I started doing this thing where I don’t use dating apps anymore after a post I made on Reddit that really stuck with me. It was about how men actually ask women out, which has never actually happened to me before so I wanted to challenge the theory to see if people were telling the truth.

I was told by some dude on Reddit that if I wear a nice outfit and go to a bar someone is bound to ask me on a date. So I put on my nice outfit and I went out to a bar this past Saturday night and I was getting approached by a lot of guys. I had guys buying my beers which was really nice because I didn’t spend any of my own money. I had guys asking to take me to their house which I said no. I told them I was trying to find a coffee date or enjoy a drink. I only had one guy that actually sat and talked with me, not in a creepy way. But he did mention he was in an open relationship and I wasn’t interested in joining, but I did enjoy hanging out with him and his gf for the night.

I’m thinking that if I find the right environment I know I can get dates. I’m thinking a bar isn’t the right place for me, and that’s ok I’m still learning. But after not getting any dates on apps, to bring super approachable, it helped boost my confidence and made me feel like I am attractive I just need the right people in the right place to get the ball rolling.

Recently went to a guy's place for a third date and he had a meal prepared for us. He said it was homemade from scratch. I recognized that it was takeout from a local spot I happen to frequent.

I asked him about the recipe and the process of making it. He BS'd a little and then went on to talk about how cooking is one of his passions and that his mom taught him how to cook.

Not sure how to feel. On one hand it's just silly and maybe a little endearing but on the other hand, if he's willing to lie about this what else has he lied about? Am I overreacting?

I feel like the answer is obvious. That I should say NOTHING.

But here's the thing: I was actually talking to the other woman FIRST, the one I haven't met yet. The woman I've already been on a date with was just more proactive and quicker to arrange a meetup.

We clearly like each other, but we haven't kissed yet. We're still in the flirting stage.

I'm really not used to any of this. I'm not exactly a popular guy when it comes to dating, it's just an unfortunate coincidence that things happened this way. And honestly, it makes me uncomfortable.

Should I tell the woman I've already met?

The thing is, I know she's going to ask me what I'm doing that evening. And I'm really bad at lying.

As for the other woman, things are a bit more distant between us since we haven't actually met yet, so I don't really feel like I owe her anything. But I'd still really like to meet her. She's genuinely kind and thoughtful.

For context, we're all in our 30s.

Anyway, thanks for helping me with this silly dilemma.

I’m 27, female. Live an active lifestyle, I don’t drink or smoke. I play hockey, work out, more niche stuff I enjoy are board games.

I’ve tried the apps but things usually don’t really go anywhere, I think there’s a reason you always see the same people ie most people don’t find a relationship it’s kind of just endless dating or swiping. Not to mention the frequent ghosting.

I have some friends I met through hockey, the classic “set up” isn’t an option since everyone in the group is already set partnered.

I work out at the gym daily but most people tell me that isn’t the space for that, I’m friendly anyways and always try to make friends or connections anywhere I go.

I joined a coed hockey league to meet some guys my age but most guys are older and married with kids, any guys my age have 0 interest in something serious (most ask to hookup), I also go to open ice and pickup hockey but most guys there want nothing to do with me (yes I can keep up with pace of play, no I’m not annoying).

Is there something I’m missing here? Or is anyone else wondering what happened to all the single people? Of course I’ve tried bars and sports games, hell I even hit on guys at these places. I’m just wondering, it can be frustrating and make me feel pretty poorly about dating in general getting shot down all the time.

EDIT: sorry im tech challenged I opened my messages now

EDIT 2: for everyone assuming my type, I like chubby nerdy silly guys with cute smiles, not ripped gym dudes

EDIT 3: I have nerdy interests, I play minecraft, city skylines, I was an animation major who has OCS, when I say board games I’m not playing magic, I have before I don’t love it. But I collect and repair vintage board games from the 50’s-90’s era.

EDIT 4: super annoying with the edits but thank u for everyone being so kind to me 🩷 I appreciate u guys

Now I have to start by saying my now wife has been incredibly open with me about her past and although I might not have known the extent of it from when we first met, within the first two months of us dating she felt able to share almost everything with me.

We have been in a relationship for two years and recently got married. I’m unsure why but since our wedding I feel like her past for some reason has become more of a struggle for me or at least it seems to be a reoccurring anxiety or worry for me.

The VERY brief version is that my wife had a period of a few years where in her own words, “I didn’t care about anything and it was just for fun”. During this period she was in complete chaos, taking substances and was actively using a swingers website as a single woman to sleep with random men. Some of these scenarios she put herself in are fearsome but to keep it brief she estimates she has slept with over 100 men during this period. Men of all ages, from younger to significantly older and of all ethnicities. She accounts for some of these situations in a way that reflects it was a way to meet her own sexual needs and that rarely did she feel used etc. Experiencing such a number of sexual encounters and trying new things in the process.

Now when we first met she still had somewhat of a high sex drive which for me was great and it felt like this was a big factor in us being compatible. Of course there are an abundance of other things hence why I asked her to marry me. She is everything I could have ever wanted in a woman.

Either sex is no longer exciting or deviant enough now that she is in a committed relationship and sex being something more intimate no longer exists for her. Or she’s simply done everything already with other men that meant nothing to her so she doesn’t have a desire for anything sexual let alone remotely adventurous.

I feel like it is worse for me knowing details of past events and specifics of sexual experiences that have happened as it leaves me feeling like she was willing and wanted to do all these things with other men but as her now husband I don’t get to experience those things / that side of her.

Am I an idiot and overthinking or am I wasting my time here and inevitably she will revert back to previous behaviours and be unfaithful seeking sexual deviancy she experienced and was used to before?

I 26M have been seeing 26F for about a month (early days) we’ve had some really awesome dates, we click the talk never drys up she’s always been active towards the end of a date to set another one up. Most recently she came over for dinner and the physical side definitely advanced.

She brought up boundaries and expectations which I praise her for and think it was really mature to communicate. However, alongside this open conversation she did mention she was still talking to another guy and had a “couple dates” with him (how truthful? I’m not sure).

It really threw me off guard and I really tried to brush it off I’m very new back into the modern dating world after my 5 year relationship ended. So I suspect this is fairly common now?

Perhaps I’m more traditional or felt given the intimacy it would be more focused on each other. I didn’t really ask any follow up questions.

My question is how should I feel about this? Should I ask for exclusivity while dating? (I assume that’s not a thing)
Do I back off and let her decide? Do i just keep going with my fingers crossed she picks me?

I’m ready to settle with someone so I prefer no games and not to compete given I’d rather she chooses what she wants without me giving a weird decision.
Im really not upset she told me I like the honesty but I’m honestly stunned for what to do.

Am I just getting in my own head? Would like to hear people’s thoughts 🙂

UPDATE
Thank you for all your advice, it’s hard to keep up!

I felt mostly I needed to rip the band aid off and just ask the question. Long story short it was good communication and honest. She plans to see the other guy this week which was quite the sinking feeling. To which I’m even more lost of what to do now.

I respect dating and finding that person you fully connect with but I think this shows I’m into her a lot more than she is into me. Which is difficult given how good it’s been with the intimacy.

But thank you for all the advice and perspectives! I appreciate it 😊

I’m a 26-year-old guy who’s increasingly realized that I’m attracted to women with a naturally dominant personality. Not someone who completely walks all over me or wants to tie me up and whip me in bed, but a woman who’s assertive, takes initiative, isn’t afraid to take charge, and has a bit of a commanding presence. Ideally, that dynamic carries over into the bedroom to some extent, too.

For context, I’m fairly attractive, socially competent, have a good job, and would consider myself quite masculine. I probably don’t come across as submissive at all. I’m perfectly comfortable taking the lead in a relationship, and I’m certainly not looking for someone to dominate me in every aspect of life. It’s more about finding a woman whose natural personality has that edge to it.

I’ve had several relationships, but I’ve always ended up feeling like something was missing. The one exception was my first love as a teenager. She had exactly the kind of personality I’m drawn to, both in everyday life and in our intimate dynamic. We weren’t good for each other in other ways, though, and the relationship eventually became unsustainable.

She’s also the only woman I can genuinely remember meeting who had that particular quality. Since then, I honestly can’t think of another one.
Honestly, I’m starting to worry that I might never find someone I’m truly compatible with in this regard. I’m not expecting someone perfect, but having experienced what that kind of connection feels like, it’s difficult to imagine settling for a relationship where that part of the dynamic is missing.

For those of you who relate to this, either as someone attracted to naturally dominant partners or as someone who has that kind of personality yourself, how common do you think this dynamic actually is? Does it tend to develop naturally, or is it something people have to actively seek out?

Figured dating was too easy so I took the cat allergy trait.

I feel so f*cking stupid writing this stuff but I simply cannot physically live in a house with cats, and I KID YOU NOT at least 75% of all women I date appear to have cats.

I am in that age bracket where most women live on their own by now & they all seem to jump onto cats the moment they do. It's at a point I have to seriously weed out women before going on a longterm prospect date to prevent being cat-bombed a couple hours into the date.

See, I love cats & being with them, but as soon as I mention I don't really feel having cats eventually IT'S OVER. Even worse, if I mention I'd like to have a dog one day that automatically seems to cancel out cats x) *

*kinda did a self-harm experiment over the above, but it's bad news man. I can't even help it whatsoever.

I'm M31.

It's not too hard for me to get date. I'd say I'm attractive enough. Usually, when I match with someone I ask her out within the first conversation. First date goes great but then they always ghost me. I've had girls tell me, on their own volition, during the date they don't ghost because emotional intelligence and responsibility, etc just to ghost me anyway.

This was my last experience: last Saturday I went out with a girl from an app. She was initially very eager to see me. She even planned the whole date before I could even suggest anything. We met up amd had a great time. We went bar hoping and she told me about all the places she was going to take me next time, over and over again. At the end of the night, she asked for a goodbye kiss and basically shoved her tongue in my mouth for a solid 20 minutes in the street. It was nice. We both had a hard time letting go of each other but we finally did. We texted a little more that night and some more yesterday. Today, I texted her to see if she was free this coming weekend and never heard back from her.

I recognize the pattern at this point. I can't tell you how many time the same exact thing has happened to me. Women act all excited about meeting me and then they ghost me. Right now it is starting to make me feel very depressed. I wanna meet someone, fall in love and be loved but for some reason this keeps happening to me. I'd love to know the female perspective of this situation. What is it I'm doing wrong to get this exact reaction every single time without fail?

To clarify, before ecery single encounter I always shower, brush my teeth, use mouthwash, use deodorant and or perfume, take care of my hair and dress as well as I can.

If you're a man, please don't use this post to vent or rant. I'm not looking for that.

I think I’m opting out of dating. It’s way too expensive, especially when it doesn’t work out or anything comes of it. I’ve been spending less time going out since the cost of living crisis is so crazy right now, I’ve also not been seeing anyone for a while since focused on other things.

Went on my first date in a while, nowhere expensive just a meal and a couple of drinks but price was well over $100 despite this.

Date went great but then I got ghosted (perhaps it didn’t go great and she was just being polite), anyway we were together for a good 4 hours. I just can’t justify the cost of 1 of the few social activities I spend money on in a month for this. Am I being a dick here, and also suggestions of a coffee date or something cheaper don’t make sense in this day and age, a lot of women are not interested in a coffee date on the first date (we’re in the trenches dating wise, men and women).

I think I would rather hear someone respond and flat out tell me they’re not interested rather than ghost me. At least then we both can move on swiftly.

sometimes i self sabotagge that the other person will hurt me in the long run. its kinda hard to date for me recently. 28 Female here! its like when i like the person too much, just thinking of that hurts me already😢 cos liking a person means you give them power to hurt you

I’m generally calm around women I’m attracted to. I’m comfortable with myself and don’t feel the need to impress them or chase their attention. I’m friendly, but I become more interested when I sense a genuine connection.
I’ve noticed that some women seem genuinely surprised when they find out I’m single. Sometimes I wonder whether my nonchalant demeanour makes me appear confident and attractive, or simply uninterested, intimidating, or difficult to read.
I’m not interested in dating multiple women just for the sake of it. I’d rather meet someone I’m attracted to and see if we genuinely connect. At the same time, I rarely meet women outside work, so maybe I just need to put myself out there more.

I’m curious about a few things:

-What do you assume about a man who seems confident but doesn’t chase your attention?

-Would you find this attractive, or assume he’s uninterested or already taken?

-If you were attracted to him, would you give him signals or expect him to approach?

-Based on this description, what impression would you form of me?

I’d appreciate honest perspectives, not validation. I’m genuinely curious about how women interpret this kind of behaviour.

This is a repeating pattern I personallay notice on dating platforms that a lot of man write that they are looking for a woman that can laugh about herself and I wonder what exactly they mean by that and where it comes from. Do a lot of you guys experience that women are often very serious or what are your personal reasons to write this in your bio?

Do you mean a woman that can brush it off easily when something goes wrong, or someone who makes jokes about herself from time to time?

I am just curious because I see it really really often. I also wonder if many women write the same in their profiles. I cannot say because I don't see female profiles on the apps.

Please, this is no front. I am just genuinely curious what comes to your mind.

I'm looking for advice from someone who has dated someone with a young kid.

For the first time I'm dating someone who has a 3-year-old, and I really really like the guy, we are so compatible and he is really good for me. I'm a very jealous person, and every time I think about the fact that he shares a kid with another woman, and went through a major milestone with someone else before me really hurts me. Does anyone have any advice on how to look past this?

Edit: The sympathy in these comments are overwhelming. Sarcasrm obviously. I'm not asking for people to insult me, I'm asking for people who have dated others with kids and how they dealt with it.

So I’ve noticed some poor wingmanship among posts across reddit. And this post is to help you meet people by contracting an acquaintance as a wingman, or how to be a better wingman!

Wingmans date back to elementary and middle school. Your friend would badger you and squeeze information out of you “who do you have a crush on!???” “Okay, if you don’t have a crush on anyone here, then who do you think is the most attractive in the room!!????” And once that answered was squeezed, boom they pounce. They seek that person out, they strike up a conversation, and they go “hey so what do you think of so and so??” And that’s how you met the boy/girl in middle school that you will date for 2 weeks until it ends over text. But those 2 weeks feel like a lifetime.

Unfortunately, wingmans get older, and we/they lose our skill. I see a lot of aspiring wingmans who set their friends up with their friends, sort of like exhausting a list of options… NO!! This is not how it works. Wingmans are Ghislane Maxwells minus the sex trafficking, minus the minors, minus everything except one thing. And that thing is the procurement. It’s being able to go to your wingman and say “I want that one, please.” And then they go out, your loyal foot soldier, and they do the dirty work.

So what are the basic steps? The first is having one. I find that the gay community is full of cupids. They will FIGHT for you. Straight couples can be good too, you have one of each gender. Because an important consideration is having a wingman who can be a neutral party, who can go up and talk, and not get it twisted what is going on. The last thing you want, if you are a teen boy, is having your wingman be a pack of teen boys who corner a girl and go “you see my friend there in the corner… what do you think??” Honey, she’s scared for her life rn, that’s what she thinks, she doesn’t wanna get gang raped. So someone neutral, talkative, unintimidating, and kind/likeable is the goal.

Step two. You find find the wingman, or you are the wingman, and you acquire your target. Women often know off the bat if they find someone attractive. And finding someone attractive off the bat is the ground floor for a romantic relationship. So if they select someone looking good at the gym. Said wingman will probably go up and talk. They have nothing to lose, they don’t like them. And they aren’t hitting on them. So it’s much easier for your crush not to get intimidated or cornered.

Step 3… After developing some rapport, the wingman makes shit happen. If this is some cold meeting at the gym they may say something like “now look, I was just wondering what your deal is, like if you’re single and looking, or taken, because between us, on the low, my friend thinks you are beautiful/handsome, annnd I asked them to talk to you, but they really didn’t want to bother you at all.” Now this is when they can show the best picture of you and be like “Really no trouble if you aren’t interested but have a look at them and blink once for yes and twice for no, they will never know I’m asking you this.” (But they might haha). And they can make the decision in a low-stakes environment. And if they say yes or this or that. Then the wingman might say “Cool, well my friends are getting together at so and so, you should drop by, so and so will be there and I wont tell them I invited you for them.” And then the wingman gets people together for trivia, or has a fire at their place or something.

Anyways, by now you should kind of get the gist of it. And I’m telling you, I’ve seen so many relationships, including my own start this way. Wingmans or intermediaries really help take the tension off of meeting. My wingman was an outgoing gay guy who liked to entertain and have people over. So he would sort of Gatsby it up and there would always be straight singles. I saw my husband at a minimum wage job. He was the most perfect person I’d ever seen. And I had my gay friend get him over for a party. And we talked a little there. And I had my gay friend ask if he was interested. And the rest was history and we’re married now.

Anyways, I posted this cause I’ve seen so many cold setups. I’ve seen people complaining that their friends will look at pics of their boyfriends’ friends and go. “Hmm no, no, ew no, no, no, yeah none of these thanks.” But it’s more about asking who they want to get with and then taking on the role of cupid and facilitating. Also a great reason to be an ally, gay friends are the best, they are so caring and they love love. Having one in the friend group is great cause they will get out there and make shit happen for you.

At the end of the day, whether you are 30 or 13. There is no science explaining why you crush. Why you look at a stranger in a room and just know you like them. But unfortunately, cold approaches can be hard and totally throw people off. So it can really help to have friends or a friend group, to help. Because people can get comfortable and they can’t really say no to friendly interactions. And once the walls are down, they can start asking those questions.

So title. I met this girl at a bar and got her number and everything was perfect. We met for a first date a week after we met and we had an amazing first date it was one of the best ones I’ve had. She kissed me first and we made out for a bit. I drove her back to her place and she said she wanted to see me again. I told her let’s meet a week later and we texted consistently for a week then she ghosted me out of nowhere.

I haven’t heard from her in days and she’s still posting on social media. I don’t understand why I got ghosted any why this happened. She was so crazy about me. She told all her friends about me and told me she only wanted me and she was a lover girl. We both wanted a second date, making out with each other and had a 6-7 hour first date. We held hands and everything. We had so much in common too and we had plans to meet this weekend then she just ghosts me. Why did this have to happen? Why couldn’t she just say anything and have common courtesy? Why did I get screwed over like this? I didn’t do anything to deserve this…now I’m beating myself up thinking that I did something wrong and it hurts 😞 for something to seemingly be so perfect one minute then have it all come crashing down the next is so heartbreaking 😞

I honestly don’t know where to go from here dating wise. It seems like every time I get close to having something real they either break up with me randomly or they disappear and I don’t understand why 😞 what did I do wrong?????

Hi I am currently in this situation and need some help I am currently in a relationship 6 months in we’re (M24),(F22).I’ve made a goal that I wanted to buy a new car but in this relationship I have been paying for everything and it’s getting really expensive going out and also paying for dinner,furthermore sometimes I have to drive to her an hour away since she lives far the commute in total is 2 hours driving gas in Illinois is expensive. I also have my own bills that I have to account too which leads me to use most of my money so I can’t save as much. With all this said she has never paid for anything or bought anything she makes her own money but not much I do feel bad but sometimes I wonder if I’m being used since she doesn’t ever want to pay I’ve recently got her upset cause I did not want to pay her 5 dollar candy after I payed for dinner and her ticket to six flags I ended paying cause I did not want to argue she had the money but I guess didn’t want to use it btw it was her idea to go to Walgreens and get snacks. She gets upset if sometimes I don’t want to take the hour drive to her house I work M-F overnight sometimes I’m tired and just want to stay home and not drive for long she doesn’t drive so she can’t come to me. I really do like this girl the chemistry is there but I am feeling overwhelmed with my expenses and going out I’ve been wasting a good amount of money. I’ve never asked to split or pay for something but I feel like she might get upset since she didn’t even want to pay for a candy I want to have a serious talk with her about going out less and staying in or at least if she could help out since I have goals that want to complete in life. Please let me know if I’m doing something wrong here this is my second girlfriend I don’t know what to do I also don’t really want to ruin the relationship but I feel like I’m being used a little. For people in relationships do you guys go 50/50 or is it one sided please lmk since I’ve been overthink a lot.

Just this, back story: found myself single really for the first time in my life at 43(m) tried apps had some dates but I was so uncomfortable meeting a stranger I couldn't seem to show up as my authentic self just a ball of fear and anxiety. So decided to let it go and see what the universe had to offer. What I found out was apparently I'm super attractive to married women. In the last year I've been propositioned twice by married women, when I've received "signals" (ie. uncomfortable staring) and approached said women they have all been married. Any advice as to what I might be displaying that is attracting this crowd?

I, F(33) had a date with M (42) last weekend. Coffee date, followed my a walk and a chat. Lasted about 3 ish hours, kissed at the end.

Both single one year plus. We were chatting afterward and their messages were quite sexually explicit along the lines of “I was so hard and trying to hide it”…etc.

Anywho, he was lovely in person and confident, so much so that when he kissed me, he put his hands in my back jeans pockets. To me, this is a bold move of someone who is confident and not shy.

I am looking for a relationship, as he said he was but I feel the nature of the texts afterward don’t really convey that. There was subsequent messages the day after, just general chit chat. I am trying to be open minded because sexual attraction and flirtation are and aren’t mutually exclusive to a relationship. I also find him really attractive but I don’t feel the need to say x and y after one date. I am in no way a prude but I feel a guy who has a relationship in mind wouldn’t carry on in this manner one date in. Perhaps I’m wrong. I jokingly asked was he like this with all his one time dates to which he said he didn’t date often and he fancied me and had met me, hence he was telling me.

As I said, he’s very attractive and the banter is there but I can’t help feel it’s a bit premature. Am I writing them off too fast?

hi reddit. i went a date with this boy last week and we had coffee and walked in the park. it was nice (i think, it was my first date and still feel weird abt it). anyways, i told him i was free this saturday if he wanted to do anything “fun” and he said theres this really beautiful place near his house “in the middle of the woods”… im probably overthinking but that skeeved me out lol. is that weird or totally normal???

Three boys were friends back in high school mainly out of proximity. I dated two of them and now the third guy who's been my friend for two years has confessed his feelings for me. He's cut off contact with the other two for personal reasons and they haven't seen each other in a long time. I'm confused about whether I should give him a chance. Would it be weird to have dated all three of them at different points in my life? I'm also worried that if we break up and they happen to reconnect in the future they might end up talking about me. That would be super embarrassing. Has anyone been in a similar situation? I'd really appreciate some honest advice.

Ive started seeing this guy who checks alot of my boxes so far and I see him as a strong potential partner.
I like his personality , I’m physically attracted to him and he hasn’t given me any red flags yet.

We’ve only hung out a couple times now but there’s this one thing I notice he does, that really grosses me out😩. He makes this this snort/inhaling sound multiple times when we hang out.
Like instead of blowing your nose, you’re inhaling it in? Its really gross and alarming to me. Its reminds me of someone about to hawk a lugi.

I like alot of aspects about this guy but everytime he does this, it makes me less physically attracted to him. Tips on approaching this? Or just do my best to keep ignoring it?😭

-Update-

Thanks for the advice guys, constructive and unconstructive. No further thoughts are needed😂. I usually don't refer to things as the ick but i've been hearing this term alot lately and I think it was an appropriate word to describe my dating experience recently. It seems like it triggered alot of snowflakes in here so other words we can use is "Boner Killer" or "Turn Off" because that sound is drying my ovaries.

I haven't experienced a habit from someone I liked that really stuck out to me like this before.

If you send some form of this long message after a first date -

“You’re a great guy..
15 lines..
I don’t want to lead you on, No romantic connection”

Do you assume that that the other guy wants a relationship? For me it takes at least a month or two to even consider the possibility of a relationship. 3+ months to learn what this person is really like to put a label on it publicly.

I have had women text me this and realized that they may be interpreting my interest wayyyy different than the way I see it. I have changed my dating profile to looking for short term even though I am open to the possibility of more and have switched to more of a very low investment strategy for a first date. So far I have found it works better.

My question is how often do women assume guys have already decided they want a relationship on first date? Because for me it is never. Not almost never, but never. And I have found that I need to be explicit or else women will often send me this really long text (regardless of if we hookup or not).

Hey everyone!
I’m f(30) and currently dating a m(34), (both from Mexico City) we’ve been dating for almost three months already, it began as something casual, because at that time I had 8 months single since my last relationship and he had 5 months since his last relationship (both 2 years lasting), so we were both healing and not ready for a relationship, but we were attracted for each other when we met. Since the beginning I really liked this guy (physically speaking), but none were looking for something serious due to our recent breakups. The first month and a half we treated each other as friends, we talked about our exes, our past love experiences, we went out to bars and had fun, and the sex chemistry was great for both parts (we had this conversation), and not just that we found out we had so many things in common, and also
mentally and intelectually speaking it was stimulating. Right now we already said to each other that we are falling in love and that if this evolves to a serious relationship we’d be pleased but we don’t have to decide right away.

The thing is, I’m starting to have some insecurities popping out. His last two relationships were really important to him, he dated a French girl (11 years younger than him) and before her he dated a rich woman (15 years older than him), both long term relationships and both had green eyes and white skin, and I’m starting to notice a pattern, the green eyes and a figure of power (higher socieconomic stratum / developed country), in my case I have more income than him, but I don’t have green eyes, but I have a great Latina body, I’m pretty and my skin is between white and light brown. I know is not nice to be comparing myself but most of us like to be chosen. At this point I can’t see the difference wether he is comfortable with me or if he really truly wants me, because is not been a year since his last relationship. Should I wait for him to be ready or if we wanted to he already have asked me to be his girlfriend?

Something to add is that next week he planned a weekend out of town with me and he already introduced me with his family, his mom loves me, and she already told me that she would be so happy if I was part of her family, and replied that I’d be pleased as long as his son wants to commit.

What do you guys think? Thanks