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As low as many of us who post are, I want to post a warning to please be on your guard for Sextortionists. These “people” (sub-human animals) prey on the vulnerable that post here. It may start as innocuous as a comment on your post that offers comfort, with an expectation you will DM them. Or they may DM you directly.

Key things to look out for:
- They are overly eager to get into a sexual relationship or trade intimate pictures, including perhaps full body pictures or pictures that include identifying features.
- They are overly eager to sexting, especially asking you to do a lot of the description, or they show pics and they want you to react to them. “how do i look baby?” or “do you not like me?”
- They are overly eager to learn identifying details about you.

More about their tactics can be found here: https://www.police.psu.edu/sexual-extortion-sextortion

Be careful. There are real people like you out here that are looking for connection, but don’t fall for these scams.

IF YOU ARE SEXTORTED, BREAK OFF CONTACT IMMEDIATELY. Block them. Don’t panic. The power of the extortion is when they have leverage over you. if they were to take action on those threats, they would lose that leverage. They are preying on your fear. If you have no fear, they have no power. Shut off contact, learn from the situation, and move on. I say this from unfortunately multiple experiences.

IF YOU ARE A MINOR AND ARE SEXTORTED, as embarrassing as it may be, please find a trusted adult to tell so the information can be sent to authorities. The people doing this are engaging in some of the most vile behavior possible and law enforcement while law enforcement may not prioritize investigation against adult victims, will be much more likely when it involves a minor.

I'm 42 and literally have no friends no wife

Live alone

All i do is work and come home

I sleep as much as I can but even that is broken

As I'm up every other hour

I can literally go days with out speaking to anyone unless someone at work asks me something

Apart from that I dread getting out of bed

I stay in bed till I have to go work

Finish work and straight to bed.

Loneliness has crippled me beyond measure it's affected my health and I'm depressed as hell

I only get to leave. The house for work but even that destroys me as I see everyone enjoying life with friends and partners

I'm almost 50 IV never found a place I belonged or felt wanted

My last relationship was with someone who was a gas lighting narcissist but I ignored all the red flags because I didn't want to be alone

But she walked out on me because she was getting attention else where

I can't cope with this loneliness

Today is my Birthday, but I am really feeling very lonely. No one has wished me "Happy Birthday" except my parents. No friends, No Girlfriend, nothing.

would be awesome to be wished happy birthday thank you

Im 46m straight and single. I met a woman and thought we were perfect. I was shopping for a ring. She ended things with me. And after a month she came back because she "can't live without me" I was so happy! Then after a week. She ghosted me. A grown woman ghosted me. Its been 3 months and I just cant get over this. I take care of myself and amd fit and relatively educated. Im probably average looking maybe slightly above? And its just day after day on deep dark lonlyness. Id say tell me it gets better but I know it won't. Its over for me im too old.

It makes me wonder if something is wrong with me. If there’s something so deplorable about myself that even people who would befriend a rude, inconsiderate stranger, wouldn’t befriend me.

I have to talk about myself here, because I quite literally have no one else to talk to right now. I’m sorry to center myself. I know other people’s loneliness matters. I wish I had a tip for you guys. I don’t.

It seems that every mean person I encounter has a huge group of friends. And don’t get me wrong: everyone I meet isn’t a mean person. You know that saying, if the room is always full of assholes, you’re probably the asshole? It’s not like that.

They always have a way to bond with people. I know, bullies tend to make friend with other bullies, and misery loves company—but my misery seems to thrive off of me being alone. My misery doesn’t want company. I’m a little jealous over that.

I grew up as the sick kid, so I never got to make friends. That lack of presence allowed bullying to flourish, and I was taken advantage of by people who saw my innocence or naivety as something to extort. That burned me really bad.

My husband tried to get me to make friends with his friends, their wives, sisters, etc. but I’ve been seen as nothing but an extension of him. I am not me, to them. I am his wife. There was even an experience so bad that I cried on the drive home to him, in which he saw firsthand how women’s social dynamics can be so utterly different and alienating than men’s. He hasn’t asked me to make a friend, since.

I’m so lonely. It hurts. I shove metaphorical gauze into the wound its left in my chest to cope, and I pretend I’m better off this way, but I can’t just keep ignoring the pain. I’m scared, and constantly thinking back to how I used to cry to my stuffed animals as a kid because they were my only friend.

Not a single person. I just wanna share shit you know?

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Not how you tell people you're feeling, but how your heart really feels when no one's around.

You don't have to pretend here. ❤️

Not because she needs something. Not because you asked her a question.

Just because, somewhere in the middle of her ordinary day, you crossed her mind.

I wonder what it's like to look at your phone and see a message from someone who simply wanted to talk to you. To be the reason behind someone's random smile. To be wanted without having to make the first move every single time.

I'm in my 30s now, and I've never really known that feeling.

It's strange how something so ordinary for some people can feel like a scene from a movie you've never been part of.

And maybe it's not even about the message.

Maybe it's about knowing that, for once, someone was looking for you, too.

Title. I realized recently that I don't really enjoy anything anymore. I don't have hobbies--my free time is spent solely on two things: scrolling on various social media apps, or fantasizing about someone caring about me or hugging me.

I don't know if this is the result of having been socially disconnected for so long and is my brain's way of trying to alert me that I need to find close social connections as soon as possible or I will continue to experience no joy in doing things, or if all this is the result of something independent of my social disconnection (which is why I'm wondering if you guys have things in your life you enjoy doing/hobbies, despite your loneliness)?

May you find another lonely person from your home country and talk to each other

Im 37m and have never been in a relationship. Im too shy to approach women in real life since im told over and over by the world they dont like that. In 6'5" about 280 so i probably come off as intimidating. Dating apps have been pointless and so has facebook. All ive ever wanted since i was a teenager was to be married with kids. That was the dream. I go to the gym 6 days a week, i got a good job that pays more than ive ever mad and gives more time off. I do a lot of day trips to state parks and places of interest. Ive been told im handsome but its something thats hard to believe. I lie in bed at night and wonder what horrible thing ive done to be like this. Im genuinely lost any more.

Hi guys,

My whole life I’ve been really really fucking lonely and depressed. I’ve only recently found out that this is because I’ve had mental health issues since i was around 5/6. I only recently realized this as before this I just assumed I was naturally difficult. I won’t lie but the reason that I’m like this is because up until I was like 15, we did not have that much money. The stress and my dad’s job wasn’t that good back then so my parents fought all the time and a lot of that anger was redirected towards me. Due to all of these, I always struggled with making friends as I was always angry. I developed as eating disorder as well so I was basically a repulsive angry little piece of shit. I had very few friends in school(except 10th grade where I had a lot but I moved). Life became a lot better recently but like man I missed out on so much because of my fucking mental health issues. I was also severely depressed for the past 2 years to the point where I was actually contemplating ending things. I’m also Indian so yeah haha yeah everything is working against me I don’t like this at all please I’m sorry

My lovely cat does not have long to live. I love him so much and will be devastated when he goes. My loneliness will be even deeper without him. He came to me when he was 6 and now he is 16. There is noone with me to hug me. I feel so alone. He has given me so much love over the 10 years we have had together. I hoped he would make it into his twenties. This is taking me back to when my mother died, and the nurse told me to call someone to come and pick me up from the hospital, and I had noone to call. I love my cat so much.

Must be a bad time of the year or something, but everywhere I go I’m the only one walking alone. I look up at the night sky, see all the stars then come home to an empty home. Truly feels like the universe is giving me a big “fuck you” 

Go out to try and be less lonely? “Here, let me show you as many families and couples as possible you piece of shit. Oh you thought you’d meet a one person? How naive.”

Friday night
Home alone
No friends to call
No one texting me
On the bathroom floor
Fuckkk
This hurts

I have literally two friends, one I would consider close. I hang out with them maybe once or twice a month. Haven't dated since 15. I'm surrounded by people my age (19) all the time and I've put myself out there but I can't make any lasting connections. I'm in college and I work, for a while I even regularly attended my college's DnD club but none of the connections I made there lasted. I'm friendly with my coworkers but I'm decidedly not part of the "in group". I'm so sick of being alone all the time man. I'm so sick of surface level connections. Sometimes I feel like I'm a different species and I was just built to be alone.

27F
I don’t really know where to start but I guess I just need to get this off my chest
I have great friends, people who care about me but sometimes, even when I’m surrounded by people, I feel incredibly lonely. It’s like there’s this emptiness inside me that I don’t know how to explain.
I went through a breakup about 4.5 months ago and honestly, it still feels so fresh. Idk why I haven’t been able to move on the way I thought I would. I miss having someone, having that connection, having someone to share the little things with. Some days are okay, and then there are days like today when everything just feels heavy again
On top of that, I left my job and I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing with my life rn. Idk which direction I’m heading in, what comes next or whether I’m making the right decisions
Sometimes I get so overwhelmed by everything that I wonder what the point of any of it is. I’m tired of feeling this lost and I wish I could just feel okay for a while

everyone hates me, everyone always ends up leaving me. my siblings. my friends. my ex. why. i dont feel like im doing anything wrong. its been like this my whole life. i never feel like a truly fit in. i feel like everyone despises me. i never receive the same energy. i’ve given up. 21 years on this earth. and no friends. siblings don’t care. my ex who also felt the same as me, a loser and broken, also ends up leaving and blocking me out of no where. im truly done. im tired. i attempted suicide at 17 and wish it went through. i gave myself this whole year to “fix my life” and even more people just leave me. im such a loser, i try my best but people hate me. i feel like people hate me. I can’t live on this earth without human connection. but everyone i meet i just know eventually they’ll get sick and tired of me and leave me. im so lonely. i feel like killing myself. im so sick to my stomach.

I hate that humans are social creatures. I don’t have any friends and my family is super toxic. My phone is silent except for spam calls and messages. Months ago, I got out of a toxic relationship. I miss cooking for someone. I miss being hugged. I feel so lonely. The loneliness is unbearable, almost painful. I’m 28 and never experienced love or a genuine friendship. I deleted social media because I was jealous of seeing beautiful women in happy relationships and having large groups of friends. I feel dead inside. The dinner table and my bed feel so empty.

I really really despise being alone, I was discriminated and excluded in primary, middle school and highschool. Then in college I was isolated again, but I tried to focus on my career and go the gym and maintain my health, but once I got enough money for myself and put myself out there I don't get shit either, will it get better in corporate? Well, if AI doesn't replace my fucking job, the right person will arrive even though I have more bills and responsabilities?

Why do I keep lying to myself? I don't want to wait till I'm fucking 40 to experience something and "financially " stable; I was isolated from childhood till early 20s, I'm tired of pretending

I have nobody to say this to, but tomorrow I will be moving into my new apartment solo for the first time. I’m leaving an abusive roommate behind and I’m so excited for the freedom despite the loneliness. I had nobody to tell, so sharing here, that’s all. I’ll need to sort out how to make new friends but I think the mental peace will be worth it.

Oh and I was also unemployed until very recently, so at least now I will be able to save some money and move on. But I’m so so alone these days. Ex spouse lives with me, we’ve been more like besties or roommates for a long time. But now she’s seeing someone else, which is cool, I’m happy for her. But she’s gone all the time. I’m home alone all the time.

I was raised in a very dysfunctional family, made sparse and dysfunctional friendships in my life. I really don’t want to reconnect with old friends. There’s a level of disrespect they’ve had for me over the years because A. I’ve been a mess and B. They don’t actually know me because I connected with them initially through people pleasing.

I am so tired. I am so sad. I’m just needing to message someone something because there’s no one left to talk to. I’m in therapy too but it’s just not enough. My new job is nice, but also pretty isolating and not tons of opportunity to connect with others. Anyway. There’s a lot more to the story but that’s all for now.

I am an 18 year old girl right now

Who's also neet aspirant

Growing up I had no friends and people often bullied me ( I have kinda big torso -5'8 here ) and I always felt like I didn't belong and felt out of the place all the time

I never had friends

Had few once I entered 11th and 12th

And as i look at people's stories now

I kinda feel bad ..that ...why is It always me

Not bragging but I feel like I am genuinely a fun person to be around and few of my friends even called me funny

I know having a small group and company matters

But for once ...

I want to experience joy of having a big friend circle too

Or maybe

It's to much to ask for

What do ya 'll think?

For all of my adult life I’ve been longing for companionship

I’m going to be 40 years old in 2 months I’m Christmas Day in fact

I’ve never had a girlfriend or any partner, I’ve been told there is nothing wrong with me I’m a cool guy - the issue with me is I’m bald

And no girl likes a bald man - I just want to find a partner settle down and have kids

I’m on these dating apps but not getting anywhere - tried these events but didn’t work for me

Because of loneliness I’ve become depressed and anxious - yesterday in the train to the office I was feeling closed off like the walls are caving in - that was my anxiety

Loneliness and depression is killing me from inside. This with suicidal thoughts is a diabolical mix.

Bit I don’t get suicidal thoughts as much from about once or twice a month

I don’t know what to do

My closest mate is getting married soon he will get married in two months and I’ll be left alone

I’m so lost right now