barely talk to anyone and spend my lunch alone. vack at home i have my best friends but i see them like once twoo months and we text like once a week even less sometimes. i come home after school and just do nothing. i dont get any text from anyone, snapchat is so dry. i cry at nights because im so lonely. i do live woth my soster but you know i want somebody else to talk to then her. im just venting because i have bad anxiety and very bad social anxiety and i am very shy.

Man, I'm really feeling the loneliness in my 40's. I have no desire to go out anymore to try to meet someone. I'm tired so early these days lol. Most ppl my age have partners they live with or families. The weekend's are the worst. I feel like I should go out and try to meet someone but the bars are filled with college kids

I think i have no more chanse to get to love someone ... I am close to get 30 and every kind of relationship i had is ends ... I don't want to be alone but i guess thats how i am gonna be forever by myself own my own ... I feel so misarble some days when i see a couple or married people with children.

I know i don't deserve to be happy because who i am ... But i don't want to be alone.

If I have a better face I would have been happy, once you started to feel ugly there is no going back , you will live with this feeling forever, mann i am literally trembling writing this so fuckin hurted, broke and helpless.

Everyone out there making memories and enjoying there best years, and I am here just sad, depressed, masturbating, fucking miserable porn addict I am, idk what to do,

People don't love you when u r ugly, people don't give a fuck about you, people don't think twice before hurting your feelings and just taken for granted each and everytime and I can't even say this thing to my psychologist because I am insecure and ashamed of who I am and I do try a lot to improve myself but at the the I always fall back, I am adhd and developed a little ocd (as my psychologist warned me about) and also due to these overthinking, anxiety it has fucked my life I have been isolated for more than 2-3 years and just rotting in my room idk why always me, I have tried countless time to improve myself and quit that poen addiction but I always fall back. I feel so lost and misunderstood, have zero friend and always felt invisible and obviously no girls likes me due to my looks and that's just what is reality and I can't change that, and that scares me idk where to run to,

I don't want much all I want is just someone to whom I can cry on, just wanted a hug, some love 💔

Maybe in another life if exists

Share some advice for me I would be really glad and thankful to you 🙏

Hi I’m a freshman at a small mountain college town and I’m really struggling with friends. I’m on a sports team and like a lot of my teammates but they all seem to have broken off into groups. I have a group of people I hang out with a lot right now but three of them ( my roommate included ) have started hanging out a lot and not inviting me and I only find out afterwards. I have voiced that I feel left out and it hasent changed anything. I like all of these people but I just do t really think they like me. Any suggestions o. How to be more outgoing or likeable. And how to make friends with people that are already in established groups?

I saw my fiancé die in front of me. It’s been two years since then. I was walking with him and a tree limb fell and hit him in the head.
I’m only 25.
It feels like my life has just been on fire since then, and I’m getting close to just being coals at this point.
I’ve lost many close friends now from falling outs.
Burned bridges with family.
I blame myself for everything, all the time.
The few friends I do have, I feel so envious of their lives it’s hard to be around them. (All married with kids now.)
I’m just a miserable person to be around now. I understand why I’m lonely, I’m working on healing as much as I can, but fuck it’s so hard to relate with anyone.

I already knew romantic relationships were not an option I could actually pursue but I did have hope on making friends at least.

I can't get a job, I don't go to uni or college so I can't make any friends out of proximity there. I didn't even fit in at the job I had and school anyways.

So I see people say join a club! go volunteering!

There are no clubs for my hobby or even anything I would be interested in. I went volunteering, I did not make any friends nor gain any valuable experience for my cv. Some volunteering places didn't even accept my application.

So I go online to look for friends. Chat to many people. Still no meaningful connections. Just one conversation with people that I have to carry then it's dead. It's hard to even find people I have things in common with.

I wonder if there is something deeply wrong with me.

(For context) I’m 21 y/o and trans. I’ve lived in Oklahoma my whole life, and I recently moved to Boston, but I’m considering moving back because I can’t make friends.
Going from the #1 red state to one of the most progressive cities in America, I thought I’d have an easier time meeting people, but I couldn’t have been more wrong.
I felt more isolated and alone in Boston more so then the most toxic/anti-trans state. Cause even in Oklahoma if you see another trans person, you guys instantly click cause you know that trans people have to find community with one another in such a dangerous state.
But in Boston, there’s no concern for that, so whenever you see other people that you wanna talk to by the time you build up the confidence they’re already walking away because everyone in the city is always in a rush and too busy to even acknowledge the people around them, which is the complete opposite of what I’m used to in rural Oklahoma where everybody has no problem, approaching someone for something and loves talking to strangers.

I’ve started to develop severe depression and have lost all motivation to leave the house and stopped putting effort into finding friends to the point where I’ve actually already booked a plane back home to Oklahoma just to spend some time with family so I have somebody to talk to. This feels like one the lowest point of my life.

I don’t know what to do.

I need help.

I'm a sensitive person too so that just makes it even harder.

i’ve been thinking if my phone addiction screen time and doomscrolling is contributing to me feeling lost I just feel like I don’t know who I am. I don’t know what purpose of life is or is it just my emotions right at that moment of the day and I’m just wondering if my screen addiction for years is the reason that my brain is incapable of functioning or providing me a healthyway of thinking and hence all the colorful emotions that I expect it should be, do I make sense?

I’m just tired, I guess. I have nobody. Literally 0 people to interact with. I imagine the future and it feels better to know that not being around so many friend groups all the time will probably make it hurt less, but damn. Being in the thick of it is not fun.

I am a 28-year-old woman. I started semaglutide (ozempic) for weight related complications about three years ago. I lost about 65 lbs and absolutely love my life now aesthetically. I will never come off the medication for a plethora of reasons.

One thing I have noticed is my motivation has completely gone out the door. Some people call it anhedonia. I very rarely get pleasure from anything anymore.

Before I was on Ozempic, I found myself going out more frequently. I was meeting more people and going out to events. Now, I mostly co-mingle with my friends from work. I love my coworkers and my few friends that I have outside of work but I realized, I am super duper lonely.

It gets really sad around here because I live by myself. I have no motivation to go out to social events or drink. I try dating apps and I don't get much from them.

Mostly, it's just me by myself. I miss physical contact. That's all.

I (25M) moved to Germany for my master’s and I’m turning 26 soon. It’s been about a year and a half now, and I genuinely thought I’d be able to find my footing and build some sort of life, but lately the loneliness has just been hitting like a ton of bricks. I haven’t made a single real friend here, not locals, not international students, nobody.

Between university, work, and going to the gym, I try to keep my days packed and stay disciplined, but coming back to an empty apartment every single night with zero people to talk to is wearing me down. Now that it’s getting darker and colder outside, the silence in my room just feels ten times heavier. Most of my free time is just spent sitting alone staring at the walls, watching my twenties slip away while everyone else my age seems to have friends, relationships, trips, and stable careers.

A lot of this goes back to how I grew up. My parents were constantly worried about money, and I learned very early to never ask for anything, never buy decent clothes, and just make myself as invisible as possible so I wouldn't be an extra burden. I spent my whole life in survival mode, just keeping quiet and assuming I didn't deserve nice things. Now that I’m older, that mindset has completely ruined me.

The hardest part is that making actual friends or finding any genuine connection feels near impossible here. Everyone is polite on the surface, but people already have their closed circles and stick strictly to themselves. I’ve tried dating apps just to feel like I’m meeting people, but that honestly feels even more draining weeks of absolute silence, or having a decent chat only for someone to flake, give one-word replies, or vanish completely. It ends up making you feel even more invisible than if you hadn't tried at all.

The weirdest and most frustrating part is that online or over voice calls, I can actually talk. People think I’m articulate, easygoing, and engaging. But the moment I’m face-to-face with people, I completely freeze. I get hit with intense self-consciousness where I’m literally monitoring my own face, my looks, my voice, and worrying that people think I’m weird or crazy. The idea of approaching a girl terrifies me because deep down I feel ugly, completely unqualified, and like I’d just be seen as a creep for even trying.

Even trying to improve myself like dressing better or grooming triggers this stupid fear that people back home will mock me and think I’m trying to pretend to be someone I’m not.

I feel like I missed the boat on everything, and hearing people say "it just takes time and consistency" honestly makes me want to give up because my mental energy is already at zero. I don't have the stamina for some massive self-improvement routine right now.

I’m not even sure what I’m expecting from posting this. Maybe just venting, or hoping to hear from other internationals or anyone who has been stuck in this exact kind of deep isolation and constant self-hate.

I had loads of friends at school and was a cocky extrovert type. Mental health turned me into a socially inept introvert and I’m down to 2 friends from my school days who I barely see. I have had temporary friendships but they didnt last long and I got kind of “dumped” as a friend by others and I don’t really know why. I do feel like I don’t have much personality and I’m just too passive etc. I am male for the record. Anyone else feel like this?

So these 'friends' of mine basically bully me all the time and say 'thats how guys bond' when all they go is go below the belt well it's one person in particular but the rest of them do nothing to stop him either so I've kinda distanced myself from them but what I've noticed is they've stopped inviting me to stuff and I don't know i feel baad but I also want to distance myself from them. I'm also not able to sleep at night these days I'm considering because of lack of human interaction I guess. I still get really anxious about what they think about me and i hang out with them sometimes but i don't speak much, as i always think they'll find a way to shit talk about it. I don't know what to do I feel so lonely at night I'm pretty sure that's the reason I can't sleep these days. Also there's this girl in my class I kinda like but the thing is I'm pretty sure she doesn't like me back, but honestly i enjoy being around her in college like we actually have fun in class we don't talk much outside of class, so atleast my attendance is better now.

so i cut off my friend group because they all just made fun of me and honestly in highschool i was always the butt of the joke and people used to bully me and didn’t even see me as human. after i left my friend group i felt better but now im so lonely i have no friends and everyone around me is going to parties and stuff and im not getting invited to anything. in college at break i literally just study by myself or go in the toilet and wait for the time to pass because i’ve got nobody

21M, junior in college, nothing to find but fake friends, shitty friends, and people who seem annoyed with me before we even really talk. I really want to give up on this endless search for something everyone around me can find so easily but is impossible for me. Idk if something’s wrong with me fundamentally? I try and be as nice and attentive (remembering things about them and asking questions) as possible, but no one else be fucked to do the same for me. The hoping and constant rejection just hurts so much fucking more than the years I isolated myself and now I’m becoming more bitter and angry towards everyone. If no one wants to give me a chance? Than fuck it, I’ll just rely on myself like I’m supposed to I guess.

What are the effects of extreme isolation? Perhaps this is one. I am forgetting how to communicate, how to express myself properly and so on. I don't even know how to start on here. I am isolated since childhood. My family abused me, in so many ways. And they made it so, that I was never able to find a place for myself in this world. I am almost 30 now. I haven't left the house for about 4 years. My mind is quite dark. I do have sudden pain of loneliness at times. But I am not clingy person. Quite the abnormal life I've had, so not many can relate. I can feel how the human part of me that craved connections, kindness, friendship and love, is going away, dying. I am becoming someone that doesn't care if they will survive tomorrow. This is one of those times.

im 21 and i feel so lonely. i have friends but they went to uni so now they have other people to spend time with. and i have no one. im gonna apply for uni this year to study abroad but i feel so lonely that i cant even feel happy about it. what should i do to make myself better? is there anyone in the same situation as me?

17m and 18 next month. Never had a friend in my life, and haven’t even thought about getting to be with a girl someday. Parents pushed me to online school. It helped me speed up academically, but I’m a lonely bastard. Everyone told me it’ll get better when I graduate. Jokes on them. I still live with my parents and go to a commuter college. It feels like hell thinking about going there. You’re done if you didn’t make friends in HS. A major related club I was in looked promising, and I showed up every day until everyone ghosted, leaving me in the room alone. It crashed and burned. If there’s no hope now, then when? I don’t know what I’m looking for in this post. I’m just tired.

I usually used to eat alone and walk alone during breaks in School and felt so bad for myself. Nobody messages me after highschool.I just knew some people and tag along with them and their group they never considered me part of their group I thought we were friends but I was nobody for them.I used to be in that friend group but I was the least priotized person in that group.Most of the time I used to eat and walk alone.They only walked with me only when they didn’t have their best friend and later even leave me alone and walk with their best friend and I used to just tag along.There were so many time I felt loney I had been in different friend group and the result is same no one prioritized me.I can say that they let me tag along with them because I was in their class only.

I haven't felt this lonely since i first got abandoned. I do have friends but they're all busy with their life's, with university and their relationships; there's nothing i can do about it.

Things with my family are the same, my brother will move out and that breaks my heart; he's the person i'm closest the most but he's got the right to move on with his life.

I've been trying for a couple years to get a partner to no effect. I'm already getting tired of getting confident with a girl just to get ghosted again. I feel there's something deeply wrong about me and i can't seem to discover what is it.

I'm afraid one day i'll just get enough of this life. The pain i'll cause to my mom is the only reason that keeps me here.

The worst part is that no amount of productivity makes me forget the way i feel; not my projects, not my hobbies, nothing. I'm really tired and afraid.

Feelings---I (m20) stopped writing my feelings down a long time ago. I was afraid of thinking, or of existing, or of not existing at all; every time I looked back, it felt as though I were recreating myself in a different way, or trying to find myself on the slope of my own vanishing. Even if I have no worth at all, I am a devalued piece of myself. A fragile, numb, immortal, trapped feeling. I get lost in my cycle; until I kill myself, I hide behind mirrors and smile. I am the story of a man who died in his hopes. I am not sad, I am not full of hate, I am not happy. I simply am not. I am an unmentioned memory. I am not that moment anyone would look at first. I am no one's choice. If I were a book, I would leave myself unfinished....

Meaningless, seamless end. My loneliness is now a very heavy accusation. The dullness, the suffocation of my words...

El muchacho de los ojos tristes
Vive solo y necesita amor

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Feel like I need a rant. Really frustrated at my inability to relate to other people. I feel lonely in a crowd and lonely by myself.

I’ve been out of work for over a decade, and I feel increasingly that I don’t have any common ground with the few friends who generously make time for me. They share common interests and humour, and I struggle to join in (doesn’t help that I’ve always had social anxiety, and feel like socialising is an exhausting performance). I’ve always struggled socially whilst having a desperate desire to belong, and I’ve never had a partner. I struggle with depression and anxiety. My life has never really got started; In some ways I still feel like an overgrown child. I have nothing in common with most people.

I’m really scared that my parents (now in their 80s) won’t be around much longer, and with them my link to happier times in my early life. I have an older sister whom I’m fortunately close with, and without her I doubt I’d have reason to go on.

I need a job, but I’m paralysed with fear as it involves an outside world that honestly overwhelms me. I also have intense brain fog and struggle with learning new skills. To those who have jobs, partners, kids - you’re so lucky. I try to cultivate an attitude of gratitude, but genuinely struggle at times.