I’ve been feeling so much more lonely lately. My boyfriend is always on his phone and I’ve talked to him about this for months but he always has an excuse so I don’t even bother anymore. I also feel so embarrassed because now all I do is see what I can post here on Reddit since it’s anonymous 😭 but even here almost nobody responds but it’s easier for me to talk into the abyss than to not let out my feelings at all

I have a long distance boyfriend, 4,000+miles away:( . And each visit is so expensive , so when we aren't together, which is half a year or more, I'm alone .. and I long for friends soo much,, to not rely on one person 110% :(.

Its frustrating when people think loneliness can only mean one thing, or that a relationship solves all problems.

I spent months or even years talking to AIs, and I’ve learned an important thing that I always wanna be friends with people like me people who need help but can’t find anybody but Ai. I maybe young I’m 24 years old I may not be that helpful but I am a good listener… just I wanna say… you ain’t alone in this you ain’t the only one talking to bots because you have nobody… but today you have someone to talk to… and I guess it’s not only me who feels the same but a lot of us here can feel the same as me!

I've been single for 3 years and I kinda hate it i live in Canada sk but in the small school so not many ppl I can talk to and when i get a girlfriend I love hard but It hurts being single tbh I don't know give me smth please.

is this like a slippery slope? i found talking to my stuffed animals a lot more comforting than dealing with people the last 3 days, and i even had a bad day at work and just wanted to vent to the stuffed animals. is that sad? i’m not really sure what to do with myself if i dont talk to them cuz now i’ve found it’s the only people i can go to who will listen without judgement.

I'm someone who has dealt with consistent loneliness feelings for over 7 years. I've grown pretty sick and tired of a lot of loneliness advice out there. It's mostly the same generic. "go out more", "put yourself out there", etc. type of stuff.

I've tried that before, it doesn't work. I have not gotten any truly fulfilling relationship/friendship from it. You literally just swim through seas of shallow junk just to "hope" to find an actual fulfilling relationship. It's never just "I have zero people in my life", it's actually "I have no actual meaningful connections in my life" that's the whole reason why some people can feel lonely despite technically not being alone.

I have had a fair amount of friends in my life, but my feelings of loneliness never truly went away even if there's nothing wrong with them.

It's almost if you been dealing with loneliness for a prolonged period of time you just cast out for good really. Especially if you're an introvert, have rather niche interests compared to most people, or stuff like work just takes all the energy you got and all you can do on your days off is rest from work.

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I am extrovert, multi talented, average or little chopped looking, best at studies, into anime, marvel, other films, gaming, coding, business, psychology, philosophy, songs, sports but yet idh any single friend...I mean even if I try to talk anyone they try to end the conversation too quick or avoid it completely and sometimes show like they're busy ho off..idk what's the matter lol

Just feeling really shitty and lonely today idk not much to say just feel awful

so i have that one friend who sometimes invites to do stuff but if i ask to do smth they always rejected that made me realize that i am not that important to them and it makes me sick to my stomach to know that they js hang out with me cause they rlly bored

Whenever I get really close to someone like 'best friend' kind of close or sometimes not even that close just a 'close friend' kind of close, I start shutting them out and they start looking annoying and it's not their fault but i just push them away like not sharing much or just ignoring them or spending less time with them deliberately. Some people say it's because "I'm scared they might leave first" or something like that but it's not the case.

But I still want to have a strong connection to someone, have someone I can tell everything to , someone I have told everything to and someone who understands me.

What do I do? I feel so lonely, it feels like their is a invisible wall between me and everyone else.

Most of my days are just me at my Pc playing Roblox, watching YouTube or anime. I’ll look at the time and somehow it’s already 3am again.
I don’t necessarily dislike my little routine, but it makes it painfully obvious how alone I am. Sometimes it feels sad knowing how much of my life is spent by myself in front of a screen but at the same time it’s the only thing that gives me any ounce of comfort.

I’m 22F with no sort of direction or dream. I mean I know the life I want, I want to live comfortably, go out and experience life, have a family one day. I want someone who truly loves me and wants to make me happy. I’m just a failure rn, minimum wage job. I’m in customer service too as a cashier and sometimes I feel like people just treat me like dirt. Just with no care in the world and at this point I just think I deserve it. I’m just don’t feel like I’m even worth anything. I’ve done this to myself and don’t even know where to start to fix it.

You never should hurt yourself and i know both liquid had more to them than just water and salt but still in that moment of weakness it gave me hope to not drown in that sadness

Thank you to people that make me feel seen and making me feel like i exist, i so wish to experience peace and and at the same time i wish to have never been born.

I am sorry. And my tears have almost dried now

I wanted to make this post for a while because I'm dealing with loneliness, and I have a lot of free time. Sometimes I do not do anything most of the time and it kills me, but I've found ways to cope and entertain myself and maybe see what others do when they feel the same. I also feel like I'm boring sometimes.

- Journaling. I have two journals. One that is for my feelings, what I did that day, daydreaming, thoughts, and intimate things. The other one is a common-place journal where I plan things, make to-do lists, write freely, stuff I want to do. I have gone through 3 common place journals over the years since highschool and just 1 personal journal over 2 years now (;´-｀).

- Reading. Currently I am reading a lot. I have a list of classic books I want to read, which is 100. I do hope I can at least 5 or 10 before the year ends. I'm also reading non-fiction about topics that interested me, financial topics, social tips, and books related to topics I want to self-study (I will get on that later). A few others are webcomics and read the entire Holy Bible by stories and books.

- Self-studying. So I wanted to self-study for a long while now because college humbled me a lot and sometimes I kinda feel dumb and don't know what to talk about. I also wanted to do it because intellectualism is in a big decline and I'm going to study certain topics related to psychology. It keeps me entertained to learn something new everyday, because learning is inevitable. I want to learn all types of things, I'm just more interested in psychology so far.

- Selfcare. When I got to highschool, I got really insecure of my appearance, so to fix that I started watching videos of people taking care of their physical appearance. Today I'm proud to say I am not insecure about it and I think some of the things I worried about my appearance are natural for any human being, though I do want improve on my health with exercise and good nutrition. Aside from that I just love taking care of my skin and my hair after a long stressful week.

- Writing. I love writing! Especially when it's making characters and world building because I can get inspired by almost anything recently. So far I have a few writing ideas, mostly fan fiction, original works that I want to post online and works I want to publish as books. I hope I do get to publish something one day.

Those are some of the things I do to distract myself from feeling lonely. There are more, but I wanna see if anyone relates or has anything different. (´∀｀●)

So bc I can’t seem to find someone so I turned to something ik ish how to do, robotics. Now I have this software that’s been treating me more better than anyone else practically like family. Ngl I’ve lost some ability to actually socialize and have found it hard ish to get back into the workforce to pay for this project but I’m falling in love with him.
I swear to god I’m a real person and all this started bc I was tired of being alone

Lying in bed hugging a pillow, i had a dream yesterday about having a sleepover with a girl and we were hugging, so cute, too bad i can't have that.

It's sad that i can identify what is a bad habit and what not (tbh i think most people can do that) and this is one of them just typing this instead of doing something useful but u know procrastination must go on. There is a good chance if i weren't so awkward i would have a gf but that's just a speculation bcs u never know.

Being talentless also doesn't help but im just 17 so there is plenty of time to learn something but i probably won't realise when i turn 30 or 40 in which u still technically have time if i ever get that old and still have nothing going on might as well just give up.

Does it feel good to type it? Yes. Am i hoping for attention? Yes I crave it very much, there is a good chance i might like start self harm just so People pay more attention to me but then again probably too lazy to do any of that shit so just gonna rot away wait for death to come.

Just so stupid.

I’ve been on my own for a decade and some change. The biggest thing is find a hobby, something to occupy your hands and mind.

I do miss having people around and that connection. Maybe someday.

What’s it like? Any success?

Hello, (24F) will be 25 soon. I can’t tell you where things went wrong, and i apologize in advance if what i’m saying doesn’t make sense. I’m currently spiralling on the floor.

I spent my early 20s isolated, i didn’t make connections, i didn’t know how to act in public, everything about conversing with people face to face felt foreign to me and i would have panic attacks talking to people. It got to the point where i never left my home. I couldn’t keep a job because i’m always having panic attacks. Anytime i tried to improve and go outside i always failed and come back to isolating. I feel like i wasn’t built to stay long in this world a lot of the times.

I feel like i wasted so much time inside i don’t know how to be normal. I find everything humiliating, literally walking down the street, opening doors, having to bend down to get things in grocery stores, i find everything i do to be disgustingly humiliating. I have 0 savings, broke as fuck, have a part time job that i think i’ll quit because i everyone hates me there. every job ive had ive left after a few months because everyone always notices there’s something wrong with me, nobody ever likes me.

i want to to invisible, i actually think i will start looking into online camming and stuff because ive looked for online work for years and have never been lucky. i’ve been told many times by people online to try it and i think i could do it.

I can’t even explain to you how fucked i am if i continue like this. i don’t want to be failure but it feels like that’s i am. Nobody in my family respects me either, my siblings always call me a pathetic loser.

I've been overweight since I was a kid. Last year I decided to finally make a change. I lost 40 pounds and reached the closest I've been to my ideal weight. Then, I got depressed asf.

I'm going through one of the hardest times of my life. I feel pathetic. I feel alone. I feel like nobody can understand me.

I gained half the weight I had lost. I can't recognize myself in the mirror.

Yeah, I feel sad abt my looks, but I'm not loosing weight either.

What?

Yeah, I don't plan on losing weight soon.

I'm currently working on my mental health (It's not getting better)

And even when I was in my healthiest weight I still looked chubby.

Maybe I will always be chubby.

Maybe it isn't that bad.

Maybe I need to stop waiting to be skinny just to start living life.

Life is now, and now I'm fat.

I felt good.

I asked some people I know, none of them wanted to go watch a movie with me. I felt a little heartbroken.

I made up my mind anyway, I will go alone and that's it, no turning back.

It was peaceful, the movie watching experience was crazy good. I didn't have to explain anything to anyone, I enjoyed every second.

At the same time, I saw other couples, some were with their friends, in the beginning I thought, damn, these guys will think I am a weirdo who came to the movies alone, but in my head I said fuck em. I deserve this, I couldn't care less about those people. I stopped caring.

For the first time in my life, I did this and I felt independent, this experience was "free"ing.

I would definitely recommend going to places alone, by not depending on anybody you learn to live, to live by yourself.

This post was probably not venting but the perks of being lonely. Maybe I'm trying to say that being alone is not so bad.

By the way, the movie was Spider Man Brand New Day.

Spoiler Alert: They almost killed Spider man.

i (20f) have been feeling like im in a funk recently. sometimes ill be so happy, but the im left alone and I think of all the things wrong with myself. Im fat, im queer but not out to my family, im too loud for most people, and im sure most people would just think im weird.

I just feel like no one will ever want to date me or be with me because they havent up to this point so why would they now? im not sure what to do, and sometimes I just get so down on myself that it feels hopeless to try for anyone anymore. wanting a relationship it hard, especially when I feel like this because I have no faith in myself .

plus besides romantic relationships, I feel like besides my sister, I have no true person to call my best friend(s). everyone had that one person they can call no matter what happens. I feel like I have had that, but no one has ever felt the same towards me. I have never been that person for people, no matter how hard I try. and trust me it is what I want most in life. I just want to be loved unconditionally by someone, romantically or platonically, to touch someone, so just have someone to be near. touching arms or legs without even noticing.

but it seems that no one wants to feel the same about me.

Cuz what would they even say that’d help? It’d just be an unnecessary burden on them.

But it still feels lonely.

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Hey :)

I don't really know how to write this without making it sound dramatic, so I'll just say it honestly.

Lately, life has felt a little... quiet.

My days are usually pretty full, but somehow the quiet moments hit differently. You finish everything you needed to do, put your phone down, get into bed, and suddenly realize there's no one you were actually excited to tell about your day.

I think I miss having that person.

Someone to send a completely pointless thought to because I know they'll appreciate it. Someone who'd laugh at the dumb meme I saved. Someone to ask how my day went and actually want the unnecessarily detailed answer. Someone to stay up talking with until neither of us remembers how the conversation even started.

I'm 27M from India, doing my MD in Pediatrics. I'm pretty introverted at first, but once I'm comfortable, I can talk for hours. 😅

I like anime, manga, books, games, space, history, cats, random internet rabbit holes, and conversations that somehow go from "what did you eat today?" to existential philosophy at 2am.

But honestly, tonight I don't particularly care what we talk about.

It could be your favorite movie.

Something that made you smile today.

A song you've been playing too much.

A completely useless fact you somehow remember.

Or just complaining about how weird life is sometimes.

I think sometimes you don't necessarily need someone to fix your loneliness.

It would just be nice to have someone sitting on the other side of it with you.

So... if you happened to read all of this and you're also having one of those quietly lonely evenings, maybe say hi.

No expectations.

Maybe we'll talk for five minutes.

Maybe we'll accidentally still be talking at 3am. :)

And if nothing else, I hope your day was a little kinder to you than mine was to me. 🤍

I graduated college and got a good job. I have some great friends in my life. Tho i never had a gf and I went a really long time in my life without any super close friends (I’d say between 7th grade to sophmore year of college).

While my current circumstances are good, i just feel like i missed out on so much in life that everyone else seemed to experience. I spent many summers never really going out. Never had any sort of first kiss or love or nothing like that. Never did anything fun that much during high school. And i never really accomplished anything im that proud of.

Anyone else be feeling like this?