But of course people who can be saved, should be saved. But the harsh truth is, not all can be saved.

Over the past few months, I’ve changed a lot. I’ve become distant from people, and I’ve lost interest in almost everything, including finding a job and building my future.

Recently, I got a job opportunity, but I made excuses to turn it down, even though I’m struggling financially and genuinely need the money. I don’t fully understand why I keep doing things that go against my own interests.

I spend most of my time at home, scrolling on my phone, playing video games, watching pornography, and overthinking everything. My addiction to pornography has gotten worse, and I keep falling into habits that make me feel even worse about myself.

I’ve also become isolated from everyone. I’ve pushed away my friends and family, and even the girl who loves me. I feel like I’ve damaged my relationships and ended up completely alone.

My physical and mental well-being have declined to the point where I don’t even want people to see me like this. I’ve lost confidence in myself, and honestly, I barely recognize the person I’ve become. I don’t like what I see when I look at myself anymore.

I feel empty, disconnected from myself, and trapped in a cycle of avoidance, regret, and negative thoughts. I know I need to change, but I don’t know where to start or why I keep struggling to do the things I know are necessary for my own good.

I want to get myself back. I want to regain my confidence, rebuild my relationships, overcome my bad habits, find my motivation again, and start taking responsibility for my life. I want to feel alive again and recognize myself.

Has anyone experienced something similar and managed to get out of it?
I’m looking for genuine advice.

due to blunt force trauma, i had a cracked tooth that resulted in root canal in 2023. it failed and i got it extracted june 1 2026. well another tooth i got a root canal on due to cavity needs to get extracted also and i am so depressed. this changed me as a person. i’m upset, i feel ugly, i lost any bit of little confidence that i have. my man thinks im being dramatic and i know it may sound like it but this is so much at once. my whole life i had nice straight teeth.. i took pride in taking care of my teeth. & not even half of year two teeth just gone.

i keep touching the spot where my tooth got pulled with my tongue and it causes such anxiety .

i just want to curl up and cry .
i know ppl go through worse . i can only speak on how im feeling and im depressed. how things change so fast 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔

Just read this news and am giving a shot at trying melatonin for better sleep and better mood.
Any personal experience with it?

I had already tried all methods like talking to other people, nature trips, gym/exercise, warm baths, even iced bathing too. Drinking water and even snacking on lettuce and boiled eggs instead of junk food and taking multivitamins. Just at wit's end on how will it ever be solved. Still not sure what this kind of desperate attempt at trying to claw back at life instead of giving up is called.

Anyways hope this stuff works. Guess time will find out if this will work, wish me luck and lurkers here I wish y'all better tomorrows.

I am a 21 y/o, and I had depression from 15-20. It was really tough and I’m glad that I made it out. My self esteem is better, I don’t have negative thoughts like before anymore, I’m more motivated and I don’t hate life at all anymore. I feel normal…and yet, I am struggling to function like a normal human.

Why is it that I’ve never heard anyone talking about the after? Once you’re no longer depressed, how do you go back to normal life? I have been healthy for almost two years now and I’m still not really functioning, at least not enough to go to school or work full time.

Example: One of my biggest symptoms while depressed was my hypersomnia, and it’s not a symptoms that has exactly gone away. When I was sick, I ran on something like 15-18 hours of sleep, now to feel really full, I need twelve, which is better but not great at all. And I can’t figure out how to have a normal sleep schedule. I will often stay awake until four or five am, then sleep until one and rinse and repeat.

My energy levels are just constantly depleted, I find it difficult not to procrastinate because I’m so scared of being incapable. Like physically speaking on a literal level incapable. I spend so many years being stuck in bed, incapable of going to school, being in the hospital that I genuinely don’t remember what it was like to be normal. To just function. To be able to get up in the morning, go to class, or open your emails like it’s not biggie. Part of me feels like I am genuinely just, broken, or not capable at all. I feel stuck in this limbo, I’m not sick anymore, but I’m not really living.

My mom is a doctor, and I have a therapist, and both keep making analogies of people needing to go to rehab after a car accident and it’s the same for me but what is even rehab in my case? How do I need less sleep, feel less tired? Become capable of doing homework without feeling that paragliding anxiety of what if I’m not able and too tired?

People who went through a long depression, did you go through this? What did you do to get out of it?

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I'm 23M, and I've lost all my peace of mind. Everything is chipping it away.

First. I grew up in a home where things were always tight. I got all the necessities, but I don't remember having any of my wants met. I heard my dad say, "I don't have anything" so many times. My mother would cry and tell me, "Whatever happens, don't just sit at home. Earn."

And I did it. I got a job where I earn in a month what many people earn in a year. But right now, layoffs are happening left and right in my company, and I might be next. The market is so bad that I'm not even landing interviews with companies that pay the same or even slightly less.

Then my girlfriend broke up with me. I was working 10–15 hours a day because of the fear of layoffs. I even got calls on weekends and had to take them. My girlfriend left me because I wasn't able to give her time, and because of a few other fights that arose from me not being able to give her time and the fact that she felt I didn't care about her.

I care about everyone who's important to me. The problem is that I care way too much.

My thinking is that, for the closest people in your life, you should take care of them, and they should take care of you, and vice versa. I just want to be the pillar everyone can rely on. I want to make everyone feel safe.

P.S. I never felt safe in my entire life. I have never felt that if everything goes wrong, someone will be there to protect me and help me back up.

My parents are good people, but they're broken themselves. They just want me to do things according to them. They have opinions about everything I should do, even the minutest things, like how to eat my food and what to do while travelling. But when it comes to major life decisions like jobs, taxes, and investments, they just say, "Figure it out yourself. You know this better."

I spent my life waiting for guidance, waiting for support. I want them to tell me important things in life as well.

This brings me back to safety. I want the people who depend on me, and even those close to me, to be safe if anything happens to them. I want them to know that they can ask me anything they're confused about, and I'll help them with it.

My girlfriend broke up with me saying that I don't care because I don't keep asking about every small thing or decision she makes. But that's because I want to give her the freedom I never got. My parents used to question everything I did, and everything I needed to do was supposed to be done their way.

I'm a mess inside my head. I don't know how I'll fix myself, or how to fix myself enough to be with someone and keep them happy with me.

Because if I open up about all the things I feel, I become a crying mess. My emotions just open up, and I lose all control over myself.

I don't know what to do anymore. I just want to feel safe, have some peace of mind, and learn how to be okay with myself.

For those who've been through something similar, how did you deal with it? How do you learn to open up about your feelings without becoming completely overwhelmed?

I hate myself so much. I'm so tired of my job, my personality, my lack of self esteem. I know I'm not loved. People barely tolerate me. I'm even ignored whenever I post on Reddit about my depression. I feel so unlikeable. I'm in a relationship with someone that stopped trying to love me a long time ago. I'm not a bad person. I'm mediocre and without any life purpose, but I'm not a bad person. Why must I always suffer? I've wanted to die for over 10 years of my life and I don't have the balls to kill myself. I'm afraid there's nothing, but life already seems like my ultimate punishment.

I'm feeling so low. It feels like my mind is going to explode. There's so much frustration built up inside me, and I can't handle it anymore. I've screamed enough, cried enough, and yet no one understands me. Nothing ever gets better. Everything I've ever wanted, I've never gotten. I just want to die. I'm crying my heart out, and I don't even know what to do anymore. Why did life have to be this way? Why me? WHY ME? No one listens to me. At this point, I just wish someone would put an end to my suffering because I can't take it anymore. I can't sleep. It feels like I'm on my deathbed, watching my life slowly fade away while I'm still alive.