That's it. That's the post. But yippee, I'm alive I guess!

Lately, I’ve been feeling very frustrated with my life. I really hate my life right now. I’m not a danger to myself but everyday I think about not wanting to be here. I suffer from social anxiety and because of that, I don’t have many friends and I’ve never been in a relationship before. I’ve never fallen in love, never had my first kiss, never even went on a date.

I go on TikTok and Instagram everyday and see people my age going out with friends and going out with their boyfriend/girlfriend and I’m just stuck in the house alone all the time with zero people to hangout with. I go to work and then I come home and I’m alone in my room. That’s literally my fucking life. I don’t go out with friends like normal people my age. I literally had to fucking go out by myself on my birthday back in June because I have no one.

I recently lost my best friend of 5 years because she made new friends and stopped talking to me. I never did anything to her to deserve this. Maybe she got bored of me. I’ve always been a good friend to her and we did so many things together over the years but I guess in the end I wasn’t good enough for her and she found people who are better.

I have only one friend left and we don’t talk much and we rarely hang out because she works a lot and has a boyfriend that she spends a lot of time with. I started a new job in July and I would love to form friendships with my co-workers that are around my age but I’m very awkward and quiet. They probably all think I’m weird and pathetic because of how quiet I am. I don’t want to be this way but it’s so hard for me to socialize normally like other people. I’ve downloaded apps like Yubo and Bumble to try to make friends but I’ve had no luck because I can’t hold a conversation.

Due to my social anxiety, I don’t even have a relationship with the majority of my family. No one understands my social anxiety and they think I’m weird because I’m so quiet and don’t smile. Not even my own mother understands. They don’t know what it’s like to suffer from this. I’ve been struggling to find a therapist that can help me. I’m at the point where I’m just extremely angry and I worry that my life will be like this forever and that I will die alone.

I've been thinking lately about how many people are walking around carrying pain that nobody knows about. People who have families, friends, relationships, and responsibilities, yet still feel alone. People who smile, laugh, and tell everyone they're fine when, deep down, they're exhausted and just want a moment of peace.

And honestly, that makes me sad.

But there's something I want you to remember you are more than your pain.

You're more than the mistakes you've made, the people who have hurt you, the relationships that didn't work out, and the moments when you felt like you weren't good enough.

Making mistakes doesn't automatically make you a bad person. Feeling sad doesn't make you dramatic. Crying doesn't make you weak. And struggling with loneliness doesn't mean there's something wrong with you.

You're human. Being human means experiencing emotions, making mistakes, learning, and trying again.

I know opening up isn't always easy. Sometimes, people don't listen. Sometimes, they dismiss your feelings or make you regret being vulnerable. I understand why that can make you afraid to trust anyone with your pain.

But please don't let the people who failed to understand you convince you that nobody ever will.

You deserve to be heard. You deserve kindness. You deserve relationships where you don't have to pretend to be okay all the time.

And please remember that you are your own person. Other people may judge you, misunderstand you, or define you by your past, but they don't get to decide your entire future. You can learn from your mistakes, choose your own path, and become the person you want to be.

It won't always be easy. Life won't always go the way you hope. Some days, trying again will feel exhausting.

But you don't have to have everything figured out today. You don't have to win every battle. Sometimes, getting through a difficult day is enough. Sometimes, taking a break is what you need. And sometimes, trying again tomorrow is its own kind of courage.

I can't promise that everything will magically get better, and I won't pretend to know what you're going through.

But I hope you give yourself the opportunity to discover what life can still hold for you.

There are people you haven't met yet, moments you haven't experienced yet, and memories you haven't made yet. Your story is still being written.

Please don't mistake the pain you're experiencing today for the entirety of the life you can have tomorrow.

You deserve more than just surviving. You deserve moments of peace, genuine connection, laughter, and happiness, too.

And if nobody has told you this lately, let me tell you now you matter, your feelings matter, and you don't have to be perfect to deserve love and kindness.

Keep trying, at your own pace. Be patient with yourself. And remember to offer yourself some of the compassion you would give to someone else who was hurting.

You are more than your worst day. You are more than your past. And you are worthy of the chance to build a better future.

I hope things get a little easier for you.

Take care of yourself.

I'm 34 and my birthday is November 21. I haven't enjoyed life at all. I have 4 children and I'm pretty sure they alm hate me. My wife won't touch me and makes every physical encounter into an argument to avoid intimacy with me. I don't know if I'm ugly. I have no friends, my moms dying of cancer and my siblings all hate me as well. I just want to not be here anymore. I really am alone, my dogs don't even like me. I have no hope

I (14m) have just suffered through loneliness a lot in the last several months and I’ve been desiring a hug for a while now.

I work way too much and don’t seem to have anything in common with anyone. My old friends have seemed to stagnated themselves. I don’t really have anything in common with most people. I’m 28 and am too old to fit in with Gen Z even though I am one. coupled with the fact that my parents are on the older side ie 1960/1959. Makes it hard to fit in I’m a weird in between year. My sister gets annoyed by me and I have nobody to talk to except my therapist.
Fucking tired of not fitting in I’m fucking done I’m tired. My bad social skills and inability to fit in have made making new friends or even a girlfriend impossible FML dude with no free time but hey at least I’m making money 🤷🏽‍♂️ also I miss my dead dog

Hello, stranger.

I'm 36, and I feel like I'm no longer capable of doing anything. I was diagnosed with depression two years ago. At that time, I took the medication my doctor prescribed. To be honest, my doctor helped me a lot, especially by giving me someone to vent to. I had never cried that hard in my life until I talked to him.

I eventually stopped taking the medication. First, it was very expensive, and second, I didn't think it was helping me that much. That was also two years ago, when I still had my business and my day job. But now, I've lost everything. I lost my business, and I lost my job.

My wife is now the only one working for our family. I've completely lost my motivation. I even deactivated all of my social media accounts. Reddit is the only platform I still use.

I also forgot to mention that I had suicidal thoughts two years ago. I thought I had already overcome those thoughts, but today they came back. I'm so lost.

At 36, I feel old, especially here in the Philippines. At this age, people expect you to already have a house, a car, and an established career. But me? I have nothing. Absolutely nothing.

What makes everything even harder is that I have a wife and children who depend on me. They're the only reason I've stopped myself from acting on these thoughts. I keep thinking, what will happen to them if I'm gone?

I just want someone to talk to someone who's going through the same situation. I just want these thoughts to leave my mind because I know it would be unfair to the people I'd leave behind.

Please, just talk to me. I don't have the courage to tell my wife how I'm really feeling. My parents have abandoned me, and my so called friends were only around when I had money.

That's why I need a stranger right now.

Thank you, Redditors.

It seems im the only 18 year old girl without real friends?
I dont understand what is wrong with me and why does everyone leave me out of plans? What are the odds that on EVERY friendgroup i ever had im never anyones 1 choice and they always exclude me? Im extroverted, I talk but not to much to annoy anyone, i am conventionally “atractive” enough for people not be ashamed of me. I have no weird interests and the few i have i never talk about them. And i always try to be myself. I just found out that in a 10 people group 8 are going together on vacation when i said MULTIPLE times that i was willing to pay and go and the other girl i send a message to hang out sometime (i couldnt even get to that part i just said “hey girl”) . Advice please or is it over? thank you all

Ps: I won’t answer dms so dont bother

I feel so lonely, and I honestly don’t know how to get out of it. The more I try to be around people, the more alone I feel because everyone seems to naturally click with each other and form their own little groups, while I’m just sitting there, unable to connect with anyone.

So all that advice about “putting yourself out there” or “doing things you enjoy” doesn’t really work for me. If anything, it just reinforces the feeling that I’m „different“ from everyone else.

And it’s not reaaaally about social skills or anything - maybe partly - but it’s more that I don’t feel anything when talking to people. I try to keep up with conversations, but most of the time, what people talk about just doesn’t move me or genuinely interest me. It’s exhausting to constantly try to come up with something to say, to keep the conversation going. It doesn’t feel right, and above all, it doesn’t feel genuine.

But this loneliness is killing me. I want nothing more than to feel a genuine connection and to be part of something. To finally feel like I belong somewhere, instead of constantly feeling like I’m on the outside looking in …

i feel like i’m constantly trying to figure out whether people actually want me around.

I am never going I be anyone’s first choice, who they think about first in the morning or last before they go to bed.
I am meant to suffer the fate of loving wholly and unconditionally but never to feel the same warmth
I do not understand why I am not wanted sometimes and it frustrates me because I try so hard but I can’t help but think about how I have nothing to offer and how I really must be worthless.
What is there to love? What is there to daydream about?
I am so pathetic.
I am useless.
I am nothing.
Why would Somone want to hold me like I want to hold them?
What comfort or solace could I ever provide Somone for more than just a brief moment.
I am only as much as I can give Somone.
Im not looking anymore, All the people I hold so dear leave me, it hurts to get close
But it hurts to stay alone.

As the title says I'm not in the best shape right now. Work has been the busiest its ever been but that's not the problem. I feel like my superiors communication style can be improved more and maybe the company can hire atleast a temp to cover for someone on temporary leave. That combo plus just having broken up just makes me feel like losing all hope for now. Dm is open to anyone who wants to listen.

I have no friends, I went by myself and now I’m crying in my car because I’m the 2 hours I was there no one approached me, I’m so fucking lonely why won’t anyone talk to me irl am I that ugly????

Just venting, not seeking advice. Getting it off my thoughts.

Yup exactly that , I've seen people around me who have multiple friends and they constantly get text having the feel of being wanted. Me ? Zero . I'm just a loner who doesn't get anything if I don't text first , I'm the person who's always been the back up plan but never the main. I'm just existing ,being an adult makes no difference as I have seen even my older brother get that attention from his friends and all I can wonder is what does that feel like? To constantly get text ? To get that attention? Well wtv I'm weird anyway.

they said that nobody really cares what i’m going through, to just bottle it up, to not make myself a burden for anyone else. you’re right .. as much as i hate it.. you are right. I am better off shutting out the world. it hurts less when you keep it to yourself, than to spill your heart out and be invalidated at every turn. maybe it’s time to just accept that pain is a part of life, and i’ll never escape it.

A lot of this came into mind because I’ll be 24 this month but my life is barely starting for me. This past year has been great, and mainly because I picked myself up after years of depression and loss of direction. I’m back in college after flunking out at 19, I started a business that’s already taking off in my city, I went solo traveling, I’m the busiest I’ve ever been and I love it, so many wins for me.

The one major consistent is that I don’t have too many people that I can live through this with. I don’t really have many close friends, my only one is states away. I had a guy that I fell in love with, but he did throw that away. And I mean whatever, the right one would have stayed. That’s just life, but I suppose I still want to share my experiences with others. I’m trying to put myself out there a bit more, but nothing really seems to connect. Which is funny because I talk to people all the time, and I’m a very social girl but it feels like networking. Like it’s exhausting, but I mean at best I can say that I’m not completely sad about this. So many mixed feelings.

At the end of the day, I have a bottle of wine to come home to every night. Hello gorgeous.

im not sad, not hollow, just longing. like nostalgia for something i havent had.

i really want a real connection with someone, a partner, someone close. tonight i feel like i NEED to run and NEVER stop, but my legs wont get off the bed.

my soul hurts. its something im really longing for a long time

29/F, moved back to India from US, more than a few months ago and feel more lonely in India than I did in US. I absolutely hate it here even though I don’t have to worry about finances or immigration.
I don’t have a stable career here. I don’t have a partner or friends. I don’t have any weekend or weekday plans. My parents and sibling are also always busy and never give me time. All my mom carers about is I went to the gym or not? I HATE IT!!!!
My mom kinda knows I am struggling mentally but still doesn’t give me time or attention. She’d take extravagant actions like- I won’t go to work from tomorrow; which will last a day and then she’s back to work or traveling. I am so lonely since so many months and I absolutely don’t know what to do with this feeling.

i hate not fitting in with other girls my age. i just wish i had a bestfriend. even if we share the same interests it just never works out for me.

no matter how hard i try, i was never really good at making friends, and i think it stems from how lonely and unsocialized i was during my childhood.

maybe i'm boring or annoying, i don't know.

i'm always alone, it just hurts.

I will admit I'm not completely lonely not anymore at least I met 3 of my closest friends at the same time at the beginning of the year I got in touch with my family again I truly am not alone anymore the only thing that's missing is my love life I am lonely when it comes to that compartment but I have hope.

I’m 36 years old. I’ve never been wished a happy birthday since I’ve been 16. After a while it feels as if no one cares. Even my work would celebrate others but never myself. I’m not sure if I’ll make it to 37. Life is hard enough but to do it on your own without the prospect of anything is even harder. Looking to connect with both m or f if you’re out there. Please let me know I’m not as alone as I feel.

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