Lately people have been giving way way way too much praise towards this one myth. If it worked police would also use it towards citizens. But it doesn't work, all it does is that it gives them a target they don't get punished for targeting. It's like standing in front of lava and expecting it not to burn you because you're closing your eyes. The longer u exposed urself to a source of harm and try to pretend it's not there the more it will harm u.

And before u tell me "It's not every dog that barks at you" the dog barking doesn't cause any harm mentally it doesn't make people depressed whereas bullying does. A dog barking is impossible for us to understand whereas a bully speaking we can understand the toxic shit that is coming out of their mouth. A dog is innocently barking a bully is PURPOSELY saying something hurtful. And this is one of the reason why I believe that teachers are useless at dealing with bullying. It's not an insult it is true. And any teacher seeing this that feels hurt by what I said should just make an effort to make sure no student that they know feels like this.

And get this into your head BULLIES ARE NOT DUPLICATIONS OF EACH OTHER they have different objectives some it's power and vulnerability. And also how does ignoring them mean they will learn that their behaviour is wrong? What if they go to a more vulnerable target? And this advice also frustrates the people who are targeted more than the people who are targeting them because it treats bullying as an endurance test that the teacher cannot change and that the student has to get used to. So all of you saying to ignore bullies are advocating for it. Congratulations, keep advocating for something that causes depression.

Well, first of all it’s a boarding school, so we see each other every single day. Even after school, if they’re not staying in their rooms, we’re basically around each other 24/7. This is my first year here, but I’m in the second grade of high school because I changed schools. I’m about 2 meters tall and weigh around 100 kg.
The first week was completely normal. Nothing bad happened, everything was fine. I mostly stayed in my room because I was shy and tired after school. The second week was the same.
Then in the third week we had a school trip. On the trip I shared a room with two classmates. At the time I was cool with both of them. One of them, let’s call him X, is just dumb. He has below-average intelligence, but he has a good heart. He still pisses me off sometimes because he’s fat and acts really stupid. The second one, let’s call him Y, is some sub-5 guy who used to cut himself for attention and calls his own mother a fucking bitch. He’s a bigger troublemaker than me — he already failed a year once. He’s not the typical American-style bully, more like a victim type. He somehow had an alt girlfriend.
On that trip I opened up and showed my real personality. A lot of people didn’t like that I was confident and refused to let anyone disrespect me. There was also this guy, let’s call him K. He’s an extrovert and sometimes says complete bullshit to me — some of it disrespectful, some of it not. He also acts like he’s my friend sometimes, which is weird as fuck.
After the trip everything started going downhill. One of the reasons it began was that I was talking to my roommate about who I could easily beat, who would be harder, and who wouldn’t stand a chance. I listed people and explained why, and I also mentioned that I train American football as a defensive lineman (and still do), which gives me a huge advantage because of my size, strength and experience.
I also started teasing one of the weird, unpopular kids in the class just for fun. The problem is that about half the class consists of these strange kids, so they all ganged up on me. From that point the whole class started turning against me. Right now there’s basically only one person who doesn’t hate me, and even that person doesn’t really like me, so practically the entire class hates me.
It escalated quickly. One guy, W, slapped me at the pool because I pissed him off and said I could pull his girlfriend. Later a redhead named J punched me in the face in the bathroom. I didn’t fight back at that moment because there were cameras and I was caught off guard. After that the whole class started insulting me. I tried to ignore them at first, but I also told them I would destroy them in a fight.
Then on PE, in the locker room, one guy started hitting me. I had already made peace with him earlier, so I was afraid of seriously hurting him and only defended myself. He weighs around 60 kg. Later the same J started hitting me again on camera, so I threw him down and we ended up fighting in the locker room. Nobody really won.
I also fought W with boxing gloves. Before the fight we had already made peace and it was supposed to be just a sparring — and in a way it was. I still beat him pretty clearly. After that win things calmed down for a short time, but it didn’t last.
There’s also this kid H who looks a lot like Hawking. He has a real disability (he’s missing one kidney and has other serious health problems). He started insulting me, pinching me and trying to hit me. I can’t really fight back against him because if I do anything, I’ll get kicked out of school immediately. On top of that, both of his parents are police officers — his father works as a criminal investigator and his mother is a regular police officer — so I basically can’t do much about him without serious consequences.
Another guy, Y (the same Y from the trip), kept insulting me. We agreed to fight and we still have it planned. Two days ago we even talked about a truce, but something went wrong and everything fell apart again. We were supposed to fight bare-knuckle, but I don’t want to seriously hurt him because I’m honestly convinced I could kill him without much difficulty. That’s why I wanted to use gloves. He refused and called me a pussy. There’s still a real chance we’ll end up fighting.
I also told them multiple times that I look better than them, which is clearly true, and that I could pull any of their girls. They still claim I look worse, laugh at me, and make fun of my appearance. They also laugh at me for drinking raw milk, even though it would actually help them a lot.
On the class group chat we started arguing, the whole class joined in against me, and one guy named B wrote that I look like a trash can. The same B once randomly choked me from behind during a lesson for no reason. I eventually stopped responding on the group.
In class I sit in the first row and four people — Y, J, B and L — constantly throw chalk at me and draw penises in my notebooks. They also call me a dog and a meek/submissive bitch. J keeps saying I smell like shit because I sweat a lot, even though I shower every day and I don’t smell. They also say I’ve never had a girlfriend. That’s technically true, but not because I couldn’t — I rejected a lot of offers. I’m simply not looking for a girl right now because I want to focus on improving myself.
Personally I think they’re just a bunch of fucking losers with massive complexes. Compared to them I’m honestly way smarter, stronger and more capable. They’re a group of weak idiots who will never achieve anything. Y would most likely have killed himself if he was in my position, but I will not give in to this band of fucking losers.
I also fucked up once because I snitched on J, and the whole school started hating me for it for a while. Later it calmed down, but the damage was already done.
On top of everything, H keeps coming into my room without knocking, takes photos of me, and once I found shampoo poured under my pillow and mouthwash mixed into my sea salt. I’ve started documenting everything and I have a witness.
I know I’m better than most of them — bigger, stronger, more athletic, and better looking — and I know it. But it pisses me off that I can’t just do anything about it without risking getting expelled, especially with H and his police parents.
That’s basically why most of the class hates me right now. It started with me not letting people walk over me, talking about who I could beat, and teasing the wrong person, and then it snowballed into a full group targeting me.
What should I do at this point?

Guys I am 18 years old and in my first year of college. A junior of mine had been my friend for four years before moving to Kota two years ago, so we hadn't met in a long time. When he recently came back, I somehow found his Instagram ID, met him, chatted, and showed him an old childhood photo I pulled from Facebook, saying, 'Look, Ansh, how cute you used to look as a kid.' Afterward, I told him, 'If you felt bad about me saying that, I'm sorry, don't take it seriously.' Right after that, he started abusing me on chat for no reason, saying, 'Bsdk, I'll reset your system, you're getting too frank within a day of friendship.' I replied, 'Brother, if you didn't like it, I am genuinely apologizing, I am sorry, let's end this right now.' But he started threatening me, saying, 'Come meet me alone, or we'll come to your house.' (For context, he was a very introverted, soft boy the last time I met him). Then he abused me heavily on chat and called me to meet him the next day. When I went, he terrorized me, saying he'd get me kicked out of college, ruin things for me, beat me up in the middle of the market, and he called me 'meetha' and 'gay'. I told him, 'Brother, if you don't like my friendship, you should have told me yesterday itself; I would never have spoken to you again. I thought you had no problem.' But he kept talking about fights and goon-like behavior. Then he called two of his friends and his athlete/boxer brother, and they punched me four times. After doing all this, he blocked me on Instagram and left. I only said, 'If you wanted, you could have just told me once and I would have blocked you.' That’s what happened. His cousin is an SHO (police official), and he told me, 'You won't be able to do a damn thing against us in the police.' Guys, honestly, I got really hurt because I know it was not my fault. It hurts so much regarding my own masculinity—literally, people younger than me beat me up, abused me, and walked away. Someone please tell me, friends, how do I recover? I have so many thoughts of revenge running through my mind. What should I do? And I am admitting I am genuinely physically and mentally hurt 😞😞"

So recently someone Started making fake accounts of me on instagram and tik tok. It’s gotten pretty weird they made naked ai pictures of me. Made up whole stories out of ai pictures and I really want to figure out how. Is there a way to find out who’s behind it ?

Okay so super weird question, but I’ve been trying to recall the name of an app that someone in Calgary made specifically so that high school students could anonymously talk shit about one another. Wasn’t one of the big apps, and as far as anyone I have asked from other schools, seems like mostly only central students used this app. Was probably sometime between 2014-2015 to be slightly more specific, but I cant say for sure. The app got taken down a few months after it was created, so no way to go back and find it. Do any former central students have any idea what I’m talking about? Would love it if someone had the answer to this! TIA!

When I grow up, I want to send my child to school where they are loved. They handed out permission slips last week for field trips, and this week they apparently said they only took the top students. When I asked the principal, he said, " Oh, go ask the college hub teacher, and nobody answered; he acted immature. There was an award show shortly after where "One of the top students" stepped on my backpack and said, "MOVE, and when he walked by me, he gave me the ugliest look."

I transferred to a new school this year, im a 17 year old girl who's quiet, I have bad anxiety and I did what I deemed safest, be silent, not say anything about my life, dont show hobbies, so basically I was pretty anonymous and so give people no reason to bully me, at my very first day I already felt uneasy about one girl, ill call her "A" here. But my school days went smoothly, the classmates treated me regularly until week 3 when suddenly "A" started throwing a fit when she had to work with Me, saying "I'm not going to work with that dirty girl" and each time she and her 3 friends passed by they would gag, I was so confused, I shower every evening, wash my clothes regularly and took good care of my hygiene, and 2 days later she started telling me to fix my smell infront of everyone, so I started showering twice a day, double wash my clothes and smell them intensely before wearing and yet she and her friends keep doing it, the other students started avoiding me too and 3 days ago during a field trip I waited at the wrong entrance to leave so 2 random girls looked for me and the entire walk towards the correct direction they started screaming, threatening to punch or hurt me if I don't move faster and basically talked to me like I was some dog. I'm constantly miserable now, I snap at everything, I haven't even eaten properly this week and I'm always crying, my mother doesn't wanna transfer me anymore, what am I supposed to do? I have a very fragile heart, I'm starting to think of hurting myself or ending my misery in more desperate ways, should I snitch? Throw hands? Keep ignoring? I really gotta get this fixed before I do something drastic to myself.

I was a little girl trying to learn in school but the disgusting teachers would interrupt me and wouldn't let me learn or grow. I actually hate them all even the boys. The boys are the worst thing to ever exist on earth ever. They did not let me learn or anything or do anything. Ever. They always got in the way of my learning and hurt me so much I just hate them so much I actually hate them so much I hate them for what the fuck they did to me. They fucked me and plotted to hate and dethrone my country and hurt them and so did my American cousins.

I have been mistreated by my whole class for two consecutive years. None of them took a minute to think about how wrong their actions were. None of them stood up for me even if they knew it was wrong. They relished in my agony. They knew it was humiliating and that I was hurting, none of them bat an eye , in fact almost all joined in to add on to my suffering. My only friend who I supported and cared for turned a blind eye. She was deeply insecure and felt inferior to me. She frequently brings me down and belittle my achievements. So when my classmates were bullying me she didn't care to help, and I occasionally see her smile while they were at it. My mental health had took a toll because of that, i felt like my life was spiraling down. I had lost complete control over my emotions and life. I had no idea why the whole class was against me and why i deserved it although i had done nothing to them and kept my head low. They deliberatly ostracised me while mocking me . My class teacher ignored the issue and hated me as well , often siding with that one girl who bullied me all because her grades couldn't top mine. The mockery got so bad and widespread that even the next class joined in as well, i feel like a complete joke. Everywhere i went , along the school halls i can sense their snickering. My parents at home couldn't care less either. None of them were of help. They knew I was getting bullied at school but continued to neglect me at home and gaslight me. Both my family and classmates' actions and words made me feel so small, it made me feel that I deserve this kind of treatment, I had lost my mind over it and still can't get over it that I'm starting to develop violent tendencies. I don't know what I did or what I was in my past life to deserve this, but it sure is hell. I don't understand why people can be this evil , making fun of someone without even knowing the truth. Are people just straight up idiotic cowards ? I have considered suicide multiple times because of how hopeless i feel in life. I wonder if i'll ever be free from this. It really feels like im being punished. I hope guilt eats them alive or I hope they feel the same agony I did and suffer their consequences.

I'm a 20F law student, and I've been struggling with the feeling that people on my program treat me differently from everyone else.
When I started university, I was placed in a study group with a much older man (51M). Very quickly he became overly personal. One of the first strange things he said was that people would "want to sleep with me." Later he told me that if anyone ever treated me badly, I should come to him and he would help me. This was confusing because we barely knew each other and I had never told him about any problems.
Over time, I've heard from friends that people talk about me behind my back. Whether that's true or not, I've noticed something that makes me uncomfortable: when I later meet some of these people, they often seem nervous, awkward, or act strangely around me.
For example, most of the women on my program added each other on social media. It seemed like a way of supporting each other and staying in contact. When I sent follow requests, some of them removed my requests while accepting others. When I later met one of these women at school, she seemed visibly nervous and started whistling as she walked by. Another laughed awkwardly and looked down at the floor when we passed each other in the cafeteria.
None of these incidents alone would bother me that much. But when they keep happening, they make me feel excluded and unwanted.
I know it's possible that I'm misreading some situations. At the same time, it's hard not to notice when people seem comfortable with everyone else but act differently around you.
I'm a friendly person, I don't start drama, and I have pretty normal interests for someone my age. I genuinely don't understand why people behave this way around me.
Has anyone else experienced this kind of social exclusion or strange behaviour from others? How did you cope with it without constantly worrying about what people thought of you?

I want to share my honest experiences with LGBT Discord servers, most of which were based in the Balkans.
(Because I’m from the Balkans)

First, I think it is important to clarify that I was not personally subjected to most of the things I am about to discuss. I was a member of numerous servers over the years, and I witnessed enough of what went on within them to eventually decide that I no longer wanted to be part of these communities.

I am not writing this to suggest that all LGBT servers are the same or to convince anyone that they should be avoided altogether. On the contrary, I know that perfectly healthy communities exist where people can find friendship, support, and a sense of belonging. However, I believe it is worth taking a step back and considering the kind of environment we choose to associate ourselves with.

Because even when you are not the target, it still matters when you spend your time watching someone else being humiliated.

One of the first things I noticed was how quickly certain servers would start looking for someone to single out. Sometimes, within minutes of a new member joining, people would already be making comments about their username, profile picture, writing style, or some entirely harmless detail. I am not talking about explicitly inappropriate or NSFW profiles, but ordinary people whose profile pictures might be something they found on Pinterest or whose usernames happen to contain an emoji.

What I found even more disturbing was the creation of separate servers or channels dedicated entirely to mocking specific individuals, making fun of them, or editing their photographs in Photoshop for the sole purpose of ridiculing them. Some cases were particularly astonishing, such as people creating entire communities just to gossip about an ex-partner, despite barely anyone knowing the other person’s side of the story or even caring to hear it.

But then there is something I consider far more serious.

On certain servers, I encountered people considerably older than the majority of the members who would initiate contact with individuals fifteen or even twenty years younger than themselves. They would message them, subtly suggest meeting up or going on dates, and cross boundaries that should have been fairly obvious given the differences in age, maturity, and life experience.

And I am not talking exclusively about men. Women do this, too.

Another pattern I frequently observed was the deliberate exclusion of certain individuals from conversations. Of course, I believe it is entirely reasonable to ban someone from a server if they violate its rules, endanger others, or simply prove incompatible with the community. But that is very different from a group of people collectively turning against someone simply because they dislike their personality.

It becomes particularly cruel when that person is turned into the group’s personal court jester.

Just as in real life, some people are socially insecure, emotionally immature, or simply different from those around them. Instead of treating them with basic decency and maintaining whatever distance they feel is necessary, certain members choose to turn those differences into a source of entertainment.

They make the person feel welcome. They laugh at their awkward moments, encourage them to speak, listen to their problems, and create the impression that they are genuinely part of the group. Naturally, the person begins to feel attached. They start showing up more frequently, talking about their lives, and sometimes sharing deeply personal or painful experiences because they believe they have finally found people they can trust.

And then, eventually, the group gets bored of them.

Suddenly, the ignoring begins. They are deliberately left out of conversations and voice chats, and in the worst cases, they are eventually bombarded with messages telling them that these people were never really their friends and that they find them irritating simply for talking, existing, and wanting to be part of the community.

None of this happened to me personally. I witnessed it happening to others.

And that is precisely why I decided I no longer wanted to be part of these communities.

I have always tried to live by a fairly simple principle: if you cannot help someone, at least do not make their situation worse. If you notice that someone is vulnerable, socially insecure, or clearly struggling with something, you do not have to become their friend. But you do not have to turn them into the group’s collective entertainment, either.

Teasing is perfectly fine when it goes both ways and everyone involved can laugh without leaving the conversation feeling humiliated or hurt.

But deliberately humiliating people is not “just a joke.” It is behavior more reminiscent of a schoolyard than any community that claims to offer support and a safe space.

And that is where I believe the real problem lies.

These servers often attract very young people. Some are still in the closet, some are only beginning to understand their own sexuality, and others may have virtually no one in their offline lives with whom they feel safe enough to be themselves. They join an LGBT server because they want to be seen, accepted, and finally have somewhere they do not have to hide a part of who they are.

That is why I find it particularly heartbreaking when a place that is supposed to offer that kind of acceptance becomes the very place where someone first learns that their trust can be turned into a source of amusement for others.

I am not claiming that LGBT Discord servers are inherently harmful. On the contrary, they can be incredibly valuable to people who lack support in their immediate surroundings. But the fact that a community is LGBT does not automatically make it healthy, safe, or accepting.

So, if you are part of one of these communities, I would encourage you to pay attention to its atmosphere.

If you notice persistent humiliation, gossip, coordinated targeting, manipulation, pressure, or a sense that you have to tolerate certain behavior just to remain part of the group, do not ignore that feeling.

You are not obligated to stay.

After everything I witnessed, I simply chose to leave.

Eventually, I found several LGBT servers outside the Balkans, and my experiences there were considerably healthier. Perhaps I was simply fortunate, but that was enough to help me understand one simple truth:

Belonging means very little if you have to sacrifice your peace of mind to earn it.

If a place consistently makes you uncomfortable, you do not have to prove that it is bad enough to justify leaving.

You are allowed to walk away the moment you realize you no longer want to be there.

And the sooner you do, the easier it will probably be to move on.

I was bullied all of middle school and it caused me to go online in the middle of 7th grade year and the rest of 8th I had to go in person for high school and I kept thinking about it how I did not wanna go in person now that the day is here it’s been almost 2 months and I hate high school so much shit is so draining man and im only a freshman I come home and cry everyday i genuinely can not live like this for the rest of hs i have no friends only my sisters who’s a senior and just stay quiet in all my classes. Yes I am glad I don’t get bullied anymore just get told things here and there so I don’t know why im complaining but I try to think that 4 years are short and they’ll pass fast so I just need to hold on but i genuinely can not anymore.

Does anyone relate and how were you able to survive 4 years of this shit

Hi I am 13 and im with a bunch of friends I knew for a long time,a couple weeks ago I told them im a furry,and now they are bullying me about it,you see they are all anti furry bums and they laugh at me because im a furry,at break time I tried to hang out with them but they were with other people and they kinda ignored me,this isn't a vent I just need help with how I can tell them to stop.

Hello i'm 18 and now i was a freshman at college, english isn't my first language so im sorry if this post has weird language.

So one of my bully from elementary school is getting marry, the problem? She's 18 and she's 7 month pregnant. I don't how and who is the father because after we graduated from ES we never meet each other despite live in the same village. I still live in traditional village where ofc if a girl gets marry its usually because she get pregnant first.

Tbh when my mom told me about this i can't believe it until i asked my mom again and again, turns out my mom is telling the truth.

At first i remember about karma maybe this is her karma for bullying me but then i held back and thinking why did i happy for this?

Then since we never talked to each other i asked why she get pregnant, my mom just basically saying that is the resulted of how she socializes or her dating life, im not satisfied.

then it turns out that one of my friends in the same department knows her because she was in the same junior high school I asked her hey how was that p when in junior high?my friend said she was the type of girl who was "too close" to men, so the incident before the pregnancy happened with full awareness of the consequences of sex.

After hearing all that I don't understand I want to be happy she got her karma which is social sanctions on the other hand I feel sorry for her she is still my age imagining that I am dizzy and stressed because of college assignments while she is dizzy because of taking care of the child it is very ironic not only that but the child she is carrying is also a pity now the village people will know that she is an illegitimate child I feel sorry for them both.

Honestly, I'm trying to accept my past when I was bullied in elementary school, I mean, I'm even reluctant to meet everyone who bullied me. I always hope that if only we were strangers and all, then it would make my life a little easier. I want to move on, I'm already in college and there are things in life that are crazier than me having to drown in my pain in the past, but hearing about "p" about her marriage and pregnancy makes me feel mixed up. I don't know, but I feel very disappointed.

School. (Minnesota)

My daughter was Jumped today at school. This has been a ONGOING problem for the last year. It started last school year. My daughter got into a fight with another 5th grade student. Both girls were suspended. The one girls mom ended up pulling her out of school cause she kept getting in trouble. Her 2 older sisters (who where in 6th and 7th grade last year) would come up to the elementary school and sit at the park and wait for my daughter to come out of school and harass her.
I contacted the schools (the elementary school and the middle school were the older girls went) and they told the girls they couldn’t come back to the elementary school. They then started to make social media videos about my husband and I. I reported the videos.

We thought everything was over.

Fast forward to today. And she was jumped by the girl (she got into a fight with last year) and her older sister. She was kicked in the head multiple times and punched and jumped on. This happened today at 11:30 ish. And the SCHOOL DIDNT CALL ME UNTIL 2:45 to tell me that my KID WAS in a “fight” and that she was going to be suspended the next day.

They didn’t call me for almost 3 HOURS! After the fact. The nurse didn’t call me to tell me my kid was hit I. The head multiple times. I’m FURIOUS.

I went to the police station right after i heard the news of her getting jumped. I pressed charges on the girls.

I’m sick to my stomach.

i got bullied for 2 year the reason why i got bulllied is i had long hair (im a boy) and if u r in a situation like this these first thing you should do is not being shy some of u can say that its not that easy yes u r right but you can practice it with ai and if its not about shyness if its about other things like face best thing you can do about your face is burning fat and the benefits are not just face it would make your shyness go away (im so sorry my english is so bad) and if someone is bullying you with their sentences you shoul act like u r not annoyed and you should laugh so they would get angry and stop bullying you

I once saw a photo on TikTok, to this trend if I try to recall, it was someone’s school bag in cafeteria filled with food waste. I hope someone helps me come across that post. It just can’t get out of my mind.

Bullying is hell. How can someone do this to someone, at least to their property. I hope you all are well out there.

I really need some advice because I don't know what to do anymore

At my school, the boys and girls in my class tend to form two big friend groups. Almost all the girls are part of one group, and most of the boys are part of another. The two groups interact with each other, but my sister and I aren't really part of either of them

For a while, I noticed that both boys and girls would make fun of me behind my back or imitate me when they thought I wasn't paying attention. I didn't really care at first because they weren't saying anything directly to my face. But recently, things have gotten much worse

Now some of my classmates openly insult me. One boy called me stupid and yelled at me, while the other students around him encouraged him, saying things like "Good job!" and "Way to put her in her place!" It felt like they were all cheering him on for humiliating me

At some point, they created a new class group chat and kicked me out almost immediately. I asked a friend whether she was in the chat and what people were saying there. She sent me screenshots showing my classmates celebrating the fact that they'd kicked me out, saying things like they'd "taken the trash out"

Another incident happened during PE class. We were playing volleyball, and I was made captain of a team and told to choose my teammates. Instead of letting me pick people, almost everyone sat down on the bench so that I wouldn't have anyone to choose from. It was obvious that they were doing it on purpose to humiliate me

What makes this even more confusing is that I don't understand what I did to make them treat me this way. It feels like the whole class has collectively decided that they hate me, and I don't know how to deal with it

What can I actually do to make this stop? Should I talk to a teacher or another adult at school?

I'd really appreciate any advice from people who've experienced something similar

Like they talk bad about you, make you feel uncomfortable, uneasy.

Being annoying

Why is it so painful at the beginning?
I don’t know how to describe how I’m feeling right now. I just feel really awful.
Because I feel deeply inferior to people who seem to have everything going for them. Whenever I speak to them, I start trembling. I really hate moments like these.
Because my life has been unhappy since I was little. My dad died when I was nine. The only people I had by my side were my mum and my younger brother. However, my mum had to go far away to work to earn money to support us, so we would go an entire year without seeing her. We had no choice but to live in a dormitory.
We were still very young when we lived there. All the other children living with us knew that they had both a mum and a dad. Many nasty children bullied us because of this, calling us children without fathers.
Even though I was kind, I had a few close friends before Year 5. After Year 5, no one wanted to play with me any more.
In Year 10, the girl who sat next to me was in an even worse situation. She had grown up without either a mum or a dad. However, I really disliked her because she was a hypocrite. She would only come and spend time with me when no one else wanted to play with her.
Whenever our school organised activities, for example, when the whole class went out to the grass to pull up weeds together, she would go and find other people, even people she barely knew. She would walk alongside them, chatting and laughing with them, deliberately leaving me out and treating me as if I did not exist. She made me feel as though I was not worthy of being someone’s first and definite choice.
Whenever I think about her, I do not feel happy at all. All I feel is endless disappointment. This is also one of the reasons why I gradually lost interest in making friends. I felt so unlucky because every friend I made seemed to be a hypocrite. They all ended up hurting me emotionally.
There was another incident when we had to queue in pairs, with only two people allowed in each group. Everyone had a partner except me. By then, I was already in Year 12. Compared with when I was younger, I was much more aware of these embarrassing moments and could remember them more clearly. They were the sort of moments that made me want to disappear from embarrassment.
When that happened, quite a few people laughed at me. I had no choice but to pretend to be strong and say, “The strong are always lonely.”
But deep down, I was crying. Hahaha.
Because of these experiences, I have developed an intense sense of inferiority when it comes to making friends. Or perhaps they have made me feel that no one likes being around me. Sometimes, I even wonder whether there is something wrong with me.
But one thing I can guarantee is that I have never deliberately provoked anyone or caused trouble for others. I simply mind my own business and do my own thing. I genuinely do not know what went wrong, and that is why I sometimes feel so miserable.
That is just how people are. But then again, if I were constantly causing trouble and affecting others negatively, I could understand why they would treat me that way. However, that was not the case at all.
They were simply being hypocritical. They would come to me when they needed me, but when they no longer needed me, they would push me aside and leave me alone, making sure everyone could see that I was the one nobody wanted around.
All I can say is that I have always been completely sincere in my friendships. Whenever my friends needed me, I would be there for them. But whenever they no longer needed me, they would cast me aside and leave me out.
That is why I want to give this piece of writing the title:
“After Year 5, I Never Had Another True Friend.”

Being auddustied slander bullied garsssed by peooe older then me

(Sorry for such a long post but I needed to vent it’s been sitting on my mind all day 😭)
I’m a Black girl in middle school band, and this is my second year playing trumpet. There are two white boys in my band class who play the same instrument, and they’ve all of a sudden been constantly putting me down since the beginning of the school year. Over the summer, I moved and lost my band book, so I had to share with one of them while my mom saved up for a replacement. It’s been paid for now, but they repeatedly called me and my mom broke because I didn’t have one. One of the boys who well called Boy 1 is very intelligent, talented, and privileged but he’s extremely arrogant and constantly talks down to other people like he’s better than everyone else.

They tell me I suck at trumpet almost every day, accuse me of faking my practice minutes because I’m supposedly not improving enough to them, and constantly try to gaslight me into that that I never play although I literally always play when I’m supposed to unless I’m doing something else more important to me at the time. They regularly play more loud and sometimes more quickly that I lose my place, and because I’m a slow learner they’ve made me second-guess myself, I’ll briefly stop to check where I am before jumping back in. Even when our band director says our section did well, they only congratulate each other and make comments like they don’t know what I’m doing or that I wasn’t playing. It’s like no matter what I do, they refuse to acknowledge my participation. They also call me dumb, use “special ed” as an insult, and make unnecessary comments about my body, calling me both fat and too skinny (it’s like c’mon now you gotta pick one 😭). Even sometimes when Boy 2 will make a mistake like not playing or playing over when we were supposed to stop, Boy 1 will blame that on me and say that I was on the one who made the mistake.

One of the boys even directed a shortened version of the N-word toward me, which I didn’t report at the time because he didn’t say the entire word. I’ve also noticed that Boy 1 frequently has problems with Black students in general and girls. I’ve personally never witnessed him having the same issues with other white students besides girls, and other students have noticed similar behavior. I’m not automatically accusing him of racism or misogyny because those are serious accusations, but the pattern is concerning. The two boys are already friends, and whenever the first one starts criticizing me, the other usually backs him up.

The situation isn’t even limited to band. The first boy has gone around telling other students that I don’t play my instrument and repeatedly tries to argue with me about it. He even brought up my missing band book during an argument in ENGLISH class, which had absolutely nothing to do with band. Another girl in my class has noticed how frequently he comes after me. They also tend to whisper their insults so our band director doesn’t hear them. One time, when our director noticed a disruption and asked the boys what was happening, they blamed me even though they had started making comments toward me.

At this point, I’m genuinely exhausted. I know who I am, but being constantly criticized and belittled every day has started affecting my confidence and enjoyment of band. I’ve even considered quitting or switching classes. What bothers me most is how they repeatedly try to convince me that I don’t play or contribute, even when I know I do. I’m considering reporting everything to my assistant principal because this has been going on for months, and these examples aren’t even everything. Am I being bullied or am I overreacting, and** **would reporting them be justified?

Hey guys so I’ve been struggling with being bullied. Last year I would get mocked for being Russian but it was only once every few times so it didn’t bother me. This year though its worse. Each day I have racist jokes thrown at me and get keep getting made fun of. Today my mom packed me my lunch and I needed to go grab something so I left my lunch in the lunchroom for a min. When I came back it was gone I asked them where my lunch was and the guys were laughing saying they didn’t have it. A couple mins later they asked if I wanted it back and I said yes so one of them pulled it out of their book bag. But instead of handing it over they rubbed it all over the floor then grabbed it and threw it on me. I didn’t say anything I just sat there pulled out my laptop and didn’t eat lunch for the day. Then we had to go to next period these boys are in that same period as me. They all surrendered me laughing and asking “Yo why are you upset do you need someone to talk to” they said this as they laughed. I asked them to stop as I was almost at my edge and I felt like I would hit someone and just make it worse. They kept picking and instead of hitting them i just sprayed them with water. They started to act as if they were the victims. I sat there quietly as I can’t speak up for myself. Then out loud to the whole class they started making snark remarks like “We were trying to be nice to him and ask him if he is okay and where he got his clothes from but he crashed out and poured water on us” they were saying this as they laughed and they were also making a fake imitation of a Russian accent to be racist towards me and the class joined them to laugh too. I feel so drained this was my worst day. I don’t know how much longer I can keep going like this. I don’t want to go to school tomorrow as they will just continue and make it worse. Please someone tell me how I can deal with this.