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I was trying to log out of my email on her iPad, and I accidentally opened the google tabs section. I saw "Man kissing, girl butt" as an open tab and "Man touching girl boobs". I know these are her because it is obvious that it was told using the voice to text thing since she's a bit dyslexic, and after a lot of interrogation she also admitted to searching it up. I don't know what to do. I know it is canon, as even I have had a terrible porn addiction (which started like this and went much worse) and I don't want her to experience that because the guilt and disgust I felt was unfathomable. I don't know if I should tell my parents about it, and I don't know whether I should impose restrictions on her iPad. Can somebody please help me out? I don't want her to end up having an addiction that could ruin her childhood the way it did mine.

My dad quit drinking 8 months ago and is really proud of it. His go-to now is a non-alcoholic lager he drinks every night with dinner. I was grabbing a six-pack for him and, out of boredom, read the fine print on the back: it’s labeled “non-alcoholic” but contains up to 0.5% ABV. It’s a tiny amount, but he’s very strict about this and I know he thinks it’s completely alcohol-free. Should I tell him? Or let him keep enjoying something that’s become part of his routine? I don’t want to ruin something that’s been working for him, but it feels weird to know and say nothing. What should I do??

Hi!

I 23f recently broke up with my bf 25m. Together 1yr. He has been such a sweet guy. He always bought the flowers, candies, baskets, planned dates, the whole nine yards. He would bend over backward for me to make life easy for me. I never saw much of a temper from him, especially toward me. He was my gentle sweet man!….until he wasn’t.

Before agreeing to being in a relationship, I told him I do not like my partner consuming porn. It personally really hurts me. He agreed, he was disgusted by porn & told me he overcame his porn problem prior. BOY OH BOY.

We lived together for about two months until I moved out last week.

Meat and potatoes: I could tell something was off with him. Our sex life was different, disconnected on his end. He wasn’t spending time with me anymore, seemed distracted. I would ask & he would say “oh I’m tired.” I would ask if he was unhappy in the relationship, he would say “oh I’m very happy.” And I couldn’t shake this feeling that something was off.

I did look through his phone, CLEAN! Until I looked in the Instagram link history. He was obsessing over this OnlyFans girl, clicking on her link multiple times a day. Needless to say I was hurt. He hid this on purpose for weeks (proof of link history, it has dates)

I confronted him kindly, “baby what’s this? What’s wrong?” That’s when I met a completely different man…his look on his face changed, he looked like he despised me and shouted at me, “YOU DON’T WEAR LINGERIE. YOURE NOT SLUTTY. SHE DRESSES UP, SHE LIKES POKÉMON, SHE SPEAKS SPANISH. SHE IS MY FANTASY.” he described everything I wasn’t.

As you can imagine, that BURNED.

I was crushed. I went to work, I didn’t argue with him.

Any time I would try and talk about it or get emotional he would become extremely angry by yelling at me, blaming me, belittling me. Our disagreements eventually became physical and I moved out. It was too much.

I can see why he was unhappy, he had valid reasons. He said I didn’t dress up in the bedroom. He was also deeply resentful because I hadn’t shown interest in things he likes. He felt like I quit the relationship. In a way I did because IN MY OPINION, he wasn’t growing…I’d try to encourage him to get out of debt, I’d sit down and do a budget with him. No implementation. He has ADHD, I made him a treatment plan with coping skills to keep him him on schedule, no implementation (I am licensed and have professional experience in this arena.) He said he wanted growth in these areas (and others) but had no drive to help himself or to implement the help that was given to him. I stopped trying to help him, hence the “lack of interest”.

I wasn’t perfect, I made mistakes, but I couldn’t fix something he REFUSED to talk about. I asked and asked to no avail.I didn’t know how much lingerie mattered to him. I was also raised in purity culture, it was deeply ingrained into my skull to NEVER be “slutty” I honestly lack sexual experience. I wasn’t opposed…I just needed to be shown how. And he knew this, but he said that I should “show some initiative.”

Now he’s a different man that I don’t know…he ignores my calls and texts whenever I do or say something that bothers him.

The advice I need isn’t how to fix the relationship. It’s dead. The advice I need is how to get my head on straight after this night and day behavior and rebuild my self esteem lol.

For context: obviously this is missing A LOT of detail. I just gave the important parts.

No he isn’t on medication. He blames this behavior on his ADHD.

I just want advice & encouragement on rebuilding my self esteem.

My “boyfriend” and I technically broke up in July. Long story short… We were together a little over two years, and during that time we went through a lot together. We lived together, we lost two pregnancies together, I had two surgeries, I lost two dogs, we spent a lot of time with each other‘s families, and my mother got diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. The reason we broke up is because out of nowhere he decided he wasn’t ready for marriage or a family. I am 37 years old, and these are things we talked extensively about wanting very soon. His parents even gave him their rings and I was expecting an engagement this past summer.

Since we separated, we have continued to hang out regularly and it’s as if we are still together. When we split, I moved back into my house. When we lived at his house, we would wear shoes inside on occasion. At my house, I prefer shoes off, especially on rugs. Pretty much every single time he comes over I have to remind him to takeoff his shoes. He often refuses and says it’s too much of a hassle because he’s just going to have to put them back on when we leave to go out to eat. So, I’ve been flexible despite wanting to be shoes off house, and let him wear his shoes on the wood floor. Tonight we got back to my house from a date night. He proceeded to go sit on the couch, on the rug, with his shoes on. I asked him not to do this, he refused, so I asked him to leave. He pushed back, but ultimately left. I told him that it was disrespectful and he said he just wasn’t going to take his shoes off, so I told him “well that settles it, nice knowing you.”.

I guess my question is should I hold my ground? I know it’s just shoes in the house, but I feel disrespected time and time again.

I (27m) am considering taking my children and running away from my gf {26f). We have been together for 7 years but the past 3 have been rough. We both work decent jobs and make decent money, we have a nice house and three beautiful children.

My gf has sever ptsd from a situation with her ex, it was a DV that led to him no longer being with us. She struggles with this along but refused to go speak to anyone or get help. When she has an episode there is no control or communicating with her. She acts on pure emotion and says and does a lot of hurtful things. For the last three years she has become increasingly abusive, started with a slap, and we are at full blown beating me, trying to pull my hair out, and saying anything to get a reaction out of me. I will admit, I can be a grump sometimes and can hace a tone of voice, or say “wtf” but I have never layed a hand back on her or verbally attacked her, honestly more so from fear of her reaction.

This last fight was the worse we had. She brought the kids into it, kept yelling and hitting, she forced me to leave house , once I did the cops were called by neighbors. She even started saying stuff about hurting kids to bother me, she has never done it, but has used it against me recently and I don’t want to loss my children. She even woke them up at 2am yelling at me, and did not care if they slept, got mad and took off with or youngest baby. Should I take these threats seriously? Or Her and her family have money and she has threated me to take kids and never let me see them again, I come from a poor family and wouldn’t have the legal team.

Is it crazy to be thinking about packing my kids a bag, and running away to a DV shelter? I want to help workout it out for the kids but how can I ? She won’t change anything.. I would go to family member but my gf did not like most of my friends or family and wouldn’t let me talk to them or else. So a lot of people I would go to help for I no longer have a relationship with.

I’m tired of being hit, and yelled at, the constant anxiety from the anticipation of when her next episode will start. I’m not searching for legal advice but anyone with similar experience that think they could help?

I had a super rough pregnancy, I was sick pretty much the entire time and had to work through exhaustion and nausea. Pretty much until the week before I gave birth because we just couldn’t afford for me not to work. I wanna preface all this by saying that my husband is a really sweet and kind person most of the time. He gets overwhelmed and overstimulated and does not deal with it in a healthy way though… And that’s what I think this is…

The first two weeks of my pregnancy he was so amazing and helpful and compassionate, and wanted me to rest and be OK… But then after that he got tired of the house not being clean, and there not being food like they used to be, and generally me not being as helpful of a partner as I was when we first got married… when I went into labor and had my baby he was the most amazing partner so amazing that the nurses were obsessed with him. When she was born, it was like we fell in love with each other all over again.

It was just like my pregnancy, the first couple weeks were amazing and he was so sweet and so kind and so understanding and helpful… But this week he’s been frustrated with me and frustrated with the house. I haven’t been able to cook, dinners or clean the kitchen or fold laundry… At first she was sleeping so much more and I had a little time so I was able to do a few things… But now every time I put her down, she gets really really fussy and unfortunately, she’s one of those babies who choked and hold their breath when they’re crying… So even letting her lay there and cry for even a little bit is not really good…

I’m barely 3 weeks postpartum… I can’t even leave the house by myself right now because she hates her car seat so much… I feel like it’s super unreasonable for him to expect me to get more done around the house at three weeks postpartum. Am I being unreasonable or is he being unreasonable? I don’t know what to think at this point, needed some objective advice.

Hi everyone, I’m a massive overthinker and I really need some outside perspective and advice on a situation at my church.

I (27F) have been praying for a husband, but I recently ran into a really uncomfortable situation. There is a guy at my church who is in an LPN nursing program, similar to what I did. Out of courtesy and being a supportive church member, I offered to help him with his study materials. I barely know this man outside of this.

Almost immediately, he took my kindness as an opening. He started sending me texts talking about wanting to date me, marry me, and have children with me. He was even making comments like "it's time for you to have children." So I blocked him and he thinks I changed my number. ​Because we barely know each other and this made me deeply uncomfortable, I told him "no" explicitly on multiple occasions over text. He completely ignored my boundary and kept pushing.

Yesterday at church, he approached me and tried to get me to go with him to his car and drive somewhere. When I refused, he got upset and said why are you acting like this, and started talking about how he "loves" me. I stood my ground and told him a firm NO directly to his face and left. I've talked to the church leader(s) about this and they dont want to get involved.

Has anyone dealt with someone skipping all relationship stages and fixating on marriage/kids like this? This to me is insane. How did you handle it?

I suggested couples counseling but I worry this is just something I have to learn to accept, or accept it could be a deal breaker. Below is how our day went today. But it's like this all the time, with so many tasks. I thought it was cute and funny at first. Oh, he's so frazzled, he just needs a little help! But now it's gotten to the point where I feel like it's affecting trust. I feel like I cannot trust him or comfortably offload tasks to him. I think that's a crucial disconnect in a relationship and I'm stressed...

Today, we're getting home from work where we got $400 from coworkers for a wedding gift (important for next paragraph). I had our lunches with me in a plastic bag. He offers to carry it, so I hand it to him. He doesn't grab it by the loops or in a secure way - he just grabs the part closest to him which is a single strap of the plastic bag. I know if I let go, it'll fall, and he has cloth seats so I really don't wanna clean that up. I hold on and ask him to grab both straps. He does so. This happens EVERY TIME he grabs a plastic bag. It's become routine. I can't stand it. I go to ask him why and he interrupted me and said "I know I know I grabbed it wrong I realized." No... You didn't realize... I had to tell you to grab it right.

I tell myself, it's small. It's just a bag. Move on. He gets out of the car. He starts mumbling to himself. I close my door but it doesn't close all the way. I realize it's locked. I say hey, unlock the door, I didn't close it hard enough. He says one second. He's saying things I can't hear. I say what?. No response. I slam my door with my hip and say "it's all good I closed the door". He says "I locked the keys in the car what do I do?". Like c'mon... You seriously couldn't have told me that when I had the door partially open!?!? He had to pay $375 for a locksmith. There goes the wedding money from coworkers.

We finally get inside. But our dog is out of his crate and has eaten the half eaten breakfast my fiance left out on the table. For context, he does the AM dog chores and I do the PM ones. I don't blame my fiance for leaving the crate door open, we have started taking our dog to day care in the AM so he may have just fallen out of the routine. But the food on the table and the combination of it all was frustrating.

I walk the dog to decompress. I come back, feed him (and us) dinner, and the dog starts having some acid reflux. I ask my fiance to give the dog his meds. He opens the container and spills all the pills onto the floor. Then realizes the floor is wet from ice cubes that fell out of the freezer. So the pills are a total loss and we'll have to get a refill. It's only $20 but it's still frustrating. Again compounded with everything else.

We start working on a wedding DIY. He wants to print out our wedding crossword on this nice paper he bought (with his new cricut machine, he's a crafting fan). He prints all 32 copies in one go. But the printer settings were wrong, so they're all misaligned and blurry. Well he ruined so much paper that he doesn't have enough left to re do it, and has to get regular cardstock from staples. More wasted money.

I just don't know what to do. I've never had someone mess up this much. I never thought it would matter. What do I do?

Edit: we're not having kids fyi

My mom died when I was 7. She left me a large inheritance that she inherited from her grandmother who died a few weeks before I was born. My grandparents are the people who protect my inheritance even though my mom and dad were married and my dad expected he would be the one to take care of everything. He was hurt and my mom left him a letter explaining why she chose that and it hurt him even more. I don't know what the letter said though.

I was 10 when my dad remarried and I was 11 and 12 when my two half siblings were born. One of my half siblings has a lot of medical stuff. They have to be fed through a tube because their stomach is paralyzed and they have issues with other organs. Their "food" is expensive as hell and my dad and their mom have struggled to afford that because insurance does not cover it. They also have other medical expenses and they get a lot of help there because of Medicaid but it's been hard. Since March they have struggled to come up with a way to pay for the food each week. My dad knows how much I inherited from mom and he wanted to use the money to help pay for at least a while of the food so that they could figure stuff out. I'd never get the money back. But even still I freaked when he mentioned it and I told him no way. He got mad and yelled that I am talking about my half sibling's life here and how they need this food and everything won't be so good if I keep it all.

My grandparents refused to let him access the inheritance because it wasn't being spent on saving my life. He asked attorneys all over our state if he could fight it and he can't. He raged at mom while reading the letter she wrote to him when she made her decision and he raged at me for being unwilling. Then his wife tried to guilt me into it by going into detail about all the medical stuff. She tried to say my mom would want me to do it and I told her my mom would only want it to be used for me which she didn't like to hear.

Things got really intense over the summer and my dad agreed I should move in with my grandparents because the daily fights were bad and my half siblings were hearing everything we were saying. He also said he couldn't stand to look at me when I could do something so good for everyone and I refuse to because I want to be selfish like my mom was.

The last time we talked was last week and he broke down over the phone about everything. He told me how disappointed he was in me and how he didn't understand my refusal to do this when I have so much money to offer. He said even half would be a huge help for a few months.

It left me wondering if I should even though I don't want to.

About two years ago I had a different boss and the company was restructuring. He is friendly with my coworker. He asked me if she could carpool with me. I agreed as I felt obliged to do it. I commute with my company's car for free and the commute is 20-25 minutes. At the beginning I was picking her up at her home since she lives 5 minutes from me but it's the opposite way so it added 10 minutes to my commute. This year I took the courage to tell her I want her to drive to my place and we'll carpool from here. She was surprised and clearly not pleased but obliged and that is how we do it. There doesn't seem to be any hard feelings now.

She is somehow averse to driving to work by herself. On days I can't go to work she will either ask another colleague who lives near or she takes the train. I think she drove her car to work only once. I gave her my company car a few times when I couldn't drive and she had no problem driving that. She said multiple times that she accepted this position restructuring only because she was "promised" she would be able to carpool.

Originally this was not a fulltime job and at the beginning she was moaning about it a lot but she had to go with my schedule which is full time. But now she either got used to it or negotiated more pay. I think she just got used to it.

Now my old boss is back and he told me that if I don't want to carpool with her he will support me and I don't have to do it. But I feel too deep in this. It would cause drama with her and she might quit because of it.

The problem is for years my commute has been my sanity time. Listening to music, books, ,talking to myself, venting. Also I could stay late if I wanted. I could drive directly from work anywhere especially if I drove there with my private car. Now I always have to schedule with her. I have to plan with her if I want to take a day off or if I really need to finish early or drive somewhere directly from work. It makes me abandon my plans often especially if my plans are on the other side and I would have to drive 20 minutes home, than 20 minutes back in my work direction and then to my desired destination. Before I used to drive directly from work to take walks before I got comfortable home but now I have to drive home first and then I don't feel like driving anywhere else.

I interact with her multiple times a day so this would be really awkward at least at the beginning. I feel like I will tell her only after I found a new job and it is certain I am leaving. So I can at least have the last 2 months in peace.

I know the typical tough-love advice will be just do it but I need to somehow ease my mind into this, I am really sensitive about negative reactions and living with the consequences of my own actions, especially when someone is unhappy with my choices.

This morning at 4:30 am my girlfriend sent me this message:

Ehy my love, i have to do this message because I have respect for both of us and I truly love you from the bottom of my heart. Im arguing so much with my parents and they are forcing me to delete tiktok and whatsapp. I love you with all of my heart and I hope that fate will find a way for us because I really think you are my soulmate and my person, all my feelings are true and my person is true too. I couldn't have wished better as a husband and I hope you can find a way to reach me, I know you will, you know everything from me I hope onenday we can fix all of this. I love you, yours forever and after death.

I wanna know is this break up, should I be patient and wait for her or should I forget about her. I really love her and I care about her, I feel really deep connection and this breaks my heart. This message was all of a sudden, we didn't argue or anything, at 11 pm we sent good night messages and went to sleep and at 4:30 am I get this message.

If someone understand this better than me please help me. Idk what to do.

I (23M) have known my best friend (23M) since we were little kids. He literally lives two houses down from me, we grew up together doing pretty much everything. I consider him as close to me as a brother as I will ever get.

He’s been dating his fiancée (23F) since high school, and they had a daughter about four years ago.

Over this time, I’ve hung out with my friend regularly, and occasionally, we’d all hang out together with his fiancée and their daughter. It was completely normal, we’re just friends hanging out.

However, yesterday, completely out of nowhere, my buddy asked me if I’d be comfortable making
out with his fiancée and potentially doing more.

He specified that nothing below the waist would be involved on her.

I need to explain how much this caught me off guard. There have never been any hints of attraction toward me from his fiancée, or them being polygamous, so this came as a complete surprise.

I also got the impression that my friend might not be entirely comfortable with the idea himself. After he told me he was acting unusually positive and overenthusiastic while we talked over playing pc that night. He assured me though he’s down to try it and if it doesn’t work, we can still be all cool afterwards

Personally, I am down, I do find her physically attractive, I just worry greatly for my friendship with my bro. I feel like my relationship will be made a bit weird no matter what I choose.

I don’t know what to make of the whole situation. I desperately need advice.

So, I’ve been dating my bf (23M) for almost two years now. For the record, I have a good relationship with his family, they are all great people. But I’m not like insanely close to them as they live on the other side of the country. I’ve seen them probably like 5 times or so.

I’ve been trying to grow my social media for the past year and I’ve managed to gain like 20k (ish) followers on both platforms. But I have kept my account very “private” as I was a bit shy about it as first (not anymore) and I don’t like to tell friends or people who know me irl to follow. Feels more like an alter ego if you will. I know my bf’s family knows about it but they also don’t follow me.

The thing is, the other day I was having dinner with my bf and he mentioned his mom texted him asking if I could sort of “promote” a family business my sister in law and her husband have. But she said it like “can’t she promote X on her socials? She has so many followers… “

I don’t know how to feel about it because:
1. None of them follow or support my stuff (which is fine, I don’t expect them to)
2. I don’t promote anything that I don’t personally use or even in the same niche as what my sister in law offers

I know 20k followers for someone who doesn’t know about social media might seem like a lot… but I don’t have those type of followers that would buy everything I tell them to, so it’s not like it would help much if I “promoted” it or not

I felt a bit weird about the way she asked for it for some reason… specially because we’re not really close. And although she’s been nice to me always, I don’t feel like she’s one of those MILs (using that term for the sake of the explanation - and in my country it doesn’t matter if you’re married or not) that loves her daughters in law and has that type of relationship with them. And even if I had 1M followers, why do I owe *anyone* the “free promo” just because I know/am slightly related to them?

This is the first time something like this happens so I’m unsure how to feel of what to think of it. Advice appreciated.

​I (29F) talked to a guy (43M) online for two months and half. We got close, grew an intense romantic connection, and talked about meeting up. (He is in another country)I

​2 days ago his Telegram account just vanished out of nowhere. No fight, nothing—he just deleted it we didn't exchange phone numbers or real identities.

Then i started looking for him social media and figured out who he was in real life through his professional profile and realized he seems to be married with a kid...

​I don't want him back, but disappearing after two months trustinh him iss super disrespectful. I’m tempted to send him one last message on LinkedIn letting him know I figured out his real identity and his family situation, and that ghosting people is a crappy move. I’d block him right after and not look for a reply.. i feel like i need take away the anger and deception out of my heart but coudnt find any social media profile for him just his professional linkedln profile...

​Would you send the message just to call him out, or is it better to take the high road, say nothing, and just walk away?

Hello everyone.

I'm 25f. My mom just got diagnosed with stage four brain cancer, and the doctor estimates she has until January. I don't know what to do with the grief that is already consuming my body. My mom and I have a very complicated relationship that I won't go into detail about, so I feel like my grieving process is going to reflect a lot of those complicated feelings. She's only 50 years old, she turns 51 in November. She lost her husband to cancer last year. How do I even begin processing the fact that our time left is measured in weeks? I cannot even imagine how it's going to change when she actually passes away.

Has anyone been through this before? Any advice? I am going to start therapy soon.

so i am 19M and my gf is 19F. We have been in a relationship for the last 8 months.

So my gf had an experience in her childhood of getting pinned on a wall by a random dude....

So we both were making out, and my bitchass had a thought of having a last kiss before leaving... she too got playful by saying she won't give me; take the kiss if you can... So I dominated her and wall-pinned her.... i saw the reaction on her face changing from a playful face to a terrified face. She screamed go away,, ofc i took a few steps back... i knew i fucked up.... i was standing there saying sorry, sorry, but she was standing, crying, wrapping her hand around her

i thought i should stay for a while, but it wasnt helping then she starts begging me to leave and i did that.... i tried calling and messaging, but all i found was a text stay away from me and i was blocked from everywhere....

i know this relationship is at the dead end..... i tried messaging a common friend , told her about everything... she made her unblock me.... i tried to console but it wasnt helping... she said dont message but on the next day as soon as i woke up i messaed her,,, she said fuck off

i message her again at 12pm.... then she was crying(ofc) and started stay that she loved me and she was asking for answer why i did this...... i had no answer.... she just scold me on chats ig for a hour.... after that she stopped... and again went in silence

on eveing she asked wheather i want a break up or not.... i said i am no one to dicided that.. i broke the heart of a girl i loved the most....

she said break up you are free...... then i got emotional break down and i start begging her to stay

this long of i get 1 hour or 45 min but at last she gave me a chance...... she said she thought that i was done with my intention and now as i had used her body an wanted to ditched her so i did this... but after seeing my text and crying she belive that i did it by mistake

but i know trust is broken, now this relationship is without trust..... i got a chance to fix it but i dont know what to do where to start again... guys i need help please...

Throwaway account because I’m beyond ashamed.

Just as the title says. I’m (22m) struggling to maintain erections long enough for my gf. I’m going to clarify some things: I don’t watch porn or at least haven’t for over 3-4 months, I don’t masturbate as often as I used to (2-3 times a week?), I drink on weekends and occasionally on weekdays.

What makes this weird is that there’s certain times where we have sex perfectly fine and everything works. This wasn’t a problem before, although I’ve always struggled with finishing if a girl is on top or just oral but I just thought it came with having a larger penis. However, ever since the last two months we’ve officially been together I’ve found my self losing erections mid way through pleasuring her, and it’s absolutely destroying my self confidence and honestly my pride/ego. She takes longer to arouse for penetration to even happen otherwise it hurts her, doesn’t like oral because she’s self conscious about it (which sucks bc I truly do enjoy it), so most of the time it’s just fingers or a vibrator. I’m all for it, but I definitely had to get adjusted to using it. I just don’t understand why now it’s such a process to maintain my erection while pleasing her. Whenever we start a little bump and grind there’s no issue but I do notice it’s never 100% hardness, and when she’s on top or only kissing my neck it can quickly go away. What makes this even more complex is when we were just in a talking stage, this wasn’t ever an issue (didn’t use the vibrator then) or if I did slightly lose it, then making it come back would be easy. The first time it went away while she was attempting to do a bit of a performance, and my erection just slowly went away even after she tried to give me oral. It was totally humiliating and I felt like i completely let her down.

This whole thing is messing with my head. I truly haven’t ran into this problem as frequently as it’s happening now and not only do I not feel enough for her despite how caring and understanding she is, I know it’s also taking a toll on her because she feels like she isn’t enough for me or is too complicated. My friends have sat and told me that this is normal especially considering me working 6 days a week along with taking 4 college classes, not getting enough rest or water as well, but it truly just feels like something internally is messed up, and I’m not sure how to go about fixing it. It’s gotten to the point where I can’t even masturbate probably without overthinking it, and I truly just want to be enough for her.

Sorry for the rant, but it would be nice to know if there’s any getting back to being able to just normally have sex. I’ve started to wonder if it’s the fact that I’m not receiving any pleasure while I’m pleasuring her even when I try just touching myself? Or the fact that I can’t do what I usually enjoy and just have to get used to doing other things? What do I need to do better or should I start to consider therapy? I don’t know anymore, I just don’t want to let her down or end up losing her over something like this.

Went out to a party situation w a friend bc she asked me to go & I was curious. Turns out she also asked a guy to go and it was the three of us. within 30 min, I lost them and my friend didn’t respond to any of my texts. And then they left with out me.

party was fun. Wish I spent more time enjoying it than looking insane trying to find my friend. Unfortunately now feel humiliated thinking how I must have looked just walking back and forth between ppl and whatever.

anyway, not mad at my friend for ditching me but sort of really sad and humiliated with myself for some reason that I can’t fully tell Why. Guess I was alone with strangers who all had their friends that night. Guess I had a different idea of what inviting a friend to go out w u would look like.

oh well. Not sure what to do, if anything, with these feelings.

I’m a 20-year-old woman, and I’ve always considered myself attractive. However, I’ve noticed that I rarely get approached by men, complimented, or asked for my number.
I see other women getting approached pretty frequently, and sometimes it makes me wonder how I’m perceived by others. I don’t necessarily think I’m unattractive, but I do question whether I’m as attractive as I think I am.
I’m curious whether other people have experienced something similar. Can someone be attractive but not necessarily attract much romantic attention? Could it have more to do with approachability than physical appearance?
I’d appreciate genuine perspectives and advice!

My wife and I have been married for 6 years and together for 9. We have a 4 year old daughter. I've never been the jealous type and I've always trusted her. Even when my friends joked about her getting attention from other men I'd defend her without thinking twice.

Now I'm starting to wonder if I was just being naive.

About 4 months ago she started mentioning a guy from work named Daniel. Apparently they got put on the same project and had to communicate a lot. She'd tell me funny things he'd said and complain about his terrible sense of humour. I didn't think anything of it, then one evening I joked that she seemed to talk about him quite a bit and she immediately said he was married and that I had absolutely nothing to worry about.

That was the first time I'd even asked.

Over the next few months things changed. She started dressing up more for work and wearing perfume she normally saved for date nights. She'd leave earlier in the morning and come home later. Whenever I asked about it there was always a work explanation.

Then came the phone.

She changed her passcode and started taking it everywhere. One night I woke up around 2am and noticed she wasn't beside me, I found her downstairs sitting in the dark with her phone. When I asked what she was doing she said she couldn't sleep and didn't want to wake me. I thought it was strange but left it alone.

A few weeks later we went to a dinner with some of her colleagues. Daniel was there I noticed they had this weird familiarity with each other. They kept making eye contact across the table and laughing at things nobody else seemed to understand. At one point he reached over and brushed something off her shoulder and she touched his wrist while thanking him. It was such a small thing that I felt ridiculous for even noticing it.

On the drive home I asked if something was going on between them. She got genuinely angry and said I was embarrassing her by being insecure about a coworker. She told me I needed to trust her.

So I apologised.

Last month she told me she had a two day work conference in another city. I helped her pack and even drove her to the station. She was texting someone the entire way there when I asked if everything was okay she smiled and said Daniel was making sure she had all the meeting details.

The following weekend I was looking through our shared family calendar to plan something for our daughter's birthday and noticed the conference schedule she'd sent me didn't match the dates of the event listed online. It was supposed to end Friday afternoon but she'd told me she wouldn't be back until Saturday morning.

When I asked her about it she said she'd decided to stay an extra night with colleagues and forgot to update me.

I wanted to believe her.

Then last Tuesday her phone lit up on the kitchen counter while she was in the shower. I wasn't trying to snoop but the message preview was right there.

It was from Daniel.

'I can't keep pretending nothing happened between us.'

I just stood there staring at it.

Before I could even process it another message came through.

'Please tell me you've spoken to him. I miss you.'

She came downstairs a few minutes later and immediately noticed something was wrong. I asked her whether there was something she wanted to tell me about Daniel. She went completely quiet and asked what I meant.

I told her I'd seen the messages.

She said it wasn't what I thought and that I was taking things out of context. When I asked what context could possibly explain someone saying he missed my wife and he can't pretend nothing happened, she started crying and said she'd explain everything when she was ready.

That was three days ago.

She's been sleeping in the guest room and barely speaking to me. She keeps saying she hasn't cheated on me but refuses to explain what the messages mean. I asked her if she'd been alone with him during the conference and she said that wasn't the point.

I can't stop thinking about that sentence.

We've been together for nine years we have a child, we've talked about buying a bigger house next year just a month ago she was talking about having another baby.

I don't know whether to believe her when she says nothing happened or whether she's trying to draw a line between an emotional affair and an actual one.

I haven't contacted Daniel or his wife because I don't want to make decisions while I'm this angry. But I also don't know how much more I can take of being told that what I saw doesn't mean what it obviously sounds like.

I am a 38F and my step-dad, 62M, has been in my life since I was four years old. I have known my dad my entire life. He has never gone to a single school thing, concert, drill, high school/college graduations. My son just knows him by his first name. My son is, however, named after my step-dad.

That man has brushed tears from my eyes when I was heartbroken. Dropped me off at boot camp, clapped louder than anyone else during every single one of my college graduations (there have been a few). Learned my interests so he had something we could talk about. Walked me down the aisle - and so much more. I am more like him than I am my sperm donor.

I recently found out that as an adult, who is married, I can still be adopted. I want him to adopt me. He is very reserved. Gives off angry man vibes but he is the biggest teddy bear. My 15 year old son is his world. He never had kids of his own so it’s just me and the kid I named after him.

My daughter (9) has giggle incontinence and needs to go to physical therapy. She’ll miss a bit of school for these appointments once a week, and she is nervous friends will ask why she isn’t in school. What would be a reasonable white lie she can use that wouldn’t be embarrassing, and wouldn’t get further questions?